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Michael J. Emery
We all walk in the dark and each of us must learn to turn on his or her own light.
~ Earl Nightingale
20 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SECRETS MOST PEOPLE
NEVER LEARN!
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Plato’s Allegory of the CaveOnly knowledge of the Forms constitutes real knowledge. Begin recognizing patterns and systems as a key to freedom.
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SECRETSMichael J. Emery’s
WHAT IS PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT?What you need to know about enhancing your self-awareness, building life skills, choosing your personal identity, resolving limiting beliefs and experiences, and uncovering latent talents and abilities.
One of the philosophical fathers of Western
culture, Plato, wrote the Allegory of the Cave
nearly 2,500 years ago. Ironically, it is perhaps
more relevant today than it was when it was
written.
In The Republic, Socrates describes a
group of people who have lived chained to the
wall of a cave all of their lives, facing a blank
wall. The people watch shadows projected on
the wall by things passing in front of a fire
behind them, and begin to ascribe forms to
these shadows. According to Socrates, the
shadows are as close as the prisoners get to
viewing reality. He then explains how the
philosopher is like a prisoner who is freed from
the cave and comes to understand that the
shadows on the wall do not make up reality at
all, as he can perceive the true form of reality
rather than the mere shadows seen by the
prisoners.
At the end of the passage, Plato expresses
that education is not a process of putting
knowledge into empty minds, but of making
people realize that which they already know.
In our modern era, perhaps these
“shadows” have changed form; in some cases,
becoming clearer than shadows, but more
elusive than ever. The mass of humanity suffers
an endless barrage of media messages from all
sides. The hopes and fears many experience on
various levels of consciousness are directly
derived from the degree to which a person
knows oneself... We are all prisoners who hold
the keys to our freedom, when we perceive the
forms for what they are... illusions. Be your own
philosopher and determine your own path.
The School of Athens
Raffaello Sanzio (1483–1520)
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Personal Development is about accepting responsibility and taking control of your life.
It includes the activities, exercises, and
learning opportunities that enhance self-
awareness and facilitate an empowered identity.
Nearly all, but a small fraction of the population
are just “doing time.” By this, I mean going
through the motions and repeating what their
parents did or striving for the social accolades
that media messengers deem as important.
Personal development can include the
following activities:
• improving self-awareness / self-knowledge
• choosing your identity
• developing internal resources
• identifying and improving potential
• enhancing your lifestyle
• choosing a life path
• improving social abilities
HealthOptimizing your physical wellbeing means
understanding the foundational building blocks
of health. This includes applying the latest
advances in nutrition, exercise, and rest.
WealthThis is an intangible, qualitative concept
that could aptly be described as, “you know it
when you’ve got it, and you know it when you
don’t...” My opinion is: unless you pursue a path
of creative work, you are no better than an ox
chained to a plow wandering across a field...
RelationshipsIntimate, familial and social relationships all
require the ability to communicate effectively. A
major challenge in today’s relationships is due to
media influences that manufacture dissent and
distrust between couples and a lack of empathy
for other human beings. It isn’t all about you.
SpiritualityFor centuries, religion had held the claim to
spiritual experience and expression. Even today
religious persecution occurs around the world
and only a few generations ago “witches” were
burned at the stake for their practices. Oddly
enough, my profession would have either landed
me a job in a royal court or a turn at the
inquisition rack. Spirituality is your connection to
the qualitative experiences in life - those things
which are beyond words and are often
described as a sense of “oneness.”
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
What do you talk about...? There’s no need for extensive case studies - just do your own empirical research when it comes to the context of your next conversation. My guess is that the majority of your conversations fall into the contexts of health, wealth, relationships, and spirituality. These are what we fixate upon and harness our resources to experience in life.
"Be here now." ~ Ram Dass
Health
Wealth
Relationships
Spirituality
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You don’t know what you don’t know.
A Johari window is a cognitive
psychological tool created by Joseph Luft and
Harry Ingham, used to help people better
understand their interpersonal communication
and relationships.
As with all models, there are
generalizations and margins for error, but what
the Johari Window demonstrates is that there
are perceptions others have of us of which we
are not aware, things that we know but no one
else knows, and additionally there is the
mysterious individual unconscious part of us of
which no one is aware. This is the realm of my
Attention Shifting programs - drawing out of you
the innate abilities and capabilities you have
while sharing with you the resources you need
to proactively pursue your personal
development.
Often pain is the catalyst for change.Pain comes in many forms: heartbreak in
the form of a relationship ending or never
beginning; illness, death and dying; financial
distress or loss; change in-or a sudden
awareness of-social status; and, undesired
circumstances. Typically, the pain is so great or
seemingly unbearable that most people will do
anything to get away from it. In my opinion, this
is directly related to the rampant, widespread
usage of symptom-suppressive (pharmaceutical)
medicine. Pain is your mind/body’s way of
saying, “Hey, pay attention. Something is
wrong!” But if it is only masked and not heeded,
then the symptoms will continue indefinitely.
Embrace pain as your call to the Hero’s Journey,
and in hindsight this will make sense.
Pleasure is a different catalyst for change.
A sign of one’s personal development is
the ability to begin psychologically, physically,
and emotionally choosing the actions and
behaviors necessary to move you closer to
desired experiences. Instead of moving away
from what you don’t want (the reaction we’re
conditioned to experience), you begin
consciously determining exactly what you want.
The next step is proactive preparation for those
moments you’ve been waiting to experience.
Where are you going...? "Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” [said Alice] “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to," said the Cat. "I don’t much care where--" said Alice. "Then it doesn’t matter which way you go," said the Cat.
