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    AngerAnger

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das

    by Dina A. Dasby Dina A. Das

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    There is that split secondThere is that split second

    between getting angry andbetween getting angry andremaining composed.remaining composed.

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    on y t e angry person couon y t e angry person coumake that split second last formake that split second last for

    two seconds, he just might betwo seconds, he just might beable to overcome that anger.able to overcome that anger.

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    IF YOU AREIF YOU AREANGRYANGRY: PLEASE BE: PLEASE BE

    INTELLIGENT!INTELLIGENT!++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    NEXT HAPPENS, YOULL SHUT UP!NEXT HAPPENS, YOULL SHUT UP!

    ((Dont expect to make thatDont expect to make thatdecisiondecisionafterafterbecoming angry!)becoming angry!)

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    ANCIENT SAYING:ANCIENT SAYING:

    Lust, Anger & GreedLust, Anger & Greed these arethese are

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    Every SANE man should give these upEvery SANE man should give these up

    For they lead toFor they lead to

    the degradation of the soul.the degradation of the soul.

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    So much for the soul now!So much for the soul now!Lets move on to a little funLets move on to a little fun

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    we now ave a o e ay.we now ave a o e ay.

    2 volunteers please!2 volunteers please!

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    ANCIENT STORY:ANCIENT STORY:

    The Man Who Took 100 BathsThe Man Who Took 100 Baths

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    Conclusion: In Every Tradition AndConclusion: In Every Tradition AndCulture of the World, There AreCulture of the World, There Are

    Records of saintly persons who haveRecords of saintly persons who haveovercome anger.overcome anger.

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    MODERN STORY:MODERN STORY:

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    EnglandEngland

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    Manage Your Anger In 2 secs.Manage Your Anger In 2 secs.

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    WE REALISE:WE REALISE:

    I AM NOT MY MINDI AM NOT MY MIND

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    If you say I am angry orIf you say I am angry orI sometimes becomeI sometimes become

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    angryangry then you canthen you cannever conquer anger!never conquer anger!

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    So long as you areSo long as you are

    identifying yourself withidentifying yourself with

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    ,,havent a hope of gettinghavent a hope of getting

    control of it!control of it!

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    Instead, we should becomeInstead, we should become

    consciousconscious My mindMy mindisisthreatening to enter its Angerthreatening to enter its Anger

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    ModeMode shall I allow it?shall I allow it?

    Take ownership & control of itTake ownership & control of it

    Or else It will control You!Or else It will control You!

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    now shall I allow the rascal to now shall I allow the rascal to

    break free or shall I restrain himbreak free or shall I restrain himandanduse my intellectuse my intellecttotodivertdivertitsits

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    oug s o some ng oug s o some ng o er an o er an the source of aggravationthe source of aggravationbeforebefore

    me. Such power, all saintlyme. Such power, all saintlypersons have.persons have.

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    If one thinks in this way andIf one thinks in this way and

    practices developing a dialoguepractices developing a dialogue

    internally,internally, then there is hopethen there is hope

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    his intellects ability tohis intellects ability tocontrolcontrol

    the mind adequately tothe mind adequately toovercomeovercomethe problem entirely.the problem entirely.

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    1.1. We are the first personWe are the first person

    to know when we areto know when we are

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    ..Nostrils flare, breathingNostrils flare, breathing

    changes etc.changes etc.

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    3.3. Make this decisionMake this decision NOWNOW

    (while cool(while cool--headed):headed):

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    time we detect angertime we detect anger

    beginning to surge in us.beginning to surge in us.

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    4.4. Shut up. Excuse ourselvesShut up. Excuse ourselves

    humbly. Go work on it. Lethumbly. Go work on it. Let

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    get to the root of whatsget to the root of whats

    really troubling you.really troubling you.

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    USINGUSINGYOUR ANGERYOUR ANGER

    VS.VS.

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das

    LOSINGLOSINGYOUR ANGERYOUR ANGER

    The Story of the Saintly SnakeThe Story of the Saintly Snake

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    5.5. Be honest withBe honest with

    yourself: acknowledgeyourself: acknowledge

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    repression accomplishesrepression accomplishes

    nothing.nothing.

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    6.6. So what to do with theSo what to do with the

    anger if we avoidanger if we avoid

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    the anger is stillthe anger is still

    remaining within us.remaining within us.

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    7.7. We MUST learn toWe MUST learn to

    Introspect.Introspect.

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    Some psychologists and spiritualists say:Some psychologists and spiritualists say:

    It is our own faults that we subconsciouslyIt is our own faults that we subconsciously

    see reflected in others which makes ussee reflected in others which makes usspontaneously dislike them.spontaneously dislike them.

