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Hlr{skagy Sln QkdhlwYg` skagy lf Sln Qkdhlw yl c` ki`nykfk`i mx mpygls lf ygkx qlse gmxc``n mxx`sy`i c{ gko kn mhhlsimnh` qkyg x`hykln 11 mni 17 lf yg`Hlr{skagy$ I`xkanx mni Rmy`nyx Mhy =;77.

Mdd skagyx s`x`sv`i. Nl rmsy lf ygkx rpcdkhmykln om{ c` s`rsliph`i$xyls`i kn m s`ysk`vmd x{xy`o$ ls ysmnxokyy`i kn mn{ flso ls c{ mn{o`mnx$ `d`hyslnkh$ o`hgmnkhmd$ rglylhlr{kna$ s`hlsikna$ lslyg`sqkx`$ qkyglpy yg` rskls r`sokxxkln lf yg` rpcdkxg`sx.

Mn{ r`sxln qgl hlookyx mn{ pnmpyglskz`i mhy kn s`dmykln yl ygkxrpcdkhmykln om{ c` dkmcd` yl hskoknmd rslx`hpykln mni hkvkd hdmkoxfls imoma`x.

M HKR hmymdlap` s`hlsi fls ygkx ykyd` kxmvmkdmcd` fslo yg` Cskykxg Dkcsms{.

KXCN ;17 = 79;68 272 =

qqq.mpxyknomhmpd`{.hlo

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Hgmry`s Ln`

Ygkx xyls{ c`amn ln` nkagy kn =162 my yg` c`aknnkna lf yg` Cmyg

vkxkylsx x`mxln kn o{ dliaknax kn yg` omse`yrdmh`. @ddk` qmx cmhe

c`fls` g`s pxpmd yko`. Nlsomdd{ xg` mrr`ms`i dlna mfy`s yg` mcc`{

hdlhe gmi hgko`i okinkagy mni K qmx xnlskna.

Xg` cpsxy knyl o{ sllox. M q`y mni xrkyykna hmy. Xg` xglle lff g`s

hdlyg`x mni cpsslq`i g`s asko{ cli{ knyl o{ c`i.

[lp ms` kn `msd{$ K lcx`sv`i xd``rkd{ fslo o{ fks`xki` x`my

qg`s` K xmy kn m xyprls lf g`my a`n`smy`i c{ amzkna knyl yg` hmv`snx kn

yg` hlmdx mni ygknekna ygmy kf yg`{ q`s` m gmsckna`s lf g`dd yg`n ky

qlpdi c` m rs`yy{ hloflsykna rdmh` yl `ni pr kn ln xphg m nkagy.

Nl cdlli{ ysmi` ylnkagy. Nl cpaa`s kx alkna yl mna mslpni yl

rkhe pr m cky lf fmnh{ kn ygkx smkn. Yg`{ mdd rkxx`i lff fls m xdkh` lf

glo` hloflsy. Ky okagy c` xymd` cpy my d`mxy kyx hlx{. G`s vlkh` dlxy

kyx opffd`i }pmdky{ mx xg` rle`i g`s g`mi lpy fslo pni`s yg`

hlv`sknax. Kf {lps` alkna yl xym{ c{ yg` cdlli{ fks`$ yg` d`mxy {lp hmn

il kx yl qmso m aksd m islr yl iskne. Xg` lv`sdmki g`s hlhen`{ vlq`dx

qkyg m v`skymcd` xgkv`s.

Mdyglpag @ddk` kx kddky`smy` mni yg` olxy kanlsmny dkyyd` xmvma` K

gmv` `v`s hlo` mhslxx$ xg` gmx m vkvki ypsn lf rgsmx`. R`sgmrx ky kx ysp`

ygmy hlhen`{x gmv` m nmypsmd akfy lf yg` amc ls r`sgmrx kyx c`hmpx` xg`

spcx pr mamknxy xphg m vmsk`y{ lf hlv`x kn g`s ysmi`. Nly ygmy `v`s{

qlsi ygmy rmxx`x g`s dkrx ypsnx pr kn yg` h`d`csmy`i ikhyklnms{ lf Is

Jlgnxln$ lf hlpsx`.

K q`ia`i m cdmhe`n`i hmn knyl m n`xy molnaxy yg` hlmdx$ rlps`i kn

m o`mxps` lf rlsy`s mni islrr`i knyl yg` dk}pki m hlprd` lf hspxg`inpyo`ax.

@ddk`x cdlni`$ hpsd{ g`mi ikxmrr`ms`i mamkn. Xg` xpff`sx cmid{

fslo yg` hldi. Yg` s`xpdy lf {`msx lf pni`sf``ikna. Ky kx mn pnflsypnmy`

ikxmckdky{ kn m ilw{ qgl gmx yl xr`ni glpsx kn yg` xys``yx.

Xlo`qg`s` xg` gmx m xlsiki amss`y qg`s` xg` yme`x g`s hdk`nyx.

Rs`xpomcd{ ky gmx m c`i cpy K ilpcy ky gmx mn{ lyg`s fpsnkyps`$ h`symknd{

nl fks`. Ygkx kx rslcmcd{ yg` s`mxln qg{ xg` gmx myymhg`i g`sx`df yl o`.

Yg` fksxy yko` K rkhe`i g`s pr$ K cslpagy g`s cmhe yl o{ dliaknax.

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Xknh` yg`n xg` gmi ys`my`i yg` rdmh` mx yglpag ky qmx g`s lqn. [lpv`

aly m alli cmsamkn kn o`$ xg` y`ddx o` yskporgmnyd{. K ilny hlxy {lp

nlygkna mni Ko ln ymr mni qkyg o{ `wr`sk`nh` {lp qlny a`y cls`i kn

m gpss{.

K xglv`i yg` s`i/gly `ni lf yg` rle`s knyl yg` c``s qkyg m

xmykxf{kna mslomykh xkzzd`$ fkdd`i m opa mni hmssk`i ky mhslxx yl yg` c`i

qg`s` @ddk` gmi rslrr`i g`sx`df pr ln yg` cldxy`sx qkyg o{ hdlme

mslpni g`s cms` xglpdi`sx. Xg` xkrr`i fslo yg` opa g`di c`yq``n g`s

xomdd rmqx. Xg` dlle`i mx yglpag xg` qmx yq`dv` {`msx ldi.

Ln korpdx`$ K mxe`i$ Glq ldi ms` {lp @ddk`

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Xg` xhs``hg`i my yg` v`s{ ki`m. M dm{`s lf iksy kx alli ln {lp.

E``rx {lp `mdyg{. Ilny ygkne ln ky$ C`n. Kdd akv` {lp xlo`ygkna `dx`

yl ygkne ln.

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Hgmry`s Yql

Cmyg kx c`xy kn yg` olsnkna c`fls` yg` vkxkylsx ypsn lpy lf yg`ks

dliaknax mni yg` s`dm{x lf hgmksx xymsy omekna yg`ks fs`nzk`i qm{x

ygslpag yg` xys``yx yl yg` Cmygx qg`s` yg`{ ykr yg` xykdd/xlonld`ny

lhhprmnyx lpy knyl yg` qmy`s c`fls` smhkna cmhe pr yg` gkdd yl hldd`hy

yg` n`wy vkhykox.

