Etiquette

Etiquette ?

Webster’s dictionary defines it as “the forms , manners, and ceremonies established by convention as acceptable or required in social relations, in a profession, or in official life.”

• Manners• Coded Behavior• Character• Habits• Thought

Where Etiquette is required

• Personal• Family• Home, Schools, College• Social, Cultural• Office

When Etiquette is required

• Part of your life• You and the environment

Why Etiquette is required ?

•Professional etiquette - must for Career •builds leadership, quality, business & careers• It refines skills needed for exceptional service

Without Etiquette

• You limit your potential • Risk your image• Jeopardize relationships

• Differentiates them in competitive market

• Honors Commitments to quality and excellence

• Enables them to be confident in a variety of settings with a variety of people from all walks of life

• Modifies distracting behaviors and develops admired conduct

How Etiquette Pays Off !

Factors Influencing Etiquette

Physical• Grace • Beauty• Handsome• External Appearance

• Schooling • Family• Friends• Education• Marital life

Psychological

Childhood OriginParental

Heredity

Your Behavior

Making Right FriendsCultivating the charmClass & QualityEnemy - The AngerPatience Tolerance - Carrier

Personal Hygiene• Skin• Hair• Hands Nails• Tooth• Feet• Shoes• Hose• Uniform• Jewellery

Mind & SoulThoughtsHabitsCharacterAttitudesPrefered Liked Loved

Purpose

Postures •Sitting• Standing• Talking while standing• Good Posture• Impatience• Sitting in Groups

PERSONAL ETIQUETTE

Personal Etiquette

Dress CodesInformal

Formal

• Simplicity• Sense of Taste• Fitting In• Color Blending• Accessories• Dressing for Occasions

• Empathy• Sympathy• Responsibility

• Rights• Good Will• Mutuality• Advantages• Disadvantages

• Respect• Status• Heredity

Parents

Sisters You Brothers

Second Relatives Third Relatives Relatives

Family Etiquette

Basic Etiquette for a happier home

• Don’t nag• Don’t try to make your partner over• Don’t criticize• Give honest appreciation• Pay little attentions• Be courteous• Don’t be Ignorant • Know first - Talk next

You

Office Codes Behavior

Rules & Regulations

Policies & Principles

Regularity / Punctuality

Organising your day

Uniform / Dress Codes

Reporting for duty

Greetings

OFFICE ETIQUETTE

Subordinates

Casual / Contract Workers

Bosses

Superiors

First Name - Formal StyleOfficial Introductions - Acknowledgements

Business Cards

Telephone Manners

Helping Colleagues

Managing The Boss

Handling Subordinates

Handling Rivals

Gossips / Yapping

Conflicts / Disputes / Memos

• Timings• Answering a phone• Identity• Taking a message - Holding - Short - Crisp - Clear communications• Returning Calls• Wrong Numbers• Long Conversation• Ending a Conversation• Misuse• Voice Mail

Some Basics of Office Etiquette

Some principles which office employees can utilize to make a contribution follows

• Be polite, pleasant and courteous when answering the telephone• Answer promptly any telephone that rings in the office• Avoid blowing and popping gum in the office• Be discrete when coughing or yawning• Avoid applying makeup at the desk• Use positive body language• Avoid eating at your desk when dealing with public• Be tactful with rude people• Avoid personal conversation when a client is waiting

Etiquette for Reprimanding & Counseling

• Begin with praise and honest appreciation• Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly • Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person• Ask questions instead of giving direct orders• Let the other man save his face• Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.• Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise”• Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to• Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct\• Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest

Other things office employees should watch out for follow

• Be punctual• Avoid annoying habits• Practice teamwork• Discourage personal office visitors• Do not use strong perfume or cologne• Do not wear noisy jewellery• Be tactful with rude people

In fact, the efforts of employees will be more fruitful and effective ifeach practices the common maxim“treat a person the way you wanted to be treated”

Smile

• It costs nothing, but creates much• It enriches those who receive, without improvishing those who give• It happens in a flash and the memory of it sometimes lasts forever• None are so rich they can get along without it, and none so poor but are richer for its benefits.

