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Help for the soul in daily livingJanuary 2012
Dear readers,
I have decided to continue my monthly newsletter in 2012, but in a different way, and
in a different format.
This newsletter now begins with questions and answers culled from various
seminars.
The second section contains short talks that I have given on specific topics at
various courses. You can read these presentations, and also listen to them or watchthem, as they were recorded and released on DVD.
The third section contains two meditations. These you can also both read and
listen to, for they were also recorded.
In the last section you will find extras. This month you will find feedback from
participants of a workshop in Graz responses that will touch our heart and also a
reflection on birthdays.
So you see, this year I will also be here with you month after month, exploring what
helps us continue. I walk with you with love.
Yours,
Bert Hellinger
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Overview
Questions and answers
Movements of the soul, movements of the spirit 3
Cognized and known 4
Agreeing and resonating 4
Gone bust 6
Being serious 7
Meditation: The question 8
Different consciousness 9
The not 11
Perpetrators and victims 13
Insight 13
Agreeing 14
Short talks on specific topics
The way to our mother 15
Meditation 15
Basic orders of love 16
Meditations
Our illness 20
Our completeness 20
Extras
Feedback from the workshop in Graz Dec. 2011 21
Reflection: Birthdays 27
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Questions and answers
Movements of the soul, movements of the spirit
Please, how do you distinguish, perhaps as a definition, between the movements of the
soul and the movements of the spirit?
HELLINGER: This is an important question that comes up again and again, for some
people are confused about it. I am happy to answer this question.
This question has to do with the development of family constellations. As I saw
that the representatives in a family constellation were moved from within, by another
power, I named these movements movements of the soul. This was what they appeared
to be. As family constellations developed further I saw that these movements were
movements of the spirit.
I will explain the difference. The movements of the soul are limited in scope and
depth. Very often they refer to our family and to what happens within the family. They
also have to do with feelings. These are the movements of the soul. The movements of
the spirit are not related to feelings. They move on another level.
Then I observed more closely still what soul really is. Soul is what holds
something together; the body, for instance, is held together by a soul. A family is also
held together by a soul. This soul has a boundary. It defines itself against something
beyond itself. The movements we see here in family constellations are of a different
kind.
An essential attribute of the movements of the spirit is that they are kindly
disposed to all involved, and they have no preferences. Furthermore, they are devoid of
feelings. They are something greater, beyond feelings.
The movements of the spirit are inclusive, they never exclude. In contrast to this,
the movements of the soul both include and exclude, in equal measure.
I think now I have briefly summarized this for you.
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Cognized and known
HELLINGER: I have a suggestion for you. Think about your question once more. You
can also change it if you feel that something else is more important.
In the constellation with the man and the child, how did you know it was a child?
Could it not also have been a sibling?
HELLINGER: I did not think about it. Suddenly I knew, without any deductions and
without being positive about it. But the sentence was clear. Therefore I said it the way I
did.
Agreeing and resonating
My question is partly personal, but not only personal. As a human being we experience
ourselves through feelings. I experience myself through feelings, feelings of any kind. Do
you see a danger that the expectations of people could grow through your philosophy,
and that therefore there could be the danger that we might override our feelings for a
certain time in our development, in order to become spiritual, even though this is not
the case at all?
HELLINGER: I will put it into another context. When we move on the level of the spirit
or let the spirit move us, we arrive at an agreeing. For instance, you come into an
agreeing to ourselves when you are on this level. You also arrive at an agreeing with
other people. With your mother for instance. So we come into this agreeing.
This agreeing is in the spirit, but it moves something in the soul. So this agreeing is
also felt at the same time. Through this spiritual agreeing I come into a resonance in
my feeling. You can follow that.
Take your mother, for instance. Lets just look at this here. Now you come into a
vibration of agreeing to your mother, and this vibration reaches your mother as a
vibration. So, the movement begins in the spirit. It sets some vibration in motion, in the
soul and also in the body. This vibration reaches the other as a vibration. This means
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the other is also moved by this vibration, and resonates in turn. This resonating
vibration reaches you. Can you still follow?
Yes, clearly.
HELLINGER: Now this was a simple example. Everyone can understand this. Now I
transfer this to something more complex.
