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A Collaborative Model for Clinicians and Church Leaders
Philip G. Monroe, PsyDBiblical Seminary
Diane Langberg, PhD & Associates
I. Church/counseling collaboration?II. Abuse in the churchIII. Overarching care principlesIV. Collaborative OpportunitiesV. Troubleshooting problems
The conflict and indifference between religion and psychology is a curious state of affairs. Although both clergy and practicing psychologists are involved in counseling relationships and interested in emotional and behavioral outcomes among those with whom they work, they generally appear to do so in isolation without much guidance from each other.
Thomas Plante
Professional Psychology: Research & Practice, 1999
Stepping on toes? Whose turf? Lack of vision for collaboration
◦ Counselors take difficult parishioners◦ Clergy are a good source of referrals◦ Is that it?
Anecdotes (and story-telling) form reality Counselor missteps?
◦ Bad theology/exegetical errors & “integration” errors
◦ Protecting the victim without a proper foundation◦ Indiscrete criticism of the church
How are we doing in our communication, respect, shared values? Consider this survey:◦ ¼ of pastors described a positive experience with
good communication. But most didn’t. Seems to rarely happen and too frequently negative
◦ Clergy perceive we don’t respect them 13% describe us as arrogant and uncooperative. “no
respect for what I had to bring to the table.” Clergy do see us as having skills they do not possess but
psychologists do not return this view◦ We often fail to find common goals/values◦ We fail to speak a similar vocabularyMcMinn, Aikins & Lish (2003). Basic and advanced competence in collaborating with
clergy. PP: R&P, 34, 197-2002
Communicate!◦ Defuse conflict, fear, confusion with transparency
& openness◦ Learn their language and their values; validate!◦ Address ethical and funding matters up front
Build trust with leadership◦ Do what you say you will do. Don’t overpromise◦ Remember it takes time to undo prior suspicion◦ Give evidence that you can learn from and be
influenced by leadership◦ Show the fruit of humility and fraternity
Offer both indirect and direct aid
Types◦ It takes many forms—both subtle and obvious◦ 2 categories: family abuse; leader abuse◦ Victims and offenders rarely fit neat categories
The effect◦ The ripple effect: an enlarging pool of victims◦ Division always ensues due to conflicting
pressures, emphases, and goals The Need
◦ A vision in the church for the protection and healing of the abused
PHP 3:12 I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, to attain to the resurrection from the dead.
ISA 61:1 The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the LORD's favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion--to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.
Deceptive responses◦ Denial: It didn’t happen, she’s crazy!◦ Minimization: It only happened once. We all sin◦ Misnaming: It was an affair (leader abuse)
Impulsive responses◦ Premature reconciliation (Jesus comes to redeem)◦ Demanding cut-offs (throw the evil-doer out)◦ Harshness (discipline; speaking truth in love)
Abandonment◦ Moving victims on to new churches◦ Secrecy (it will harm too many to know it…)
Providing safety for bruised reeds Bearing witness Dealing with fear, anger, hopelessness Encouraging restoration and healing
(without demanding it) Providing mercy ministry Introducing the Resurrection as THE healing
power Uncovering lies and pointing to the truth
Abuse in the church impacts many◦ Leaders need a large umbrella if they are going
to serve those involved When many are impacted, division is
common◦ Leaders remember they must be advocates for
truth, justice, and grace Protection of the “least of these” takes
precedence◦ Leaders understand abuse of power and provide
tangible protection for the body of Christ
Never underestimate the power of self-deception◦ Caretakers recognize and work for true
repentance “As if you too…”
◦ Caretakers work to understand the world and experiences of abuser and abused “as if” they themselves were in their shoes
Premature restoration is tempting◦ Leaders resist the temptation to rush back to
life “the way it used to be” but work to cultivate maturity, healing, and holy obedience to God
Wisdom comes from God—not committees◦ Leaders immerse themselves in the study of
God’s Word and prayer to discern His perspective on all issues pertaining to abuse and restoration
Crises reveal character◦ Leaders use crises to explore and correct
individual and systemic defects
The Church is not ours◦ Leaders remember not to harm the church: to
purify themselves first before working to purify the bride of Christ
The redemptive work of Christ in ALL is our goal◦ Leaders promote an atmosphere of grace, mercy
and justice for all
Prepare yourself Education Develop a map for success using SCTs Prep for common problems Train and supervise SCTs
Evaluate your readiness to love the congregation with patience, truth-telling, and humility
Remember the overarching goals and facets of a biblical response to abuse
Identify deficiencies (spiritual, professional, etc.) Memorize your consultant mantra:
◦ listen well; be willing to learn; ◦ validate the dreams and concerns of leadership; ◦ provide reasoning for the clear direction you offer;◦ leave final decisions to the leadership
Probable Topics◦ Abuse (deception plus power), impact of abuse,
patterns of healing (victim, offender, congregation), repentance, forgiveness, restoration, reconciliation, truth telling, leader responsibilities, legal/ethical matters
◦ Common restorative practices◦ Necessity of team approach◦ Systemic assessments
Audience◦ Key leaders◦ Broader congregation
QUESTION: Are you speaking a language they understand?
