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Workshop agenda
Fear-baseddiscipline
Making a shift
Four powers
Close
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Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
What a wonderful child you are!
With bright eyes,
And nice round cheeks,
A talented person from head
to feet!
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
What a wonderful child you are!
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Fear-based discipline
Fear of punishment
Fear of failureFear of the loss of love
Fear of abandonment
Fear triggers fight or flight response.We end up modeling the exact
behavior were trying to eliminate.
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Side-effects
of relying on fear
Focuses you on what you didnt do
Not enoughness
Stresses your body
Releases stress hormones
Adrenaline & Cortisol
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ns e e ra n
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Shift from fear to love
Change our minds
Love, not as a feeling, but as a decision
to bring the best of yourself to each moment.
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Ask different questions
How do Ihelp the child
more likely
choose to
______?
How do I
get
the child to
_______.
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Shift from fear to love
Change our minds
Power of knowledge
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Understand child developmentBinocular vision doesnt fully mature until age 6.
Young childrens brains process information 12times slower than adults. Give only one or two commands at a time.
Young children cannot conjugate the word dont. Tell them what to do.
Inner speech doesnt fully develop until age 7 or 8. Young children encode information in pictures.
The brain is a pattern-seeking device.
Create consistent routines and ut them in ictures.
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Picture Rule Cards
Purpose:
To provide young children visual images of
what to do.
How to use:
Post cards in appropriate places around the
classroom. Mount cards on colored paper.
Place cards in a binder to make a book
for children to read.
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Da y Rout ne ar shelp put your schedule into pictures.
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Your daily routine in
pictures
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Picture Rule CardsHelp you display your rules in pictures.
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Picture Rule CardsShow two positive choices and one no card.
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Rules posted in pictures
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Responsibility Cards
Purpose:
To provide young children visual images oftheir choices of what to do.
Young children encode information in pictures.
How to use:
Post cards in appropriate places in the home. Mount cards on colored paper.
Place cards in a binder to create a book.
Place cards on a key ring.
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A Wonderful Woman
A wonderful woman
who lived in a shoe,
She had so many children,
She knew exactly what to do!
She held them, she rocked them,
And tucked them in bed.
I love you, I love you,
Is what she said.
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MinuteBreak
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Shift from fear to love
Change our minds
Power of knowledge
Power of self-control
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Take back your power
I
m going to _____.Im going to take a few deep
breaths, calm myself down,
and then I will speak withyou.
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Take back your power
I
m going to ___.Im going to show you what to do.
Im going to show you how to get
started.
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Power of self-control
No one can make me angrywithout my permission.
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c ve ca m ng
Breathe deeply. Stop
Take a deep breath
And Relax
Use affirmations for yourself.
I am safe. I feel calm. I can handle this.
Use affirmations for a child who is in meltdown.
Youre safe. Breathe with me. You can handle
this.
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e er, e er
Peter, Peter, pumpkin eater,
Had a friend he loved to greet.
Treated him(her) with kind respect.
And in the morning,
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Shift from fear to loveChange our minds
Power of knowledge
Power of self-control
Power of attention
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Power of attention
What you focus on,you get more of.
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When you are upsetyou are always focused
on what you dontwant.
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Powe
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ontr
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Responsibility
Whomever you
believe to be in
charge of your
feelings
you have placedin charge of
you.
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Take back your power
Dont make me
have to
I am going to
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Take back your power
Im going to ______.
Im going to pull the car over
until your seatbelts are
fastened and everyone is safe.
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Take back your power
Im going to _____.
Im going to take a few deepbreaths, calm myself down,
and then I will speak withyou.
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Take back your power
I
m going to ___.Im going to show you what to do.
Im going to show you how to get
started.
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Take back your power
Im going to ___.
Im going to show you what to do.
Im going to show you how to get
started.
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Shift from fear to loveChange our minds
Power of knowledge
Power of self-control
Power of attention
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Power of attention
What you focus on,you get more of.
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When you are upsetyou are always focused
on what you dontwant.
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vo :Focus on what you want
Tell children what to do.
What do I want
the children
to do?
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Activity: Pivot practice
Rewrite the statementsas commands, telling the
child what to do.Take turns role-playing
with a partner. Give oneof the assertive
commands from thisexercise.
Offer each other helpfulfeedback.
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o c ng e p u ac sStep 1: You (or childs name)
Step 2: Describe in detail what was done
Step 3: Relate how the behaviorhelped someone or the family
Step 4: End with a tag
That was helpful.
That was kind.
That was caring.
You ___________so ___________.
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Pivot examples
Put the pen down and sit quietly.
Walk through the door carefully, watching
out for your classmates and giving themplenty of space.
Write on your paper.
When you are finished
with snack, put yourgarbage in the trash binbefore you go to free
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Activity:
The skill of noticing
Practice using the skill of noticing by
role-playing the scenes in yourhandout with a partner.
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o c ng examp esYou got off the swing so Tamara could have a
turn. That was kind.
You shared your paper with Kenan so he would
have something to draw on. That was helpful.
You fastened your sister in her car seat so she
would be safe on our trip. That was helpful.
You carried the grocery bags
into the kitchen so I could startunpacking them. That was
thoughtful.
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ore examp esClean up spills
Load/unload dishwasher
Feed petsDust
Help put groceries away
Make sandwiches/snacks
Make the bedWait on guests
Help plan birthday parties
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Make a plan
Write a brief plan
for how you will
implementjobs or chores
in your
home or school
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Georgie PorgieGeorgie Porgie, pudding and pie.
Gave his friend a big high five.
With his friend he loved to play.
A gift of a smile he gave each day.
Margie Pargie, pudding and pie
Gave her friend a big high five
With her friend she loved to play
A gift of a handshake she gave each day.
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Goodnight elbow
Our busy day is over.
I love you so much.
Its time to say Goodnight
Goodnight to all I touch.
Goodnight elbows,
Elbows goodnight.
(Repeat with ears, eyebrows, hair,
arms, hands.)
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App cat on act v ty:I Love You Ritual
Practice doing the Story Hand I Love
You Ritualwith a partner.
Take turns being the adult.
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The the way you speak toyourself internally
is the way you will treat others.
If you change how
you treat yourself,
you will naturally
change how youtreat your children.
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Shift from fear to love
Change our minds
Power of knowledge
Power of self-control
Power of attention
Power of connection
We must shift our faith in guilt
to faith in love.
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Activity: Meaningful chores
Think about your childs
developmental level and
ways s/her could contribute
around the home.
Now circle the chores
that would be helpfuland appropriate for
your child.
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It Starts In The Heart
It starts in the heart,
Way down in your soul.
It starts in the heart.
Brick by brick and stone by stone,
We all find a way to build a wall.
And all we get is more alone.
Can you see the stones have got to fall?
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We can let them stand,
But then nobody wins.
We can work together,And find somewhere to begin.
It starts in the heart,
Way down in your soul.
Thats the only place,
The seeds of love can grow.
When you realize that
Were not that far apart.
You want to build a bridge.
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It starts in the heart,
Way down in your soul.
It starts in the heart.
It starts in the heart,
Way down in your soul.
Thats the only place
The seeds of love can grow
When you realize that were not that far apart,
You want to build a bridge.
It starts in the heart,Way down in your soul,
It starts in the heart.