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    SOMETIMES WE ARE ABLE TO TOLERATE OURSOMETIMES WE ARE ABLE TO TOLERATE OUROFFICE MATES SO MUCH,OFFICE MATES SO MUCH, BUT NOT THE FOLKSBUT NOT THE FOLKSAT HOME?AT HOME?

    FAMILIARITY BREEDS CONTEMPT?FAMILIARITY BREEDS CONTEMPT?

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das

    W yW y

    Lack of Introspection, Absence of CommunicationLack of Introspection, Absence of Communicationchannels:channels: no quality time spent for the purposeno quality time spent for the purposeof learning to communicateof learning to communicate

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    SOMETIMES WE ARE ABLE TO TOLERATE ASOMETIMES WE ARE ABLE TO TOLERATE AGREAT DEAL FROM PEOPLE WE LIKE, BUTGREAT DEAL FROM PEOPLE WE LIKE, BUTVERY LITTLE FROM THOSE WHOM WEVERY LITTLE FROM THOSE WHOM WE

    DONT LIKE.DONT LIKE.

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das

    ,,WOULDNT YOU FEEL DISCRIMINATEDWOULDNT YOU FEEL DISCRIMINATEDAGAINST?AGAINST?

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    8.8. How Do We Begin ToHow Do We Begin To

    Introspect?Introspect?

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    Anger Can Be Defined as theAnger Can Be Defined as the

    product of aproduct of a desiredesire that hasthat has

    been frustrated.been frustrated.

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    8.8. If Anger Came FromIf Anger Came FromDesire Where DidDesire Where Did ThatThat

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    Come from?Come from?

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    The Forces Of Desire SitThe Forces Of Desire Sit

    In the SensesIn the Senses

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    ,,Mind and In TheMind and In The

    Intellect.Intellect.

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    Alright, mateAlright, mate how didhow did

    the desires get there?the desires get there?

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    of the Senses, One Becomesof the Senses, One Becomes

    attached to them.attached to them.ContemplationContemplation-->>attachmentattachment-->>desiredesire-->>angeranger

    -->>greedgreed-->>bewilderment of memorybewilderment of memory--> f> fallall--downdown

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    A problem is not a problem if you:A problem is not a problem if you:

    Solving Problems InstantlySolving Problems Instantly

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    (a) Acknowledge its there(a) Acknowledge its there

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    A problem is not a problem if you:A problem is not a problem if you:

    Solving Problems InstantlySolving Problems Instantly

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    yy

    all elements involvedall elements involved

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    A problem is not a problem if you:A problem is not a problem if you:

    (c) after examining all possible(c) after examining all possible

    Solving Problems InstantlySolving Problems Instantly

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    lines of action available, dolines of action available, dowhatever you are able towhatever you are able to

    towards solving the problemtowards solving the problemunder the present circumstances.under the present circumstances.

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    A problem is not a problem if you:A problem is not a problem if you:

    Solving Problems InstantlySolving Problems Instantly

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    on with life till it comeson with life till it comes

    back to you once again.back to you once again.

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    A problem is not a problem if you:A problem is not a problem if you:

    (e)(e) THEN JUST WAITTHEN JUST WAIT for thefor the

    Solving Problems InstantlySolving Problems Instantly

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    ot er party to act respon orot er party to act respon orWAIT TILL IT [the problem] HITSWAIT TILL IT [the problem] HITS

    YOU AGAINYOU AGAIN meanwhile, get onmeanwhile, get onwith your life.with your life.

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    you cant guarantee actionyou cant guarantee actionfrom the other art nor can oufrom the other art nor can ou

    Solving Problems InstantlySolving Problems Instantly

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    demand it if they are not asdemand it if they are not ascommitted to building thecommitted to building the

    relationship as you are.relationship as you are.

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    For now, the problemFor now, the problem is alreadyis alreadysolvedsolved[for the present at least][for the present at least]

    Solving Problems InstantlySolving Problems Instantly

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    remain open to you for theremain open to you for the

    present, and worrying about it orpresent, and worrying about it or

    thinking endlessly would bethinking endlessly would besimply unproductive!simply unproductive!

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    The ball [and possibly the wholeThe ball [and possibly the wholegame itself] is now in thegame itself] is now in the

    Solving Problems InstantlySolving Problems Instantly

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    other persons courtother persons courtBe cool and just see if they wantBe cool and just see if they want

    to play ball with you.to play ball with you.

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    --------------------------------------------------------------------------

    *The above could be analysed as*The above could be analysed ascommitmentcommitment--testingtesting--approach to conflictapproach to conflictresolution as o osed to directlresolution as o osed to directl

    Solving Problems InstantlySolving Problems Instantly

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    confronting or trying to resolve theconfronting or trying to resolve theproblem itself i.e. the attitude of thinkingproblem itself i.e. the attitude of thinkingthat until all issues are clarified and fullythat until all issues are clarified and fully

    settled, I shall continue to feel ill at easesettled, I shall continue to feel ill at easebecause the problem is still pending.because the problem is still pending.