Etiquette to make People Like You

• Become genuinely interested in other people• Smile• Remember that a man’s name is to him• Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.• Talk in terms of the other man’s interest.• Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Etiquette to win People in your way

• The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it• Show respect to other man’s opinions. Never tell a man he is wrong • If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically• Begin in a friendly way• Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately• Let the other man feel that the idea is his• Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view• Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires• Appeal to the nobler motives• Dramatize your ideas• Throw down a challenge

Hotels

Down town / Business / Transit Hotels

Resorts

Motels

Profile

Product Service

Categorization & Classification

Hotel Etiquette

• Clean my Room Card• Do not Disturb Card• Hotel Rules• Fire Plan• Hangers• Bath robe• Laundry Bags• Laundry list• Shoe shine strip•Water glasses• Bottle openers

• Stationary folder containing• Letter Heads• Envelopes• Guest Comments form• Post Cards• Telex forms

• Scribbling pad• Pen• Ash tray with match box on coaster• Candle stand with candle on coaster• Magazines• Room Service Menu

GUEST SUPPLIES / ROOM SUPPLIES

•Directory of service• Telephone Directories with covers• Soap basket with choice of 3 soaps• Shower caps• Shampoo• Bubble bath• Moisturizer• Tooth paste• Tissue box• Toilets rolls• W.C. band• Bathroom tumblers with glass covers on coasters

• Bed room slippers• Good night chocolate• Guest soap• Personalised stationery folder in suites• Fruits• Flowers• Soft drinks• Cookies

GUEST SUPPLIES / ROOM SUPPLIES

•Bath Towels• Hand Towels• Face Towels• Bath Mat• Bath Rug

LINEN

Dining Etiquette • Table settings are like road maps that guide you through the courses of a meal.• Forks are placed to the left of the plate• Glasses or crystal stem-ware are to the right of the dinner plate.• Knives and spoons are placed at the right side of the plate.• Remember the “etiquette rule”, solids to the left, liquids to the right.• During the courses of a meal you pick up the silverware pieces from the outside in, toward your plate.• When posting a dinner, don’t forget your guest’s special dietary needs. • Do try a little of everything on your plate.• Napkins are to remain on your lap until the completion of the meal.• Do compliment the host/ess on the preparation, tastiness or presentation of the meal

Basic Table Manners

• Beginning of the meal• Posture• Eating Soup•It is best to order foods that can be eaten with a knife and fork. Finger foods can be messy and are best left for informal dinning.• Do not order alcoholic beverages. •Do not smoke while dining out.• Sit up straight at the table. It makes a good impression.•Do not season your food before you have tasted it.• Never chew with your mouth open or make loud noises when you eat. •Do not slurp soup from a spoon. Spoon the soup away from you when you take it out of the bowl and sip it from the side of the spoon. If your soup is too hot to eat, let it sit until it cools; do not blow on it.

• When ordering or serving wine :• Red wine generally is served with red meat; white wine with poultry or fish.• A wine’s sugar content shouldn’t rival Captain Cruch.• Nice people don’t drink Ripple, Thunderbird or “Mad Dog”• Sweet and fortified wines should be served with dessert, not the main course.• If it is your main course, get help

•If you feel the need to reach for the last piece of chicken, do so at your own risk. Impalement is an ugly thing.• “Finger-lickin’ good” is a slogan, not a suggestion.• Napkins and sleeves are not interchangeable. Neither are shirttails and tissues, for that matter.• If offered a lobster bib, by all means take advantage of it.• Yes, you are supposed to eat that sprig of parsley decorating your plate. Think of it as an organic,after-dinner mint.

