Hello my fabulous readers, When I was a kid I thought I was like everyone else, and could do what everyone else did, and the things that happened to other girls would happen to me. I wasn’t worried about having a guy ask me out, or getting kissed, or even getting a boyfriend because it happened in the movies and on TV and to my cousins, so of course it would happen to me. But reality set in and I realized that it would be harder for me to get those romantic experiences that I longed for. My life is made up of very special people who can see past the mask Moebius puts on me into the person I really am, and I realized that it will take an incredible guy to see past it all, treat me with respect, and create that incredible connection we call love. Needless to say I am a hopeless romantic and I have started my search for that incredible guy, but I realized when I started this journey that I was going to have to do it a little differently than others. I have a speech impairment so talking to new people or people who don’t really know me scares me to death because I know it’s highly likely that they’ll have no idea what I am saying. I can’t just go over to the guy in the bar and strike up a conversation, or use my boss like flirting skills on the cute guy who I sit next to in class. So online dating sounded like the most successful route to go. For those of you
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Hello my fabulous readers,
When I was a kid I thought I was like everyone else, and could do what everyone else did, and the things that happened to other girls would happen to me. I wasn’t worried about having a guy ask me out, or getting kissed, or even getting a boyfriend because it happened in the movies and on TV and to my cousins, so of course it would happen to me. But reality set in and I realized that it would be harder for me to get those romantic experiences that I longed for. My life is made up of very special people who can see past the mask Moebius puts on me into the person I really am, and I realized that it will take an incredible guy to see past it all, treat me with respect, and create that incredible connection we call love.
Needless to say I am a hopeless romantic and I have started my search for that incredible guy, but I realized when I started this journey that I was going to have to do it a little differently than others. I have a speech impairment so talking to new people or people who don’t really know me scares me to death because I know it’s highly likely that they’ll have no idea what I am saying. I can’t just go over to the guy in the bar and strike up a conversation, or use my boss like flirting skills on the cute guy who I sit next to in class. So online dating sounded like the most successful route to go. For those of you who have tried it you know it has its ups and downs, but hopefully this bumpy ride will have an amazing destination. These are some tips and tricks that I learned through my journey of online dating.
1. Lay it all out on the tableI think putting something big in your life that may affect the other person on your profile is one of the most important things anyone can do to help get the best results possible with a little less heart ache. When I first started out online dating I didn’t put in my profile that I had a disability, so I would start talking to a guy he would want to take me out and then I would tell him that I had it. This resulted in a lot of guys not responding to me, deleting me, etc. even if he seemed really interested. Now this caused me a lot of heartache, and lowered my confidence. Then I thought what if I just put that I had a disability on my profile so that they know before they start talking to me. The results were shocking and all of the guys I have talked to since have been fine with me having a disability. So if you having something crucial in your life that you have to tell the person you’re talking to before you see them, put it on your profile it saves you a ton of time and heartache.
2. Tell them your boundaries and expectationsAnother thing that I have learned is you want to know what the other person wants and expects as well as telling them that info so that you guys can either proceed or move on to people who are more compatible. For example for me I’m looking to start a relationship, not a one night stand. Also you want to set boundaries with the other person of what you will and won’t do with or for them, so that no one feels uncomfortable or violated. What are your expectations in a relationship?
3. Be Yourself
Lastly be yourself because you are freaking amazing, and you need to show that to the world! If you really are searching for someone to start a relationship with, you want to be who you truly are so that way you know if they like you for you and if your personalities click with one another. Changing yourself for someone is like saying who you really are isn’t good enough to show to them, and no one should ever feel that way. We are all unique in our own way, and there’s going to be people who like us for that and there’s going to be people who don’t, as long as you love yourself, others will too. What is one thing that you love about yourself?
For those of you who are on this journey and for those of you thinking about embarking on it I wish you the best of luck. I truly hope you find someone who sees just how amazing you really are and gives you all you deserve and more. Hopefully these tips make your journeys a bit smoother.
