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Anchor YourselfAnchor Yourself

Presented by: Cindy Boling Presented by: Cindy Boling

University of Central University of Central OklahomaOklahoma

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IntroductionIntroduction

Explore the concepts Explore the concepts of anchoring oneself of anchoring oneself and finding balance in and finding balance in one’s lifeone’s life

Share ideas of how to Share ideas of how to accomplish thisaccomplish this

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BackgroundBackground

The danceThe dance The balconyThe balcony The gardenThe garden

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Discussion TimeDiscussion Time

1. 1. What is meant by “anchor”?What is meant by “anchor”? 2. How do you separate Role and Self? What are 2. How do you separate Role and Self? What are

the pros and cons?the pros and cons? 3. What are the differences/similarities between 3. What are the differences/similarities between

Confidant and Ally?Confidant and Ally? 4. What is meant by “sanctuary”? How do you 4. What is meant by “sanctuary”? How do you

protect it?protect it?

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What is meant by “anchor”?What is meant by “anchor”? From discussionFrom discussion

– Stay groundedStay grounded– Keep things in perspectiveKeep things in perspective– Deal with thingsDeal with things– Get to the balconyGet to the balcony– Talk with someone removed from the situationTalk with someone removed from the situation– RootRoot– Stand firmStand firm– SteadfastSteadfast

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AnchorAnchor Webster’sWebster’s

– To keep from drifting (ship)To keep from drifting (ship)– Anything giving security or stability; to hold secureAnything giving security or stability; to hold secure

ThesaurusThesaurus– FastenFasten– SecureSecure– AttachAttach– FixFix

Thesaurus – antonymThesaurus – antonym– UndoUndo– DisengageDisengage

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How do you anchor yourself?How do you anchor yourself?

A. Separate Role from SelfA. Separate Role from Self B. Distinguish Confidant from AllyB. Distinguish Confidant from Ally C. Protect the SanctuaryC. Protect the Sanctuary

Leading to . . . Leading to . . . D. Maintain the BalanceD. Maintain the Balance

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How do you separate Role and How do you separate Role and Self?Self?

From discussionFrom discussion– Find balanceFind balance– Realize you play multiple rolesRealize you play multiple roles

Pros of separating Role and SelfPros of separating Role and Self – Allows objectivityAllows objectivity– Gives freedom to take risksGives freedom to take risks– Roles endRoles end– People hate and react to the rolePeople hate and react to the role

Cons of not separating Role and SelfCons of not separating Role and Self– You become the issueYou become the issue

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How do we view our roles?How do we view our roles? Version 1Version 1

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How do we view our roles?How do we view our roles? Version 2Version 2

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How do we view our roles?How do we view our roles? Version 3Version 3

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What are the What are the differences/similarities between differences/similarities between

Confidant and Ally?Confidant and Ally? From discussionFrom discussion– AlliesAllies

People who share your valuesPeople who share your values You gain from talking to themYou gain from talking to them They have overlapping but not identical stakesThey have overlapping but not identical stakes

– ConfidantsConfidants People who have few conflicting loyaltiesPeople who have few conflicting loyalties Their interests are aligned with yoursTheir interests are aligned with yours They are most likely to be outside of the organizationThey are most likely to be outside of the organization You can You can safelysafely bounce ideas with them bounce ideas with them They are a safe source of feedbackThey are a safe source of feedback They have no prejudice or agendaThey have no prejudice or agenda They will tell you what you don’t want to hearThey will tell you what you don’t want to hear

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Confidant vs AllyConfidant vs Ally Webster’sWebster’s

– Confidant – a close, trusted friend whom one Confidant – a close, trusted friend whom one confides (confide – as in sharing secrets, to confides (confide – as in sharing secrets, to entrust)entrust)

– Ally – to unite or join for a specific purpose; to Ally – to unite or join for a specific purpose; to relate by similarity of structurerelate by similarity of structure

ThesaurusThesaurus– Confidant – best/close friend, sounding boardConfidant – best/close friend, sounding board– Ally – friend, supporter, partner, collaboratorAlly – friend, supporter, partner, collaborator

AntonymAntonym– enemyenemy

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What is meant by sanctuary?What is meant by sanctuary?

Webster’sWebster’s– A holy placeA holy place– A place of refuge A place of refuge

or protectionor protection

ThesaurusThesaurus– ShelterShelter– Safe havenSafe haven

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What is meant by “sanctuary”?What is meant by “sanctuary”? From discussionFrom discussion

– Remove yourself from the environment entirely for Remove yourself from the environment entirely for rest, reflection, and renewalrest, reflection, and renewal

– Renew, rechargeRenew, recharge– Temporary – cannot stayTemporary – cannot stay– ““Recreation” vs “Re-creation”Recreation” vs “Re-creation”

How do you protect it?How do you protect it?– Don’t give up the activity or time when stressedDon’t give up the activity or time when stressed– Set aside time for this each daySet aside time for this each day– Don’t allow yourself to erode the time you have Don’t allow yourself to erode the time you have

allottedallotted– You have to cultivate the garden to have a gardenYou have to cultivate the garden to have a garden

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Summary – To Anchor YourselfSummary – To Anchor Yourself

A. Separate Role from Self (don’t take it A. Separate Role from Self (don’t take it personally)personally)

B. Distinguish Confidant from Ally (have a B. Distinguish Confidant from Ally (have a support group)support group)

C. Protect the Sanctuary (HaveC. Protect the Sanctuary (Havea time/place for inner reflection)a time/place for inner reflection)

D. Maintain the BalanceD. Maintain the Balance

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Questions & AnswersQuestions & Answers

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Thank You!Thank You!

Cindy BolingCindy Boling

cboling@ucok.educboling@ucok.edu

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