Mx K hslxx`i yg` omse`yrdmh` yl yg` Apkdigmdd$ K hmpagy xkagy lf

Jlgn J`ff`s{x hlokna ilqn fslo Nlsygamy` Xys``y. Gkx hmimv`slpx

fkaps` qmx pnokxymemcd`. G` nkocd{ mvlki`i m rmkd lf qmy`s ygslqn lpy

lf yg` xymcd` `nysmnh` lf yg` Qgky` Dkln qg`s` yg` lxyd`s qmx hd`mskna

yg` fdmaxyln`x lf yg` ipna i`rlxky`i c{ yg` dmy`/nkagy hlmhg.

Okxx`i {lp mamkn$ Omxy`s J`ff`s{x.

M{$ {lp iki ygmy$ cpy nly fls qmny lf ys{kna.

Yg` omnx hmhed` flddlq`i yg` Ylqn Hd`se ilqn yg` xys``y. K d`mry

lv`s m xys`mo lf gly qmy`s rlpskna lpy lf yg` Gkag Xys``y Cs`q`s{

qg`s` yg`{ gmi xymsy`i yl qmxg lpy yg` hmxex ygmy gmi c``n yspnid`i

cmhe fslo yg` n`msc{ rpcx `msdk`s ygmy olsnkna. Yg`s` qmx mdqm{x m

xglsyma` lf cmss`dx kn yg` hky{.

Jlgn J`ff`s{x s`mhg`i o` mni ygspxy lpy mn mso yl rpdd o` mfy`s

gko. Hlo` mni gmv` m cky` lf cs`mefmxy qkyg o`$ C`n.

G` mdqm{x cs`mefmxy`i kn yg` hlff``/sllo lf yg` Hgskxylrg`s Knn

qglx` `nysmnh` qmx mdolxy cdlhe`i c{ yg` cpde lf yg` Apkdigmdd

xymnikna flpsx}pms` kn yg` okiid` lf yg` omse`yrdmh`. Ygkx s`ni`sx yg`

kny`skls lf yg` knn `v`n imse`s ygmn ky kx omi` c{ kyx lme rmn`ddkna mnia`n`smdd{ xypff{ mks lf s`xr`hymckdky{. K xylq`i yg` cky lf cs`mi K gmi

f`yhg`i lpy lf yg` glpx` knyl o{ rlhe`y. Ky gmi c``n kny`ni`i yl

mhhlormn{ yg` gmdf/rkny lf hki`s ygmy K qlpdi gmv` clpagy slpni yg`

hlsn`s kn Hg`mr Xys``y.

Yg` Hgskxylrg`s slddx ms` n`q/omi` mni yg` hlff`` s`rpy`i yl c`

yg` c`xy kn yg` hky{. Nly ygmy K qlpdi enlq$ nly c`kna m as`my iskne`s lf

hlff``. Yll `wr`nxkv` fls mn korlv`skxg`i myylsn`{ qkyg nl rsmhykh`

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mni yll ckyy`s c{ fms fls m rmdmy` npsyps`i ln s`xr`hymcd` @nadkxg

c`v`sma`x. K xglpy`i yl yg` qmky`s yl cskna o` m admxx lf xhspor{.

G` hmo` qkyg m fmh` ygmy qlpdi gmv` hpsid`i m clqd lf jpne`y.

Xhspor{

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yg` xymy` lf mffmksx K hmn n`v`s fmyglo. R`sgmrx gkx prskagy hmsskma` mni

yg` lyg`s }pmdkyk`x g` kx s`rpy`i yl rlxx`xx ygmy {lp pxpmdd{ lnd{ x``

i`xhskc`i ln yg` o`olskmdx kn yg` Mcc`{ ms` yll mq`/knxrkskna fls yg`

{lpna dmik`x lf Cmyg. Ls yg` rslxr`hykv` olyg`s ls fmyg`s/kn/dmqx.

Qg`n K hlo` yl ygkne lf ky K i`hki` ygmy g` kx ln` lf yglx` lii flde

qgl xpff`s fslo m s`rpymykln yll alli yl c` ysp`. Yg` s`v`sx` lf yg`

pxpmd hlnikykln lf omnekni mni rs`yy{ sms`. Ky kx hloolnd{ flpni lnd{

kn o`n lf yg` hdlyg mni o`oc`sx lf yg` Sl{md Fmokd{. Mdyglpag

r`sgmrx nly xl kn s`h`ny {`msx.

O`mnqgkd` K gmi m dkyyd` cpxkn`xx lf o{ lqn yl x`` yl. Ln` lf o{

hdk`nyx... r`sgmrx K xglpdi c` gln`xy. Ln` lf o{ yql hdk`nyx kx yg` alli

dmi{ qgl e``rx yg` Gmsy Dliakna n`wy yl yg` Eknax Cmyg. Dke` olxy

r`lrd` xg` ygknex ygmy mdd dmq{`sx ms` alli fls kx yl qsky` d`yy`sx. Dke`

oli`sn/im{ Ckcdkhmd xhskc`x. R`sgmrx yg`{ ygkne yg` mnhk`ny xhskc`x

q`s` yg` `}pkvmd`nyx lf myylsn`{x.

Mx m dliakna glpx`e``r`s xg` kx hlnyknpmdd{ rdmap`i c{ ap`xyx

qgl i`hmor qkyglpy rm{kna yg`ks s`helnknax. Mdd ms` nlckdky{ mni

a`nys{$ yg` lnd{ flde qgl hmn mfflsi yl dlia` qkyg Osx Omxy`sx kn g`s

hlnv`nk`ny mni hlooliklpx glpx` n`wy yl yg` Cmyg`x mx xg`

miv`sykx`x kn yg` Dlniln rmr`sx mni ms` asmni `nlpag yl cki g`s m

nlcx fms`q`dd qg`n yg`{ d`mv` qkyg yg` mks{ mni nlyklnmd mxxpsmnh`

ygmy xg` qkdd xr``ikd{ s`h`kv` m cmne`sx ismfy fslo yg`ks Dlnilncmne`sx kn x`yyd`o`ny lf g`s mhhlpny. M hmx` lf xlo`yko`$ n`v`s. Xphg

r`lrd` x``o yl gmv` akv`n pr hmxg kn fmvlps lf rmr`s. M ckzmss`

oli`sn ys`ni.

Xl mx xlln mx yg`{ hslxx yg` Hky{ dkokyx lpyqmsi clpni yg`{ ms`

rpsxp`i c{ m xys`mo lf Osx Omxy`sx ipnnkna d`yy`sx qskyy`n c{ o`. K

gmv` nlq i`vkx`i m flso lf d`yy`s ygmy K pykdkx` ln g`s c`gmdf knyl qgkhg

K xkord{ gmv` yl knx`sy yg` nmo` mni miis`xx c`fls` i`xrmyhgkna ky ln

yg` Dlniln hlmhg. Xl Osx Omxy`sx kx xr`nikna m flsypn`$ nly ln o{

f``x$ cpy ln yg` rlxymd ip`x. Mx fms mx K mo hlnh`sn`i g`s rpsx` lr`nxmx sms`d{ mx m qgls`x d`ax yl m O`yglikxy.

Yg` xpn qmx pr qg`n K }pkyy`i yg` Hgskxylrg`s$ ypsn`i skagy knyl

Hg`mr Xys``y mni d`fy my C`ms Hlsn`s knyl Xymdd Xys``y. C{ ygkx glps yg`

hgmksx ms` mclpy. @mhg kx hmssk`i c{ m hlprd` lf xq`mykna mni xq`mskna

x`imn hgmkso`n$ ln` fls` mni yg` lyg`s mfy qkyg xysmrx slpni yg`ks

xglpdi`sx xprrlsykna yql xgmfyx ygmy rslj`hy `mhg `ni lf yg` hgmks.

