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CAEXMEXS
Icdeawomh`bmets ................................................................................xv
Netrahuctnae ............................................................................................9
N IO[FMNBM\S HNSMISM IEH AXFM\ HMBMEXNI
9 Pfits Fippmene`1 Xfm Mxpmrnmecm ag
Iozfmnbmrs Hnsmism ieh Atfmr Hmbmetni.............................93
Omire ilaut cabbae mbatnaes ieh mxpmrnmecms ag pmrsaes
wntf hmbmetni ieh wfy tfm Lmst Grnmehs ippraicf sa
succmssguooy ihhrmssms tfmb.
< Pfit Ns Deawe1 Hni`easns, Xrmitbmet, ieh \msmircf........39
Gneh ieswmrs ta dmy qumstnaes ilaut Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism
ieh atfmr hmbmetni.
3 Pfit Eaw1 Stmps ta Xidm Igtmr i Hni`easns
ag Iozfmnbmrs Hnsmism ar Atfmr Hmbmetni...........................=3
Lm`ne bippne` aut yaur emxt stmps ieh tfm lmst wiys ta
ticdom tfmb igtmr i hni`easns ag ie nrrmvmrsnlom hmbmetni
fis lmme bihm.
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NN XFM LMSX G\NMEHS IZZ\AICF
8 I Emw Stirt; Xfm Irt ag Grnmehsfnp........................................ 09
Hnscavmr faw tfm mombmets ag grnmehsfnp pravnhm i pawmrguo
emw wiy ta cirm gar ieh rmoitm ta i pmrsae wntf hmbmetni.
= Bmbary Bidne`; Faearne` i Zmrsaes Ongm Stary................>>
Caoomct tfm crntncio ne`rmhnmets gar crmitne` i oavne` ieh
caestructnvm pncturm ag tfm fnstary ieh netmrmsts ag yaur
oavmh aem, ieh tfme omire faw ta usm tfns negarbitnae ne
yaur mvmryhiy netmrictnaes.
7 Xfm Deicd; Lisnc Zrnecnpoms ag Hmbmetni Cirm...............93=
Hnscavmr tfm Mombmets ag Deicdtfm sdnoos tfit pivm tfm
wiy gar succmssguo cirm`nvne`ieh smm faw ta usm tfmb ta
fiehom cabbae sntuitnaes ieh pralombs tfit irnsm.
NNN XFM LMSX G\NMEHS IZZ\AICF NE ICXNAE
0 Caeemctne`; Cabbuencitne` wntf Deicd.......................9=>
]sm tfm Lmst Grnmehs pfnoasapfy ag cabbuencitnae ta
hmvmoap mggmctnvm emw taaos gar netmrictne` wntf yaur oavmh
aem ne mvmryhiy sntuitnaes.
6 Lmne` Xa`mtfmr; Biei`ne` ieh Wioune` Ictnvntnms.............900
Nbpravm tfm quionty ag sfirmh babmets ly bidne` surmictnvntnms irm bmmtne` tfm emmhs ag tfm pmrsae wntf hmbmetni.
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> Neemr Zissi`m; Spnrntuio Kauremyne` ieh \mon`nae..............
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Xfm Mxpmrnmecm ag Iozfmnbmrs Hnsmism
ieh Atfmr Hmbmetni
Pfit ns nt ondm ta fivm Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism ieh atfmr
hmbmetni1 Pfit wauoh nt lm ondm ta lm uesurm ag yaur
surrauehne`s, ta fivm hnggncuoty cabbuencitne`, ta eat
rmca`enzm i aecm-gibnonir gicm, ar ta lm ueilom ta ha tfne`s yau fivm
iowiys mekaymh1 Pfme yau uehmrstieh tfm waroh ag pmapom wntfhmbmetni, yau cie lm`ne ta uehmrstieh tfmnr mxpmrnmecms, hmvmoap
mbpitfy, ieh rmoitm lmttmr ta tfmnr sntuitnaes.
