ACPE AcademyTending the Evolving

Supervisory Relationship

Terri Bolotin

November 29, 2012

My Question:

How are we as supervisors assisting our SE students towards collegiality?

Are there any conceptual schemas that can help us?

What gets in the way?

Helping Relationships Ask

Counseling Coaching

Past Pre sent FutureProblem SolutionFocus Focus

Consulting Teaching

Tell Adapted from D. Rock,

Quiet Leadership, 2007, p. 51

Roles Helper Can ChooseExpert – “Sage on the stage”Doctor – Diagnostician and

Healer/FixerBlank screen – analyze & elicit

reactionsProcess Consultant – “Guide on the

side”(adapted from Schein, 2009)

Traps of the HelperDispensing wisdom prematurely Meeting defensiveness

with more pressure Accepting the problem and over-

reacting to the dependence Giving support and reassurance Resisting taking on the helper role

Receiver Traps

Initial mistrust Relief Looking for attention, reassurance

and/or validation instead of help Resentment and defensiveness Stereotyping, unrealistic expectations,

and transference of perceptions (Schein, 2009)

Ladder of Inference

Actions

Beliefs

Conclusion

Interpret

Filter

Observable data

Three Main Functions of Supervision

Hawkins

Developmental Resourcing Qualitative

Kadushin

Educational Supportive Managerial

By Sven Hartenstein,

ANVC Communications

Power

Power: having the capacity to take effective action to meet needs.

Effective action entails having both material and emotional access to strategies to meet needs.

Traditional view of power: includes capacity to coerce others to give us what we want even if it doesn’t meet their needs.

The Blessing and Curse

The experience of being seen The use of taping Calling forth the holy trinity: feelings,

intellect, behavior Intimacy both with supervisor and SES

group Holy Grail – “use of self”

Purpose of Supervision

To attend to our work & our work lifework =

1. ritual (task - to include preparation for it)2. intention (approach to work)3. relationship (to task and others

connected to it)

Joan Wilmot, 2008

Questions for the Journey

What are your 3 worst fears of passionate supervision and your three best expectations?

How do they reflect those aspects of your practice you would most like to examine?

What 3 issues or problems tend to reoccur for you at work?

What 3 strengths show up in your supervision? If you were a CPE Candidate, what would you

be bringing to supervision?David, Owen, 2008

mystery

No common language or images for sacred

Impetus for supervisory work usually has roots in liminal experience

Memorable moments move us from world of the many to world of the one

Meaningful connections can move us together – a wonderful & dangerous reality