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Let’s Talk Parent & Teen Communication
Enduring Understandings• Communication is critical during
the teen years• Learning how to communicate
clearly and effectively is an ongoing process
• Parents’ ability to listen to their teen effects their ability to impact and influence their teen
Essential Questions• Why is communication critical
during the teen years?• What are strategies for
communicating clearly and effectively?
• Why is listening such an important part of communication?
Why communication is critical?• Spending more time away from
parents• Gaining independence• Expected to take responsibility for
actions• Needing guidance for healthy decision-
making and character development
Parent Communication Styles• Non-Assertive – Avoiding what you
think, feel, want, or believe because….• You are afraid to risk the
consequences• You don’t believe in your own rights• You don’t know how to speak up for
yourself• You think another person’s rights
are more important than yours
Parent Communication Styles• Aggressive – Saying what you think,
feel, want, or believe in ways that deny another person’s right to be treated with respect....• Anger• Meanness• Hurtful• Put-Downs• Spiteful
Parent Communication Styles• Assertive – Saying what you think, feel,
want, or believe….• In ways that don’t damage another
person’s right to be treated with respect
• In straightforward, nonthreatening ways
• In ways that don’t deny your own rights
Learning Activity
Table Talk• What are the most important aspects of
communication with your teen? • How does being aggressive in your communication
with your teen work against you? • How does being non-assertive in your
communication with your teen work against you? • How does using assertive communication with your
teen help you to get your point across? • Without making your teen feel defensive?• Without making your teen unsure of what you
really want?
Active Listening• Listen when your teen wants to talk• Listen without distractions• Listen without interrupting• Listen without judgment• Listen with your eyes, ears, & heart• Listen with empathy and share what you
believe you heard your teen say• Listen without needing to provide a
solutionListening actively will lead to your teen listening to you
Listen & Use the 5 A’s….• Affirmation• Acceptance• Appreciation• Availability• Accountability
Table Talk
Bibliography & Resources• http://childdevelopmentinfo.com/parentin
g/communication.shtml• http://www.powershow.com/view/34d08-
N2M1Y/Communicating_with_your_teenager_powerpoint_ppt_presentation
• http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/Parenting_communicating_with_teenagers
• http://www.aces.edu/pubs/docs/H/HE-0780/
Bibliography & Resources• http://www.aces.edu/teens/stayconnected
/insession.php• http://www.aces.edu/pubs/docs/H/HE-07
80/• Words Kids Need to Hear by David Staal• How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So
Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
• Bringing Up Kids Without Tearing Them Down by Dr. Kevin Leman