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The Developing Young Leaders Seminar“Home” Edition
with alan e nelson, ed.d.
If you want to change the world, focus on leaders. If you want to change leaders, focus on them when they’re young.
Where We’re Headed:
• 7 Indicators of Leadership Aptitude in Kids• 5 Ways Parents Stunt Leadership Growth• 5 Ideas to Grow Great Leaders @ Home• 4 Stages in Young Leader Development
www.kidlead.com
Discuss With A Partner (not spouse)
Your name & kids’ names/grades.Why you came to this?
Life is short! Carpe diem!
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HISTORY IS PRIMARILY SHAPED BY 3 FORCES
Change the World
Disasters
Plagues/Earthquakes/Tsunamis/Hurricanes/Epidemics
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2 Discoveries
Flight/New Lands/Space/Internet/Computers
3 Leaders…
Hitler, Ghandi, Lincoln, Stalin, Moses
3But the largest, both good and bad, is leaders.
3Is leadership better caught or taught?
3 Leadership is better taught.
Just another 12 year old?
Nope; President Reagan
A squirrely 6th grader?
Perhaps, but he became President Carter.
Nine year old trouble maker?
Think again; President George W. Bush.
•Categories of Leadership
Personal: responsible, high self-esteem, ethical, good citizen, confident, works from strengths
Managerial: able to facilitate smaller group projects, maintain existing processes
Organizational: able to cast vision, lead others in problem solving, catalyze organizational change
•W
orking Definition
Leadership is the process of helping people accomplish together, what they could not as individuals.
Leaders are those who get leadership going.
RECOGNIZING LEADERSHIP APTITUDE IN KIDS & YOUTH
Identifying Future Lions Early
Can Everyone Be A Leader?Howard Gardner (Harvard), author of “Multiple Intelligences,” notes leadership as a domain in interpersonal intelligence
Cultural Blindness to Young Leaders
William Damon (Stanford) says that the American value of equality, especially in our educational system, overlooks the unique energy and creativity of young leaders.
The Ear Effect… Peers listen to and seek input from the child/youth.
Leadership Aptitude Indicators
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2 The Goal Effect… The child/youth initiates goals & is not satisfied with status quo.
Leadership Aptitude Indicators
3 The Boss Effect…
The student is opinionated, bossy and accused of being disruptive at times.
Leadership Aptitude Indicators
4 The Negotiator Effect… The child/youth is good at presenting his/her ideas and having others accept them.
Leadership Aptitude Indicators
5 The Organizer Effect… The child/youth is good at organizing kids & peers in activities.
Leadership Aptitude Indicator
6 The Captain Effect… Adults tend to select the child/youth to be in charge.
Leadership Aptitude Indicators
7The Pillar Effect… The child/youth stands up for his/her beliefs; is not prone to peer pressure.
Leadership Aptitude Indicators
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Free Social Influence survey @www.kidlead.com
Discuss With A Partner
Which of these indicators stood out to you and/or were unexpected?
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5 Ways Parents Unknowingly Shut Down Young Leader Development at Home
Silencing: Failing to seriously listen to young leaders’ ideas.
Ways Parents Stunt Leadership Growth
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2 Intimidating: Threats, verbal warnings & striving to control the child.
Ways Parents Stunt Leadership Growth
3 Equality:
Treating siblings the same & thus denying differences (love the same; recognize gifting).
Ways Parents Stunt Leadership Growth
4 Hovering:Striving to protect your child & disallowing chances to lead.
Ways Parents Stunt Leadership Growth
5Assuming: Thinking leading is only for adults; so we solely invest in academics & athletics; think long term.
Ways Parents Stunt Leadership Growth
Discuss With A Partner
Which of these 5 do you want to work on in your parenting?
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How to develop young leaders in your home.
The Pygmalion: Start seeing & treating your child like a leader.
Developing Your Child’s LP
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2 The Project: Provide at-home activities where children lead others.
Developing You Child’s LP
3 The Mentor:
Find leaders to invest in your child (shadowing; training).
Developing Your Child’s LP
4 The Discipline: Connect choices with consequences (love & logic).
Developing Your Child’s LP
5The Training: *Executive vs. Citizenship*Active vs. Passive*Indigenous vs. Outsourced *Skill vs. Conceptual*Coached vs. Unaccountable *Socratic vs. Directive
Developing Your Child’s LP
4 Developmental Stages of Young Leaders
• Carpe Diem: Seizing opportunities in each phase (lotus flower metaphor)Taking Root: 2-9 years of ageSubmerged: 10-13 Emerging: 14-18Blooming: 19-25
Taking Root Stage
• Stage 1: Ages 2-9• Focus: Conditioning & Character
Submerged Stage (Most Strategic)
• Stage 2: Ages 10-13• Focus: Character & Competency
Rites of Passage to Adulthood (12-14)
• 24,000,000 Preteens in US
• Adult rites of passage: i.e. Bar/Bat Mitzvah, Walk-about, Catechism, Confirmation
• Adolescence modern social construct
Making Formal Presentations (Hynes)
• Evidence: fact & opinion• Three types of opinions: personal, lay, expert
Primary Benefits
• Elevates attraction to top universities/employers• Elevates confidence as leaders bond• Reduces bullying & misbehaving (peer policing)• Creates skill set at early stage (little to unlearn)• Expands culture of leadership in schools/orgs• Invests in lifelong skills sets vs. temporary• Provides a 10-25 year head start on competition
Success Research
Providing an early start provides life long benefits of being trained, mentored, and compounding opportunities.
Robert Epstein, PhD
Adolescence is a recent social construct, so that we infantalize youth today who are very capable leaders.
Emerging Stage
• Stage 3: Ages 14-18• Focus: Competency & Confidence
Blossoming Stage
• Stage 4: Ages 19-25• Focus: Confidence & Connections
Training Systems
Ages 2-5 2013 Release
Ages 6-9 2012 Release
Ages 10-13 Released 2008
Ages 14-18 Released 2012
Ages 19-24 2013/14 Release
Additional Best Practices
• Don’t compete with handouts– Offer to provide PPT notes at end of
presentation or other handouts– Only provide what is needed/helpful prior or
they may read vs. listen
Systematic desensitization
Rational Emotive Therapy (RET)
Focusing on communication vs. performance (speak “to” vs. “at”)
Reducing Anxiety Techniques
Positive Peer Pressure
• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w69mUStVSCM
• YouTube Video of LeadYoung’s Solution to Bullying and Negative Youth Social Behavior
Q&A
I could beat this man in a race!
www.leadyoung.orgwww.kidlead.com
Developing Young Leaders Seminar
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