THE LEADER IN ME

7 Habits of Highly Effective People

I am your constant companion.

I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden.

I will push you onward or drag you down to

failure.

I am completely at your command.

Half of the things you do you might as well turn

over to me and I will do them - quickly and

correctly.

I am easily managed - you must be firm with me.

Show me exactly how you want something done

and after a few lessons, I will do it automatically.

I am the servant of great people,

and alas, of all failures as well.

Those who are great, I have made great.

Those who are failures, I have made failures.

I am not a machine though

I work with the precision of a machine

plus the intelligence of a person.

You may run me for profit or run me for ruin -

it makes no difference to me.

Take me, train me, be firm with me, and

I will place the world at your feet.

Be easy with me and I will destroy you.

Who am I?

Who am I?

A Habit

• Write the following quote in your notebook:

• “We first make our habits, then our habits make us.”

• Describe in your notebook what you think this quote means.

Can everybody be a leader?

• Answer the above question in your notebook.

• Define Follower.

• Can you be a leader and a follower at the same time? Explain your answer.

Habit 1: Be Proactive

Habit 1: Be Proactive

• Define Proactive.

• Habit 1: Be Proactive is the habit of choice.

• Big Principle: I am free to choose and responsible for my choices.

• “When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” - Viktor Frankel

• Explain how this quote could have helped the people on the escalator.

Agree or Disagree

“People are just about as happy as they make up their mind to be.” - Abraham Lincoln

What is the opposite of Proactive?

Reactive

Proactive vs. Reactive

• Proactive people make choices based on values.

• Think before you act.

• Calm, cool, in control.

• Reactive people make choices based on impulse.

• Pressure builds.

• Suddenly explode.

Scene One

You overhear your best friend bad-mouthing you in front of a group. She doesn’t know you overhear the conversation. Just five minutes ago, this same friend was sweet-talking you to your face. You feel hurt and betrayed.

List ways this would be handled by a reactive person.

List ways this would be handled by a proactive person.

Proactive vs. Reactive

• Describe an example from your own life where you were reactive.

• Explain how allowing yourself the freedom to choose based on principles and desired results could have changed the outcome of the situation.

Circle of Influence vs. Circle of Concern

Circle of Influence:

When people focus on thingsthey can influence, they expandknowledge and experience, andthey build trustworthiness. Asa result, their circle of influencegrows.

Circle of Concern:

When people focus on thingsthey cannot control, they have less time and energy to spend on things they can influence. Consequently, their circle of influence shrinks.

Which circle do you need to worry about most and why?

Circle of Influence

Things you CANNOT control or change:

• Other people• The weather• Things you did wrong in your past• How other people treat me• Homework

Things you CAN

control or change:

• Your attitude• Your mood• Your reaction to good and bad things that happen• How I treat other people• The choices I make

Circle of Influence vs. Circle of Concern

• Share the answers to each of the following with our seat partner:

• Identify a challenging situation that you will face at school this year - one that frustrates you and for which you have some responsibility.

• Identify areas of concern.

• Identify areas of influence.

• What actions will you take in your Circle of Influence?

Remember, we can only control one thing

Habit 1: Be Proactive

“It has long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.” - Elinor Smith (American Aviator)

• How can Habit 1: Be Proactive help you as a student at SWMS have a successful eighth grade year? Explain in your notebook.

• This school year Be Proactive. Change how you handle things. Make a choice to be positive and focus on things that YOU can change.

• Make a positive difference in your family, your class, your school, and the world.

From Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland

“Would you tell me please which way I ought to go from here?”

“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.

“I don’t much care where...” said Alice.

“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.

• Explain what the Cat means in his last line.

Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind

• What do you hope to be doing by the end of this year?

• What do you hope to be doing five years from now?

• What do you hope to be doing ten years from now?

• Make a “bucket list” - a list of things you would like to do in your life.

• Eighty years from now what do you want written on your tombstone?

Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind

• Define Begin With the End in Mind.

• Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind is the habit of vision.

• Big Principle: Mental creation precedes physical creation.

• How would you explain the “Big Principle” to a second grader?

Puzzle

• Your group will have 30 seconds to complete the puzzle. Good Luck!

• What would be helpful to your group to be more successful?

• How would looking at the “puzzle box” help from the beginning?

• How does this relate to Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind?

Classroom Goals and Contract

• “No one can go back and make a brand-new start, my friend; but anyone can start from here and make a brand-new end.” - Dan Zadra

• Each of you will spend time working on classroom goals for yourself. This will become a contract between you and your teachers.

• Rough draft on paper and tonight talk about your goals with your parents.

• Tomorrow we will fill out the contract and get them signed by you and your parents. These will be turned in to your teacher.

Mission Statement Part 1

• In your notebook create a web diagram, writing your name in the middle circle.

• In the other circles write words that describe you.

• Example:

Mission Statement Part 2

Think about what kind of person you WANT to be. Make a list.

I want to be:

1.

2.

3.

4.

Example:

I want to be:

1. Hard Worker

2. Good Student

3. Kind Person

4. Talented Artist

Mission Statement Part 3

• Use the two lists to write a mission statement. This is a sentence or paragraph about the the person you want to be.

• Choose 5 or 6 mission statements from the handout to read. Discuss your favorite mission statement with your seat partner. Explain why it is your favorite.

• Example:

Mission Statement Part 4

• Your mission statement needs to be written on the back of your learning contract.

Time

• How do you spend your time?

• Map out a day of your life - from when you wake up to when you go to sleep.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

• Define: Put First Things First

• The habit of Integrity and Execution.

• Big Principle: Effectiveness requires the integrity to act on your Priorities.

Roles

• What are the roles of your life?

• Create a list of 3 to 5 roles you have

• Example: Student, Football Player, Member of my youth group, Son, Brother, etc.

• Share your roles with your partner and give reason why that role is important to you.

“Big Rocks”

• How would you define “Big Rocks”?

• Big Rocks - The most important thing I can do in this role this week.

• What are the “Big Rocks” in your life?

• “Things which matter most must not be at the mercy of things which matter least.” - Johann Goethe

Compass vs. Clock

• Compass: Represents your mission, direction, and values - what you feel matters most.

• Clock: Represents your appointments, schedules, and activities - how you manage your time.

• Which is more important, the compass or the clock? Explain.

• The compass, because where you’re headed is more important than how fast you’re getting there.

Time Matrix

Important: Activities that

represent your values, mission, and high-priority goals.

Urgent: Activities that require immediate attention.

How can you help to eliminate these activities?

What are the chronic Quad III activities in your life/school?

Quote

• “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” - Benjamin Franklin