~ Lewis Carroll Alice in Wonderland
WAKE UP
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20 Personal Development Secrets1. Your greatest challenge is your biggest opportunity.The psychologist Carl Jung believed that
everybody who seeks therapy has a story. “The
patient who comes to us has a story that is not
told, and which as a rule no one knows of. To
my mind, therapy only really begins after the
investigation of that wholly personal story. It is
the patient's secret, the rock against which he is
shattered. If I know his secret story, I have a key
to treatment.” (Memories, Dreams, Reflections,
p.117) Jung also stated, “what you resist
persists.” As you move forward to take on the
greatest challenge in your life, you’ll find that it
requires that you surpass the levels of
mediocrity that society has laid out for you to
follow. We all have an Achilles heel, and like the
Greek hero we must move forward toward our
purpose regardless of that weak spot. When you
accept it, you’ll likely find that the more painful
and secretive it is, the more people have
experienced it also. Accept, integrate, and
transcend... This is your biggest opportunity.
2. Fear will always be an option.For most people living in the West, there isn’t
much actual fear in the sense of us being
physically threatened with pain or the loss of life.
Of course, this is always readily available should
one want to seek it out, but for the most part we
have been pretty sheltered when you contrast
our lives by the lifestyles of our ancestors
hundreds and thousands of years ago. Modern
fear reveals itself in two forms: anxiety and
overwhelm. Anxiety is the same fight or flight
response that fear creates, but instead, anxiety
is based upon hypothetical, imagined scenarios
taking place within a person’s mind. The mind-
body processes this imagined scenario as
something that is actually happening and this
results in a sympathetic response within the
body. Overwhelm, is what occurs when a person
tries to maintain a constant too far out in time
(often perceived internally as distant in time/
space). The further away an event or experience
is, the less control one actually has over it.
Overwhelm is bringing too many events to the
forefront of one’s mind while overlooking the
immediate small steps necessary to move
towards a specific event. As you realize these
subtle distinctions, you’ll find that you are
actually in control of many more situations than
you might have believed. It’s all a matter of how
you perceive it...
3. Live at the edge of your comfort zone.I believe that we’ve been misled to pursue
balance as a final resting place in our lives.
Many of the experiences we attempt to make
happen in during our lifetimes are based upon
processes that require leaving the state of
equilibrium. Consider fitness as an example -
you break down muscle tissue so that it
generates more size and strength. You do this
by pushing and pulling it out of balance. From
one perspective, balance is what you’re
experiencing right now in this very second.
Regardless of whether or not things are calm or
chaotic as this state continues in your life in the
form of something that you desire to get away
from her move out of, then you’re likely in a
state of equilibrium now. I believe that there is a
point at which we can all find ourselves at the
edge of uncertainty and discomfort, while
internally finding the sensation of being alert,
relaxed, and leaned back as we move into the
future. It is at this edge that we are the most
alive. If you don’t believe me, consider all the
people who are thrill seekers trying to find
adrenaline rushes while staying safe.
4. No one else really cares.Period. Not even your closest friends and family,
because in many ways they’ve decided to
accept you as you are... It’s harsh, I know, but
everybody else is too busy worrying about their
problems and how they’re going to get an ahead
in life. If you don’t change or don’t do anything
extraordinary in your life it won’t really upset
them. However, you will find that tension can
exist when you begin to make changes. They’ll
test you to see how congruent you are with your
endeavors. Take their tests as a compliment and
a sign that you’re moving forward...
5. You’re really not that flexible.Paradoxically, there seem to be only two
constants in life (perhaps three if you count
death): uncertainty and chaos. We tend to prefer
change when it’s on our terms and we can
anticipate a degree of uncertainty. In some
cases, the greatest gift we can ever receive from
the universe is unexpected change which of
course brings along with it a great deal of
uncertainty and chaos. Embrace it , realizing
that no one gets out of life alive. In the rare
occasions you manage to do this, you’ll look
back realizing that you are the calm in the heart
of the storm.
6. What you’re experiencing is exactly that to which you are the most committed.A lot of people want to do a lot of things
different, or at least that’s what they’ll say... I’ve
also heard the highway to hell is paved with
good intentions. And, just to fit one more
maximin in here, an old mentor of mine used to
constantly tell me that there are millions of
people out there in the world dying of terminal
potential. The bottom line is you’re getting
exactly what you want - on one level or another.
So, if it’s not working for you it’s time to check
your blind spot (unconscious mind) and set a
different course for the future.
7. Everyone else is really waiting for you to lead.The average person makes a big deal about
getting his or her way when it comes to minutia
(the minor details). This is just an ego-based,
narcissistic pissing contest. When it is really
time for significant leadership, the valedictorian,
the class president, the quarterback, the head
cheerleader, the office manager, and the
neighborhood bully usually can’t be found.
When you say you’re going to do something,
people will go through a variety of stages. First,
they’ll demonstrate disbelief and say “sure
whatever.” Second, once you’ve been
moderately successful, they will say they
supported you from the very beginning. And,
lastly, when you become very successful, they
will tell everyone they know how they knew you
you’d be a success from the very beginning.
Don’t wait for them or their approval, because
they’re waiting for you.
8. There will always be an excellent excuse.No matter what you want to do, there will be an
equal, if not greater, force pushing you in the
opposite direction. The most effective way to
stay on track it is to learn how to give yourself
double binds. Remove failsafes and establish a
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path forward with many options, but destroy the
possibilities of retreat. And when it gets tough,
as it always will when you’re doing something
significant, remind yourself that you’re only
getting warmed up.
9. At the end of the day, only you are responsible for your life. People are being gradually acclimatized to not
taking responsibility for their actions behaviors.
We live in a litigious society. If you slip on the
floor you can sue someone. If someone tries to
save you from dying while administering CPR,
and you sustain injuries from their attempt to
save them, you can sue that person. If a
business sells you coffee and you spill it on
yourself, you can sue them for selling hot coffee.