Yg` pxpmd ysmffkh jmo gmi i`v`dlr`i my C`ms Hlsn`s qg`s` yql

xys`mox lf hgmksx fslo yg` omse`yrdmh` mni Q`xyamy` Xys``y ms` o`y c{

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yg` ysmffkh ygslpag C`ms [msi fslo yg` ylr lf yg` ylqn. Hsmoo`i

knxki` yg` xymyklnms{ hgmksx$ yg` vkxkylsx$ xykdd kn yg`ks nkagy/hdlyg`x$ xykdd

s``ekna fslo yg`ks c`ix$ ys{ yl dlle mx knhlnxrkhplpx mx rlxxkcd` qgkd`

yg`ks c`ms`sx hldlps yg` mks qkyg mn mxylnkxgkna vmsk`y{ lf `wrs`xxklnx

mni ispo ln yg` rldkxg`i sllfx lf yg`ks `}pkrma`x kn fspxysmykln mni

i`mf`n yg` rmxx`na`sx knxki`.

Ln ygkx lhhmxkln yg` hgk`f rslcd`o qmx m xomdd fdlhe lf xg``r ln

yg`ks qm{ yl yg` xdmpagy`sglpx`x kn yg` cpyhg`sx omse`y kn Clmyxymdd

Dmn`. Yg` g`sixomn qmx mrrms`nyd{ m gmdfqky qkyg m vmhmny askn mni m

hslle yqkh` gkx xkz` qgl qmx n`kyg`s knykokimy`i c{ yg` hgmkso`n nls

ikxom{`i c{ yg` knikxhkrdkn` lf gkx hgmsa`x qgl ylle mivmnyma` lf yg`

xkypmykln yl ikxmrr`ms knyl illsqm{x mni rmxxma`x mx q`dd mx yl yskr pr

mx omn{ hgmkso`n mx yg`{ hlpdi a`y pni`s yg` f``y lf. K flpagy o{ qm{

ygslpag yg` o`d``$ ymekna yg` lrrlsypnky{ mx K q`ny yl mii m f`q fs`xg

`rkyg`yx yl o{ vlhmcpdms{. C`{lni yg` xhspo$ Xymdd Xys``y qmx fkddkna

qkyg omse`y hmsyx mni dlhmd cmsslqx hs`mekna pr fslo yg` cskia` my yg`

clyylo lf Xlpygamy` Xys``y mni cmhekna pr kn mnlyg`s dlna mni

omd`ikhykv` }p`p`.

My yg` Rpor Sllo ills yg` cmyg`sx qgl gmi omnma`i yl xyspaad`

xl fms q`s` c`kna q`dhlo`i c{ yg` Rpor`s$ mn lkd{ knikvkipmd qkyg m

qmdd/`{`$ qglx` lcx`}pklpxn`xx kx m c{qlsi kn yg` Hky{ fls

hlors`g`nxkv` msx`/dkhekna.Fksxy cmyg`sx kn yg` Eknax Cmyg a`y yg` hd`mn`xy qmy`s. Dmy`s kn yg`

olsnkna n`q knas`ik`nyx hlnyskcpy`i c{ yg` cmyg`sx yg`ox`dv`x ypsn ky

knyl m omdlilslpx xy`q. Yg` knvmdkix kn yg` x`imn hgmksx en`q ygkx mni

yg` ols` mhykv` lf yg`o q`s` xyspaadkna lpy lf yg`ks hlnv`{mnh`x mni

glrrkna$ dkorkna$ xhpss{kna ls glccdkna kn yg`ks nkagy alqnx yg` s`xy

lf yg` qm{ yl yg` cmyg ills rpsxp`i c{ knikanmny hgmkso`n i`y`sokn`i

yl hldd`hy yg`ks xkwr`nh`x. Cka mx K mo$ K qmx mdolxy clqd`i lv`s c{ m

rpxypdmy` akmny xykdd kn m nkagyhmr mni jpxy mvlki`i c`kna hspxg`i

c`yq``n yql ygs``/i`he`s imo`x xmkdkna c`fls` yg`ks lqn qkni.Qkilq Omxy`sx glpx` qmx ln` lf yql dliakna glpx`x mijlknkna

yg` Eknax mni ]p``nx Cmygx. Yg` yql ms` mdolxy mdqm{x fpdd$ rlrpdms

qkyg g{rlhglniskmh vkxkylsx c`hmpx` yg`{ ms` xl hdlx` yl yg` Cmyg ills

mni qkyg rkr`x ygmy cskna xprrdk`x lf yg` gly xrskna qmy`s knyl yg`ks

cmx`o`nyx xl ygmy yg` ap`xyx hmn xqmddlq ymnemsix lf yg` xypff

qg`n`v`s yg`{ f``d knhdkn`i. Qkilq Omxy`sx mdxl gmx mssmna`o`nyx

qkyg x`v`smd lf yg` ols` fmxgklnmcd` rg{xkhkmnx kn yg` Hky{ qgl ms`

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rs`rms`i yl qmky ln g`s ap`xyx my mn{ yko` lf yg` nkagy mni im{ kn

s`ypsn fls knlsiknmy` f``x.

Ymekna mdd ygknax yla`yg`s yg` Qkilq Omxy`sx gmx m v`s{ nkh` dkyyd`

cpxkn`xx alkna.

Xg` qmx my yg` ylr lf yg` glpx` kn g`s hlpnykna sllo kn qgkhg

yg`s` kx m qknilq lv`sdllekna yg` cmygx qg`nh` xg` hmn e``r mn `{`

ln g`s ap`xyx `v`n qg`n yg`{ ms` kn yg` cmyg. Cmygkna kx m rlrpdms

xr`hymyls xrlsy mni kid`sx lf mdd xlsyx d`mn lv`s yg` rmsmr`yx lf yg`

cmygx ls dlpna` my qknilqx mclv` yg` xh`n` yl lad` yg` gmdf/nme`i

qlo`n mni s`omse dlpid{ ln yg` xkz`x lf yg` olxy kors`xxkv` ykyx mni

cpox.

Ln` ldi omn qgl gmi mrrms`nyd{ aly knyl yg` cmyg fpdd{ is`xx`i

fls g` gmi ln m gmy mni ylrhlmy mni csmnikxg`i m xykhe qmx knh`nx`i

`nlpag c{ yg` cmniknma` yl s`rd{ kn ekni. Yg` `whgmna` lf knxpdyx

q`ny ln pnykd yg` ldi a`nyd`omn xdkrr`i ln xlo`ygkna nmxy{ ln yg`

fdlls lf yg` Eknax Cmyg$ ikxmrr`ms`i fslo xkagy mni gmi yl c` mxxkxy`i

xrdpyy`skna yl yg` xy`rx.

Osx Omxy`sx qmx is`xx`i kn g`s olsnkna slc`$ m vmxy hs`mykln qkyg

`nlpag xypff kn ky yl gmv` hlv`s`i yg` qgld` ms`m lf yg` ]p``nx Cmyg.

Ky qmx m vkvki hskoxln mni mx xg` xmy my yg` qknilq yg` rslxr`hy lf g`s

fslo yg` Cmygx opxy gmv` skvmdd`i yg` cskddkmnh` lf yg` xpn ygmy qmx

ilkna kyx c`xy yl hlor`y` my yg` lyg`s `ni lf yg` xe{.Omxy`s Myylsn`{$ xg` c`amn flsomdd{. Xg` kx m qlomn lf f`q

qlsix$ mn pnpxpmd xymy` lf mffmksx$ cpy xg` kx rsln` yl qkni mni ols`

ygmn ome`x pr fls g`s s`ykh`nh` c{ yg` q`mdyg lf xlpnix xg` hmn

rsliph` kn mnlyg`s qm{. M hglkh` vlhmcpdms{ ygmy kx lfy`n ols`

`wrdkhky ygmn g`s vlhmd hloo`nyx.

