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RESOLVING WORKPLACE CONFLICT
FOR NYC FAMILY RESOURCE CENTERS
File Name: RWC-Slides
• What is Conflict?
• Negative Styles of Conflict
• Causes of Workplace Conflict
• Stages of Conflict
• Accountability
• Coaching and Mediation
• Understanding Conflict Management Styles
• 9 Early Warning Signs of Conflict
• Pondy’s Model of Organizational Conflict
• Strategies of Conflict Resolution
• Role Plays
Today’s Agenda
Thoughts for the day…
• We will be focusing on conflicts that others
are having on your team or between
teams, not your conflicts.
• Because we will be talking about real
conflicts, confidentiality is a must!
What is Workplace Conflict?
Workplace Conflict is
• Conflict occurs when two or more people’s
differences escalate to a significant level
that negatively affects (or is likely to affect)
productivity, quality, safety, service,
morale, or working relationships
All relationships, personal and professional,
experience some kind of conflict…
•Normal
•Natural
•Sometimes even necessary for growth and
development.
Conflict Is Natural
Because people have different:
• Experiences
• Points of view
• Preconceptions
• Styles
• Abilities
• Motivations
What is the biggest impact that unresolved workplace conflict can have on your workplace?
– Shattered trust and relationships
– Decreased productivity
– Weakened/poor communication
– Loss of quality work with families
– Higher turnover of good staff
– Poor staff moral
– No one wants to go above and beyond when
they’re pissed
Negative Styles of Conflict
• Firecracker
– Blow up to sudden anger
– Usually apologizes after the fact
– You know it will happen again
• Cold Shoulder
– Two people who take pride in not communicating with each other
– Contest to see who can hold out the longest
• Backstabbing
– Positive to your face/knife in the back
• Social Zinger
– Throw verbal darts in front of others
– The “I was just teasing” syndrome
• Trivia Fights
– Those who battle over the little things
– Fight over the details
– Seldom get to the real issues
• Having the Last Word
– Must have the last remark
– Conflict is seldom over
Styles of ConflictWhat “bad behavior” do you see your staff do
when in conflict?
Constructive vs. Destructive
Consequences of Conflict
The Causes of Workplace Conflict
Common Roots of Conflict
• Ineffective
communication
• Values clashes
• Culture clashes
• Work policies and
practices
• Adversarial
management
• Noncompliance
• Competition for
scarce resources
• Personality clashes
Ineffective Communication
• Ineffective communication is a major
source of personal conflict
• When different people work closely
together, communication breakdowns are
inevitable
• First determine if the conflict is a
misunderstanding or a true disagreement
Ineffective Communication
• For misunderstanding
– explain your position or provide more details
• For true disagreements
– persuading one or both parties to change
positions may be necessary
– root problem will persist until someone
changes
Value Clashes
• Conflict may be due to value differences
between
– generations
– women and men
– people with different value priorities
– “loyalist” versus “job-hoppers”
Culture Clashes
• Occurs between people
– from other countries
– between people from different parts of the
U.S.
• Work force reflects cultural diversity
• Different cultural traditions can easily
come into conflict in the workplace
• Issues range from simple to complex
Work Policies and Practices
• Conflict may happen when organizations
maintain confusing or arbitrary
– Rules
– Regulations
– Performance standards
• Often surface when managers don’t
understand that employees view policies
as unfair
Adversarial Management
• Conflict can occur when managers view
employees and other managers with
distrust and suspicion
• When managers gossip or complain about
one another to staff
• View others as “the enemy”
• Leads to a lack of respect by employees
• Makes teamwork and cooperation difficult
Noncompliance
• Workers refusing to comply with rules
• Refuse to accept fair share of workload
• Tries to get others to jump on the
bandwagon agonist the rules
• Shows contempt for the work assignments
Competition for Scarce Resources
• Downsizing and cost cutting can lead to
destructive competition for scarce
resources
• When decisions are not clearly explained,
workers suspect coworkers of devious
tactics
Personality Clashes
• People have differing
– Communication styles
– Temperaments
– Attitudes
• People may not be able to identify why
they dislike others.
