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The Emotional Cup
What happens to the painful emotions that we experience?
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“Emotions that are buried, are buried alive!”
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The heaviest of the emotions… the most painful… sinks to the bottom.
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Symptoms of a “Full Emotional Cup”
Pain, Hurt
Anger
Fear, AnxietyGuilt, False Guilt
Condemnaton, Shame
StressStress magnifies existing emotions
Most intense emotions sink to the bottom
We have a limited capacity of emotion
Physical Affects: Sleep/appetite disturbances, headaches, stomach-aches, digestive problems
Escapes into work, drugs/alcohol, infidelity, pornography, fantasy, TV, computer, food, books, etc.
Depression, impatience,Quick temper, outbursts anger
Controlling behaviors, obsessive-compulsive “thinking-doing”
Chronic Fatigue, Lower Backaches, Headaches & Migrains
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Pain, Hurt
Embarrassment, rejection, loneliness, betrayal, abandonment, neglect, etc.
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Symptoms of a “Full Emotional Cup”
Pain, Hurt
Anger
Fear, AnxietyGuilt, False Guilt
Condemnaton, Shame
StressStress magnifies existing emotions
Most intense emotions sink to the bottom
We have a limited capacity of emotion
Physical Affects: Sleep/appetite disturbances, headaches, stomach-aches, digestive problems
Escapes into work, drugs/alcohol, infidelity, pornography, fantasy, TV, computer, food, books, etc.
Depression, impatience,Quick temper, outbursts anger
Controlling behaviors, obsessive-compulsive “thinking-doing”
Chronic Fatigue, Lower Backaches, Headaches & Migrains
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Anger
Hurt feelings prompt anger
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Anger
Hurt feelings prompt anger
Impatience, quick temper, intolerant, passive-aggressive, sarcasm, avoidance
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Symptoms of a “Full Emotional Cup”
Pain, Hurt
Anger
Fear, AnxietyGuilt, False Guilt
Condemnaton, Shame
StressStress magnifies existing emotions
Most intense emotions sink to the bottom
We have a limited capacity of emotion
Physical Affects: Sleep/appetite disturbances, headaches, stomach-aches, digestive problems
Escapes into work, drugs/alcohol, infidelity, pornography, fantasy, TV, computer, food, books, etc.
Depression, impatience,Quick temper, outbursts anger
Controlling behaviors, obsessive-compulsive “thinking-doing”
Chronic Fatigue, Lower Backaches, Headaches & Migrains
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Fear, Anxiety
Anger is “past” oriented… Fear is “future” oriented
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Fear, Anxiety
Anger is “past” oriented… Fear is “future” oriented
Withdrawal
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Fear, Anxiety
Anger is “past” oriented… Fear is “future” oriented
Withdrawal
Perfectionism
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Fear, Anxiety
Anger is “past” oriented… Fear is “future” oriented
Withdrawal
Perfectionism
Control
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Fear, Anxiety
Anger is “past” oriented… Fear is “future” oriented
Withdrawal
Perfectionism
Control
Addictions
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Symptoms of a “Full Emotional Cup”
Pain, Hurt
Anger
Fear, AnxietyGuilt, False Guilt
Condemnaton, Shame
StressStress magnifies existing emotions
Most intense emotions sink to the bottom
We have a limited capacity of emotion
Physical Affects: Sleep/appetite disturbances, headaches, stomach-aches, digestive problems
Escapes into work, drugs/alcohol, infidelity, pornography, fantasy, TV, computer, food, books, etc.
Depression, impatience,Quick temper, outbursts anger
Controlling behaviors, obsessive-compulsive “thinking-doing”
Chronic Fatigue, Lower Backaches, Headaches & Migrains
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Guilt, False Guilt
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Guilt, False Guilt
Initially guilt is a good emotion
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Guilt, False Guilt
Initially guilt is a good emotion
False guilt assumes responsibility for hurtful actions that we are not responsible for.
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Symptoms of a “Full Emotional Cup”
Pain, Hurt
Anger
Fear, AnxietyGuilt, False Guilt
Condemnaton, Shame
StressStress magnifies existing emotions
Most intense emotions sink to the bottom
We have a limited capacity of emotion
Physical Affects: Sleep/appetite disturbances, headaches, stomach-aches, digestive problems
Escapes into work, drugs/alcohol, infidelity, pornography, fantasy, TV, computer, food, books, etc.
