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Keeping Your Glass Half Full
Corrie Sirota M.S.W., P.S.W.Grief, Loss and Bereavement Specialist,
Author, TEDx speaker, radio co-host, momwww.corriesirota.com
http://www.corriesirota.com
Who am I?
PresenterPresentation NotesSO what does a grief counsellor know about positivity? Maybe nothing, maybe everything…
How is your day?
BAD DAYOR
GOOD DAY
STEP ONE
CREATE POSITIVE CHANGE
1ST CHANGE REALITY
Reality Architecture
1. Recognize Alternative Realities
2. Add Vantage Points
3. Now What?
= How to pursue the MOST valued reality
The Human Brain
INTERPRETS AND PROCESSES
INFORMATION
EXPENDS ENERGY CREATING AN
UNDERSTANDING OF INFORMATION
WE RECEIVE 11 MILLION PIECES BUT ONLY PROCESS 40
PIECES
THEREFOREOUR BRAIN
CHOOSES WHAT % TO PROCESS
IF WE FOCUS OUR ENERGY ON
POSITIVE THOUGHTS
= GREATER CHANCE OF HAPPINESS
WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE?
IF OUR BELIEFS BECOME OUR REALITY, THEN…REALITY IS THE KEY TO EVERYTHING!
1. Recognize Alternative Realities:
OPTIMIST OR PESSIMIST?
A) RE-THINKING STRESS(-) NEGATIVE ASPECTS
LEADING CAUSE OF DEATH
90% OF DOCTOR VISITS ARE DUE TO STRESS RELATED ISSUES
STRESS NEGATIVELY EFFECTS MOST OF THE ORGANS IN THE BODY
(+) POSITIVE ASPECTS
HORMONES RELEASED IN THE STRESS BOOST PERFORMANCE
STRESS CAN FUEL PSYCHOLOGICAL THRIVING
STRESS FACILITATES:
MENTAL TOUGHNESS,
DEEPER SOCIAL BONDS,
STRENGTHENED PRIORITIES
SENSE OF MEANING
What’s your stress level?
In the past year, how much stress have you experienced?
1. Little stress?2. Moderate amount?3. A lot of stress?
What does the research say?
8 year study on stress the stress levels of people:
Results:
182,000 Americans died prematurely NOT from stress
They died from the BELIEF that stress is bad for you
This amounts to 20,000 deaths a year…
=15th largest COD
B) COFFEE CUP EXPERIEMENT
Activity #1:
DRAW A PICTURE OF A COFFEE MUG
PLEASE BE AS CREATIVE AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN BE!
1 in 10,000 draw this:
2) Add Vantage Points
A) Perspective in DetailsB) Perspective by Fuel
Sleep Nutrition Exercise & Mindfulness
C) Mastering switch between Realities
3) Pursue the MOST “Valuable Reality”
Activity #2 – Write down a task you dislike and then identify why you dislike it
HOWEVER for every ONE negative reason you must identify THREE positives. Training our brain to attach more positives to each situation:
Improves our brain flexibility
Significantly increases our ability to find and pursue our most valuable reality
PresenterPresentation NotesThe reality that is most valid, helpful and positive”
The Positivity Ratio
3:1 Losada Line (Marcel Losada, 2008)
Why not 1:1?
When it comes to relationships:
5:1 (John Gottman, The Gottman Institute)
PresenterPresentation Notes“Only when everyone keeps their eyes open to many realities both positive and negative in the right proportions can you choose to pursue the most beneficial one”(Achor, 2013)
BLIND SPOTS
1. INABILITY TO RELY ON OTHER PEOPLE
2. IMPACT AWARENESS
3. BOTTLING IT UP OR CONCEALING EMOTIONS
HOMEWORK: Create an ‘I DID IT’ list
1. Serve Others
2. Seek Learning
3. See Problems As Opportunities
4. Express Gratitude
5. Dream big
6. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
7. Speak Well of Others
8. Never make excuses
9. Get absorbed in the present
10. Wake up at the same time every morning
11. Avoid Social Comparisons
12. Choose Friends Wisely
13. Never seek Approval form Others
14. Take time to Listen
15. Nurture Social Relationships
16. Meditate or Pray
17. Eat Well
18. Exercise
19. Live Minimally
20. Tell the Truth
21. Accept what can’t be changed
22. Don’t Hold Grudges
23. Treat Everyone with Kindness
PresenterPresentation NotesTake list, print it out and try and tick off as many things as you are able to each day!
23 things that make you happy
Remember:Perception is perspective shaped by belief. Beliefs “control” perception. Rewrite your beliefs and rewrite your perception. Rewrite perception and you rewrite your genes and behavior…
Our Pledge:
“I am free to change how I respond to the world, so as I change the way I see the world, I change my genetic expression. I pledge to no longer see myself as a victim of my genes, instead, I choose to see myself as THE MASTER OF MY GENETICS.
~Bruce Lipton, PhD, cellular biologist
YOU DO YOU Robbins, Tony. (2016) How to pull yourself out
of that funk. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4cufCBUEb8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4cufCBUEb8
So how do you keep your Glass Half Full?
1. Recognize Alternative RealitiesBelieve
2. Add Vantage points
Cross train your brain
Fuel your reality
3. Now What? Pursue the MOST valuable reality
And remind yourself that the power to change your perspective is in YOUR CONTROL!
Proving once again that EVERYTHING is in your perspective:
Corrie’s contact info:EMAIL: corrie@corriesirota.com
WEBSITE: www.corriesirota.com
SOCIAL MEDIA:
TEDx Talk: ‘Loss & Found: How to Create New Normals After Someone You Love Dies’
https://youtu.be/PQ27tYEb74Y
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ReferencesAchor, Shawn (2013) Before Happiness. Crown Publishing
House, New York.
Achor, Shawn (2010) The Happiness Advantage. Random House, New York.
Harris, Russ. (2008) The Happiness Trap: How to stop struggling and start living. Boston, MA: Trumpeter.
Ogen, Pat Dr., Minton, Kekuni, Dr. (2000) Trauma and The Body, WW Norton.
McGonigal, Kelly. (2013) How to make stress your friend.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEU
Robbins, Tony. (2016) How to pull yourself out of that funk. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4cufCBUEb8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEUhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4cufCBUEb8
Corrie Sirota M.S.W., P.S.W.www.corriesirota.com
corrie@corriesirota.com
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