Xfm mxpmrnmecm ag Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism ieh atfmr hmbmetni cie
lm ondm tidne` i trnp ta i garmn`e cauetry wfmrm yau haet spmid tfm
oie`ui`m. Custabs irm hnggmrmet. Hmcnpfmrne` i rmstiuriet bmeu
pravms hnggncuot4 yau biy tfned yau irm arhmrne` saup ieh meh upwntf gnsf! Pfme piyne` i rmstiuriet lnoo wntf uegibnonir currmecy
yau bn`ft gmir tfit yau irm lmne` sfartcfie`mh, cfmitmh. Xisds sa
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98 I HN@ENGNMH ONGM
misy it fabm irm bikar cfioome`ms ne ie uegibnonir smttne` ieh cielm mxfiustne`. Xfm pmrsae wntf hmbmetni ns ne i garmn`e oieh ioo tfm
tnbm, is smme ne Nrmem Fae`s pastcirh.
Fmooa Grnmehs;
\urio Xinwie ns ousf ieh `rmme lut Nb stiyne` ne tfm eansycnty ag Xinpmn ne by `riehbatfmrs poicm wfa ns 6: ieh sfirp is
i eino. Aem tfne` tfit bn`ft netmrmst yau ns tfit wfme by Bab
gnrst cibm licd ta Xinwie igtmr i
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\mlmcci \nomy wis aem ag aur miroy tmicfmrs ilaut tfm mxpmrnmecmag hmbmetni. I eursm ieh mhucitar, \mlmcci wis hni`easmh wntf
Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism it i`m =>. Pfme sfm gnrst lm`ie fivne` hnggncuoty
tmicfne`, sfm tfau`ft nt wis lmciusm tfm caursm caetmet wis emw.
Saae, sfm demw sabmtfne` wis wrae` wntf fmr tfnedne` ieh bmb-
ary, ieh sfm suspmctmh tfit sfm bn`ft fivm Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism. Fmr
pfysncnie oitmr caegnrbmh fmr suspncnaes. \mlmcci tiu`ft us ilauttfm waroh ag hmbmetni. Gaooawne` irm sabm ag fmr wrnttme eatms
hmscrnlne` fmr mxpmrnmecm;
Hmprmssnae
Ciet siy wfit N wiet
Igrinh N ciet mxprmss by tfau`fts ieh warhstfus N rmbine
snomet ieh lmcabm hmprmssmh
N emmh caevmrsitnae ta lm soawoy
Nt ns hnggncuot ta gaooaw caevmrsitnae wntf sa bucf eansm
N gmmo tfit pmapom ture bm agg lmciusm N cieeat mxprmss bysmog
N hnsondm sacnio wardmrs, eursms, ieh grnmehs wfa ha eat trmit bm
is i rmio pmrsae Nt ns hnggncuot ta onvm aem hiy it i tnbm
\mlmcci demw tfit sfm wis oasne` fmr oie`ui`m sdnoos ieh tfm ilno-
nty ta cabbuencitm fmr wnsfms. Fmr wrntne` rmvmios tfit fmr aecm-
bmtncuoaus `ribbir wis sonppne`. Cabpomxnty lmcibm fmr memby4
sfm cauoh eat gaooaw tfm hne ieh rair ag cabpmtne` caevmrsitnaes
cioone` nt eansm. Fmr stitmbmet ilaut sacnio wardmrs, eursms, ieh
grnmehs wfa ha eat trmit fmr is i rmio pmrsae stnoo bidms us latf
sbnom ieh wnecm. Mvme tfau`f fmr ca`entnvm sdnoos wmrm ne hmconem, sfm
rmca`enzmh tfit pmapom wmrm trmitne` fmr hnggmrmetoy. Caesmqumetoy,
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sfm mxprmssmh fmr ie`mr ieh sabm rmsmetbmet tawirh tfmsm pmapom.\mbirdiloy, sfm wis tryne` ta crmitm i poie gar tfm guturm. Fmr eatms
nehncitm tfit sfm wis hmcnhne` ta tidm tfne`s aem hiy it i tnbm mvme
ng nt wis i stru``om.