There is someone of whom you think: that guy, for instance. But on the level of
the spirit you come into an agreeing to him as he is, exactly as he is. You hand yourself
over to this vibration. This vibration reaches him, and he vibrates in turn. In this
exchange of vibration something of you becomes a part of him, and in his responding
vibration something of his becomes a part of you. You look at it, and you realize, this is
a part of yourself.
I approached this via a detour. Has your question been answered?
Thank you.
HELLINGER: I will say something else about this. This here is different to when I justfollow my feelings. When he movement begins on the level of the spirit and then takes
hold of the feeling, the feeling is spiritualized at the same time.
We can also apply this to someone who is seeking our help. And sometimes we
have this movement: That one again. And there we are, in a strange vibration. He
senses it immediately. Thats the end of it.
But if you let him sit next to you, as I demonstrate it here, and you move into an
agreeing with him, and that is, not just with him, but also with his parents, with his
situation, then this is a spiritual process. Suddenly you begin to vibrate differently, and
he resonates to it. Then the doors to success are open.
Okay? I will give you an example.
Recently a woman wrote me a letter. Many years ago she had come to see me. This
woman was part of a group travelling in Cashmere. This group was kidnapped. Behind
her stood a man and he pushed his gun into her back. This was the situation.
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But this woman had learned something about family constellations. She moved
into an agreeing with him and with his fate. Suddenly there was a vibration from her to
him, and she said to him: I know you are a good man. His immediate response was to
put his gun away. Then he separated her from the other kidnappers and took her to a
safe place.
One person from this group was beheaded, and others were never seen again.
This is resonance. But this was a feeling. Only as a feeling could it vibrate.
Gone bust
How did you know in one constellation that someone had gone bust?
HELLINGER: I did not know anything. Suddenly I had the word: Bust. Then I asked him.
He was moved immediately. Then I knew the sentence was right. Thats all, more I did
not do.
In this course we will learn in detail how we can come into contact with another
person. Suddenly something about the person is given to us -- a sentence, for instance.
This was such a sentence. You just cant make it up. Some wonder, how did he
come up with this. Well, I didnt. I just suddenly had it.
Such a sentence always works. If it doesnt, it was made up. Many such sentences
are frightening. How can I say to someone: He went bust. Or how can I ask someone:
Whom did you kill? I even say that sometimes. And it is right of course, if the sentence
comes to me.
When something like this happens, we arrive at a deep trust in another guidance.
And thats what it is. Youre already on the path anyhow. Okay?
Yes.
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Being serious
I had several questions, but I only have one now. Can I ask it?
HELLINGER: No. Am I allowed to listen to her question? Is she serious about her
questions? Is she serious, or does she play with me? I will give you another opportunity
later on. Okay?
Yes.
HELLINGER: This was training what I just did. Many think they have a right to ask
questions. Often these questions are not serious but rather in the form of: Lets see whathe will say to this.
Here we could see this immediately. Firstly, she was fast. That alone shows us it
is not a serious question. Secondly, who wants to ask several questions at once
demonstrates that the questions are not serious. But this is an external observation. I
perceived immediately that this was not serious. Then I dont answer. I keep my
dignity. Thats important.
This is a learning experience for us, for many clients come to us with such
questions. Then we need to sense what is going on: Is it serious or not? For instance,
does the person become stronger when I listen, or weaker? Do I remain strong when I
listen, or do I become weaker? Will my answer serve this person? Or will it be a
hindrance? These are questions we can ask ourselves inside. This happens like
lightning, instantly. Then we teach the client some discipline, the discipline of
seriousness.
So what you just did was a great experience of learning for us. The other thing
that makes you feel sorry for yourself, you can forget it.
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Meditation: The question
In the other dimension you talk about, are there any questions at all? Are there still
fields at all?
HELLINGER: I will do an exercise with you. With this exercise I am answering your
question.
Just close your eyes. We imagine our body is asleep, and our spirit stays awake.
We leave our body behind, and the spirit goes into another dimension, wide awake,
into the expanse. Whilst we thus allow our spirit to advance into another dimension,
we come into contact with another consciousness, with a universal consciousness.Then we ask a question, a personal question. A question with which we ask for
something, for an answer. Then we wait.
Did you receive an answer?
I have no personality.
HELLINGER: Then you would be very far advanced. Did anyone get an answer? I dont
want any details, just an idea. Did some get an answer to their question in this
exercise? Some did get one.
These questions are not answered precisely. This consciousness is kindly turned
to all. It does not give us preference over others. When we ask a question that goes in
that direction, we dont get an answer. Only an answer that is in accord with something
greater.
