Preventative Interventions that Increase Student Cooperation and Compliance

CSS Conference Presentation2013-2014

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Pam Hart, Educational ConsultantRegion 18 ESC

Putting Your Best Feet Forward!

The Story of Eric

POSITIVE TALK

“I” Statements

Using contingencies

Eliciting vs. Imposing consequences

Help kids “visualize” positives

“Empathy” is the foundation of emotional intelligence.

“Hope” Building

The Compliance Burger

Bun- Start with a positive statementCheese- Point out current, unexpected behaviorMeat- State expected behavior'Let-Us'- Give prompt followed by space and timBun- Return and praise expected behavior

Bun- "Thanks for sitting quietly!"Cheese- "I see you are still reading your book."Meat- "Right now the class is working on math."'Let-Us'- "Make a good choice to get your math out, and I will check back with you."Bun- "I see you have your math out ... Great choice!

Are you going to start on the front or back?"

CHOICE

Everyone (adults too) prefer choices! Many, frequent choices =empowerment

Practice using these short phrases:• Would you rather ____ or ____?• What would be best for you, ___ or ___?• Feel free to ___ or ___.• What would help you the most, ___ or ___?

_Teaching With Love & Logic by Jim Faye

CONTROL

Can you control another human being?

Asking vs. telling

Key words to use for reflective questioning: WHAT WHEN WHERE HOW

STAY AWAY FROM… WHY!

Dr. Marvin Marshall

Discipline Without Stress, Punishments, or Rewards_by Dr. Marvin Marshall

REFLECTIVE QUESTIONING

For Changing Behavior For Getting on Task For Commitment For Improving Quality For Complaining For Starting Conversations

Discipline Without Stress, Punishments, or Rewards By Dr. Marvin Marshall

Dr. Marshall’s Coaching “Stems” for Changing the Way We Talk (Handout)

Changing the Way We Talk

Move from:• I’ll try• I might• I’d like to • There isn’t time• I don’t think that will work• But• I’ll think about it

Move to:• I will• I promise• I commit to• Let’s find time• I wonder how that can work• Yes, and• I will resolve to

Dr. Marvin MarshallDiscipline Without Stress, Punishments, or Rewards

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0REJ-lCGiKU

Enthusiasm and Passion

SELF TALK

Life is a conversation… Interestingly, the most influential person we talk to all day is our self. And, what we tell our self has a direct bearing on our behavior, our performance, and our influence on others.

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From Dr. Marvin Marshall’s book:Discipline Without Stress, Punishments, or Rewards

www.aboutdiscipline.com

This little guy is willing to try anything…for the cheese!