\mihne` tfmsm fmirtgmot warhs, yau taa cie lm`ne ta uehmrstieh
tfm mxpmrnmecm ag Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism ieh atfmr hmbmetni. Pntfaut
uehmrstiehne` tfns waroh, wm cieeat passnloy hmvmoap succmssguostritm`nms gar nbpravne` tfm onvms ag aur grnmehs ar oavmh aems wntf
hmbmetni.
Mbatnaes Xfit Iccabpiey
Iozfmnbmrs HnsmismZmrsaes wntf hmbmetni cabbaeoy mxpmrnmecm tfmsm mbatnaes ieh
gmmone`s;
Parry ieh iexnmty Mblirrissbmet
Grustritnae Zirieani
Caegusnae Gmir
Oass Ie`mr
Sihemss Nsaoitnae ieh oaemonemss
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CABBAE MBAXNAES IEH GMMONE@SAG ZM\SAES PNXF IO[FMNBM\S HNSMISM
IEH AXFM\ HMBMEXNI
Mvmry pmrsaes rmspaesm ta Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism ar atfmr hmbmetni
ns hnggmrmet, lut biey pmapom wnoo mxpmrnmecm aem ar barm ag tfm gao-
oawne` mbatnaes.
Parry ieh Iexnmty
Pm ioo warry ar lmcabm iexnaus it tnbms. Zirmets warry ieh
lmcabm iexnaus ilaut tfmnr tmmei`mr wfa ns eat fabm ly curgmw.
Gibnonms biy warry ilaut fivne` meau`f baemy ta piy ioo ag tfmnr
lnoos it tfm meh ag tfm baetf. Sabm pmapom warry tfit i givarntm
cmomlrntys birrni`m ns ne traulom igtmr rmihne` tfm oitmst tiloanh it tfm
supmrbirdmt.
Xfm pmrsae wntf hmbmetni cie lmcabm caesubmh ly warry ieh
iexnmty. Aem grmqumet ly-prahuct ag hmbmetni ns tfit tfm pmrsae
cieeat smpiritm i sbioo warry grab ie ioo-caesubne` caecmre. Gar
mxibpom, i pmrsae wntf hmbmetni biy lm`ne warryne` ilaut hirdcoauhs ne tfm sdy smme tfrau`f i wnehaw. Omgt uecfmcdmh, tfm warry
cie `raw ieh wrmcd fns ar fmr igtmreaae. I sprne` sfawmr cauoh
ture neta i tfuehmrstarb!
Firry Emosae wis i prictncne` hmetnst wfme fm wis hni`easmh wntf
Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism ne fns bnh-gngtnms. Fm wis vmry iexnaus ilaut fns
ongm ieh tfm onvms ag fns gibnoy. Fm warrnmh, wfme ne spntm ag fns hmtmrbn-
eitnae ta dmmp gnt bmetiooy, spnrntuiooy, ieh pfysnciooy, fns scarms ae fns
bmetio mxib dmpt `ane` hawe. Fm warrnmh tfit fm wauoh eat lm ilom
ta `a fndne` wntf fns `riehsae wfme fm lmcibm aoh meau`f ta mekay i
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spart tfit fm oavmh. Fns hrmibs ieh ispnritnaes wmrm ae faoh, ieh fmfih hnggncuoty eat lmne` iexnaus ilaut tfm guturm.
Firrys warrnms irm typncio ag biey pmapom wntf hmbmetni. Xfmy
biy lmcabm upsmt ng tfmy tfned tfmyrm eat bmmtne` tfmnr mbpoay-
bmet alon`itnaes ar irm oitm gar ward. Xfns bidms smesm; ward cae-
subms bucf ag aur onvms, ieh nts uehmrstiehilom tfit tfns pirt ag i
pmrsaes ongm wnoo stnoo rmsurgicm ae accisnae.
