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Chapter 14Divorce and Remarriage
Macro Factors Contributing to Divorce
• Divorce: the termination of a valid marriage contract
• Divorce occurs more frequently today than in the earlier days of the U.S. due to various structural and cultural factors.
Macro Factors
• Changing family functions and structure• Liberal divorce laws– No-fault divorce: a divorce in which neither party
is identified as the guilty party or the cause of the divorce
• Prenuptial agreements• Fewer moral and religious sanctions
Macro Factors
• More divorce models• Mobility and anonymity• Social class, ethnicity, and culture• Educated white Americans are the least likely
to divorce
Micro Factors Contributing to Divorce
• Micro factors are individual factors that are predictive of divorce.
• More likely to be seen as the cause of the divorce
Micro Factors
• Falling out of love• Not spending enough time together• Decreasing positive behaviors: compliments,
physical affection• Having an affair• Poor conflict resolution skills• Changing values
Micro Factors
• Satiation: habituation, the state in which a stimulus loses its value with repeated exposure
• Believing life will be better if divorced
Ending Relationship
• Psychological functioning and happiness of spouses going through a divorce improve after the divorce.
• Data are mixed on whether remaining unhappily married or getting divorced and remarried has a more positive outcome for the spouses.
Gender Differences in Filing for Divorce
• Women are the first to seek help when there is trouble in the relationship.
• Women are likely to feel a renewed sense of self-identity.
• Men are concerned about separation from their children.
Consequences for Spouses Who Divorce
• The spouse who did not instigate the divorce is more vulnerable to depression.
• Women fare better emotionally after a divorce.
• Men are likely to date and remarry sooner.• Relationships with extended family change.• Spouses recover sooner if they find new
interests.
Consequences
• Both women and men experience a drop in income.
• Women tend to suffer more financially.
• Over half of custodial mothers are awarded child support but most find the amount inadequate.
Consequences
• Divorced mothers serve as gatekeepers for the relationship children have with the father.
• A father’s relationship with a daughter is usually more damaged than his relationship with a son.
• Shared parenting dysfunction: refers to the set of behaviors on the part of each parent that are focused on hurting the other spouse
Consequences
• Parental alienation syndrome: a disturbance in which children are obsessively preoccupied with deprecation or criticism of a parent
• Parental alienation: an alliance between a parent and a child that isolates the other parent
Effects of Divorce on Children
• Benefits of divorce for children– Better than living in high-conflict home– Learn resilience– Receive more attention
• Negative outcomes of divorce for children– Less marital satisfaction– Poorer communication skills– Poorer parent-child relationships
Effects on Children
• The primary factor that determines the effect of divorce on children is the degree to which the divorcing parents are civil or adversarial.
• Legal and physical custody arrangements are also important.
Effects on Children
• Legal custody: decisional authority over major issues involving the child
• Physical custody: visitation, distribution of parenting time following divorce
• Judges in all states are bound by the “best interests of the child.”
Prerequisites for Having a Successful Divorce
• Mediate rather than litigate the divorce.– Divorce mediation: process in which divorcing parties
make agreements with a third party about custody, visitation, child support, and property.
• Coparent with your ex-spouse.• Take some responsibility for the divorce.• Learn from the divorce.• Create positive thoughts.• Avoid alcohol and other drugs.• Relax and exercise.
Successful Divorce
• Let go of anger and have fun.• Continue interpersonal connections.• Allow time to heal.
Successful Divorce
Psychological stages of divorce• Denial• Depression• Anger or ambivalence• New lifestyle and identity• Acceptance and integration
Stepfamilies
• Blended family: a family in which new spouses have children from previous relationships
• Binuclear family: a family that spans two households
• Stepfamily: a family in which partners bring children from previous relationships into the new home
Stepfamilies
Unique aspects of stepfamilies:• Children are biologically related to only one
parent.• Stepfamily members have experienced loss.• Stepfamily members are connected to others
outside their family unit.• Children may have two homes.• Stepfamilies have reduced disposable income.
Stepfamilies
Unique aspects of stepfamilies• Step families are stigmatized by stepism: the
assumption that stepfamilies are inferior.• Married couples begin their marriage with
children in the home.• The law usually recognizes children of the first
family.