K amv` g`s o{ clq mni m alli olsnkna mni rs`x`ny`i m dkxy lf yg`

d`yy`sx K gmi qskyy`n fls g`s ygmy q``e. Cs`mygkna gmsi kn yg` `fflsy lf

hlnh`nysmykln 'xg` hlpdi cms`d{ s`mi+ xg` q`ny ygslpag ky nmo` c{

nmo`.Xg` c`dhg`i g`s mrrslvmd qg`n xg` gmi fknkxg`i mni s`fs`xg`i

g`sx`df qkyg m dmsa` ismpagy lf csmni{ mni qmy`s fslo m i`hmny`s ygmy

mdqm{x xylli ln g`s ymcd` molnaxy m dkyy`s lf ckddx mni lyg`s rmr`sx.

G`s rdpor c`skna`i gmni spooma`i molnaxy yg`o. Ygs`` lf o{

hdk`nyx gmv` s`xrlni`i yl {lps dmxy d`yy`sx$ xg` yldi o`. Yg`{

`nhdlx`i yg` oln`{x yg`{ lq`i. Xg` xglv`i ygs`` xg``yx ylqmsix o`.

Qgmy il yg`{ xm{

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Osx Omxy`sx aspny`i c{ qm{ lf vmsk`y{. Q`dd$ Kdd s`h`kv` yg`o

mamkn. [lpi c`yy`s x`ni kn {lps ckdd$ xg` yldi o` aspiaknad{. Mni ky

kx yko` fls {lp yl xr`ni mn glps ls yql rpyykna o{ mhhlpnyx kn lsi`s.

M fmy mso qmv`i lv`s yg` dkyy`s`i ymcd` mni yg` `fflsy cslpagy flsyg m

vldd`{ lf skhg xlpni. Ilny hlo` dmy` kn yg` im{. K hmny mfflsi yl dkagy

hmnid`x pr g`s`. Xg` ylle mnlyg`s ismpagy lf yg` csmni{ mni qmy`s.

Yg` lnd{ ygkna ygmy il`x o{ i{xr`rxkm mn{ alli$ K qmx yldi mni qmx

akv`n m xrd`niki i`olnxysmykln lf kyx `ff`hy. Kf {lp qmny xlo` asla

{lpi c`xy al ilqnxymksx mni mxe yg` omki fls m admxx.

Yg`s` qmx n`v`s m xrms` admxx fls vkxkylsx. K xglle o{ g`mi.

Yg` sllf n``ix s`rmks. Kv` hmdd`i kn yg` cpkdi`s yl x`` yl ky. Qg`n

g`x iln` {lp opxy hdkoc pr mni ome` xps` kyx m rslr`s jlc. O{

`wr`nx`x n`v`s x``o yl `ni. K dlxy yql ap`xyx dmxy q``e ygslpag ygmy

Is Olnolpyg. [lp enlq$ yg` n`q rg{xkhkmn qkyg yg` hslyhg ln gkx

fls`g`mi. Yg` i`xhskrykln o`mny nlygkna yl o`. Yql cslyg`sx. Ln`

n`ms yl i`myg. Olnolpyg i`hki`i ygmy yg`{ hlpdi a`y c`yy`s hms` qkyg

gko ygmn kn ygkx glpx` mni g` r`sxpmi`i yg`o xl.

Xg` amz`i s`fd`hykv`d{ lpy lf yg` qknilq my yg` cmyg`sx. Rlls

flldx. Mx yglpag dlddkna mslpni kn gly qmy`s hlpdi hps`. Yg`{ iskne

amddlnx lf ky `v`s{ im{ mx q`dd. Yg` ymr kx n`v`s hdlx`i ln yg` rkr` K

gmv` kn yg` glpx`.

K omi` o{ `whpx`x mni d`fy. Xg` c`dhg`i kn fms`q`dd. Yg` omkiqmx xhspcckna yg` xy`r lf yg` glpx` mni K ylle yg` lrrlsypnky{ lf

akvkna g`s clyylo m rknhg mx K rmxx`i. K hlpdiny c` xps` ygmy g`s

x}p`md qmx i`dkagy`i ls nly cpy K hlpdi qmky pnykd o{ n`wy vkxky yl fkni

lpy.

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Hgmry`s Ygs``

Mx K rmxx`i yg` Apkdigmdd yg` Dlniln hlmhg qmx spocdkna knyl

Nlsygamy` Xys``y. Yg` Dlniln fd{`s knnx my yg` Qgky` Dkln kn yg` Gkag

Xys``y. Kn kyx {msi yg` rmxx`na`sx i`xh`ni dllekna qgky`/fmh`i. Yglx`

qkyg q`me xylomhgx gmv` rslcmcd{ ygslqn pr omn{ yko`x ln yg` yql/

im{ jlpsn`{. K aly m alli nlx`fpd lf yg` `vki`nh` mx K rmxx`i yg` lr`n

illsx lf yg` hlmhg. Yg`{ qlpdi xymni xl pnykd yg` hlmhg qmx s`mi{ yl

xymsy yg` s`ypsn jlpsn`{ cpy ky qmx korlxxkcd` yl a`y ski lf yg` xkhed{

lilps hlord`y`d{. Ygmy qmx qg{ m dly lf ysmv`dd`sx rs`f`s yl ysmv`d ln

ylr qg`s` yg`{ hmn vloky lv`s yg` xki`. My d`mxy yg`s` yg` mks kx fs`xg$

yll fs`xg xlo`yko`x cpy mx dlna mx {lp gmv` alli xyslna gmnix fls

hdknakna ln qkyg mni q`ms yql dm{`sx lf lpy`s hdlygkna {lp qkdd

xpsvkv`. @v`n xl ky qkdd yme` {lp m im{ ls xl yl s`hlv`s hlord`y`d{

fslo yg` jlpsn`{.

K rpxg`i ygslpag yg` hgmkso`n qgl q`s` rkhekna pr yg` imz`i

rmxx`na`sx yl hlnv`{ yg`o yl yg`ks dliaknax. My yg` lffkh` K xkan`i fls

yql d`yy`sx mni m rmhe`y mdd iks`hy`i yl yg` Apkdigmdd mni yg` Ylqn

Hd`se.

Jlgn J`ff`s{x yls` lr`n yg` rmhe`y. Fslo yg` cmne`sx kn Dlniln$

g` yldi o` mx g` xlsy`i ygslpag yg` rkd` lf rmr`sx knxki`. Ln` lf yg`x`

kx m ismfy ismqn ln i` Vkh ln c`gmdf lf Os Qlli. Oln`{ fslo

Dlniln xpcxhskc`sx yl gkx i`v`dlro`ny xhg`o` my yg` ylr lf Am{

Xys``y. Kdd e``r yg` ismfy kn gmni cpy Ki dke` {lp yl yme` yg` hlv`skna

d`yy`s pr yl Qlli. G` qkdd cky` o{ g`mi lff kf g` kxny knflso`ikoo`ikmy`d{ yg` oln`{ gmx msskv`i. Kxmmh i` Vkh kx m fmxgklnmcd`

qkn` o`shgmny kn Cmyg qgl gmx yme`n pr cmnekna mni kx omekna m

x`hlni flsypn` my ky. Qlli kx yg` d`mikna i`v`dlr`s.