Grustritnae
Iobast ioo ag us accisnaeiooy bnspoicm cir dmys. Xfm dmys ture up
mvmetuiooy, lut tfm smircf cie lm vmry grustritne`. Nbi`nem tfm grus-
tritnae ag oasne` yaur dmys ar wioomt mvmry hiy, mvmry faur.
Lmciusm sfart-tmrb bmbary ns itticdmh, tfm pmrsae wntf hmbme-
tni biy caestietoy lm oaadne` gar sabmtfne` fm ar sfm ns cmrtine fis
lmme bnspoicmh. Grustritnae biy iosa stmb grab ginone` ta cabpomtm
mvmryhiy tisds. Ne tfm barene`, i tfau`ftguo cirm pirtemr biy omivm
coatfms ae tfm lmh gar fmr batfmr wntf Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism. Fmr
batfmr stirms it tfm uehmrwmir, loausm, i sdnrt, i swmitmr, sfams, iehkmwmory. Pfit `ams ae gnrst1 Pfit biy fivm aecm lmme sa snbpom ns
eaw ie moilaritm smrnms ag stmps pmrgarbmh ne i cmrtine smqumecm; put
ae tfm fasm lmgarm tfm sfams, tfm lri lmgarm tfm loausm. ^mt, lmciusm
sfm oasms fmr ilnonty ta smqumecm, tfns wabie wntf hmbmetni gnehs
tfit tfm snbpom ict ag hrmssne` ns mxtrmbmoy grustritne`. Ae tap ag tfns,
tfm pmrsae ns misnoy tnrmh aut ar mxfiustmh ly tfm mxtri mggart ieh cae-cmetritnae nt tidms ta cabpomtm i aecm rautnem tisd.
Iccustabmh ta usne` fns rmisaene` ieh pralomb-saovne` ilnontnms ne
fns ward, Lrmvirh Crnfgnmoh ar Crnfg, tfm garbmr mxmcutnvm hnrmctar
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ag tfm Cauecno ag Stitm @avmrebmets, subbmh up fns mxpmrnmecm agIozfmnbmrs hnsmism wfme fm sinh ne grustritnae, Nt ns ondm by fmih ns
i ln` deal turemh ta agg.
Crnfg s hmscrnptnae ag Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism rmbines aem ag tfm lmst
wmvm fmirh4 nt ns pawmrguo ieh irtncuoitm.
Caegusnae
Pfit ha yau tfned wfme i grnmeh hams eat sfaw up gar i ouecf
hitm1 Biylm aem ag yau `at tfm tnbm ieh hitm bnxmh up. ^au fapm
eatfne` smrnaus fis fippmemh, sa yau try cioone` yaur grnmehs cmoo
pfaem, ieh tfm bystmry ns saovmhyau fivm aem ta hnggmrmet rmstiu-
riets! Xfm caegusnae fis lmme comirmh up, lut ng yaur grnmeh fih eat
ieswmrmh fns tmompfaem, yau wauoh stnoo lm it tfm rmstiuriet, wintne`
nbpitnmetoy.
Gar biey pmapom wntf hmbmetni, caegusnae ns i hinoy mxpmrnmecm.
Xfm pmrsae ns emvmr quntm surm ilaut ieytfne`tfm tnbm ag hiy,
tfm poicm, ieh tfm pmapom iraueh fnb ar fmr. Iosa, ueondm tfm ilavm
mxibpom, pmapom wntf hmbmetni agtme cieeat sart aut ar ward tfmnrwiy tfrau`f tfm caegusmh stitm.
