BELLRINGER“A happy home is more than a roof over your head – it’s a foundation under your feet.” Anonymous

In what ways does a happy home provide a person with both a “roof” and a “foundation”?

Chapter 2 Families Make A Difference

NEEDS

Something required for a person’s survival and growth.

Types: emotional, physical, social, intellectual and moral

How do families help meet these needs?

Chapter 2.1 Families Meet Many Needs

NEEDS VS WANTS

Wants – things that are desired but not essential.

Needs motivate family behavior.

Wants can also motivate, however people need to recognize what is truly essential for building a strong family.

EMOTIONS

All the feelings you have in response to thoughts, remarks, and events.

There are many different emotions that arise in families.

The key is to promote positive emotions and manage negative emotions.

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT Everything families do to help meet the

emotional needs of each family member.

Families meet the emotional needs of one another by sharing good times and handling difficult times.

Emotional support is a two way street that can create strong family bonds.

Emotionally supportive families offer shelter from the outside world

PERSONALITY All the characteristics that make a

person unique.

Family influence is a very strong factor of a person’s personality, whether negative or positive.

ASSIGNMENT Drawing Activity

Multiple Intelligence Inventory

Winnie The Pooh Personality Test

MEETING PHYSICAL NEEDS

People need food, shelter, and clothing to survive.

Most families do the best they can to provide these needs for each member.

When family members see this, they value the caring and effort that has been made.

PROTECTING FAMILY MEMBERS

Families protect one another by:

Health care

Rules to protect children

What are some ways your family protects you?

BUILDING SOCIAL SKILLS

How to get along with others. What behavior is acceptable where you

live. How to be independent or take care of

yourself. What responsibilities you have to your

world.

Socialization – learning how to get along in society.

PROMOTING INTELLECTUAL GROWTH

Families contribute to the intellectual development of all family members, but their impact on the children is especially important.

The family is a child’s first teacher

ASSIGNMENT

List 5 tasks or decisions you were responsible for at ages 5, 10 and at your present age.

QUESTION: How do the changes or additions in the list reflect your growing independence?

Now list 5 tasks or decisions you feel capable of making, but are not yet allowed to make.

QUESTION: Why are these items forbidden? Are there legal restrictions? What could you do to show you are responsible enough to handle these tasks or decisions?

VALUES

Beliefs and feelings about what is important.

The set of values you have is called your value system.

Chapter 2.2 Families Teach Values

THE IMPACT OF VALUES

Some people value privacy

Some people value companionship

Core values of society are honesty, kindness, and social responsibility

Positive values guide choices and actions in favorable ways

When values are upheld, life can be better and families can be strengthened

MORAL CODE – the values of right and wrong that guide you.

Common values, such as honesty, loyalty, friendship, and responsibility, guide decisions and behavior in positive ways.

How do you know what to include in your moral code?

LEARNING VALUES

Example

Direct teaching

Religious training

Families teach values in several ways:

DEVELOPING A VALUE SYSTEM

Families provide the foundation for a value system.

Many influences affect your thinking in both positive and negative ways.

GUIDELINES TO FOLLOW

Follow the rules of society

Choose right over wrong

Learn from others

Become aware of your values

Contribute to the family value system

When developing a value system remember to:

ACTING ON VALUESValues mean nothing without action.

Learn them, then live by them.

LOST GENERATION

LIVING MY VALUES ACTIVITY

Fold piece of paper in half (hamburger style), leave folded.

List 10 things you spend your time doing (activities).

Turn page over. List your 5 most important values.

Open paper. Draw lines to match the value to the activity.

How do they match up?

Do you need to re-evaluate your values or how you spend your time?

ASSIGNMENT

Find a children’s book that teaches a certain value.

Write a half page summary of the book.

How are those values conveyed?

Can a child use this to begin to develop their own value system?