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Say Goodbye ToLoneliness

How To Meet, Attractand Keep Great Men

Justin Dean

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Say Goodbye ToLoneliness

How To Meet, Attractand Keep Great Men

Justin Dean

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ContentsBody Language Basics .......................................................... 5

Female Body Language .......................................................... 10

Male Body Language ................................................................ 13

Dismissive Body Language ............................................... 16

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Body LanguageBasics

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Body Language Basics

hen talking about communication between men and

women, the consistently most used method is via the

interpretation of body language. Body language is the

most universal of languages. Certain gestures or physical acts

communicate different things. Often times, these gestures are far

more telling and communicative than even the most direct of

words. Consider all the movies that we see every, single day and

anytime there is that recurring storyline involving two characters

who do not speak the same language. They always manage a way

through direct or indirect body language to communicate. It is

cliche and meant to be adorable, but it is also just a standard,

plain and simple way to communicate.

It is a subject of dispute as to exactly how much body language we

use, but researchers estimate more that 60% of all communication

is derived from non-verbal communication. This means that body

language is, in fact, more effective and more a part of

communicating than all the words we say. That's quite

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substantial, obviously. So perhaps it would not be a bad idea to

consider what areas of our lives are most impacted by body

language.

Somewhere between rarely

and never, I presume, unless we are avid poker players.

But perhaps we should consider how such a widely used tool of

communication is impacting us. Think about everyone you

communicate with in a day. There are people at work, people at

school, close friends, acquaintances, mothers, fathers, sisters,

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brothers, children and significant others. All of these people are

experience a good portion of our interaction in the form of body

language. This can have quite an impact on the state of these

relationships. I have a very good friend who loves her mother very

much and spends a great deal of time visiting or traveling with

her. It is without a shadow of a doubt that at some point during

their adventures and time together, one of them will get mad at

the other based on a severe use of body language.

They are both very emotional and physical creatures. They speak

volumes with body language, but they are both ridiculously

overdramatic, so they are constantly misinterpreting each other.

They refer to each others' action as "huffy and childish"

constantly. It is only ever short lived once they utilize their verbal

communication skills to hash out that neither of them intended to

convey "huffiness," so it is a fairly minimal situation, but it is

amazing how easily they can miscommunicate simply with

actions.

This is in nearly complete opposition with my sister and I who are

very in tune with each other's body language and with a great

accuracy are quite capable of minimal speech in most situations

and can strictly operate on body language if necessary. Now these

are two extremes in the world of body language. There is the

blatantly wrong interpretation of body language and there is the

accurate interpretation. Unfortunately, both happen with nearly

even frequency.

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So if body language is being frequently misinterpreted, what does

this mean about our ability to communicate? Well, it means that a

good deal of our communication is miscommunication and that

some of the things you are saying with your body language are not

what you are meaning to say and some of the things you are

reading from other people's body language is not what they are

meaning to say. Consider those moments when someone offers

you something and you politely decline, but they get it for you

anyway because you seemed like you really wanted it... Yes, you

are now tied down with a useless item that you sincerely didn't

want because your well played manners were misunderstood. Or

the girl or guy that you like wants to be "just friends" because they

did not understand your real intensions. As you can see, the

matter of deciphering body language is quite tricky.

So, we understand that interpreting body language isn't as easy as

it seems.

It could be quite a bit.

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Female BodyLanguage

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Female BodyLanguage

et's start with the realm of flirting and figure out what

signs we generally give off. Both men and woman have a

lot of things we give off as a sign of interest. A glance or a

look of interest is the easiest. Women do cute things like circle the

rim of our wine glass, twirling a pen, touching our shoulder or

neck. They send up flares with any light touch of a man. Men will

focus on a women, stand close to her and maybe even gently

touch the small of her back to show that they are interested. For

women, hair is a great weapon in the art of body language. If a

woman is interested in a man, she will play with her hair, tuck it

behind her ears, play with her bangs and wraps strands around her

fingers in the most alluring fashion. Men use their stance and arm

movements to be alluring. No woman can resist a man who is

standing across the room with a confident and authoritative

stance.

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Both men and women will also use slightly more seductive

methods to draw attention to the mouth, perhaps playing with a

fork or spoon or by accentuating words as he or she is speaking.

Crossing of the arms or a similar stance draws unavoidable

attention to the chest area. Women are likely to show off their

cleavage while men focus on their strong pectoral muscles.

Crossing, uncrossing and re-crossing of the legs, draws attention...

well, you get the idea. This is true for both men and women.

Because humans are sexual creatures, it is inevitable to not draw

focus to the genital region when it is literally being "flashed" in

front of a person.

Playing with your

shoes implies you are

not planning an exit

any time soon. And,

last but certainly not

least, a great smile can

create a bat signal-like

affect on every man

or women within a

mile. The smile is one

of the most universal

features that the

opposite sex is

attracted to.

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Male BodyLanguage

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Male BodyLanguage

o how do men flirt with body language? Blessedly, men are

much less complicated than women, so this should be easy

for women to understand if they would just pay attention.

