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-A.R.M.S.-TM
Abortion Recovery Mentoring Support
-Presented by Stacy L. MasseyMy Vision of God… by Quyhn Thi Vidal
The Message
Then, gathering the children up in His arms, he laid His hands of blessing on them.
-Mark 10:16 (The Message)
Take the old prophets as your mentors. They put up with anything, went through
everything, and never once quit, all the time honoring God.
-James 5:10 (The Message)
Workshop Notes
• This workshop will be posted on the ARIN website following the conclusion of the conference.
• Feel free to download this information and necessary forms.
Just What is Mentoring?
• Mentoring helps people achieve personal success.
• Mentors are caring individuals who provide: support, counsel, friendship and reinforcement.
• Abortion Recovery Mentoring results in authentic empowerment, on-going healing and enhances the overall experience for both Mentee and Mentor.
Abortion Recovery and Mentoring?
• Mentoring relationships can be very rewarding for both parties.
• They provide opportunity to communicate experiences of awareness and knowledge.
• Sharing stories, backgrounds, a sporting event or even a cup of coffee can alter the way we feel supported during the abortion recovery process.
What Makes Mentoring Work?
• Conducting reasonably intensive screening of potential mentors
• Making matches based on interests that both the mentor and the mentee share
• Providing more than six hours of training for mentors
• Offering post-match training and support.
Mentor’s Job DescriptionTitle: Abortion Recovery Mentor
Purpose: To support a person, negatively affected by an abortion, through the recovery process.
Duties:
M MotivateE EncourageN NurtureT Touch the mentees’ heartO Offer SupportR Role model for Christ – BE
ONE!
Mentor’s Qualifcations
Qualifications:
• A willing listener
• Encouraging and supportive
• Patient and flexible
• Tolerant and respectful of individual/cultural differences
• Committed to the relationship, abortion recovery process and time required
Mentor’s CommittmentsTime Commitment:
• One hour initial interview
• Six hours+ of initial training in after abortion trauma issues
• Two-three hours each week during the abortion recovery process for mentee/mentor communication.
• Further training in related topics: sexual abuse, addictions, co-dependency, etc.
• Optional mentor/mentee events and meetings
Benefits to Mentor
• Fulfillment through contribution to the mentee and the group overall (as well as to society and community)
• Satisfaction in helping someone work through the shame, guilt and grief from a past abortion
• Better compassion and understanding toward those wounded by abortion
• A greater insight to the different trauma abortion leaves behind
• Continued steps of personal healing as they hold someone else’s hand.
Benefits to Mentee
• A partner/couple to support their journey through the abortion recovery process.
• A big sister/brother/couple who has personally experienced the trauma issues first hand.
• Having a mentor who knows the expectations of the “work” required in the curriculum / bible study.
• Witnesses a role model for Christ. Maybe led to the Lord if not already a Christian.
• Gains networking opportunities, improved communication skills and diversity awareness.
Benefits to AR Center / Program
• Ongoing support for women/men/couples going through the abortion recovery process.
• Continues the opportunity to group members to experience expanded healing.
• Creates an opportunity for “mentors” to consider assisting in the abortion recovery program as a co-leader or eventually lead their own group.
• Thus an expansion of abortion recovery centers / programs within your community. Yippeee!
Mentor Application Process
• Fill out Mentor Application and sign Confidentiality Statement
• Provide 2 written references with application
• Interview with Abortion Recovery Center Director/Specialist and Volunteer Staff member/s
• If selected, attend ARMS Program Orientation
• Complete 6 hours of initial Mentor training
When Matching – Also Consider…
• God’s Input
• Levels of commitment
• Shared areas of interest
• Balanced Expectations
• Mutually Respectful Relationship
• Open, Two-way Communication
• Conflict Resolution Strategies
Orientation Night
• Have selected Mentors at your orientation night welcoming new abortion recovery clients.
• A few Mentors should share their personal abortion story and how the recovery process changed their lives.
• Match up Mentee and Mentor for a “get-to-know-you” type activity.
• Share the Abortion Recovery Phone/Email List for your group at the end of your orientation night.
What Not to Expect…
• Don’t expect the first “team” to be a good fit– If the initial relationships do not work,
don’t get frustrated– Have a back-up person who can step in
• Don’t expect immediate results or “bonding”– Getting to know a person is a gradual process
• Don’t expect the mentee to be the main “contact person”– The mentor should be the primary “caller” in the
beginning
You Determine The Accountability
• Abortion Recovery Director, or other leadership team member needs to check in with the mentors throughout the recovery process.
• It is advisable to determine a method of communication between leadership team and mentors.
• Designate a leadership team member to also check in with mentees periodically.
Mentors at Memorial?
• Consider including the mentors in the Memorial / Dedication ceremony.
• Abortion Recovery clients should determine whether this is an option for their group.
• ARIN believes that support group participants should design their own memorial. Mentors can attend, but should NOT plan the active group memorial / dedication ceremonies.
Sample Mentor Evaluation
• List and explain the ways you felt prepared as a Mentor for this Abortion Recovery Class:
• List and explain the ways you felt unprepared as a Mentor for this Abortion Recovery Class:
• Did you feel you were able to spend enough time with your Mentee? What suggestions do you have to facilitate getting together more throughout the class?
• Do you feel your relationship with your Mentee moved from a mentoring relationship to a friendship-type relationship? Explain.
• Do you recommend your Mentee become a Mentor him/herself? If so, in what areas would he/she benefit others?
Summary: Abortion Recovery
Mentoring…
• M: Motivates the overall collabortion of the group setting
• E Encourages both mentors and mentee
• N Nutures the mentoree by coming along side
• T Touches the heart of both mentor and mentee
• O Offers support to leaders and mentees
• R Role model for Christ
Thank You
• Thank you for attending this workshop and any others on the Abortion Recovery tract.
• We’d appreciate your support of Abortion Recovery InterNational and our affiliates.
• Other ideas for steps to expand the recovery process will be listed on the ARIN website following the Heartbeat Conference.