The “system” is designed to babysit people so
that they give away their sense of personal
power and responsibility. It is human nature to
try to place the blame on someone or something
else, but doing so rarely resolves anything. This
is an external locus of control, and people who
live by this live in a world of blame and act as
the poster children for irresponsibility. When
you shift control inwards and assume
responsibility for even the strangest or most
challenging of circumstances, regardless of its
degree of truth, at least you’re choosing to
participate in a way that gives you power To
decide, act, and choose.
10. Someplace on the spectrum between your greatest fear and most innate talent lies your opportunity for greatness.Most people don’t have a clear understanding of
what they fear. In many cases fear is elusive,
and spread throughout various contexts in their
lives as a generalized sensation that is felt but
rarely observed. Observe your fear, treat it like a
part of you, and chunk up to its highest intention
in your life. Learning how to chunk up from
specific fears, to larger and more encompassing
meta-fears will give you an idea as to how much
fear has been generalized in your life. Often, its
highest purpose is just to keep people safe, and
now you know this you can establish more
effective ways for managing fear. As you read
earlier, most of the time this fear is in the form
of anxiety or overwhelm. However, the two
major fears that exist are: the fear of immediate
personal injury and/or death, and the fear of
social rejection. On the other hand, I believe
there is that thing you do naturally, no matter
how marginalized or how great it might be... It is
the one thing that has been a marker of personal
success and victory. It is up to you to learn how
to transmute this thing that you have done
throughout your life into a larger spectrum of
service and value. I’ll tell you mine, trusting that
someplace at the core part of you in charge of
making your most important decisions, this will
spark the fire of inspiration. I flunked the first
grade. In hindsight, I don’t even know how that
was possible, but I flunked. I could not write and
I could not read. I spent more time in the
principal’s office suffering from homesickness
which is actually a form of anxiety. Yet, oddly
enough within the following two years I’d
become one of the most voracious readers in
my peer group; reading anything and everything
I could get my hands on, and this hasn’t
stopped. From the outside, it’s no big deal; quite
insignificant actually if you consider how many
people can read, but for me it was a personal
victory in something that I have channeled into
my unique way of serving and adding value.
What is your’s?
11. Death is waiting.The author Carlos Castaneda shared that the
shaman Don Juan told him that death sitting on
his left shoulder is his most powerful teacher. "A
detached man, who knows he has no possibility
of fencing off his death, has only one thing to
back himself with: the power of his decisions.
He has to be, so to speak, the master of his
choices. He must fully understand that his
choice is his responsibility and once he makes it
there is no longer time for regrets or
recriminations. He decisions are final, simply
because death does not permit him time to cling
to anything... The knowledge of his death guides
him and makes him detached and silently lusty;
the power of his final decisions makes him able
to choose without regrets and what he chooses
is always strategically the best; and so he
performs everything he has to with gusto and
lusty efficiency.” (A Separate Reality p. 184) For
many people this is a morbid thought. there’s
been so much speculation around death – and
what might happen after - that many of us have
become ingrained with certain belief systems.
Or, at least fragments of systems, and usually
the perpetual damnation variation. The one
constant, that I mentioned earlier is that in life no
one gets out alive. Death awaits us all. The
challenge is that none of us know what our final
moment might be. We can either ignore this, and
fear it, or, we can live each day as though it’s our
last while planning to stay alive until our twilight
years. There is the often used maxim, carpe
diem, yet with all the busyness of life we tend to
push that aside. Ultimately, it is not until we face
the brevity of life, and not that of someone
else’s, but our own short, fragile existence that
we can draw true power and perspective in the
moment. I often say, and do my best to follow
through, with the statement: “act as if...” today,
tomorrow, and until the final day, act as if it is
your last and live from your heart. And, to death
there on your left shoulder, smile and say, “not
today.”
12. No one can do it for you.Nope. Not your doctor; not your psychologist;
not your politician; not your favorite athlete; not
your favorite entertainer; not your pastor, imam,
priest, guru, or any other holy man/woman. And,
definitely not me. At best we can serve as
guides, inspiring you, and at worst we will
distract you from your purpose. This is your life,
your fragment of time, you deal with the
consequences, and you accept full responsibility
for your thoughts, your emotions, and your
actions. That’s how it’s always been, and this is
how it will stay when you choose to keep your
personal power.
13. It is okay to be mad at your parents... There is no manual for raising children. Some
parents are downright horrible and some are
amazingly inspirational. For whatever reason,
and you can think of a multitude of different
meanings to assign, from burning off karma to
the chaotic luck of the draw in the multiverse.
Regardless, you survived childhood in one form
or another as is evidenced by the fact that
you’re reading this now. You learned a lot. And,
you can re-learn it all differently if what you
“learned” hasn’t served you. Perhaps, you could
take it as a personal cause to do your part to
ensure that those initial learning experiences will
not be repeated on your watch. And going the
opposite direction, to promise to uphold the
sanctity of the positive learning experience so
that future generations will benefit from them.
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Emotions are energy. Stagnant emotions are
stagnant energy. Stagnation in the human body
body can, over time, turn into cancer. Likewise,
stagnant emotions that are not processed
through the body will eat away at you. So, it is
up to you to move them out and process them.
Be angry, be hurt, be helpless, be whatever you
need to be until you fully access those emotions
and release them; consciously letting go of hurt.
Forgive your parents and anyone else who
wronged you. There is a Buddhist saying that
holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal
and attempting to throw it at another person-
you are the one who is burned. In most cases,
your parents did the best they could based upon
the resources they had while dealing with the
situation at hand. Whatever happened then was
the past, and reading this now makes you
responsible for the present and moving forward.