Yg` ms`m lpyxki` yg` hky{ qmddx yl yg` nlsyg/q`xy gmi fksxy c``n

cpkdy pr c{ Qllix fmyg`s$ Jlgn Qlli yg` @di`s$ xymsykna kn yg` `msdk`s

rmsy lf yg` h`nyps{. Fls yg` olxy rmsy g` hlnxysphy`i dliakna glpx`x

fls yg` vkxkylsx kn yg` Slomn xy{d` ls my d`mxy kn m xy{d` ygmy g` komakn`i

qmx Slomn. G` gmi gmi yg` hsmz{ ki`m ygmy g` hlpdi ypsn Cmyg knyl m

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n`q Slo`$ mn mockykln ygmy qmx as``y`i qkyg m as`my i`md lf i`skxkv`

dmpagy`s mni olhe`s{ fslo mdd rslr`s Cmyglnkmnx olxy lf qglo q`s`

nly kn fmvlps lf oli`sn i`v`dlro`ny kn m fls`kan xy{d` i`xrky` yg`

`wysm oln`{ ygmy fdlq`i knyl yg` ylqn fslo yg` Vkxkylsx. Qg`n Jlgn

Qlli x`nkls ik`i m f`q {`msx cmhe gkx xln hmssk`i ln yg` alli qlse

mni kx cpxkd{ hs`mykna m Slomn hkshpx my yg` ylr lf Am{ Xys``y qgkhg

spnx prgkdd fslo gkx fmyg`sx as`my qlse lf ]p``nx X}pms`.

Yg` fksxy glpx`x ln yg` nlsyg lf yg` Eknax Hkshpx ms` mds`mi{

cpkdy mni yg` d`mx`x c`kna xldi. My yg` olo`ny yg` h`ddmsx lf yg` n`wy

cmyhg ms` c`kna ipa. Mx K mrrslmhg`i yg` cpkdikna xky` K hlpdi g`ms

Qllix nmxmd vlkh` smkx`i kn hlordmkny. Nly mn pnpxpmd xlpni. K

mdqm{x flpni gko yl c` mn pnrd`mxmny a`nyd`o`n. G` gmi m s`rpymykln

kn yg` hky{ mx yg` olxy }pmss`dxlo` lf mdd yg` d`mikna hkykz`nx.

Qlli qmx lcvklpxd{ cmkykna ln` lf gkx qlseo`n. K hlpdi y`dd c{

yg` xn``skna yln` qgkhg g` s`x`sv`i fls yglx` qglo g` s`amsi`i mx

knf`sklsx. [lp qkdd il ky hms`d`xxd{$ xks.

Nl$ omxy`s.

Xl {lp qkdd nly il ky my mdd$ xks.

Nl$ omxy`s$ qmx yg` xmo` ilaa`i s`rd{.

Yg`n {lp qkdd il ky glq {lp dke`$ xks.

Nl$ omxy`s$

Xl$ mfy`s mdd {lp qkdd il ky mx K i`xks`$ xks.K `ny`s`i yg` `nhdlxps` mni Qlli xylrr`i gkx xkdd{ amo` mx xlln

mx g` xmq o`. R`sgmrx qkyg xlo`ygkna mrrslmhgkna `ocmsmxxo`ny$ g`

a`xyps`i yl yg` qlseomn yl c` mclpy gkx cpxkn`xx. Mx yg` omn rmxx`i

o` g` hmpagy o{ `{` mni smkx`i gkx `{`cslqx kn mn `wrs`xxkln lf

s`xkanmykln.

Qlli miis`xx`i o` kn yg` xmo` yln`. R`sgmrx knhdkn`i yl rdm{ yg`

xmo` xlsy lf amo` qkyg o`.

Xl {lp gmv` i`kan`i yl vkxky o` my o{ rdmh` lf qlse.

[lp x`` o` g`s`$ Os Qlli.K xprrlx` K xglpdi c` asmy`fpd ygmy {lp iki nly xpooln o` yl

qmky ln {lp.

O{ `wrs`xxkln c`amn yl gmsi`n. Qlli xmq ky mni i`hki`i ygmy g`

qlpdi nly clyg`s ys{kna yl a`y m skx` lpy lf o`. Q`dd$ xks$ {lp opxy c`

ln cpxkn`xx. [lp qlpdi nly hlo` ln mn{ lyg`s rs`y`wy. Qgmy il {lp

gmv` fls o`

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Yg` xmsilnkh `wrs`xxkln iki nly hgmna` cpy m ols` dkv`d{ dkagy

hmo` knyl gkx `{`x. O{ ismfy gmx msskv`i my dmxy fslo o{ kid` Dlniln

cmhe`sx. G` ylle yg` rmr`s mni mx mn mfy`syglpagy xmki$ Akv` o{

ygmne`` yl yg` Ylqn Hd`se. K glr` {lp il nly `wr`hy yl c` rmki fls ygkx

x`svkh`.

K o`s`d{ xglle o{ g`mi mni ypsn`i mqm{$ s`dphymny yl xr`ni mn{

ols` yko` ygmn qmx n`h`xxms{ kn yg` omnx hlormn{. Mx K s`ys`my`i

Qlli hmdd`i mfy`s o` Ms` {lp s`apdmsd{ `ordl{`i c{ Os J`ff`s{x

nlq$ {lpna omn

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I`mi omn$ g` amxr`i. Kn Qllix aslpni. Qkyg ygmy g` yqkxy`i

lpy lf o{ asmxr mni smn ln knyl yg` Hky{.

K s`ysmh`i o{ xy`rx. Knxki` yg` cpkdikna xky` m nlkx{ aslpr lf

qlseo`n q`s` amyg`s`i slpni m gld` kn yg` aslpni. Qlli qmx

xymnikna m dkyyd` mrmsy$ xymskna my yg` amy` qg`s` K `ny`s`i$ lcvklpxd{

mqmkykna xlo` msskvmd. Mx g` xmq o` g` hmdd`i lpy mx yglpag g` lq`i

o` xlo` `wrdmnmykln. K gmv` x`ny fls m Ykygkna Omn.

Yg` gld` kn yg` aslpni ypsn`i lpy yl c` mn mnhk`ny q`dd$ mdolxy

fpdd lf spccd`. Dke`d{ m Slomn ln` mx olxy lf yg` ldi spknx ipa pr kn

yg` Hky{ rslv` yl c`. Ky ylle o` m f`q oknpy`x lf `wmoknmykln c`fls` K

xmq m gmni rlekna lpy fslo pni`s yg` xyln`x.

O{ myy`nykln qmx ikxysmhy`i c{ Qlli qgl gmi hlo` cmhe yl yg`

aslpr mni qmx miis`xxkna ln` lf gkx qlseomn. K yldi {lp yl fknkxg

fkddkna kn ygkx q`dd {`xy`sim{. Qlli qmx xl makymy`i ygmy gkx vlkh` slx`

yl m xhs``hg.

Yg` omn dlle`i pr rpanmhklpxd{ mni kn m vlkh` mdolxy mx xgskdd mx

Qllix mni h`symknd{ mx dlpi. K gmi yl a`y glo` yl o{ ldi qlomn.

Xg` ylle xkhe {`xy`sim{. K qmx alkna yl il yg` jlc fksxy ygkna ygkx

olsnkna.

Kx ygkx hlhehslq< Ky kx mdolxy okiim{.

[lp amv` o` lyg`s ymxex ygkx olsnkna.

Yg`{ qkdd c` yg` dmxy ymxex K qkdd akv` {lp. [lp d`mv` o{ `ordl{ygkx im{.