Men are far more animal-like in their flirting. First of all, when a

man shows interest in a woman, his grooming habits instantly

improve. It may seem bizarre to women who adore grooming, but

for a man it is far less necessary in their minds. If a man is putting

the energy into looking nice, it is for a reason. Next, men who are

looking to flirt will attempt to impress by standing up straighter

or taller and sticking out there chest to look more impressive.

A man may also attempt to pull in his stomach and keep his

hands on his hips. When a man is interested in another woman,

he will tend to look at her for longer than what is considered

normal time frame. He will glance at the subject of his interest

frequently and may smile quite consistently. He will more likely

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than not make an attempt to touch the woman in whatever least

obvious fashion he can.

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Dismissive BodyLanguage

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Dismissive BodyLanguage

ow we have gotten through the easy stuff to do. The

more difficult is what to avoid doing if you are genuinely

interested. Luckily, most of these are not gender specific,

but more of an international sign. Picking lint off of your clothes,

messing with your collar, checking your watch or inspecting

fingernails are all strong signs of boredom for both men and

women. With actions like that, you are telling the other person

that you would rather be doing these dull tasks than continuing

the conversation further. Placing the head in their hands is also a

sign of boredom.

Men and women should remember to keep their hands on the lap

or on the table in front of them if they are sitting; or comfortably

hanging by their side if they are not. Tapping of the nails or

fingers on things is also a big indicator of boredom, and is also

dreadfully annoying. Keep annoying habits still during

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conversation. Additionally, do not fidget with things laying

around as well. Whatever is sitting on the table or any other place

should remain there if not in use for some purpose other than

simply being tampered with to feed nervous habits.

Stroking the chin while looking at someone implies judgment.

Women are likely to be more in tune to this than men are. That

act of decision making also involves the narrowing of the eyes and

implies an act of dislike. It creates a scowl-like look and is a

universal look of anger. Some

people instinctively narrow

their eyes as a thinking

action, but that send the

wrong signal. Looking down

while you are around other

people is a strong indicator of

disinterest. Eye contact is the

key to relay the fact that you

are interested. Leaning away

from someone you like is also

a sign of boredom and

disinterest. This sends a

wrong message, particularly sitting around a table.

Whether you are a man or a woman, if you genuinely enjoy the

person you are sitting with, make an effort to remain in a close

proximity during conversation. But be leery of body language

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triggers that could send the wrong message. For example,

touching your face, particularly your nose, is an act indicating

deception. Covering your mouth is a common action for people

who are lying. Do your best to keep your hands away from the

mouth. Another lie-related action is faking a smile. This too is a

sign of deception. It's also quite noticeable. Don't make this

obvious mistake. It will not be perceived well.

Not directly facing the person you are speaking to also indicates a

lack of interest. It is also incredibly disrespectful. Face forward

during a conversation and engage with the person with whom you

are speaking.

Crossing your arms tightly and in a hostile manner is a sign of

defensive resistance. Now I know I said that draws attention to

your chest in a flirting capacity, but it is a much more delicate

action in that sense. Pulling your arms tightly is a defense

mechanism and quite uncomfortable for everyone. Scratching the

back of your head is a sign of doubt and uncertainty. It is also

sometimes interpreted as lying.

Try to keep your hands clear of your face and head during

conversation. Slouching your shoulders is an indicator of low self-

esteem. This is not even remotely attractive. Keep your shoulders

perked up to show an attitude strong with self confidence.

Don't touch your genitals. This may seem obvious, but it is a

constantly-made error. Men tend to make this error more often

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than women for some reason. First of all, resting your hands on,

grabbing, scratching, guarding or any other strange action will

lose you any self respect before you even have a chance to earn it.

This is also a strong sign of a guarded person or a person afraid to

be vulnerable. As if that is not enough, it is just plain disturbing.

Try to keep your hands to your side. Wiping your sweaty hands

onto your clothes is also disturbing, but a frantic and nervous

action as well. Do you best to relax and calm down until the other

person stops talking or engage a cocktail napkin in a very stealth

manner if possible.

A clear indicator of discomfort is sitting on the edge of your chair.

It easily causes others to become uncomfortable too. Keep your

tush firmly planted in the chair as the engineer intended it to be.

Repeatedly shifting body weight from foot to foot is also an

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indication of discomfort. This is a quick way to kill a

conversation. Keep your feet firmly planted only shifting feet ever

2 to 3 minutes at most to avoid driving your conversation partner

awkwardly and rapidly away.

- usually indicates stress, impatience or

boredom. Monitor your habits and practice keeping your limbs

at rest.

a pen, paper

ball, etc. This is another sign of anxiety. It can also be

interpreted as a lack of preparedness. It's always best to keep your

hands comfortably at rest when you're in the presence of others.

Now that you have some clear guidance as to what your body

language is really saying when you are interacting in a flirtatious

way, be sure to consider the next time you find a member of the

opposite sex you are interested in. Also, use this guide to be able

to better able to decipher the messages the other persons' body

language is sending. With this information, body language will no

longer be the secret and nearly impossible to decipher code that it

was before. You can enhance your communication, your

understanding and your level of attraction simply by engaging

them to your advantage.