I can add something to what you just said: There is a poem by Rilke, that begins:
Oh come. I only say these two words. I can also say: Oh come. I am ready. What
for? For the ultimate. Ready when? Now.
The question is: Can I come? Or do I have to wait? If I wait, am I waiting? Can I
wait for it? Am I ready? Do I have hopes, for instance? Or fears?
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In all I said, one word adds its frequency: The word is: I, or personally. That
is the same. It would also be I.
The ultimate comes when the self ends. And it is coming now.
Have I answered your question?
It is enough.
HELLINGER: Okay.
Different consciousnessI am relatively new in this. I probably also lack certain concepts around this. I have
many questions in me. One that really unsettles me is the state in which I cant
really find my way yet. But perhaps one or the other here still has the problem or does
not have it anymore. The states, I will describe it like this: I know this, I have heard it
again tonight, that is perhaps the worst when you stand there, from the logic out of
your head, then you cant be how you should be.
The second thing I know, is the
HELLINGER: Wait, I will stay with what you said just now.
What counts in an insight is the content. In a fruit the content is often protected
by a shell. One has to crack the shell to get to the content. This is easily understood.
Now Ill get to the point of course.
What is the shell we have to crack first to get to a deep insight? You dont have
to answer this. I just present this for deliberation. It is our logic. The logic protects the
content and bars access to it both at once. So, therefore, if you go into logic, you
cant get to it anymore. Even though logic is important in certain connections, here it
does not work.
Most of what I say is not logical. You cannot unravel it logically. The essential is
never logical. It goes far beyond it.
Now I have taken you along on the path of insight. Is that okay for you?
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This was really only the first one.
HELLINGER: You get a chance for the second one, too.
I would just like to know where I am in the right state. This was the first one that I
already know and that I did experience today. The other state is where I have managed
to let go for a while and to have a kind of emptiness in myself. Then I noticed I am no
longer myself, I respond, and I am surprised by what is going on there. I am still me, but
I am without my own action. It is an unknown action I am doing. And beyond that I
have a third thing, where I
HELLINGER: Wait, one thing after the other. What you describe is what each
representative experiences. The representatives are no longer with themselves. This
means they are guided from elsewhere. And yet, in this experience they come to
themselves in a much deeper way than what they knew before. This is the other side of
this: in the big things logic comes to an end anyway. Take love, for instance. It isbeautiful that the logic ends there. And it is the same here.
Because you are so nice, I also give you the opportunity for the third thing. But
thats it then.
The third is similar to what I just described for the second state that I know. The third
one is the same, except that I am totally baffled there. I cant relate to that one at all
until now. This has nothing to do with logic anymore. Only then I am not at all myself
anymore. Then I suddenly have images of the scenery where I represent or where I am,
either when I know who I am and when I dont know. I am someone then, and I see as
through that ones eyes. Then I am somehow
HELLINGER: This shows you are in deep contact there. Then it is like that. Then you
suddenly know things and see things. You are in another dimension, and yet you are
still yourself. You are not away from yourself. Being away from yourself also happens.
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Many healers, for instance, are possessed. They do something, wake up, and dont
know what they have done. That is still another dimension. But it does happen.
The question is: How do you deal with yourself. When you come into this state,
then say inside: Oh come.
Okay.
HELLINGER: Yes? All the best.
The notCan you say something about the not? This occupies me again and again since I heard
the story of the merchant and the monk. Everything else in the story I understand. But
the not is very new to me.
HELLINGER: This is a hard question for this time of night.
But still so, this is about the not, and that has to be distinguished from the nothing.
These are two completely different things.
There is a very simple observation. Everything that is, is surrounded by
something that is not. Your knowing, for instance, is surrounded by a not-knowing. The
not-knowing, your not-knowing, in infinite, compared to your knowing. This holds true
for everyone, of course. I will do an inner exercise so you can see what that means.
Imagine there is this thing it can be anything at all and you know everything
about this thing, really everything. How do you feel then? Do you feel bigger or
smaller?
Smaller.
HELLINGER: Exactly. Exactly, because the not-knowing is missing. So the not gives a
fullness to what is. When I look at this theologically: Do you believe in god means do
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you believe in something. Do you believe in something great or in something small
then?
In something small.
HELLINGER: Exactly, everything that is, is small. The essential, that which remains
hidden from us, this is the not.