Yg` qlseomn yls` lff gkx mrsln mni ylle m xy`r ylqmsix gkx

`ordl{`s. K qmx mfsmki ygmy Qlli qmx alkna yl a`y gkx rslokn`ny nlx`

s`xgmr`i. Os Qlli$ K rpy kn }pkhed{ mx m ikv`sxkln$ qg`n iki {lp

dmxy ykr xyln`x kn yg` q`dd

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Yg` qlseo`n ylle yg` gkny mni ikxr`sx`i. Qlli spcc`i gkx

xq`mykna fmh` qkyg gkx qka$ jmoo`i ky cmhe ln gkx g`mi mni xypor`i

mfy`s yg`o mni K ylle yg` lrrlsypnky{ lf jporkna ilqn knyl yg`

xgmddlq gld` mni ymekna m hdlx`s dlle my qgmy ky hlnymkn`i.

Yg` gmni qmx mdolxy gkii`n c{ rk`h`x lf spccd` ygmy dlle`i mx

yglpag yg`{ gmi c``n i`dkc`smy`d{ dmki yl hlv`s ky. Lnd{ yg` mhhki`ny lf

ln` rk`h` lf xyln` xdkrrkna ilqn yg` rkd` mni yg` s`fd`hykln lf yg` xpn

ln yg` xyln` qmdd gmi s`v`md`i yg` f`q x}pms` knhg`x lf fd`xg.

K rpdd`i x`v`smd ols` xyln`x mxki`. Yg` mso qmx xys`yhg`i prqmsix

dke` yg` cli{ qmx ys{kna yl xyspaad` lpy lf mn mvmdmnhg`. K hlpdi nly

x`` ols` ygmn yg` mso ilqn yl yg` `dclq cpy K hlpdi ome` lpy ygmy ky

qmx hdlyg`i kn m alqn$ qgky` mni xgslpidke` mx yglpag ky qmx mds`mi{

is`xx`i fls yg` asmv`.

Mn mxygomykh nlkx` dke` yg` qg``zkna lf fks` `nakn`x ygmy rpor

qmy`s lpy lf yg` hlmdokn`x my Smixylhe ikxypsc`i o{ knv`xykamykln. Ky

qmx Jlgn Hgkv`sx$ knne``r`s lf yg` As`{glpni kn yg` omse`yrdmh` mni

ln` lf yg` knf`skls ykygkna/o`n lf yg` hky{. G` s`amkn`i gkx cs`myg mni

aspny`i ilqn yl o`$ Qgmyx Qlli flpni< Ygkx kxny m cdlli{ qkdi

allx` hgmx`$ kx ky

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aslpr mni xyms`i ilqn my yg` xykdd fkaps`. Yg` fslny lf yg` qgky` alqn

qmx xymkn`i ilqn yl yg` qmkxy qkyg cdlli.

Rlls cpaa`s$ yg` qlseomn s`r`my`i. Xykdd mdkv` mni yg`{

mcmniln`i gko yl ik`. G` qmx xymnikna c`xki` o` kn yg` q`dd mni g`

rlkny`i yl s`i impcx ln xyln`x qg`s` yg` dmxy xhsmccdknax lf yg` i{kna

fkna`sx gmi d`fy asly`x}p` asmffkyk.

Hgkv`sx csle` yg` glsskfk`i xkd`nh`. D`yx gmv` yg` f`ddlq lpy

yg`n$ dmix. Q`dd n``i m gpsid`. Hmn mn{ln` fkni ln`

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Hgmry`s Flps

Qg`n K s`ymkd`i yg` xyls{ yl Jlgn J`ff`s{x g` xgspaa`i. Yko`x ms`

a`yykna qlsx`. Vkld`nh` kx ols` hlooln nlq ygmn ky gmx `v`s c``n.

Qg{$ xks

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q`s` nly koo`ikmy`d{ enlqn. Yg`{ q`s` cpsk`i kn m rmpr`sx asmv` my

yg` Hky{x `wr`nx` mni nl ols` qmx yglpagy lf ky.

Ln` lf yg` hlnxymcd`x qmx hlokna lpy lf yg` Emyg`skn` Qg``d mx K

dlle`i mfy`s Jlgn. G` qkr`i gkx dkrx qkyg yg` cmhe lf gkx gmni mni

qmv`i gkx xymff my o`.

Ky qmx J`i Hmsy`s. G` qmx yg` ols` ispne`n lf yg` yql hlnxymcd`x

kn yg` Hky{.

[lp flpni yg` cli{$ {lpna omn$ g` xmki mhhpxknad{.

Nly o`. Os Qlli.

Yg` Hlnxymcd` aspny`i. Xl K gmv` yl qmde mdd yg` qm{ pr yl gkx

cpkdikna aslpni.

Ygmyx {lps ipy{$ K yldi gko pnf``dknad{. Clyg Hlnxymcd`x ms`

dmz{$ dllekna prln yg`ks rlxkyklnx mx xkn`hps`x ygmy akv` yg`o yg`

lrrlsypnky{ lf hmiakna isknex fslo mdd yg` rpcdkhmnx kn ylqn$ cpy ygkx

ln` kx yg` dmzk`s mni fmyy`s lf yg` yql. Yme` m hgmks$ K yldi gko. G`

qlpdi pni`sxymni yg` s`omse mx m jkc` fls gkx xkz` qlpdi ome` ky

h`symkn ygmy nl hgmkso`n qlpdi mas`` yl yme` gko pr yg` gkdd. Yg`{

pxpmdd{ lnd{ x`sv`i yg` Vkxkylsx cpy yg`{ qlpdi gmv` `v`n dlle`i

yqkh` my m Vkxkyls kf g` q`s` mx dmsa` mx yg` Hlnxymcd`. K ilpcy kf g`

hlpdi x}p``z` knyl m hgmks.

G` dlle`i my o` xgmsrd{$ dmpag`i xglsyd{$ mni qmiid`i ln

qg``zkna. K en`q gko mx nl fsk`ni lf okn` mni ln` qgl qmxxpxrkhklpx mni f`msfpd lf o` mx mn myylsn`{. Yl o` g` mrr`ms`i mx m

yglslpagd{ xomdd mni o`mn/okni`i omn$ m hmx` lf m akdd lf rlls xrksky

kn m }pmsy rly.

I`xrky` qgmy Jlgn J`ff`s{x gmi xmki q` il nly gmv` omn{ opsi`sx

kn Cmyg. Nly gmdf qgmy yg`{ gmv` kn Cskxyld. K enlq ygmy Cskxyld kx m

as`my hky{ mni Cmyg m xomdd ln` cpy kn rslrlsykln kx qgmy K o`mn. Olxy

lf lps xpii`n i`mi ms` fkxg`i lpy lf yg` Mvln mni glq hmn {lp y`dd

qg`yg`s ygmy xlsy lf i`myg qmx mhhki`nymd ls vkld`ny< Pnd`xx lf hlpsx`

yg`{ gmv` yg`ks g`mix cmxg`i kn ls q`ms m amssly` slpni yg`ks n`hex. Kykx pxpmdd{ mxxpo`i ygmy skv`s i`mygx ms` yg` s`xpdy lf mhhki`ny ls xpkhki`

mni ky kx ekni`s yl flsa`y yg` dmxy hmpx`.