14. Only you can define your personal standard for integrity.A hypocrite is someone who does not take his/
her own advice, or demands that others do what
they would not. As is evidenced by current
events, integrity is not dependent upon
education, social class, or religion. The
supposed best and brightest in academia have
been caught up in all sorts of corporate financial
scandals. Those who we believe to have
concrete philosophical backgrounds, when
appointed to political positions have more often
than not cheated, lied, and sold out the very
citizens they promised to represent. Then, there
are those religious leaders who purport to
represent the teachings of the specific belief
system yet their actions go against the very core
message of that religion, and they wield their
followers as a weapon bringing death instead of
spiritual life. When it comes down to it, all you
have is your personal sense of integrity.
Understand what it is, be certain about how you
developed it, and be flexible enough to adapt it
to circumstance. You are the measure of your
meaning...
15. Life is meaningless until you champion a cause.People who say, “what is the point,” have either
lost the connection to their personal cause, or
never fully developed it. Participation in
something that is greater than oneself,
benefitting others, is the highest calling, and we
all have the opportunity to make this our
vocation. Any problem in the world is an
opportunity for you to hone your skill sets,
develop resources, face fears, and champion a
cause. Throughout your life, you will encounter
the weak and the helpless, you will have
countless opportunities to inspire and lead
through your actions. You can draw upon the
resources left behind by those who go before
you, and you can create resources for those
who follow your footsteps. Inspire autonomy,
independence, and resourcefulness and the
cause you champion will one day be won.
Sometimes, simply saying “no” is a revolutionary
action, and if you’ll reflect for a moment on
history countless men and woman courageously
sacrificed their lives for you, defending your
liberties and freedom, simply by wielding my
favorite word. “No.”
16. You’re constantly nominalizing.In the field of NLP (neuro-linguistic
programming), a nominalization is what occurs
when a process becomes static. Typically our
linguistic representation [nominalization] of
experiences [nominalization] deletes,
generalizes, and distorts a process
[nominalization] in its entirety [nominalization]. In
fact, much of what we communicate
[nominalization] is being nominalized
[nominalization]. nominalization occurs when a
verb, adjective, or adverb becomes a noun.
This may not seem very important, but many
problems occur when people perceive
processes as static, non-changing events. For
example, think of a relationship. This term
actually represents a process of relating to
another person. Problems may arise when one
or both people involved in a relationship believe
it will not change. If there is a challenge you’re
experiencing, my guess is that it is something
that has been nominalized, or perceived as a
static event. Linguistically, it is easier to convey
and “grammatically proper,” but dramatically
hinders our perceptions of events. Change a
problem into a process and you’ll find yourself
perceiving many options that were previously
elusive.
17. You’re continuously changing.Some people believe they don’t change, others
insist that they don’t want to change, and quite
a few agree that we can’t help but change. In
the human body cell tissue is constantly being
renewed. Some cells last a few days and others
may last years. Research indicates that possibly
all cells - except for a select few cell types in
the brain and the heart - are recycled. The
perception many people have might be to think
of their body as a fairly permanent structure,
most of it is in a state of constant flux as old
cells are discarded and new ones generated in
their place. Each kind of tissue has its own
turnover time, depending in part on the
workload endured by its cells. The cells lining
the stomach last only five days. After traveling
nearly 1,000 miles through the maze of the
body's circulatory system, red blood cells last
only 120 days or so on average before being
dispatched to their graveyard in the spleen. As
this is a process that is continuing as long as
your heart is beating, you’re changing in many
and all ways... Embrace it and generalize this
change systemically through all areas of your life
and you learn empowering skill sets, discover
metaphors, and enjoy growing.
18. All emotions are energy.As children, we tend to learn that some
emotions are good while others are bad. What
if, neither is the case. Instead emotions are
packets of energy, carrying signals throughout
your mind-body. We tend to channel our
emotions through external sources. I won’t be
gender specific since it’s irrelevant, but
someone who is experiencing a lack of passion
in his or her life might turn to a romantic movie
or book to fill this void. On the other hand,
someone who is channeling aggression might
take it out at the gym or by watching mixed
martial arts competitions. I’m personally
indifferent about the outlet of these emotions, as
long as they do not harm others. I’m more so
interested in people realizing they are in charge
of any emotional experience. The English word
emotion is derived from the French word
émouvoir. This is based on the Latin emovere,
where e- (variant of ex-) means "out" and
movere means "move." The related term
"motivation" is also derived from the word
movere. When perceived this way the best
emotions to practice, are the emotions that have
the best long-term benefits for you and those
around you. Every emotion has a “residue” you
carry with you, and it is up to you to decide what
you want to associate with your being.
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19. You’ll never be fooled when you follow your gut instinct.The gut instinct is what kept your ancestors
alive long enough to procreate. You are here
today because of the instinctual drive to live and
create. Your gut instinct is a part of your
unconscious mind whose role it is to ensure you
stay alive. Of course, this is just my own
definition and you’re free to make up your own
but what is important is to realize that your gut
instinct is here to serve and keep you safe. It
runs based upon what has been imprinted upon
your paradigm. Often, throughout your life will
find that what you desire to do conflicts with
your gut instinct. This is not a sign that what you
are trying to do is wrong, but instead a warning
for you to reconsider what you want and if it still
seems congruent with your ideals and values
then update your paradigm by re-imprinting it.
Be forewarned, the your gut instinct may not
allow you to do what seems to be okay for
others. This may change over time, or quickly if
it is reframed with new understandings or
information, or it may never change. If it is
something you really desire to experience, then
gradually acclimatize yourself to the experience
by taking precise, effortless steps toward it. Let
go of the outcome and focus more upon the
inner dialogue of permission and imagery. After
all, there is some perceived danger or parts-
conflict occurring in this scenario.