Our deepest longing does not go to existence, like eternal life or something. It
goes to the not. In the not we dissolve into something infinite. I went a bit too far now.
Now Ill do it really simply. I reduce it to something quite ordinary. Are you
married?
Yes.
HELLINGER: Then it is quite easy with you. I only work with him, and you can stay on
the outside.
Just close your eyes. You look at your wife, at what you know and also senseabout her, and you are glad about her, of course. Now, at the same time, you also look
at her not: What you dont know, what you cant sense. You look at her also with your
not that she cant know and even you cant know.
So, when you call her later, you will be slightly changed. Okay?
Yes.
HELLINGER: Good. I had imagined we would have a comfy evening, but that we would
go into these dimensions I had not imagined.
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Perpetrators and victims
This morning when you talked about victims and perpetrators, that was suddenly mixed
up in me.
HELLINGER: This is what one calls progress. Is your question answered?
I dont know.
I think I have answered it. Not just for you, but for many others also. Okay?
Yes.
Insight
You said once: Perception, this is what is important in this work. Everything else results
from the capacity to perceive. I remember when you talked about the mole and the ant
today , and you mentioned perception and said that it is limited as such, or it belongs to
the field. Can you say something about distinctions concerning perception?
HELLINGER: On the level of the spirit there is no perception. On the level of the spirit
there is insight. Perception is superficial. Of course, it has its place. But trusting in
perception alone is not enough. We go beyond it to the level of insight.
This is quite a philosophical evening today. I will say something about insight.
Insight is new. This means, it did not exist before. Here one must distinguish very
carefully.
How do we arrive at a new insight? So, if I want to know something about
something, that is nothing new. New is what is creative, what has not been there
before. We come into this cognizing when we come into accord with a movement of
the spirit, a creative movement. In this movement we expose ourselves to something
that is coming, without knowing it. Suddenly an insight comes. It is like this sometimes
with the sentences that come to me. They are insights, not perceptions. They are
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sudden insights that have an effect. This means the insight that I gained from this
cognizing is in the process of becoming, it is happening. It is brought about. This is the
difference.
I think I leave it there. You have posed a difficult question, but I have given you
an answer.
Agreeing
You said a few times today that one goes into an agreeing, as if it were something that
overcomes you. But I experience agreeing more as a conscious willing and an action
that refers to something specific, and where I have to cross something, like a threshold.
HELLINGER: You are on a good path. It is precisely like that. Agreeing means: I
acknowledge something as it is, and I agree to it, exactly as it is. With some matters it is
easy sometimes. But agreeing to everything exactly as it is, agreeing to yourself, exactly
as you are, in everything, that is another dimension. And as you can see, it brings
happiness.
Yes.
HELLINGER: Is your question answered?
Yes.
HELLINGER: Okay, good.
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Short talks on specific topics
The way to our mother
Over the years we have seen more and more clearly in family constellations that
basically it is always about the same issue. Something that was separated comes back
together again. All the problems we can observe, also concerning our health, have their
origin in a separation. Something that belongs together cannot and is not allowed to
come together. What it is that separates us from others and from a part of ourselves we
dont know. In family constellations it comes to light.
We could just see here that what was missing was the mother. What was
rejected was above all the mother. The healing movement begins with the reunion with
our mother. So what was experienced as separating, what separated us from our
mother, comes together.
This is an achievement. We cannot simply do this with our goodwill. For the
separation from our mother is connected with a deep feeling of pain, and also with a
feeling of reproach.
As some children come onto the stage: Children are always welcome. They are
never in the way. This is about family, and the children belong to it.
So, this is a painful process, the way back to our mother.
I have also experienced this myself. I also had to find my way back to her, and
walk it. When I had succeeded in this, I was totally surprised. My image of my mother
turned out to be completely wrong.
MeditationNow you close your eyes. We look at our mother. First of all we look at the image we
formed about our mother. What a presumptuous image we have perhaps formed.
Arrogant, full of complaints and reproaches, as if we were entitled to dictate to her how
she to be. In this we overlook what she has given to us over so many years, day after
day... so much love, always there for us. We took it for granted, as the most natural
thing, that she helps us and is always there for us.
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Then some minor thing went wrong, and we were quick to forget what she has
done for us. On the contrary, we got angry with her, perhaps even despised her.