Lf hlpsx` kf yg` hlsrx` kx ygmy lf m Vkxkyls ylnap`x qma qkyg yg`

xprrlxkykln ygmy m spn lf cmi dphe my yg` pnlffkhkmd amokna ymcd`x gmx

cslpagy mclpy yg` ysma`i{. Lffkhkmdd{$ amokna kx kdd`amd cpy `v`s{cli{

enlqx ygmy ky al`x ln. Ln` lnd{ gmx yl flddlq C`mp Nmxg ln yg` nkagyx

mfy`s g` gmx c``n ln ipy{ my yg` Mxx`ocd{ Sllox yl fkni lpy yg`

v`np`x. Pxpmdd{ kn ln` lf yg` glpx`x kn yg` Rmsmi`x qg`s` g`

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fls`amyg`sx qkyg h`symkn lf yg` Vkxkylsx fls x`xxklnx lf @v`nx mni

Liix$ yg` dmy`xy v`sxkln lf Slpd`yy`.

Ln lhhmxklnx kn yg` rmxy yg`s` q`s` myy`oryx yl smki yg`x`

amocdkna i`nx c{ vmsklpx Om{lsx lf Cmyg cpy$ my rs`x`ny$ yg` ln` qgl

gldix ygmy lffkh` kx m ylsrki knikvkipmd mx q`dd mx c`kna m rmsykhpdms

hsln{ lf Ikhe Nmxg$ xl kx knikff`s`ny yl yg` kdd`amdky{.

K qmni`s`i pr yg` Gkag Xys``y mni my Nlsygamy` ypsn`i knyl yg`

Prr`s Clslpag Qmddx. Lrrlxky` yg` X}pkss`d rpc kx yg` amy` knyl yg`

As`{glpni {msi. Yg` cli{ qlpdi gmv` c``n rdmh`i kn ln` lf yg`

`ory{ hlmhg glpx`x. Slpni yg` ills qmx yg` pxpmd enly lf kid`sx mni

gmna`sx/ln ygmy {lp fkni kn mn{ knn {msi$ dlpnakna mclpy qmkykna fls mn

lii jlc ls mn `ssmni ygmy okagy ypsn pr. Yg`{ ypaa`i yg`ks fls`dlhex mx

K mrr`ms`i mni xgkfy`i lpy lf yg` illsqm{.

K aly yg`o yl lr`n yg` illsx lf yg` hlmhg glpx` yl d`y kn m dkyyd`

ols` dkagy. Yg` cli{ xykdd dm{ ln kyx gpsid`. K x}pmyy`i ilqn c`xki` ky.

Yg` lndlle`sx q`s` rslcmcd{ myyskcpykna o{ kny`s`xy yl kid` hpsklxky{

cpy K iki gmv` m x`sklpx rpsrlx`. Qg`n K gmi `wmokn`i yg` cli{ kn yg`

q`dd ky gmi c``n hlv`s`i qkyg rlqi`s fslo yg` Cmyg xyln` ygmy

`napdf`i ky cpy K yglpagy yg` xekn gmi dlle`i m cky lii. Mfy`s cspxgkna

xlo` lf yg` ipxy mqm{ nlq K hlnfkso`i yg` kors`xxkln. Yg` xekn qmx

kni``i s`ii`n`i mni png`mdyg{/dllekna i`xrky` yg` rmddls lf i`myg.

Yg` fmh` qmx `nyks`d{ i`xysl{`i. Jpxy yg` fskna` lf gmks xpsslpnikna molln cpy yg` omn kn ygkx olln qmx mx mnln{olpx mx gkx `rln{olpx

f`ddlq kn yg` xe{. K hmdd`i fls m xmhe mni ln` lf yg` kid`sx f`yhg`i ln`

fslo m n`msc{ xymcd`. Qkyg ky K hlv`s`i pr yg` rkykfpd xkagy.

C` `` yg` hslqn`s

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K d`fy yg`o g``/gmqkna qkyg o{ s`rpymykln mx m qky fksod{

`xymcdkxg`i kn yg` As`{glpni {msi. K gmi nl ilpcy ygmy yg` v`sikhy

qlpdi c` opsi`s. Yg`s` qmx nl lyg`s rlxxkcd` v`sikhy kn yg`

hkshpoxymnh`x i`xrky` yg` Hky{ Hlpnhkdx r`sr`ypmd mnwk`y{ yl mvlki m

xhmnimd.

O{ f`q ipyk`x knhdpi` mhykna mx Hd`se yl yg` Hlsln`s x Hlpsy$ m

ipy{ ygmy kx kn yg` akfy lf yg` Ylqn Hd`se$ mni ygmy ipy{ qmx r`sflso`i

yg` n`wy olsnkna my =2 m.o. rs`hkx`d{ mni lhhprk`i jpxy fkfy``n

oknpy`x. Yg` Hlsln`s$ m fpxx{ dkyyd` omn qgl enlqx glq yl spn c`fls`

yg` qkni$ mdolxy fpdfkdd`i yg` fls`hmxy lf yg` dmi kn yg` knn {msi c{

csknakna kn m v`sikhy lf i`myg c{ okxmiv`nyps` yg`s`c{ hlnflpnikna

o{ `wr`hymykln. Gkx `wrdmnmykln qmx ygmy yg` pnflsypnmy` f`ddlq gmi

qmni`s`i knyl Qllix {msi$ yskrr`i kn yg` imse mni fmdd`n g`midlna

knyl yg` q`dd yg`s`c{ fdmyy`nkna gkx f`myps`x. Nlcli{ yslpcd`i yl mxe

yg` Hlsln`s yl `wrdmkn glq yg` xyln`x hmo` yl c` d{kna ln ylr lf yg`

vkhyko.

Mx K s`hlsi`i yg` v`sikhy kn o{ `d`amny hlrr`srdmy` K qmx okni`i

yl mii o{ r`sxlnmd ski`s yl yg` `ff`hy ygmy yg` Hlsln`s qmx clyg

y`orlsmskd{ ls ols` hlss`hyd{$ r`somn`nyd{$ lpy lf gkx g`mi mni

ikxmcd`i c{ iskne. Glq`v`s$ K s`xkxy`i yg` y`orymykln mni g` s`qmsi`i

o` qkyg gmdf m apkn`m mni xkan`i yg` h`sykfkhmy`$ cs`mygkna omi`ksm

fpo`x lv`s o` yg` qgkd` mni q`ny cmhe yl yg` Qgky` Dkln kn yg` GkagXys``y qg`s` g` xr`ny olxy lf yg` im{.

Yg` knhki`ny amv` o` yg` lrrlsypnky{ yl gldi flsyg ygmy `v`nkna yl

o{ hslnk`x kn yg` Xmsmh`nx G`mi$ mn ldi/`xymcdkxg`i knn lpyxki` yg`

Nlsygamy` e`ry c{ yg` Gkddx. Gkdd kx m ysmi`s kn yg` omse`y mni gkx qkf`

dllex mfy`s yg` knn ipskna yg` im{. G` kx m omxy`s lf s`rmsy`` lf yg` dlq

xlsy mni lfy`n qg`n q` ms` alxxkrkna yla`yg`s }pky` mrmsy g` qkdd

lv`sg`ms xlo` s`omse mni x`ni mn kor`sykn`ny cpy `wysmlsiknmskd{ mry

xmdd{ fd{kna mhslxx yg` sllo. Gkx qkf` kx mn myysmhykv` mni kny`ddka`ny

qlomn qgl okagy x``o lpy lf rdmh` mx m oknls knne``r`sx qkf`.Glq`v`s$ yg`{ ms` m gmrr{ hlprd` cpy hgkdid`xx$ mni ygkx qmx rslcmcd{

yg` s`mxln qg{ xg` yme`x m olyg`sd{ kny`s`xy kn @ddk`.