STAGES OF CONFLICT
Conflict Continuum
Discord
Dispute
Differences
Stages of Conflict: Differences
• While differing ideas, approaches, or
points of view can promote creativity and
innovation, they also can contribute to
misunderstandings and conflict.
• Ideally, this is the stage to nip the conflict
“in the bud”
Stages of Conflict: Discord
• Lack of agreement causes uneasiness
and discomfort. People start to lose sight
of mutual goals and adopt the attitude, “I’m
right, and the other person is wrong.”
• This stage is leading down the road to
destruction.
Stages of Conflict: Dispute
• At this point, the involved parties are
embroiled in an all-out argument, and
everyone just struggles to be heard, to
prove themselves right, and to win,
causing damage to relationships and
ultimately, our work with the families
• If ignored, the damage can be irreversible.
The Goal
• When conflicts escalate beyond
differences, your goal is to minimize
damage (destructive) and promote
discovery (constructive). You’ll do this
by applying one of two intervention
techniques:
– coaching and, if the conflict remains
unresolved,
– mediating
Conflict Continuum
Discord
Dispute
Differences
At what point do these
conflicts start to have a
negative impact on
others and the
organization?
The Tipping Point
Building Accountability
Who is accountable?
This is not your conflict!
• Your job is to:
– Get a better understanding of the cause
– Prevent escalation
– Facilitate resolution
– Diffuse emotions
– Spark discovery
Coaching and MediationTo meet personal needs
Conflict Continuum
Discord
Dispute
Provide coaching.
Mediate resolution.
Promote discovery.Differences
© Development Dimensions International, Inc.
Coach When…• Someone asks for your
help.
• You want to encourage
someone to take the lead.
• You want to develop
someone’s ability to
resolve the conflict.
• People are capable of
working it out.
• People are willing to take
ownership.
Mediate When…• People involved are at a
stalemate.
• Coaching didn’t work, and
the conflict is escalating.
• Productivity and morale
are affected; people can’t
work it out themselves.
• People refuse to work it
out themselves.
• People won’t take
ownership.
As a Coach You…
• Help others see their role in the
conflict and the benefits of resolving it.
• Build others’ ability and confidence
to resolve their own conflicts.
• Encourage people to understand the
other person’s point of view.
• Ask powerful questions to develop solutions,
encourage discovery, and build commitment.
An Effective Mediator...
• Makes it possible for
people to talk about
their differences in a
nonthreatening,
nonjudgmental setting.
• Gets people to focus on the facts, listen
objectively, and commit to resolving the
conflict in everyone’s best interest.
Examples of Ground Rules
• Respect everyone’s feelings and ideas.
• Focus on facts.
• Call a break, if needed.
• Take responsibility for your actions.
• Admit mistakes.
• Don’t interrupt, don’t blame.
• Avoid “you” statements (sounds like blame).
• Build on others’ ideas.
• Make no assumptions.
• Restate the other person’s perspective until understood.
Powerful Questions are mindful questions that:
• Facilitate self-reflection.
• Build awareness of the impact.
• Help challenge assumptions.
• Transform perceptions.
• Uncover different perspectives.
• Seek possible solutions.
• Encourage ownership,
discovery, and discussion.
Understanding Conflict Management Styles
YOU GOT STYLE, BABY!
What's your management style?
Accommodating
People who accommodate are unassertive
and very cooperative.
• Give in during a conflict
• Acknowledge they made a mistake/decide
it was no big deal
• Put relationships first, ignore issues, and
try to keep peace at any price
• Effective when the other person or party
has a better plan or solution
Avoiding
People who avoid conflict are generally unassertive and uncooperative.
• Avoid the conflict entirely or delay their response instead of voicing concerns
• Can create some space in an emotional environment
• Not a good long-term strategy
Collaborating
Collaborators are both assertive and
cooperative.