Now we look back at the time before we had these images inside us and the
feelings that come with them. We go back into the blissful time with her, beginning
with the time in her womb. We were one heart and soul, one body with her, sharing
the same blood circulation, the same air. Her feelings were our feelings. Her pain was
our pain, and her fear also ours. Can there be a deeper connection, more complete
than the one with our mother in her womb?
Then came the time of our first separation from her through our birth. What a
brave effort on her part, as she had to give birth to us, and what ultimate effort on our
part, achieving the breakthrough from her womb into the world.
Then the umbilical chord was cut. Suddenly her breath stopped in us, and we
took our own first deep breath in this world. And straight away we were one with her
again, in another way. Now as another person, as a you, yet still held by her, taken to
her breast, and still fed by her, with milk from her body.
Thus we grew, always near her, with her always near us, a happiness we never
questioned.With these images and memories we now turn to the images we have formed of
her later on. What a difference. What an impoverishment. What a loss of happiness, of
strength, of confidence. What a stagnation, instead of moving on, finding ourselves
with her near us, and her by our side.
Dear Mama!
Okay.
What do we say to our mother now? Oh! Oh that I took so long to know you!
Basic orders of love
Family constellations are a movement that keeps on advancing into more and more
fields. In the beginning we just focused fully on the family. That means the present
family of man and wife and children, and earlier partners that perhaps belong too, and
our family of origin, our parents and our siblings. This is a relatively narrow focus. Then
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we saw that love follows certain orders, important orders. The two basic orders that
really matter are:
Everyone who belongs, in which ever way, has the same right to belong. Now
there are many families in which certain family members are excluded, most important,
of course, the aborted children, or the children who were given away, or earlier
partners whom we reject now, with whom we want no further contact. They also
belong, always.
Wherever someone is excluded the whole family is affected. A particular effect
is when excluded family members are then represented by other members of the
family; by children for instance.
As an example, there are parents who lovingly care for their daughter, and yet
the daughter is always angry with the father, and he does not know why. In the
constellation it comes to light that she represents her fathers earlier wife whom the
father rejected.
Once this woman is included again, with respect, the daughter can be a child
again. This is just an example.
So this is the first basic order: All who belonged will always belong. They havethe same right to be acknowledged.
Many illnesses have a connection to an excluded person. The illness represents
this person.
Here we can see that family constellations are a movement towards
reconciliation, so that what was separated can come together again. So this is one basic
order.
Today in the lunch break we met an old friend, and we had a strange
conversation. I told him something about fairy tales, like about the fairy tale of
Rumpelstiltskin. Everyone knows the sentence: And oh! I am glad that nobody knows
that I am called is Rumpelstiltskin!
I studied fairy tales for a long time, and I was able to bring the secret message of
many fairy tales to light. Fairy tales always have an allure. We are enticed to look into a
direction opposite to what is really going on. The essential thing in a fairy tale is usually
told in the beginning.
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Shall I tell you a bit about this fairy tale? Its a little diversion, something simple.
So this fairy tale begins with the miller giving his daughter away. The fairy tale is
about children who were given away. Then the daughter does the same. She promises
to give a dwarf she meets her first child if he helps her.
Then she had a child, and the dwarf wanted the child. But the girl was very sad,
and the dwarf took pity on her. He said that if she find out his name, she could keep
her child. And he gave her a deadline. In the meantime she had become queen. But
kings have the same problems as other people.
The queen sent out a messenger in the hope that he might find out what the
dwarfs name was. Someone saw the dwarf dance around a fire, shouting: And oh! I
am glad that nobody knows that the name I am called is Rumpelstiltskin!
The messenger returned to the queen and said: I know his name. But I will only
tell you when he comes. The dwarf came, quite cheerfully, and the queen asked the
messenger: What is his name? He answered Rumpelstiltskin.
She said: Rumpelstiltskin? But that was the name of my brother who was given
away.
This is the story. This is the secret of the story. Suddenly it comes to light.SOPHIE HELLINGER : Then this man with whom we had lunch, said: For all of my life, I
would have loved to have a brother and a sister. But my mother could not have any
more children, for she had an extrauterine pregnancy. Then I said: But there they
are!
He said: What? Whats the matter now? What have I done? You cant really
get hold of him ever. He is always ready for a defense reaction. He said: What is
going on?