20. Don’t believe anyone.Not even me. The majority of people are
followers. In practically every situation they are
leaking their personal power. Most often, our
egos do their best to prevent us from being
wrong. In our current society there is an
abundance of opinions, information,
misinformation, and disinformation. Statistics
can be skewed to serve practically any purpose
- at least 79% of the time for half the population.
There are many truths out there and it is easy to
create truisms especially since you’re reading
this right now, but the objective truth is better
left in the halls of philosophy. You are free to
create your own belief system. There are many
rules in the universe - some of which are even
referred to as laws - but ultimately it’s up to you
to choose or not choose how you live your life.
Those who are afraid of being wrong will follow
somebody else’s system, and those who are
results-oriented might borrow from various
systems and create their own. You can probably
guess what I do. And, I encourage you to
approach all experiences and information with a
degree of skepticism and open-mindedness.
But don’t believe me. Try it for yourself. Do your
own research. Be responsible for your own life.
Live in a way that inspires you to greatness. Do
what moves you. As Joseph Campbell said,
“follow your bliss.” This will take you down the
strangest of paths, and create the most
rewarding of experiences. It will be tough. You
will be challenged. There will be times in which
you doubt you’ll be able to continue. You’ll feel
the greatest of agonies and the most refreshing
joys of fulfillment.
But don’t believe me, find out for yourself...
Be Amazing.
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Place your attention on the experiences you desire to have in life...
At the first sign of trouble, we tend to habitually recall the last failed
experience or imagine a negative possible outcome. I believe human
beings are wired this way as a survival mechanism to keep us alert and
aware of potential danger. But, it doesn't necessarily work to our benefit
in most situations. The "T-Rex is chasing me" (fight or flight ) response to
someone cutting us off in traffic, or the notice that our boss wants to
speak with us is old programming. That said, we "can't help but learn..."
and these default reactions are engrained, hardwired into our DNA. But
you can learn to control your emotional states and mindset, and as a
result control your behavior.
If we can't help but learn, then it's probably in our best interest to
reframe our learning behaviors and practice empowering outcomes for
old situations. This is the process of creating new neural pathways -
synapses firing and sending messages along neural tissue resulting in new
behavior.
This is learning and what you practice, you perfect;
imagined or real. And, this is the main purpose behind
the Attention Shifting personal development programs.
These hypnosis and NLP-based audios give you an
opportunity to rehearse and practice specific
situations; resulting in the creation of new neural
pathways.
There will always be surprises and challenges in life.
How you [re]act in response to the situation will be
congruent with what you have practiced, and if you haven't practiced a
specific outcome... Well then, just about anything might happen,
but it probably won't be what you want. There a very few
opportunities you’ll have in life to experience an
environment in which you can practice state
management and develop emotional resources. This
isn’t new age, fluffy talk about the “secret” Law of
Attraction, nor is it the deep hypnotism of forgetfulness.
Instead, this is about reclaiming your personal power,
facing fears, and overcoming challenges. All in all, it is
about you succeeding, pursuing significance, and
becoming your own source of inspiration.
“What you practice in your mind’s eye you
perfect in reality”~ MJE
ATTENTION SHIFTING PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT RESOURCES
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Direct Download: 4 mp3 audio files / 75 minutes total • Track 1: A+ Student 1 - Program overview and guided imagery
techniques. • Track 2: A+ Student 2 - Theta brainwaves that are effective
for studying, writing, memorization, and focused reading. • Track 3: Alpha Brainwave - Effective for active learning,
presenting, and acting. • Track 4: Delta Brainwave - Effective for deep meditation,
brainstorming, and drawing upon intuition.
One of the biggest obstacles for students of all ages is finding a way to effectively study, learn, and complete assignments without being distracted. Often students waste more time with distractions than they spend actually studying. Learn more about the A+ Student NLP and Hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 26 mp3 audio programs / 230+ minutes totalAdvanced Sports Imagery for Athletes is a 26-part audio program series for athletes that will teach you how to apply the best techniques in the fields of guided imagery, sports psychology, self-hypnosis and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). In most sports, the majority of the emphasis is placed upon outer game skills such as physical conditioning, endurance training, and exercises related to a specific sport. The inner game is a bit more elusive. Exceptional athletes at every level tend to develop inner game skills like an understanding of the rules, strategies, and psychology of a specific sport. Yet, the most important element that completes the outer game and inner game skills is an athlete’s ability to change his or her beliefs and learn to control his or her emotions, mindset, and actions. Learn more about Advanced Sports Imagery for Athletes...
Direct Download: 14 mp3 audio programs / 400 minutes of audioAll 14 of the Attention Shifting 1.0 personal development audio programs in one folder. Save $4.00 and get all of the 1.0 audio programs for only $10.00.Attention Shifting 1.0 consists of the following programs: Put Off Procrastination, Expressive Personality, Expressive Personality 2, Complete Confidence, Attracting Wealth, Dynamic Determination, A+ Student, Healing the Inner Child, Applying Anger, Deep Sleep, Release Stress and Anxiety, From Depression to Hope, Disappearing Cancer, and The Call.
You can also download this bundle as part of the $75 Attention Shifting bundle and save. Learn more about the Attention Shifting 1.0 NLP and Hypnosis bundle...