Depression, impatience,Quick temper, outbursts anger
Controlling behaviors, obsessive-compulsive “thinking-doing”
Chronic Fatigue, Lower Backaches, Headaches & Migrains
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Condemnation, Shame
Most complicated emotion
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Symptoms of a “Full Emotional Cup”
Pain, Hurt
Anger
Fear, AnxietyGuilt, False Guilt
Condemnaton, Shame
StressStress magnifies existing emotions
Most intense emotions sink to the bottom
We have a limited capacity of emotion
Physical Affects: Sleep/appetite disturbances, headaches, stomach-aches, digestive problems
Escapes into work, drugs/alcohol, infidelity, pornography, fantasy, TV, computer, food, books, etc.
Depression, impatience,Quick temper, outbursts anger
Controlling behaviors, obsessive-compulsive “thinking-doing”
Chronic Fatigue, Lower Backaches, Headaches & Migrains
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Stress
Stress magnifies existing emotions
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Symptoms of a “Full Emotional Cup”
Pain, Hurt
Anger
Fear, AnxietyGuilt, False Guilt
Condemnaton, Shame
StressStress magnifies existing emotions
Most intense emotions sink to the bottom
We have a limited capacity of emotion
Physical Affects: Sleep/appetite disturbances, headaches, stomach-aches, digestive problems
Escapes into work, drugs/alcohol, infidelity, pornography, fantasy, TV, computer, food, books, etc.
Depression, impatience,Quick temper, outbursts anger
Controlling behaviors, obsessive-compulsive “thinking-doing”
Chronic Fatigue, Lower Backaches, Headaches & Migrains
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Spillage
Depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, low sexual desires
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Escape Behaviors
Alcohol, drugs, pornography, TV, work, shopping, sports, the internet, music, hobbies, etc.
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Physical symptoms
High blood pressure, lower back pain, skin rashes, migraine headaches, stomachaches, chronic fatigue, trouble sleeping, eating disorders, etc.
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Results of a Full Emotional Cup
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Results of a Full Emotional Cup
We suffer emotionally
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Results of a Full Emotional Cup
We suffer emotionally
We are unable to feel positive emotions
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Results of a Full Emotional Cup
We suffer emotionally
We are unable to feel positive emotions
Our personal spillage will adversely affect all of our relationships
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Results of a Full Emotional Cup
We suffer emotionally
We are unable to feel positive emotions
Our personal spillage will adversely affect all of our relationships
Our emotional cup goes with us wherever we go
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Positive results of Emptying the Emotional Cup
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Positive results of Emptying the Emotional Cup
Painful symptoms may subside
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Positive results of Emptying the Emotional Cup
Painful symptoms may subside
We’ll be able to enjoy positive emotions
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Principles for Emptying our Emotional Cup
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Principles for Emptying our Emotional Cup
Discover and own your hurt
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Principles for Emptying our Emotional Cup
Discover and own your hurt
Share your hurt
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Principles for Emptying our Emotional Cup
Discover and own your hurt
Share your hurt - with the Lord
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Principles for Emptying our Emotional Cup
Discover and own your hurt
Share your hurt - with the Lord, and with a trusted friend or counselor
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Principles for Emptying our Emotional Cup
Discover and own your hurt
Share your hurt - with the Lord, and with a trusted friend or counselor
Receive Comfort
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Principles for Emptying our Emotional Cup
Discover and own your hurt
Share your hurt - with the Lord, and with a trusted friend or counselor
Receive Comfort - don’t try to “be strong”
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Principles for Emptying our Emotional Cup
Discover and own your hurt
Share your hurt - with the Lord, and with a trusted friend or counselor
Receive Comfort - don’t try to “be strong”
Verbally confirm your have received comfort
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Mt.5:4 says, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted”.
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A little homework
What was the most severe emotion of the day?____________________________
Who, what,when,where? (describe how it happened)________________________
I shared my hurt with (name)_________ He/She responded with _____________________________________________