I said: You do have your siblings, in the abdominal cavity of your mother. But
in order to save your mothers life, they were taken out. This was the first time I saw
him like this. We know him very well. And he is ill. I said to him: Why dont you give
them a name? What are their names? He said: Christoph, I would like that name.
And? Now he thought even harder, for he had never looked more deeply at this issue.
Never. Then he said: Christina, Christiane? and Bert said, Yes, Christoph and
Christiane.
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I have never seen him like that. He is really quite ill. Suddenly we saw how
something went through his whole body. He feels drawn to go to these siblings.
The conversation had taken us there because he said that one doctor sends him
to another, and so forth. And the cardiologist says that another doctor should help him,
and the other doctor says the same thing. And he says: But I do have a right to be
helped, now do something!
I said: They cannot do anything. If one them knew what to do, he would do it.
But in your case they dont know what is going on in your body. But after this insight
he was deeply moved, and his body posture was very different. He stood differently
and looked differently. We have never seen him like that.
BERT HELLINGER: You see, even in the lunch break family constellations happen
around us.
So, I am still with the order of rank. All who belong must be given their place.
And even these here, the aborted children, all belong.
Now it is important that we find our right place in the order of rank, our exact
place. Most of us who think they are the first or the second or the fourth or the fifth,stand in a wrong place. Many are excluded here.
I will do this with you as a little exercise for a change. You close your eyes. Now
I count out loud, and you feel which number feels good and grounded for you. This
would be your number in the order of rank among your siblings.
There we go one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven,
twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifteen, sixteen, seventeen, eighteen, nineteen, twenty.
Here I stop. Some have a hundred siblings. A doctor told us that in a
constellation it showed that the parents had wanted to have a child through artificial
insemination. Many zygotes were inseminated. It turned out they all belong, all of
them. We cant manipulate such facts.
Okay, have I gone astray, or am I still on track? So, the two basic orders of love
that are most important are: the same right to belong, and the order of rank, so that we
are in our right place, and our children are also in their right place.
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Many problems that parents have with a child come from a disorder of rank, for
the child does not know where his or her place is.
Meditations
Our illness
We close our eyes again. Now we look at our illness or our ailment, or some pain, and
we put this illness or complaint in front of us, at some distance. We wait for how the
illness or the complaint moves. Away from us, for instance, towards someone else, and
inside us we follow the movement of our illness. Where is it drawn? To a child who has
lost a place in our soul or in our family? Or is the illness drawn to someone from whom
we separated, perhaps in a way where we became angry with this person? Then inside
us we put this other person in front of the illness. Then we follow the movement of the
illness by standing next to it or behind it.
How is this illness feeling? How is the other person feeling? How are we feeling?
Okay.
Our completeness
This is about our completeness, about including the excluded again and letting them
have their place with us. What we experience as a complaint suddenly ends, for it has
served its purpose.
Now close your eyes again once more. We imagine, we form a circle of many
people. We roughly know how many people it will have to include, five or twenty or
thirty, depending. You know how many. You imagine you form this circle in front of
you. You set it up. Then you stand in the middle of this circle.
Then you walk around in the circle, seeing every person, and you sense where
you need to pause and what happens to the person opposite you - and also to yourself
of course.
As you go from one to the next this way, you say to each person: I see you
welcome.
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There is also a movement beginning to happen in the circle. What happens to
you then? To your body, for instance? Is there also something coming together in your
body, something that was not acknowledged? Do we perhaps celebrate a reunion or
even a birthday?
Okay.
Extras
Feedback from the course in Graz
16.-18.12.2011
Dear Sophie, Dear Bert,
To sum it up in one sentence: I am well.
As soon as I got home, I reduced my daily dose of Ritalin (which is said to help
concentration). I do not want to stop taking it abruptly (for then I would be sleeping all
day), but rather slowly (my body needs a bit of time for the change over), my spirit has
already adjusted to it since the constellation. I notice that I can concentrate well
without this medication, and that does me good and makes me stronger.
In the break I asked Bert something about the eyes, how he did it, managing
without glasses. He said: I read a book a while agofrom Norbekov one has to
exercise a bit, but it is quite easy. And you also look much nicer without glasses. This
made me exercise, too (I started today, and I really enjoyed it). I also arrived at an
insight, that you, dear Sophie, gave to me. You said in the seminar: Energy follows
thought. And today I suddenly realized, it is not even the exercise itself, but mostly the
inner attitude, to 90%. I thought of something beautiful, and I saw better instantly. Thisproves again that the eyes are not sick.