ATTENTION SHIFTING AUDIO PROGRAMS
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Direct Download: 29 minute mp3 audio programWhat if your anger was perceived to be like a fuel? Most people are afraid to even show anger because they don't trust that they can experience anger and still be in control. What if you could? What things in your life could you apply all energy this toward? Applying Anger is a unique 30 minute program that creates a private, safe place for a person to experience and redirect their anger. When directed and applied, anger can become one of your most powerful resources for achieving what you want in life. Learn more about the Applying Anger - NLP and Hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 850 minutes (14 hours) of hypnosis and NLP based personal development programs in mp3 audio format. Attention Shifting 1.0, 2.0 and 3.0 are included in this compilation. The 1.2 gigabyte bundle includes: Dynamic Determination, Pure Focus, Creative Space, Compelling Clarity, From Depression to Hope, End Your Day Perfectly, Start Your Day Right, The Call, Applying Anger, Just Your Luck - Beginning to Change, Reclaim Your Life, Attracting Wealth, Expressive Personality, Transpersonal Meditation, A+ Student, Release Stress, Complete Confidence, Healing the Inner Child, Full Forgiveness, Sheer Resolve, Deep Sleep, Advanced Sports Imagery, Re-imprinting Yourself, and Put Off Procrastination. Learn more about the Attention Shifting Bundle...
Direct Download: 25 minute mp3 audio programThe Attracting Wealth audio program will take you through several exercises specifically designed to strengthen your sense of deservedness, align your purpose with your values, integrate new ways of attracting wealth into your life and creating clarity in your unique way of living in abundance. Learn more about the Attracting Wealth NLP and Hypnosis audio program...
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Direct download: 32 minute mp3 audio programWhat would it be like if you were able to clearly visualize an object or perfectly hold a concept in your mind's eye for as long as you desired? Perhaps, for you, it might be something as complicated as detailed diagrams with thousands of integrated components, or maybe something as seemingly simple as the form of an apple turning and rotating, zooming in and out, changing colors and size as is appropriate. A Zen-like state of "no mind" will allow you to experience clear cognition, allowing fleeting distractions that have captured your attention the past to fade away in order to understand your world with a compelling sense of clarity. Learn more about the Compelling Clarity NLP and Hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 30 minute mp3 audio programConfidence is not necessarily related to just social situations or interacting with other people. Your level of confidence is shaped by your feelings - by expanding the sphere of what you believe to be possible for you - you create the flexibility to respond competently and proactively when it is important. Very few people take the time to practice what they ideally want to experience in life, and are often left responding unprepared to the demands of their environment. As always, it's your choice to decide how you will live. I believe you will be amazed with the clarity and confidence you can live with by incorporating this practice into your life. Learn more about the Complete Confidence NLP and hypnosis program...
Direct Download: 27 minute mp3 audio programCreativity is a mind/body process resulting in the generation of new ideas, concepts, and associations. Or, perceptions between previously unrelated elements and elements sharing similarity.Divergent thought is both original and appropriate for the challenge, need, or opportunity at hand. The Latin root creatus literally means to have grown. And, during this time, you will have many opportunities to see beyond limitations and capture original thoughts. The purpose for this program is to create a white room, a specific space in your mind, or a place that only you will know about... Here you will be able to store all thoughts, ideas and plans that are relevant to your needs. This space is specifically reserved for your creative process. Learn more about the Creative Space NLP and hypnosis program...
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Direct Download: 22 minute mp3 audio programDeep Sleep is designed with soothing sounds and ambient dimensions to bring even the most restless of minds to slow down and relax into restful REM sleep. Specific sound frequencies scientifically shown to slow the brain's activity are used in this program to create an environment for deep sleep. If you suffer from insomnia, anxiety, or random thoughts running through your mind when you are trying to sleep, then try a natural way to safely fall asleep. This program is specifically designed to train your body how to enter a state of restful sleep. Learn more about the Deep Sleep NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 51 minute mp3 audio programThis program will affect the way a person faced with the challenges of cancer interacts with their friends and family, and how they can move into well-being. It doesn't matter if you pay close attention to what is being said, or if you quickly doze off to the ambient music - you will wake refreshed and hopeful. Don't be too surprised if forgiveness occurs; old, broken relationships are mended; and you find a sense of peace beyond words with the situation at hand. Learn more about the Disappearing Cancer NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 16 minute mp3 audio programThis NLP program is designed to empower you to take the necessary steps toward what you want to experience. By building upon the small steps, you can quickly move toward success in what you want. Many people have big picture wishes or hopes, but they have not identified the little steps in-between, which when linked together will absolutely contribute to success. Perfect for mental and emotional rehearsal before important events. Learn more about the Dynamic Determination NLP and hypnosis audio program...
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Direct Download: 20 minute mp3 audio programCommunication with your unconscious mind is by definition hypnosis. When you use your own internal imagery, create your own imagined scenarios, visualize, and experience emotions as a result of your internal imagery - this is self-hypnosis.I've personally found that the best way to access my unconscious mind is through the use of guided visualization prior to falling asleep. Imagine this to be like planting seeds in the field of your unconscious. When you pay attention to will permeate throughout your mind and body; resulting in the emotions, mindsets, and the actions that you experience in the future. Learn more about the End Your Day Perfectly NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 47 minute mp3 audio programHave you ever felt a little stuck when it comes to expressing yourself? Perhaps there are certain emotions that you just don't know how to convey to other people? Expressive Personality is a great way to learn how to try on those emotions and create flexibility with you capability to communicate with others. This program is about you becoming the full embodiment of what you want to share with others. It will help your interactions professionally and personally, and can be used in the context of various situations. Learn more about the Expressive Personality NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 26 minute mp3 audio programMany people experience depression in life, and it's all for various reasons... For some, it seems never-ending and for others it may be circumstantial. There is a way out of depression - when your entire world seems to be collapsing upon you - you can experience change. From Depression to Hope will show you powerful ways to reframe previously depressing experiences and this program will hold a space for you to create the changes you want and resolve old challenges now. If you have ever experienced a time when you felt completely overwhelmed or pushed to the brink of depression, make one subtle, small change today. Learn more about the From Depression to Hope NLP and hypnosis audio program...
