RESILIENCE Dr. Colleen M. FairbanksClinical Health Psychologist

INTRODUCTIONDr. Fairbanks is a psychologist, speaker, coach, and consultant. She is a licensed clinical psychologist with a specialization in Health Psychology. Areas of specialization include happiness, positive psychology, motivational interviewing, behavior change, and mindfulness. She has extensive experience, both as a practitioner and instructor, in understanding the mind-body connection: the interplay between physical and emotional health issues. Dr. Fairbanks’ passion is working with organizations and individuals to find happiness, peace, and inner strength.

 

OBJECTIVES Define resilience Identify skills to build resilience Understand how to implement skills

DEFINITION The capacity of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress An ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change

DISCUSSION When you think of resilience, what comes to mind?

BACKGROUND: NORMAN GARMEZY

RESILIENCE

RESILIENCY TOOLS Locus of control Realistic optimism Positive relationships Recovery

LOCUS OF CONTROL

LOCUS OF CONTROL

LOCUS OF CONTROL COMMON

DENOMINATOR

CHANGE IT

DISCUSSION Can you think of a time when your emotions were dictated by someone else’s behaviors? What steps can you take to investigate and take ownership of your reaction?

RESILIENCY TOOLS Locus of control Realistic optimism Positive relationships Recovery

REALISTIC OPTIMISM Learned helplessness is the giving-up reaction, the quitting response that follows from the belief that whatever you do

doesn’t matter -Martin Seligman

3 groupsCan stop the noise

by pushing a buttonCan’t turn off the

noise Control group: Heard

no noiseNew day. New situation.

Loud annoying sound can be turned off by moving hand

Figured it out and avoided the noise

2/3 learned helplessness1/3 resilient

Figured it out and avoided the noise

REALISTIC OPTIMISM

REALISTIC OPTIMISM: PERCEPTION

REALISTIC OPTIMISM: POSITIVITY Increase positivity in your life. Practice a positive mindset Express gratitude Self-improvement

DISCUSSION Thinking back through the last 24 hours, what are some things for which you feel grateful?

RESILIENCY TOOLS Locus of control Realistic optimism Positive relationships Recovery

POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS

POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS Stay present Listen to what is being said Get out of your own head Check for understanding when listening

What are you doing well in this category? What would you change?

Assertiveness Discuss your frustrations Own your emotional response Set boundaries

What are you doing well in this category? What would you change?

Positive reinforcement Praise behavior you enjoy Discuss the behaviors you do not in a assertive, nonaggressive

manner

What are you doing well in this category? What would you change?

Active listening Paraphrasing Nonverbal cues Eye contact

What are you doing well in this category? What would you change?

In Conflict: Listen Paraphrase; check for your tone Apologize and ask “What do you need from me

right now”

What are you doing well in this category? What would you change?

RESILIENCY TOOLS Locus of control Realistic optimism Positive Relationships Recovery

RECOVERY

DISCUSSION On average, how often do you think you look at your phone each day?

RECOVERY

REFERENCES American Psychological Association Donald Altman, 101 Mindful Ways to Build Resilience: Cultivate Calm, Clarity, Optimism, & Happiness Each Day.

Michelle Gielan, 2015. Broadcasting Happiness. Dallas, Texas: BenBella Books, Inc.

Omharmonics by Mindvalley PsychCentral Ray Mathis: It’s Just and Event: It’s Your Choice How You Want to Feel Reivich & Shatte. 2002. The Resilience Factor. New York: Broadway Books. Shawn Achor, XXXX. The Happiness Advantage. XXX University of Texas, Austin: Transforming lives through resilience education

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