Dear Sophie, if I may, I will keep you both posted.
Finally I want to say THANK YOU from my heart,
Thank you (= you, dear Sophie + you, dear Bert)
***
Dear, much appreciated couple, Dear Bert and Sophie Hellinger!
I would like to express my deeply felt thank you for the three moving days in Graz.
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So for what do I wish to thank you? For my daughter who was waiting for me at
the airport with a bunch of flowers. She is 28 years old, and for most of her life she has
not liked me. Just before the seminar I read that the reason for this could be that the
oldest daughter may be representing the rejected mother.
I was not aware that I rejected my mother, but in the seminar tears were flowing,
of reconciliation with her and her unfortunate death.
During my tertiary education I left my daughter, just one year old, with my then
mother-in-law, for more than a year. Since then I have had a child who did not want of
know me and did not want to take anything from me. What a fateful error! For this
smile my child gave me at the airport I thank you from my heart.
Thank you for your meditations with us, dear Bert Hellinger. Now I know I am
the second child and not the first born. I feel much better now. Also acknowledging
that I am not a mother of three, but of six children, has made me happier. The lost
children do belong too! Thank you for this also.
I will have to do a lot more, and I will take time out for it. I try to remember
every word you said. Who knows what miracles still await me. Perhaps I can save my
second marriage, and make everyone around me happy. Who knows?I hope you forgive me that I found working with constellations to be too much at
once. I would like to begin with myself first, to learn the YOU and THANK YOU first.
In deep love for your great work.
V.S.
***
Dear Bert and Sophie Hellinger,
A heartfelt thank you for having had the privilege to experience this seminar. It was the
third seminar I participated in. I am overwhelmed by the breadth and depth of your
consciousness, by the precision of your intuition. Not a word too many or too few.
Where I did not understand something, I hung on to what was said, and the
explanation came later. The last constellation in the seminar was the most
overwhelming I have ever experienced.
Whilst the constellation took place, I could not really follow, I was most deeply
moved. Last night I woke up and the constellation ran again, like a film. Suddenly I
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could find the slot for everything you had said, and bit by bit it helped me to
understand the constellation better. I am overwhelmed about the timing of what you
say or bring to our attention. It is in conscious connection with what shows up
immediately or also with what will show up later.
I wish you a peaceful and contemplative Christmas time, and much happiness
for the new year and above all, good health.
With kind regards
KL.S.
***
Dear Sophie, Dear Bert,
Dear Hellinger team,
I would like to express my heartfelt thanks for this seminar. Is was one of the most
beautiful ones that I have experienced.
From the beginning, celebrating Berts birthday, it was very touching, and I felt
very comfortable and carried by the energy.
On Sunday morning it was different. While still at home I had the feeling that
this day wanted to show me something. I felt somewhat ill at ease.I opened to a saying in my angel calendar:
Yes. You are a dweller in two worlds. I put the book aside, with a little
disappointment.
Then at the seminar, the singing was very soothing, and I did the namaste
exercises with joy, until my mother stood in front of me. (She was also participating in
the seminar.) I stood in front of her, and my tears were flowing profusely, and she took
me into her arms.
Then Bert spoke about the universe and the other world, and I thought, well
and good, but for me it was incomprehensible, larger than life. I thought, eventually I
might perhaps understand it.
And during the last constellation I did feel them, these two worlds, how they
weave into each other. Since then an incredible process is unfolding inside me. I
cannot put words to it. It feels as if a gate had opened.
Thank you
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Namaste
S.
***
Dear Sophie, Dear Bert, and much appreciated Hellinger team,
In-deed, this weekend was divine service and a gift of God. Now I also know what
that is.
THANK YOU that I could experience this birthday celebration. It touched me
deeply. Peace and love have moved into my heart and in my soul. Thank you for this
great gift, it feels so overwhelming and grand. My heart flows over with lovenow I
have understood, thanks a million..thank you!
I will carry this celebration deep in my heart on my path in life. In this sense,
only the very best to you all.
E. K.***
Dear Bert and Sophie Hellinger,
This seminar has helped me a lot, even just in being able to participate. I can say thank
you for receiving my life. This was not so before this seminar. I felt as if I was in a case,
devoid of all feeling; there where the heart was I felt a great hole, and what is alive was
no longer in my body. During the course I felt as if this hole would be filled again.