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Direct Download: 37 minute mp3 audio programTwenty-five centuries ago, a man by the name of Siddhārtha Gautama, known to most of us as The Buddha is recorded as having said, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Full Forgiveness empowers you to drop the hot coal that has been burning you. It cuts out, eradicates, cancels, and makes the wrong as if it had never been. Some people may have learned or perceived forgiveness equals weakness. Learn more about the Full Forgiveness NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 30 minute mp3 audio programSo many people despondently wish that their childhood was different - that their parents were different, the environment was better, other people treated them differently, or that they had more resources like food, money, or social status. What is often overlooked is the process that all of your past experiences share: they formed your beliefs about what is or is not possible for you today. Even at an unconscious level, you are reacting to your environment based upon the patterns that were likely formed during your earliest years. Learn more about the Healing the Inner Child NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 140+ minutes of audio / 3 mp3 audio filesThe How to Visualize Series includes the following audio files:How to Visualize - Self Awareness and the Fives Senses - Visualization techniques designed to awaken and vivify your perceptions through all of your sensory faculties. How to Visualize - The Visual Submodalities of Perception - Visualization techniques drawing specifically upon NLP perception models designed to encompass a full spectrum of information processing and how this affects physiological and emotional states. How to Visualize - Time and Space Imagery - Experience how perceptions of time and space affect the ways that information is coded into your mind / body while understanding how linguistically this also occurs unconsciously during communication. Learn more about the How to Visualize NLP and hypnosis audio programs...
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Direct Download: 49 minutes of audio, 1 mp3 audio fileHow to Visualize - Self Awareness and the Fives Senses - Visualization techniques designed to awaken and vivify your perceptions through all of your sensory faculties. Learn more about the How to Visualize - Self-Awareness and the Five Senses NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 45 minutes of audio, 1 mp3 audio filesHow to Visualize - The Visual Submodalities of Perception - Visualization techniques drawing specifically upon NLP perception models designed to encompass a full spectrum of information processing and how this affects physiological and emotional states. Learn more about the How to Visualize - The Visual Submodalities of Perception NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 48+ minutes of audio, 1 mp3 audio files zippedHow to Visualize - Time and Space Imagery - Experience how perceptions of time and space affect the ways that information is coded into your mind / body while understanding how linguistically this also occurs unconsciously during communication. Learn more about the How to Visualize - Time and Space Imagery NLP and hypnosis audio program...
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Direct Download: 46 minute mp3 audio programThis is quite possibly one of my most playful audio programs to date. Just Your Luck is really about you, and people all over the world, reclaiming your self-autonomy and choosing to live in an empowering way. Trusting... that more people are joining you every day; sharing similar values that promote individual and collective well-being. One of my points in this program is that you always have a choice as to how you are going to process and perceive information, events, circumstances and the way your life unfolds. Learn more about the Just Your Luck NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 24 minute mp3 audio programWhat if you could harness the power that your habits have been exhibiting in your life and redirect this force into a state of pure focus that you can aim at any goal or challenge in order to achieve your desired outcome in a way that is nearly effortless… It’s been said before that your habits will determine your future and when observed it has been found that successful people typically have successful habits that compound and grow permeating into all areas of their lives in a way that you will similarly experience. This is making it impossible for you to not experience pure focus automatically. Learn more about the Pure Focus NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 39 minute mp3 audio programIt doesn't matter to me if your reason for wanting to end procrastination now are for your personal good, for the good of the world, or both. I think that it will all happen as you begin to bring more of what you want into your life by taking the necessary steps to move ahead. Perhaps it's your health that motivates you. It might be money. Maybe it's in the realm of relationships. You know best what it is and you'll know when it is time to make a change. Remember my friend, you can get back to procrastinating later. Aren't there things that benefit your life and the lives of those around you that you really want to be doing...now? Learn more about the Put Off Procrastination NLP and hypnosis audio program...
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Direct Download: 43 minute mp3 audio programThis program is specifically designed to cause previously unconscious imagery and thoughts to become conscious. And, portions of it will require you to actively change your thinking. Most people will experience that it does not happen easily or automatically at first, but on the other hand, some people do find he opposite to be true.... The changes they really desire to have happen, happen of their own accord when one’s attention is shifted to what is desired and, this might very well be for you. If you follow the instructions, then with each successful completion of the exercise you may find that the active participation happens more and more effortlessly until it is automatic. Learn more about the Re-imprinting Yourself NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 49 minute mp3 audio programThis program is specifically designed for soldiers, veterans, first responders, law enforcement and all individuals who have experienced a traumatic event that, until now, had impeded your quality of life. I use the catch phrase posttraumatic stress because of its popularity in society but I do not intend to imply that it is a disorder – my feeling is that it is no one’s responsibility but your responsibility to control your mind. And, when you have discovered the appropriate resources you will have authority to reclaim control over the way you process information – past, present, and future. Learn more about the Reclaim Your Life From Posttraumatic Stress NLP and hypnosis program...
Direct Download: 20 minute mp3 audio programI have also realized the importance of hitting the "restart" button on my mind, body and emotions. We all have goals in life that are important to us and if we don't routinely take time-out's for ourselves, then we are actually limiting the successful achievement of our goals by being overstressed or under-rested. This 20 minute program is designed to create an environment in which you can allow any stressful situation to just fade away. Nearly every person experiences times when things seem too overwhelming and often we don't take the time needed to allow our nervous system the downtime it needs to recharge and heal. Learn more about the Release Stress NLP and hypnosis audio program...
