True Male Spiritual Leadership (IV)

A Word to Husbands1 Pet 3.7

“You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, for she is a woman; and

grant her honor as a fellow heir in the grace of life, that your prayers may not be

hindered”

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

“You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, for she is a woman; and

grant her honor as a fellow heir in the grace of life, that your prayers may not be

hindered”

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”– Like what?

• Cf. 2.13-17 – All be submissive to government (even Nero)• 2.18 -- “Servants, be submissive to masters” (even harsh ones)• 2.21 – Jesus, silently submissive to persecutors• 3.1 -- “In the same way, wives, to husbands” (even disobedient ones)• 3.7 -- “You husbands, likewise....”

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”– Like what?– How can the head be in submission?

• Sacrificial Love -- Eph 5.25f

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.”

Eph 5.25

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”– Like what?– How can the head be in submission?

• Sacrificial Love -- Eph 5.25f• Servant Leadership -- Mk 10.46; Lk 22.25-27

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

"For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many."

Mk 10.45

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”– Like what?– How can the head be in submission?

• Sacrificial Love -- Eph 5.25f• Servant Leadership -- Mk 10.46; Lk 22.25-27

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

And He said to them, “The kings of the Gentiles lord it over them; and those who have authority over them are called 'Benefactors.' But it is not this way with you, but the one who is the greatest among you must become like the youngest, and the leader like the servant. For who is greater, the one who reclines at the table or the one who serves? Is it not the one who reclines at the table? But I am among you as the one who serves.”

Luke 22:25-27

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”

2. Committed Companionship: “Live with her”

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

“You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, for she is a woman; and

grant her honor as a fellow heir in the grace of life, that your prayers may not be

hindered”

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”

2. Committed Companionship: “Live with her”– Commitment (Cf. Mt 19.3-12)– Priority– Companionship

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”

2. Committed Companionship: “Live with her”

3. Intelligent Leadership: “In an understanding way” (“according to knowledge”

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

“You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, for she is a woman; and

grant her honor as a fellow heir in the grace of life, that your prayers may not be

hindered”

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”

2. Committed Companionship: “Live with her”

3. Intelligent Leadership: “In an understanding way” (“according to knowledge”)– Knowledge of your wife

• Her needs, desires, strengths, weaknesses, etc• E.g. Five top needs of a woman:

– 1. Affection; 2. Conversation; 3. Honesty and Openness; 4. Financial Security; 5. Family Commitment

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”

2. Committed Companionship: “Live with her”

3. Intelligent Leadership: “In an understanding way” (“according to knowledge”)– Knowledge of your wife– Knowledge of God’s word

• e.g. Eph 5.25; Col 3.18; 1 Cor 7.3-5• e.g. that she’s “the weaker vessel”

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

“You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, for she is a woman; and

grant her honor as a fellow heir in the grace of life, that your prayers may not be

hindered”

1 Pet 3.7

3. Intelligent Leadership: “In an understanding way” (“according to knowledge”)– Knowledge of your wife

– Knowledge of God’s word• e.g. Eph 5.25; Col 2.3-5; 1 Cor 7.3-5

• e.g. that she’s “the weaker vessel”– Physically– Emotionally (in a sense)– Positionally – vs.1-6

» Deserving of special honor -- 1 Cor 12.21-25» Must bear her burdens -- Rom 15.1-2» Give up your rights – 1 Cor 9.21-23

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”

2. Committed Companionship: “Live with her”

3. Intelligent Leadership: “In an understanding way” (“according to knowledge”)

4. Honoring love: “Honor her as a fellow heir...”

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

“You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, for she is a woman; and

grant her honor as a fellow heir in the grace of life, that your prayers may not be

hindered”

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”

2. Committed Companionship: “Live with her”

3. Intelligent Leadership: “In an understanding way” (“according to knowledge”)

4. Honoring love: “Honor her as a fellow heir...”– “Honor” -- “to value, to esteem” (cf. 2.7)– As joint heir

• Equal in value, importance, spiritual significance

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”

2. Committed Companionship: “Dwell with her”

3. Intelligent Leadership: “In an understanding way” (“according to knowledge”)

4. Honoring love: “Honor her as a fellow heir...”

5. Unbroken Fellowship: “So that your prayers may not be hindered”

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

“You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, for she is a woman; and

grant her honor as a fellow heir in the grace of life, that your prayers may not be

hindered”

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”

2. Committed Companionship: “Live with her”

3. Intelligent Leadership: “In an understanding way” (“according to knowledge”)

4. Honoring love: “Honor her as a fellow heir...”

5. Unbroken Fellowship: “So that your prayers may not be hindered”– Affects your spiritual leadership and your relationship with God

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

1. Submissive Headship: “Likewise”

2. Committed Companionship: “Live with her”

3. Intelligent Leadership: “In an understanding way” (“according to knowledge”)

4. Honoring love: “Honor her as a fellow heir...”

5. Unbroken Fellowship: “So that your prayers may not be hindered”

Five Traits of Godly Leadership in the Home

1 Pet 3.7

“You husbands likewise, live with you wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, for she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir in the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered”

1 Pet 3.7