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The Impact of
Domestic Abuse onChildren
Ken Murray, LCSW, ACSW
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About Me
Retired Army officer with diverse experience
Social Work Officer
Strategic planner
Company Commander
Generals aide
Special Operator Various degrees in social work, administration,nursing
A big paper away from a PhD (committee found)
Masters degrees in social work and healthcare
administration Bachelors degrees in liberal arts and nursing
Husband (mediocre), father (pretty good)
Married to Army Social Work Officer
Children 18, 15, 2, baking
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More About Me
Currently Private Practice
Psychotherapy with individuals, couples and families
Montgomery County Jail Assessments and crisis intervention, brief therapy
Austin Peay State University Adjunct instructor and field liaison
In the works
Grant through Vanderbilt and Lazarus Project Families and PTSD
Prospective venture through UC-Berkley Active phase suicide intervention
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Understanding Domestic Violence
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Prevalence
The problem is pervasive
1.3 million women and 835,000 men report being
physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually in
the United States.
92% of abused women did not discuss incidents with
their physicians; 57% did not discuss the incidents with
anyone.
Age is a factor. Nearly half of DV occurs in couples
under 25
More than half occurs in homes with kids under age
12
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Prevalence of Child Witnesses
An estimated 7-15 million children witness
assaults against a parent by an intimate partnerin the U.S. Journal of Family Psychology
there are only 73 million total under 18 US Census Bureau
20 million total under age 5 US Census Bureau
90% of kids in violent homes witness parental
abuse www.4children.org
Child abuse is 15xs more likely in homeswhere spouse abuse exists (kids are abusedor neglected 75% of the time)
75 percent of boys who witness havedeveloped behavioral problems
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Victims
Studies reveal that spouse abuse is most
frequent among young couples who have not yet
developed joint coping and communication
skills. History of domestic violence (criminal or civil)
Victims tend to be young mothers; 57% were
under age 26 and 18% were ages 16-20. About78% have children. Victims tend to be employed
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Physical
Coercion
Intimidation
Privilege
Psychological
Sexual
Spiritual
Economic
Emotional
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What Dr. Bruce Perry Says Kiddos Need
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ATTACHMENT: Being a Friend
Tthe capacity to form and maintain healthy emotional bonds with another
person.
First acquired in infancy, as a child interacts with loving, responsive, and
attentive parents and caregivers.
SELF-REGULATION: Thinking Before You Act
Lifelong process of development
Begins with the external regulation provided by parents or significant
caregivers
Healthy growth depends on a child's experience and the maturation of the
brain.
AFFILLIATION: Joining In Springs from attachment ability
Glue for healthy human functioning
Allows us to form and maintain relationships with others-and to create
something stronger, more adaptive, and more creative than the individual.
Core Strengths for Health Development
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AWARENESS: Thinking of Others
The ability to recognize the needs, interests, strengths, and values ofothers.
As children grow, their awareness of differences and similarities becomes
more complex.
TOLERANCE: Accepting Differences
Tolerance is the capacity to understand and accept how others are differentfrom you.
The followup to awareness (I see differences, now what do I do with that?)
RESPECT: Respecting yourself and others
Grows from the foundation of the preceding five strengths.
An aware, tolerant child with good affiliation, attachment, and self-regulation
strengths gains respect naturally.
Lifelong process, yet its roots are in early childhood, as children learn these
core strengths and integrate them into their behaviors and their worldview.
Core Strengths for Healthy Child Development
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What is done to them VS What they
can do Morality develops
Negotiating social interactions
Where do I fit?
Family is most significant
relationship
Copy adults and blueprint what itmeans to be one.
Social role identifcation trumps
Oedipal struggle
Confusion in this= guilt
Seek intimacy and satisfyingrelationships
Recreate family of origin
Crucial stage for developing sense
of competence and self-esteem
Learning new skills, creating
Conquer inadequacy and inferiority
Builds self-esteem and autonomy as
new skills and right from wrong are
learned. Is sure of himself, full of pride
VS
Feeling shame and and low self-
esteem during an inability to learn
certain skills.
An Erickson Review- Just for fun
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Trust
Mistrust
Generativity
Stagnation
Intimacy
Isolation
Autonomy
Shame
Initiative
Guilt
Industry
Inferiority
Identity
Role Confusion
Hope Will Purpose Competence Fidelity Love Care
Develop optimism, trust,
confidence, and security
VS
insecurity, worthlessness,
and general mistrust to the
world.
Attachment Self Regulation Affiliation Awareness Tolerance Respect
These are essential skills for kiddos learned throughout the first five stages
and practiced throughout life
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The Results of Being a Child Witness
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Kids: The Effects
Children who witness abuse of their
maternal caretaker are:
24 times more likely to commit sexual assault
crimes
50% more likely to abuse drugs or alcohol
74% more likely to commit crimes against
another person 6 times more likely to commit suicide
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Kids Coping in Homes of Abuse
Mental blocking or disconnecting emotionally
Making it better through fantasy
Physical Avoidance
Looking for love and acceptance (in all the
wrong places) Taking charge through caretaking
Reaching out for help
Acting out Redirecting emotions into positive activities
Trying to predict, explain or control the behaviorof the abuser
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How Child Victims Might Behave as Adults
An inability to trust
Often displays very manipulative behavior
Avoids being vulnerable
Very often is an over-achiever; yet rarely satisfied withtheir accomplishments
May have a series of relationships, usually unsatisfyingand often end badly
Depression is common
Can be very angry people, with limited skills on how toappropriately discharge their anger
Very often, display addictive behaviors. Eating disordersmay be closely related to having suffered as a child
Three times more likely to have a personality disorder KSM
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Personality= the enduring behavioral and mental traits that distinguishhuman beings.
Personality disorders differ from societal norms and expectations.
People with PDs may experience difficulties in
Cognition
Emotiveness
Interpersonal functioning
Impulse control Substantial disturbances in some behavioral tendencies of an individual,
usually involving several areas of the personality,
Nearly always associated with considerable personal and social disruption.
PDs are inflexible and pervasive across many situations
Ego-syntonic Perceived to be appropriate by that individual
Maladaptive coping skills
May lead to personal problems that induce extreme anxiety, distress or depression
Onset: early adolescence
Personality Disorders
1. Extreme and distorted thinking patterns
2. Problematic emotional response patterns
3. Impulse control problems4. Significant interpersonal problems
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The Bottom Line
Domestic abuse feeds on secrecy cut it off
If your Spidey-Sense tingles, trust it
Ask the hard questions in many cases, it
takes a village
Keep learning, keep talking, keep working
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Closing
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Do This!
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Community Resources
National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE
Department of Social Work 270-798-8601Family Advocacy Program 270-798-4191/2095
Military One Source 800-342-9647
Chaplain Hotline 270-798-2273
New Parent Support Program 270-956-3850
Taxicab 931-431-3535/645-9000
Family Life Chaplain 270-798-3316
JAG Legal Assistance 270-798-4432/4927United Way /Safehouse 211/ 931-552-6900
Sanctuary, Inc 270-885-4572
Emergency Assistance 911
Military Police 270-798-2677
Clarksville Police 931-648-0656
Hopkinsville Police 270-887-1135
Oak Grove Police 270-439-4602
Montgomery County Sheriff 931-648-0611
Christian County Sheriff 270-887-4141
Family Violence Prevention Fund www.endabuse.org
Minnesota Coalition for Battered Women www.mcbw.org
National Center for Children Exposed to Violence www.nccev.org
Minnesota Center Against Violence and Abuse www.mincava.umn.edu/link/
Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence www.wscadv.org
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