• Assert own views while also listening to
other views and welcoming differences
• Seek a “win-win” outcome
• Identify underlying concerns of a conflict
• Create room for multiple ideas
• Requires time and effort from both parties
Competing
People who approach conflict in a competitive way assert themselves and do not cooperate while pursuing their own concerns at another’s expense.
• Takes on a “win-lose” approach where one person wins and one person loses
• Does not rely on cooperation with the other party to reach outcome
• May be appropriate for emergencies when time is important
Compromising
Compromisers are moderately assertive and
moderately cooperative.
• Try to find fast, mutually acceptable solutions
to conflicts that partially satisfy both parties
• Results in a “lose-lose” approach
• Appropriate temporary solution
• Considered an easy way out when you need
more time to collaborate to find a better
solution
Which one is best?
There is no BEST way to handle conflict. Each conflict is different and requires a different response.
As a society, we teach:
“Two heads are better than one.” (Collaborating)
“Kill your enemies with kindness.” (Accommodating)
“Split the difference.” (Compromising)
“Leave well enough alone.” (Avoiding)
“Might makes right.” (Competing)
Conclusion
• Different conflict management styles may be used when faced with different situations.
• Knowing yourself and fully understanding each situation will help you understand the conflict management style needed.
• Knowing your own style will help you better manage other people’s conflicts.
9 Early Warning Signs of Conflict
A conflict is a-brewin’!
1. Dysfunctional meetings
• Do staff meetings end up being gripe
sessions instead of brainstorming
sessions?
• Do you or staff start to dread these
meetings?
• Are there some people who always seem
to dominate the conversation while others
appear annoyed or distracted?
2. Anger, anger…and anger
• Any anger, but especially that which is an
over-reaction, needs to be addressed
immediately. Anger is rarely the response
for a first-time upset.
• The same person seems angry all the time
or with certain people.
3. Productivity slowdowns
• When people are not happy with the work
environment, they tend to focus less on
their work.
• Ask yourself if there has been a decline in
the person’s or group of people’s
productivity and try to pinpoint when it
started.
4. High turn-over
• If employees aren't sticking around, there
is a good reason.
• Nobody enjoys looking for a job, so the
fact that people are leaving indicates an
internal problem.
5. Inappropriate communications
• This can be in the form of emails that are
rude or use inappropriate language.
• Rudeness in speech or a disregard for
another's opinion is an indicator that
something is going to blow up soon.
• Passive-aggressive statements
• Mumbling behind someone’s back
• Other examples?
6. Anxiety
• Are there certain individuals who seem
anxious or on edge most of the time?
• They avoid social interactions, are always
doubting their work or asking more than
the normal amount of questions.
• Anxiety is often an indicator that there may
be an issue festering on an interpersonal
level.
7. Clique forming
• There seems to be a division into cliques
• The same employees always seem to
team up on projects, then the team or
department isn't functioning as one body
and is not being as productive as possible
• Gossip often begins when cliques form
• Others are intentionally left out of the
group
8. Repetitive disagreements
• Does it seem that the same employees
always disagree?
• Are people beign disrespectful when they
argue with one another
• Is the conflict often over petty matters?
• Then there is a communication issue that
needs to be confronted immediately.
9. Loss of trust
• Trust is essential in any work environment,
whether between employees or between
employees and management.
• If there seems to be distrust within the
team, it needs to be addressed.
• How do you know some staff aren’t
trusting one another?
Pondy's Model of Organizational
ConflictConflict is a process that consists of
five sequential stages
Pondy's Model of Organizational Conflict
• Stage 1: Latent conflict: no outright conflict exists, but there is a potential for conflict because of several latent factors
– Sources of conflict include:
• Interdependence
• Difference in goals and priorities
• Bureaucratic factors
• Staff are evaluated differently or given different amounts of attention by supervisor
• Staff experience varying and different levels of work stress
• Staff become aware of conflict and begin to analyze it
– This is the stage when one party perceives the other to be likely to frustrate his or her goals. The case result from the parties misunderstanding each other's true position. Such conflict can be resolved by improving communication between the groups.
– Staff begin to disagree and everyone begins to notice.