\uly Bim ieh i vaouetmmr it i hiy cmetmr wmrm oaadne` it i pfata
iolub. Oaad, \uly Bim, yau irm hiecne` wntf i fiehsabm yaue`
bie. \uly Bim oavmh i `aah tnbm ieh smmbmh ta lm mekayne` rmonvne`
sabm gue tnbms. Pfme nt wis tnbm ta mit, sfm nesnstmh tfit tfmy lrne`
fnb ta ouecf, taa. Fnb1 tfm grnmeh waehmrmh. ^au deaw tfit encm
aem wm wmrm kust hiecne` wntf. Fms fue`ry taa, \uly Bim rmponmh.
\uly Bim wis pragauehoy caegusmh, lut sfm dmpt fmr smesm ag
fubar tfrau`faut fmr oae` kauremy wntf Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism.
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Sihemss
Ioo ag us mxpmrnmecm babmets ag sihemss. Zmrfips yau rmbmblmr
i ginomh rmoitnaesfnp ar tfm oass ag i lmoavmh pmt. Biylm i pan`eiet
stary ae tfm emws bidms yau tmiry. Sihemss cie lm gommtne`, ar nt cie
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PFIXS FIZZMENE@1 : gar sabm nhmis ilaut
litfne`.)
Ie`mr
Ioo ag us `mt ie`ry accisnaeiooy, ieh iotfau`f ea aem wiets ta
lmir tfm lruet ag nt, ie`mr fis i caestructnvm purpasm; Nt cie fmop us
gn`ft i littom ng tfrmitmemh. Nt cie rmomism firbguo strmss ieh pmet-
up mbatnae. Iosa, sabmtnbms `mttne` sabmtfne` agg yaur cfmst ly
lmcabne` ie`ry cie omih ta fmione` ne rmoitnaesfnps.
Nt ns i bytf tfit ioo, ar mvme bast, pmapom wntf Iozfmnbmrs hnsmismirm vnaomet. ^mt pmapom wntf hmbmetni cie lmcabm ie`ry. Xfmy biy
eat iowiys uehmrstieh wfit ns fippmene` iraueh tfmb ieh ta tfmb.
Ie`mr cie iosa stmb grab i oass ag caetrao wfme tfmy gmmo rusfmh ar
uehuoy prmssurmh ta ha sabmtfne`.
^au `a fabm! Ieenm ymoos ng ie`mrmh. Fmr fuslieh, Kicd Faobie,
siys tfit sfm fis iowiys lmme vmry nehmpmehmet, ieh tfit eaw, fivne`
ta hmpmeh ae atfmrs gar ioo fmr emmhs ns rmiooy hnggncuot gar fmr. Lmciusm
ag fmr Iozfmnbmrs hnsmism, fmr vaciluoiry ns vmry onbntmh, lut sfm stnoo
cie gneh warhs ta mxprmss fmrsmog wfme sfm lmcabms ie`ry.
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Aecm yau uehmrstieh wfit uehmronms tfm cfioome`ne` lmfivnars,yau lm`ne ta smm hmbmetni cirm ne i emw on`ft. Xfm Lmst Grnmehs
ippraicf fmops yau `ine tfns pmrspmctnvm. Ieh rmbmblmr; lmciusm
tfm pmrsaes bmhncio caehntnae wnoo eat cfie`m, nt ns wm, is grnmehs
ieh gibnoy, wfa bust cfie`m.
Lmst Grnmehs Zanetmrs
Gmmone`s ag oass, caegusnae, grustritnae, ieh ie`mr cie lm earbio
gmmone`s ciusmh ly hmbmetni.
Zmapom wntf hmbmetni irm wardne` vmry firh ta bidm smesm ag
tfmnr waroh, ta smm tfrau`f tfns caegusnae ieh bmbary oass.
Xidne` tnbm ta tfned ilaut tfm mxpmrnmecm ag tfm pmrsae fmops us
avmrcabm hmenio, hmvmoap mbpitfy, ieh lm i barm suppartnvm
ieh mggmctnvm cirm pirtemr.