Basic Table Manners

•If food gets caught between your teeth and you can’t remove it with your tongue, leave the table and go to the mirror where you can remove the food from your teeth in private.• You should not leave the table during the meal except in an emergency. •Something that you need which cannot be reached easily, politely ask the person closest to the item you need to pass it to you. • Dropping down of silver ware• Food spillage off your plate• Spitting• Removing inedible from the mouth• Offering food at table• Finger Bowls

Foods to be taken by hands

• Bacon• Bread• Cookies• Chips, French fries, Fried Chicken, and Hamburgers• Hors d”Oeuvres, Canapse, Crudites• Sandwiches• Small fruits and Berries on the stem• Indian Foods• Snacks•

Cocktail Etiquette

Cocktails and Cocktail Party - Guests are mostly standing and dress attire can range from business to casual.

Cocktail Buffet - Small tables and chairs are set up for guests after they fill up their plates at the buffet station. The attire is usually formal or business attire. This event can last 2-3 hours.

Cocktail Reception - The most formal event. Attire is very dressy for women and usually black tie for men. The reception can be held for a distinguished guest of honor or event, such as an opening of a new performing arts center or film premier. There is so much food that the reception can count as dinner and Champagne is always served.

Tips to maneuver your way as a guest at a cocktail party• Do some research on the guests attending the cocktail party. ‘Small talk’ will be much easier for you.• Determine what your goals are. Whether you are social or business networking, keep in mind your goal(s) in attending this party.• Do extend your hand and introduce yourself to unfamiliar guests. Maintain eye contact during introductions and conversations.• Circulate (make the rounds) a little before you head to the bar or buffet table. Food and drink should not be the main goals.• Don’t get drunk.• Do keep conversations away from sex, politics and religin.• Keep drinks and food in your left hand. Your right hand will be free for meeting, greeting and departure.• If attending a cocktail party in a private home, treat household staff with dignity and respect.There are to be no personal or special requests from you to the staff.

Some Common-Sense do’s and don’ts for dinner :

• When at a dinner party, don’t expectorate on the floor...unless the hostess does first.• Never eat peas with your knife, unless mashed potatoes are served as well.• Do not ask for something which is irrelevant or N.A.• Chew with your mouth closed. Everyone else at the table already knows what you are having for dinner• Conversation at the table should be light, witty and extemporaneous. Death, diapers and delivery are not acceptable topics.• If your infant must eat with you and your guests and junior spits his pablum all over your great aunt’s Dior gown, please don’t try to pass it off by saying: “Isn’t he the outest thing...and so smart, too!”• “Only cannibles eat standing up.”

• What is the proper way to shake hands ?

• What exactly does RSVP mean

• How early should you begin teaching children etiquette

• For an upcoming dinner party, I plan to give flowers as a hostess girl. That’s correct, isn’t it ?

• When hosting clients from overseas, where should I take them for dinner ?

• I’ve noticed a lot of women wearing open toe stiletto sandals at formal functions in the dead of winter. Is this appropriate ?

Other General FAQ’s on Etiquette

•What should you do if you are served a dish at a party that gives you an allergy?

•If the host is not looking, should you help yourself to another drink from the bottle?

•If you are seized by a coughing fit during the meal, what should you do?

•Your host has offered you tea which you do not drink at all

•You are invited to a cocktail party but you do not drink

FAQ’s At Party

•You have gone to a restaurant where you find the service is very poor. Calling the waiter is very difficult. What can you do?

•You have seen the waiter dipping his finger in your finger bowl before bringing it to you. You do not like it. What do you do?

•You go to an expensive restaurant for lunch with a not-too-rich friend. You want to pick up the tab, so as not to burden him financially. He, on the other hand, insists on paying the entire amount from his own packet. What should you do?

FAQ’s Eating Out

•You have entered your train compartment in a hurry and knocked over someone’s water pitcher. Of course, it broke. The traveller is a lady with two children. What should you do?

•You have gone to see a movie and the person behind you is constantly talking loudly and disturbing you.

FAQ’s Travelling

•Your boss who is otherwise very nice is very short-tempered at times. One day he shouts at you in front of a group of visitors. You feel humiliated. What will you do?

FAQ’s At Work

Etiquette

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