My inside can find peace again, my churned-up life will calm down with your
help. Much has also changed in our family since we began with family constellations
(having participated in your seminars). We have learned that we are not in charge of
time, and much, much more.
We can communicate far more openly in our family, for we know how to bynow.
There would be much more to say, but I am so grateful that I could be with
Sophie and Bert. Inside it feels as if some balm was moving through my body. One gets
the impression that one could tell many people how easy it is to live and to be grateful
for everything.
Thank you.
A.
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***
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Hellinger,
Your seminar in Graz was unique. It was an experience that will stay with me for a long
time.
Berts work with the whole group had an instant effect on me. I wanted to put
my hand up for a constellation, but as the seminar progressed I no longer needed it.
I was especially impressed about the constellation with the Russian participant
who had the problem of not finding the right partner, where Bert decided to stop the
constellation. This took a lot of sensitivity and courage as well.
There is no need to say anything about the last constellation, for one could feel
the presence of God. Yes, this seminar was worship.
Many, many thanks for this amazing experience. I wish you a beautiful and
peaceful Christmas and a happy, healthy New Year.
M.J.
***
The days in Graz were moving, and with gratitude I think of this being-guided through
Bert and Sophie Hellinger. The joy of being able to be present at Bert Hellingersbirthday lay like a glow above everything. And how much gratitude was expressed by
all the people who came from afar to be part of the celebration.
Even on the evening of his birthday Bert Hellinger worked with us. There are
two meditations that I love to tell people about, they touched me deeply and are
changing my life from the depth.
We were taken to our personal guilt. My intention was to ease my sense of
burden and to free myself from it. But Bert Hellinger guided us away from wanting to
get rid of our personal guilt, but instead towards taking it into our soul and our body.
This was new for me. As I began to open myself to this, it was as if from a sense of
floating, I was finding my way to the earth and beginning to feel the ground under my
feet. A weight pulled me down to the earth, my feet began to expand. And as I felt
heavier and heavier, I began to feel richer and more fulfilled, connected to the earth
and to human beings, like I never felt before. I knew: this is the beginning of a path that
I cannot abandon.
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The other meditation that touched me deeply was this one: We were led into a
circle of people. There are 22 of them, I said to myself. Standing alone in the circle we
went from one to the next, and we said to each one: Now I see you! I did not manage
to do the full round in the allocated time, and I knew I would have to complete it on
my own. Later that night I asked myself: How did I arrive at the number 22? There are
my siblings, my parents and their siblings and half-siblings, and my grandparents, and
also my grandfathers first wife. That makes 22 of them. And I felt such a fullness and
such riches and the beginning of a glow on my face.
How fortunate we are to be guided in this way by Bert and Sophie! Could I
experience deeper or greater worshipping?
I give thanks for this.
R.W.
Reflection
Birthdays
Our decisive birthday came after nine months of concentrated development in our
mother, carried and nourished byher. Then we had to break out of this protective
environment, into the womb of another mother, our earth. We saw the light of the
world and took our first deep breath. We were born.
This birthday was the official beginning of our life. We succeeded in coming
into the world with both our mothers and our own ultimate effort. Therefore we
celebrate its anniversary every year, as our favorite occasion.
When we succeeded in something decisive after a long preparation and the
event could finally see the light of the world, we also speak of a birth. These
anniversaries are also celebrated, such as the anniversaries of liberation from a yoke,
through a victory over an adversary, and the ensuing peace treaty. This is a new
beginning for both sides, the victors and the defeated, a time of growth and mutual
support. For us, the most momentous event of this kind was the end of WWII, it also
marked the beginning of a united Europe.
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These are the external and initially often painful events that give rise to essential
new developments.
Do we also look at our parents in the same way? Do we look beyond them at
those creative powers that were at work before this birth and also in it? At the birth of
an new era of peace, do we look at all the dead who paid the price for this birth? Do
we also look at ourselves, at what this peace and its maintenance demands of us in
terms of personal involvement and growth? Do we receive the result of such a birth as a
gift that keeps on doing its work?
Where above all do we look on these birthdays? Do we look back, do we count
the years? Or are we looking ahead, to the next birth, and helping to bring something
new into the world through it, like children of our own, here too, with our utmost
effort?
So, our birthdays keep on happening, and with them our happiness, a growing
happiness.