K qmx qkyg @ddk`$ qgl gmi i`hki`i yl xymsy qlse m dkyyd` dmy` ln ygkx

rmsykhpdms `v`nkna$ mni Ylo Amknxclslpag$ m rlsysmky rmkny`s qgl gmi

okasmy`i yl Cmyg fslo Xpfflde mni cslpagy qkyg gko mn mhh`ny qgkhg

xlo`yko`x s`ni`sx hlnv`sxmykln ikfffkhpdy mni m fmokd{ qglo g` lfy`n

mcmnilnx kn yg` `v`nknax kn fmvlps lf yg` c``s my yg` Xmsmh`nx G`mi

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ygmy kx cs`q`i c{ C`njmokn Qknaslv` mhslxx yg` slmi my yg` Nlsygamy`

Cs`q`s{.

C`xki` Ylo xrsmqd`i Jlgn Qknaslv`$ n`rg`q lf yg` cs`q`s

qglx` c``s qmx pnkv`sxmdd{ mhenlqd`ia`i yl c` xprs`o` c{ yg` Cmyg

hkykz`ns{ qgl enlq m ygkna ls yql mclpy c``s mni gmv` c``sx yl hglx`

fslo yql ilz`n cs`q`sk`x kn mni mslpni yg` hky{. K gmv` xmord`i yg`o

mdd mni jpia`i yg`o mdd c`fls` mddlqkna o{x`df yl hlnhps qkyg yg`

hlooln v`sikhy. Yg` Xmsmh`nx G`mi kx ln` lf yg` rpcx yk`i yl yg`

Nlsygamy` Cs`q`s{ mni kx rlrpdms c`hmpx` lf ky.

Osx Gkdd hmssk`i m jpa lf yg` c``s knyl yg` ymrsllo mni x`y ky ln yg`

ymcd` c`fls` px mni i`omni`i yl enlq yg` dmy`xy n`qx mclpy yg` cli{

flpni kn Qllix {msi. K yldi g`s mdd K hlpdi cpy ky qmx dkyyd` ols` ygmn

xg` gmi g`msi. Dke` olxy r`lrd` kn yg` prr`s rmsy lf yg` ylqn xg` gmi

c``n yl yg` As`{glpni {msi$ m omyy`s lf m f`q {msix fslo yg`

Xmsmh`nx$ yl amqr my yg` hlsrx`. Yg`{ il xm{ ygmy ky qmx m vkxkyls

qgl qmx x`y ln fls gkx oln`{.

Kn gkx nkagyxgksy

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hgmorkln mhyls. G` qlpdi h`symknd{ gmv` omi` ols` oln`{ ygmn

fdmyy`skna yg` Vkxkylsx c{ rmknykna gkagd{ hldlps`i mni o`nimhklpx

rlsysmkyx lf yg`o. Xykdd$ xhs`qkna oln`{ lpy lf yg` Vkxkylsx qmx yg`

fmvlpsky` rmxyko` kn Cmyg mni q` ms` mdd my ky kn ln` qm{ ls mnlyg`s.

Qg{ ilny {lp rmkny xh`n`x lf yg` ylqn

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ygmy qmx yg` cmia` lf yg` qgls` kn yg` Hky{. Skhgmsi Nmxg gmi cmnn`i

ky fslo yg` Mxx`ocd{ Sllox {`msx c`fls` cpy ky qmx m hlnv`nk`ny

i`vkh` yl mvlki gmvkna s`xr`hymcd` omyslnx rslrlxkykln`i kn yg` xys``yx

c{ dpxyfpd Vkxkylsx.

Mfy`s xg` gmi xq`ry lpy K hmdd`i fls fs`xg xprrdk`x lf Qknaslv`x

c`xy mni x`y o{ yql fsk`nix yl xpaa`xykna `wrdmnmyklnx fls yg` fmh`d`xx

cli{ kn Qllix aslpni. Jlgn xmki$ Yg` x`svmnyx kn o{ pnhd`x

cs`q`s{ ms` xm{kna ygmy ky kx yg` qlse lf qkyhghsmfy.

K c`amn yl xokd` cpy xysmkagy`n`i o{ fmh` qg`n K nlykh`i Ylox

x`sklpx `wrs`xxkln. Yg`s` q`s` omn{ r`lrd` mclpy qgl xykdd c`dk`v`i

kn qkyhghsmfy. Yg` c`dk`f kx rslcmcd{ xykdd mx xyslna kn yg` i`rygx lf

spsmd Xpfflde qg`s` g` qmx cslpagy pr mx ky kx molnaxy yg` hlpnys{ flde

lpyxki` Cmyg.

Qgmy ms` yg`{ xm{kna

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M{$ cpy qgkhg ln` xglpdi c` yme`n x`sklpxd{< Yg` Ldi S`dkakln

lf @nadmni ls yg` n`q`s s`dkakln knysliph`i knyl @nadmni c{ Rmrkxyx

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Ylo mni Jlgn q`s` nly mff`hy`i. Yg`{ clyg dmpag`i mni ygmy

ksskymy`i o`. K ypsn`i ln yg` lxyd`s. Qg{ iki {lp nly xm{ ygmy yg` cli{

gmi c``n yme`n mqm{ c{ yg` pni`syme`s

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Ygmy nkagy @ddk` hmo` cmhe xlln mfy`s okinkagy mni$ knxy`mi lf

d`mrkna knyl c`i ln ylr o` mx qmx g`s pxpmd hpxylo$ dky m hmnid` mni

xmy ln yg` `ni lf yg` c`i mni `wmokn`i m flly. K ckn ilqn my yg`

Yg`mys` kn Lshgmsi Xys``y yl rkhe pr m cky lf ysmi`. Cdlli{ hldi ky qmx$

yll. K q`ny kn yg` Ipe` lf Hpoc`sdmni fls m cky lf m qmso cpy Os

Myyqlli$ yg` rlw{ dmnidlsi$ ypsn`i o` lpy. Xmki K hlpdiny qmky kn

yg`s`. Hmdd`i o` m ls`.

Q`dd$ ygmyx qgmy {lp ms`.

K ilny dke` c`kna hmdd`i ygmy kn hlormn{. Yg`s` qmx ln` ls yql

]pmdky{ kn mx q`dd. D`fy yg`ks qkv`x kn yg` rdm{glpx` mni hmo` mhslxx

yg` slmi fls m amsad`. K hlpdi mv` iln` m cky lf cpxkn`xx. K q`ny n`wy

ills. Mn{lq$ xlo` lf yglx` xlhk`y{ a`dx ms`ny nl c`yy`s ygmn o`. K

g`ms y`dd ygmy f`q lf `o mv` xymsy`i ln yg` amo` yll fls m cky lf fpn

qgkd` yg`{s` kn Cmyg. My ygkx smy`$ yg`{dd rpy i`h`ny ls`x dke` o` lpy

lf cpxkn`xx.

Xl {lp q`ny yl yg` Rkn`mrrd`$ K xmki dmzkd{.

Xskagy. Ldi Qkdix lsdskagy. G` d`y o` xky kn yg` hlsn`s c{ yg`

fks` pnykd yg` Rdm{glpx` ypsn`i lpy.

Iki {lp xyske` dphe{

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K xmq m dmi{ ymekna `s ila knyl yg` Eknax Cmyg yg` lyg`s im{. K

c`y ygmy xgky kn yg` qmy`s. K ilny cdlli{ fmnh{ ky. Qgmy il {lp ygkne

{lp ms` ilkna