Ideally, we should:◦ Study the vast array of issues, teach the whole
congregation from front and back, develop prevention plans, and address problems as they occur
But, realistically…◦ Build committed Spiritual Care Teams, learn
together the key issues, develop a plan of action for healing, Communicate and educate, Plan for future prevention
Teams for congregation, offender, victims◦ Consider the character of potential members
Spiritually mature, prayerful, self-aware, able to listen, willing to learn, gentle but willing to confront, confidential, safe, not controlling, collaborative, patient
◦ Require 2 year minimum commitment of time Determine how the group will make decisions, learn
together, and function together◦ Determine how to collaborate with other teams,
leadership, and outside agencies
Team 1◦ Strong leaders, strong personalities, no-nonsense
attitudes. Sees job as exposing the sins and weaknesses of the victim
◦ Too busy, long periods of time without contact Team 2
◦ Meets weekly to pray and fellowship◦ Educator background◦ Identifies progress and needs but not pressing
To provide support and assistance to a person with acute spiritual needs and return person to fellowship with God, family and fellow believers
To provide the opportunity for shattered people to receive comfort, opportunity to dig deeply and repent deeply, and grow spiritually (there may be other roots, but team will explore spiritual roots)
To bring hope to those who are broken, disillusioned, and in need of restoration
To penetrate denial and clarify reality Intercession and combined wisdom in leading Provide guidance, accountability, and direction to for others
seeking to help shattered individuals and families Encourage the whole community that the church is part of
the healing process and so avoid the tendency to either throw out the sinner or the victim or ignore the sinner and victim.
From Wilson et al, Restoring the Fallen
Provide professional counseling Determine veracity of facts Make church judicial decisions
Spiritual work means warfare◦ Worship and study together
Group learning (biblical and experiential)◦ Abuse, abuse of power, deception/denial, their
impact on others, protection, true and false repentance, restoration, restitution, forgiveness, healing, etc.
◦ Restoration processes (time, process, fruit?) Who or what will drive the group’s work?
Group training Creating a plan of action
Explore how the group functions together with and without their ministry target◦ When it comes to data collection, exploration,
confrontation, assessment, decision-making ◦ When it comes to worship, fun, personal issues◦ When it comes to collaborating with outsiders
(some of whom may not share the group’s view) Key issues? Validation; good questions,
Protection from self and others; boundaries set Truth-telling about the abuse Submission to process and acceptance of
spiritual mentors Discovery of roots of abuse and other sin
(naming things from God’s view; hearing from others)
Deeper Truth-telling about life patterns and God’s sanctifying work
Restitution (acknowledges injustice and seeks to correct it)
Repentance (from actions and attitudes) Reconnection to the larger body of Christ
Summarizing and synthesizing the data collected by the SCT
Focusing questions and areas of growth Identifying dynamic or personal barriers to
the work of the SCT Keeping track of growth, hope, and future
directions Reviewing communication to the larger
leadership and congregation
Indirect service:◦ Develop SCTs for pastor families
Direct service◦ Provide confidential sessions (therapy or spiritual
direction) for leaders and family members
When progress stalls◦ Waiting for someone to be repentant?◦ When a group doesn’t work or is worn out
Premature restoration◦ Mechanical vs. spiritual restoration (Tavis Smiley)◦ Fairness vs. blessing the victim
Power conflicts and system issues Dual relationships: Who is your client? Abuse reporting and theological grounding
Where is the finish line? ◦ How do you know when restoration is complete?
When repentance is enough? Why does the victim get the final say?
◦ Who drives the decisions of protection? What if victims are in charge?
Can a Christian leader ever return to ministry?◦ Ezek. 44?
What are the pit-falls of this kind of work?
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Book title◦ McMinn, M.R., & Dominguez, A.W. (2005). Psychology
and the Church. Hauppauge, NY: Nova Science Publishers. [collection of articles]
Key Article titles◦ What evangelicals want to know about psychology
(JPT, 29(2), 2001, pp 99-105)◦ Training Psychologists to work with religious
organizations (Professional Psychology: Research & Practice, 32(3), 2001, pp 324-328)
◦ Psychology and the church: an exemplar…of collaboration (PP:R&P 31(5), 2000, pp 515-520)
◦ A collaborative relationship between professional psychology and the Roman Catholic Church (PP:R&P 30(6), 1999, pp 541-546.