Pondy's Model of Organizational Conflict Stage 2: Perceived conflict:
Pondy’s Model of Organizational Conflict (cont.)
• Stage 3: Felt conflict:
– Staff respond emotionally to each other, and attitudes polarize into “us-versus-them”
– Cooperation between individuals decreases
– What began as a small problem escalates into huge conflict
Pondy’s Model of Organizational Conflict (cont.)
• Stage 4: Manifest conflict: Staff
members try to get back at each other
– Fighting and open aggression
– Passive aggression – doing nothing
– Organizational or team effectiveness
suffers
– What are other ways staff hurt one
another or the team?
Pondy’s Model of Organizational Conflict (cont.)
• Stage 5: Conflict aftermath: conflict
is resolved in some way
– If sources of conflict are not resolved, the
dispute will arise again
– How do we make sure this conflict
doesn’t repeat itself?
Utilize the three W’s of communication• Who
– Always communicate with the key person(s)
• When– Discuss the issue within 24 hours
– This is not necessarily “the sooner the better”
– Prepare your thoughts
• Where– Consider a neutral location
– Equal footing
• Basic Acknowledgements
Non-verbal responses
• Silence
We are better speakers than listeners– Use silence to get a response from someone
• Questions
It tells the speaker you’re interested
It says you want “more”
• Constructive Criticism
– Usually applied to performance that needs improvement
– Focus on the issue, not the person
– Plan ahead and handle carefully
– Sandwich method
– Performance appraisals
• Destructive Criticism
– Intentionally used
– Causes conflict
– Attacks the person vs. performance or behavior
– Commonly used in politics
– Usually a result of anger
6 Steps to Conflict Resolution Overview
• There are six steps to the Conflict Resolution Process:
1. Clarify what the disagreement is.
2. Establish a common goal for both parties.
3. Discuss ways to meet the common goal.
4. Determine the barriers to the common goal.
5. Agree on the best way to resolve the conflict.
6. Acknowledge the agreed solution and determine the responsibilities each party has in the resolution.
• This process should be completed by all parties in the conflict together.
(“Conflict Resolution Skills for HR Professionals” by Marla Bradley)
Step 1
Clarify what the disagreement is.
• Clarifying involves getting to the heart of the conflict.
• The goal of this step is to get both sides to agree on what the disagreement is.
Tips:
• Discuss what needs are not being met on both sides of the conflict. Ensure mutual understanding.
• Obtain as much information as possible on each side’s point of view.
• Continue to ask questions until you are certain that you, and each side of the conflict understand the issue.
Step 2
Establish a common goal for both parties.
• In this step of the process, both sides agree on the desired outcome of the conflict.
Tips:
• Discuss what each party would like to see happen.
• Find a commonality in both sides as a starting point for a shared outcome. That commonality can be as simple as “both sides want to end the conflict.”
Step 3
Discuss ways to meet the common goal.
• Both sides work together to discuss ways that they can meet the goal they agreed upon in step 2.
Tips:
• Brainstorm different approaches to meet the goal.
• Discuss until all the options are exhausted.
Step 4
Determine the barriers to the common goal.
• In this step of the process, the two parties acknowledge what has brought them into the conflict.
Tips:
• Ask: “If we could have the outcome that we both wanted, how would that look?”
• Define what can and cannot be changed about the situation.
• For the items that cannot be changed, discuss ways of getting around those road blocks.
Step 5
Agree on the best way to resolve the conflict.
• Both parties come to a conclusion on the best resolution.
Tips:
• Determine a solution that both sides can live with.
• Discuss the responsibility each party has in maintaining the solution.
• Settle on a means of ensuring that this conflict does not arise again.
Step 6
Acknowledge the agreed solution and determine the responsibilities each party has in the resolution.
• Both sides own their responsibility in the resolution of the conflict and express aloud what they have agreed to.
Tips:
• Get both parties to acknowledge a win-win situation.
• Ask both parties to use phrases such as “I agree to…” and “I acknowledge that I have responsibility for…”
Role Plays
Thank you.