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    In this way, your weakness (eg. anger)In this way, your weakness (eg. anger)

    can become our stren th.can become our stren th.

    Making Your WeaknessMaking Your WeaknessBecome A StrengthBecome A Strength

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    It remains a weak spot only whenIt remains a weak spot only when

    you dont identify it or dont takeyou dont identify it or dont takeremedial measures!remedial measures!

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    Anger is our common weaknessAnger is our common weakness

    its not a problem once you takeits not a problem once you take

    ConclusionConclusion

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    precautions so that you do notprecautions so that you do notsay or do anything damagingsay or do anything damaging

    when you are angrywhen you are angry

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    SHUT UP and remove yourself fromSHUT UP and remove yourself fromthe scene, then your anger isthe scene, then your anger is

    ConclusionConclusion

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    under the ocean. You may stillunder the ocean. You may still

    become angry, but no untowardbecome angry, but no untoward

    consequences arise out of it.consequences arise out of it.

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    If everyone can learn to find peaceIf everyone can learn to find peace

    withinwithin himselfhimself, there would be, there would bepeace within thepeace within the familyfamily. If. If

    ConclusionConclusion

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    families are peaceful, thefamilies are peaceful, thecommunitycommunity is peaceful. Whenis peaceful. When

    communities are at peace,communities are at peace,nationsnations are peaceful.are peaceful.

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    When nations are peaceful, all warsWhen nations are peaceful, all warswould end. So anger managementwould end. So anger management

    ConclusionConclusion

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    great tools for elevating thegreat tools for elevating the

    consciousness of mankind from theconsciousness of mankind from the

    beastly status to the higher levels.beastly status to the higher levels.

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    GUIDING WORDSGUIDING WORDS(if you hold on to them now, theyll be very helpful to(if you hold on to them now, theyll be very helpful to

    clear your mind when your deep in some conflict.)clear your mind when your deep in some conflict.)

    1.1. Dont wear your heart on yourDont wear your heart on your

    SKILLSSKILLS

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    Hide it and open up at the rightHide it and open up at the right

    place and time with the rightplace and time with the rightperson.person. (& close up again when done.)(& close up again when done.)

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    GUIDING WORDSGUIDING WORDS

    (if you hold on to them now, theyll be very helpful to(if you hold on to them now, theyll be very helpful toclear your mind when your deep in some conflict.)clear your mind when your deep in some conflict.)

    2.2. Dont ever become aDont ever become a

    SKILLSSKILLS

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    pretenderpretender remember theremember thesaying:saying: Above All Else, ToAbove All Else, To

    Thine Ownself Be True.Thine Ownself Be True.

    A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T A N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

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    3.3. If youve been hurt by a friend, do beIf youve been hurt by a friend, do behonesthonest you must let him know inyou must let him know in

    good time.. if not, the relationship willgood time.. if not, the relationship willnot grow problems in a relationshipnot grow problems in a relationship

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    are like mountains that must beare like mountains that must becrossed, to bring us to a highercrossed, to bring us to a higher

    plateauplateau its natural in the growth ofits natural in the growth ofloving relationships.loving relationships.

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    4.4. Sometimes weSometimes we hurthurt ourour

    beloved ones unknowingly.beloved ones unknowingly.Sometimes we do soSometimes we do so

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    knowingly or subconsciously.knowingly or subconsciously.Why would we want to doWhy would we want to do

    that?..../that?..../

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    4.4. ./ Because we need to test./ Because we need to testand find out if they still care forand find out if they still care forus:us: If they do care, they willIf they do care, they willget hurtget hurt not otherwise.not otherwise. ItIthel s us to trust that ersonhel s us to trust that erson

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    more and to overcome ourmore and to overcome ourinsecurities at being exposed toinsecurities at being exposed topotential exploitation or hurt bypotential exploitation or hurt bythat person.that person. (Take care not to(Take care not tobe manipulative though!!)be manipulative though!!)

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    5.5. Love brings with it expectation.Love brings with it expectation.

    Expectation of gentleness, ofExpectation of gentleness, ofreciprocation. Do not expectreciprocation. Do not expect

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    any honour or reciprocationany honour or reciprocationwhere mutual relationship doeswhere mutual relationship does

    not existnot exist

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    6.6. {For those who believe in God,{For those who believe in God,

    it is said that Pure Love existsit is said that Pure Love exists

    only with God.. See trnadonly with God.. See trnad

    DinaDina--Anukampana DasAnukampana Das A N G E R M A N A G E M E N TA N G E R M A N A G E M E N T

    ap esser mor a s areap esser mor a s arenecessarily selfish because ofnecessarily selfish because of

    the natural demands of theirthe natural demands of theirsenses and mind.}senses and mind.}