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Marriage Roles and Responses Marriage Roles and Responses (2)(2)EcclesiastesEcclesiastes 9:9 9:9

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““The Bible sets forth specific and The Bible sets forth specific and distinct roles for a husband and wife distinct roles for a husband and wife that must be accurately understood that must be accurately understood

and practically fulfilled.”and practically fulfilled.” -Preparing for Marriage, Dennis Rainey, editor, 163

MarriageMarriage

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•Ephesians 5:33:Ephesians 5:33:--The The lovelove she most desires she most desires

--The The respectrespect he desperately he desperately needsneeds

MarriageMarriage

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HUSBANDHUSBAND

WIFEWIFE

Servant leaderServant leader (Mk. 10:42-45)(Mk. 10:42-45)

SubmissionSubmission (Eph. 5:22, (Eph. 5:22,

24)24)

LOVEEphesians

5:33

RESPECT

LOVEEphesians

5:33

RESPECT

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WIFEWIFE

HHUSBANDUSBAND

HELPER – HELPER – HOMEMAKEHOMEMAKE

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Genesis Genesis 2:182:18

““Husbands have gaps in their lives Husbands have gaps in their lives that their wives are uniquely that their wives are uniquely

qualified to fill.”qualified to fill.”

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Wife Completes; She does not Compete, Proverbs 31:11-12

• Competitor exploits weaknesses and Competitor exploits weaknesses and seeks victory (domination) seeks victory (domination)

• Competitor stirs aggression, Competitor stirs aggression, retaliation or withdrawal, retaliation or withdrawal, Prov. 19:13; Prov. 19:13; 21:9, 19 21:9, 19

• Helper is Helper is not inferiornot inferior (Heb. 13:6)(Heb. 13:6)• Helper is Helper is a comfortera comforter (Jno. 14:16-18)(Jno. 14:16-18)

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Wife is a Homemaker, Titus 2:3-5

• Lit., a house guard, keeper; guard Lit., a house guard, keeper; guard family family

• Manage house, Manage house, 1 Tim. 5:14 (Prov. 31: 1 Tim. 5:14 (Prov. 31: 12, 15, 27) 12, 15, 27)

• Your family is your God-given focusYour family is your God-given focus• WarningWarning: Prevent blasphemy of : Prevent blasphemy of

God’s word, God’s word, Titus 2:5Titus 2:5

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WIFEWIFE

HUSBANDHUSBAND

HONORHONOR (Praise)(Praise)

1 Peter 3:7; Proverbs 31:28-301 Peter 3:7; Proverbs 31:28-30

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Husband: Honor and Praise Wife

• Warned against bitterness,Warned against bitterness, Col. 3:19Col. 3:19• UnderstandingUnderstanding prevents bitterness and prevents bitterness and

enables honor and praise,enables honor and praise, 1 Pet. 3:71 Pet. 3:7– Discover her needs, desires, goals, etc.Discover her needs, desires, goals, etc.– This is a This is a dailydaily process and response process and response– If you don’t know……If you don’t know……ASK!ASK!

• HonorHonor: Properly value your wife: Properly value your wife

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Husband: Honor and Praise Wife

• Ways to cherish her, Ways to cherish her, Eph. 5:28-29Eph. 5:28-29– Show her genuine careShow her genuine care– Express true appreciation for her Express true appreciation for her – Be unselfish toward herBe unselfish toward her– Do not be lazy or passive in helping herDo not be lazy or passive in helping her– Have good listening habits Have good listening habits

• Again, if you don’t know……Again, if you don’t know……ASK!ASK!

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Husbands and Wives• Husband is called by God to lead and Husband is called by God to lead and

provide for the family provide for the family (1 Tim. 5:8)(1 Tim. 5:8)• God gives the wife the special role of God gives the wife the special role of

making a home for the family making a home for the family (1 Tim. (1 Tim. 5:14)5:14)

• Husband’s challenge is to respond with Husband’s challenge is to respond with honor and praise for his wifehonor and praise for his wife

• Husbands and wives are joint-heirs of Husbands and wives are joint-heirs of life’s favor and blessings,life’s favor and blessings, 1 Peter 3:71 Peter 3:7

HUSBANDHUSBAND

WIFEWIFE

Servant leaderServant leader (Mk. 10:42-(Mk. 10:42-45)45)

SubmissionSubmission (Eph. 5:22, (Eph. 5:22, 24)24)

LOVE

Ephesians 5:33

RESPECT

LOVE

Ephesians 5:33

RESPECT

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