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Direct Download: 40 minute mp3 audio programBurn the ships behind you... There are some things in life which require more than just a little motivation and effort. Very few people live with a burning sense of conviction that they must do something specific; something compelling that constantly runs through their minds. As you apply Sheer Resolve to Do What It Takes to a specific outcome the encouragement you receive will come from those who are seeking the value you have to offer. They will get what you are about and they will perceive you under a totally different light. A light that most of those who know you can’t see… yet. Learn more about the Sheer Resolve NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 17 minute mp3 audio programThis personal development program creates an excellent opportunity for you to reframe each morning. Wake up, roll over, and put on your headset. You have another 20 minutes to doze and a wonderful opportunity to program your unconscious mind in preparation for the day ahead of you. Never knowing what day might be your last, seize this opportunity by finding the energy that propels you forward looking for opportunities to live life to its fullest. Learn more about the Start Your Day Right NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 37 minute mp3 audio programThis program was originally based off of work I did in grad school around men finding purpose in life by experiencing the monomyth - or what Joseph Campbell referred to as the "Hero's Journey". (It is readily applicable to either gender.) The Call is an NLP and self-hypnosis audio program for men to discover their life purpose. It is a tribute to Joseph Campbell and his monumental work, The Hero's Journey. I'm reminded of a quote by Thoreau written over 150 years ago, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." It seems that more and more men are becoming disillusioned with the life that is most readily available to them today. Instead of boldly championing a cause and pursuing something purposeful, how often do we shrink in the face of mediocrity? Learn more about The Call - an NLP and hypnosis personal development audio program...
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Direct Download: 3 hours, 20 minutes of mp3 audio from the workshop; a colorful and detailed 66 page PDF manual with scripts; 50 minutes of mp3 audio with binaural beat frequencies: Out of Body and The Illusion of Time by Michael J. Emery - used as the background music of the workshopTaught in the style of a personal breakthrough session, this workshop will train you how to linguistically guide people through Timeline Imagery™ in a way that will free them from limiting beliefs and experiences. Learn more about the Timeline Imagery NLP and hypnosis training program...
Direct Download: 41 minute mp3 audio programPsychologist, Carl Jung, first used the phrase transpersonal unconscious as another way to describe the theory of the collective unconscious (the shared, intuitive knowledge shared by human beings). The term transpersonal means going beyond or transcending the bounds of ego. It can describe a state of oneness or nothingness as in the absence of preconception or senses. Often, individuals who have these experiences recount that the experience was simply and profoundly beyond words as language serves only to limit an experience that is timeless, spaceless, and outside of ego function (the perception of the personal "I"). That was their experience, and whatever is waiting to happen next for you will be your when you listen to this meditation / visualization mp3. Learn more about the Transpersonal Meditation NLP and Hypnosis audio program...
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Michael J. Emery uses NLP and Hypnosis to
focus upon changing conditioned responses -
think Pavlov's dog. The bell rings and the dog
salivates.
Everyone has unconscious reactions to their
environments: the way a loved one looks at you,
hearing your boss's voice, seeing an email from
someone important, these examples all create a
specific response that either causes you to feel
good or bad in your body. How you feel almost
always determines your actions and outcomes
in specific situations.
What most people do not realize is that they are
in control of those reactions, and they can
create a response that benefits them. This is
called state management in the field of neuro-
linguistic programming (NLP). What separates
highly successful people in any field from those
who are not considered successful, is the
individual's ability to manage his or her
emotions, mindset, and actions in a seemingly
unpredictable environment.
Salespeople can learn how to overcome cold
call reluctance and as a result earn more money.
People in a relationship can learn how to
rekindle the passion even though it seems to
have dwindled over time. On the other hand,
people wanting to get out of limiting
relationships can learn how to break those
attachments that have been holding them back.
Someone needing to lose weight or make health
improvements can learn how to
avoid unhealthy foods, and in it's
place, create cravings for
healthy food and exercise.
You can learn how to
control your inner dialogue
(self talk), manage the
internal imagery (mental
pictures and movies) that seem
to play automatically, and grab a
hold of your emotions and the feelings in your
body so that you feel great about yourself and
what you're doing with your life.
Ultimately, my approach to personal
development coaching results in you becoming
aware of the ways that your body is processing
the information that comes in through your five
senses, and how this information is filtered to
create meaning which results in your response
to it. You will learn how the various ways you
represent this information to yourself diminishes
or increases your perceptions of an experience
so that you can take control of yourself in any
situation.
Try out the Coaching GymThe Coaching Gym is an innovative approach to
personal development coaching because of
several factors: worldwide access, coaching
precision, and focus completely upon NLP
synesthesias – the unconscious reactions to
specific situations (Pavlovian conditioned
response). The Coaching Gym uses Skype
video-conferencing technology for live
conversations anywhere in the world with an
Internet connection. My Coaching Gym is based
upon research that shows people have
conditioned responses for specific situations –
and that these responses become generalized
and associated with other experiences that are
perceived as similar. By changing the default
reactions to planned, by-design responses you
become empowered in a specific situation to
control your actions, emotions, and mindset in
order to create your desired outcome. Hence,
the Coaching Gym – just like attending the gym
to see physical results only you can do the
exercises. You will be expected to work and you
will notice the results!
ABOUT MICHAEL J. EMERYPersonal Development Coach and Trainer.
Want 1-on-1 Coaching?
Join Michael J. Emery’s Coaching Gym and show up ready to change!
$175 per hour
What is the Coaching Gym?• Worldwide access via phone / Skype• Coaching precision and expectation you
will show up ready to work on yourself• Focus upon NLP synesthesias and
conditioned response (Pavlovian)• Develop your unique strategy for
managing emotions, mindset and actions• Prepare in advance for important events• Learn to manage perceptions of time,
space, and information
Michael J. Emery, M.A.
Michael J. Emery has a masters degree from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology and a bachelors degree in marketing and advertising from Portland State University. Michael is a certified hypnotherapist and a certified trainer of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP).
www.michaeljemery.com
Place your attention on what
you want to experience.