BULLYINGBULLYINGWhat it is, Who it is, and What it is, Who it is, and

What to do about itWhat to do about it

Bullying DefinedBullying Defined

• A person who is habitually A person who is habitually cruelcruel or or overbearingoverbearing, especially to smaller or , especially to smaller or weaker people. weaker people.

• A person whoA person who intimidates intimidates another to gain another to gain a a reactionreaction from their victim. from their victim.

• A person who A person who manipulatesmanipulates to control the to control the emotionsemotions of their victims. of their victims.

Bullying DefinedBullying Defined

• IntentionalIntentional attempts to cause attempts to cause discomfortdiscomfort or injury and can include or injury and can include name-calling, making faces, obscene name-calling, making faces, obscene gesturing, malicious ridicule, threats, gesturing, malicious ridicule, threats, rumors, physical hitting, kicking, rumors, physical hitting, kicking, pushing, and choking. pushing, and choking.

• These things can be done in a variety These things can be done in a variety of different ways…of different ways…

Characteristics of Bullied Characteristics of Bullied VictimsVictims

• SubmissiveSubmissive• ShyShy• WhineyWhiney• Frail/ Small (Sometimes, not always)Frail/ Small (Sometimes, not always)• LonersLoners• Have physical or emotional quirks that are Have physical or emotional quirks that are

seen as different, odd, or unusual. seen as different, odd, or unusual. • Have low self- esteem or show lack of Have low self- esteem or show lack of

confidence.confidence.

Types Of BullyingTypes Of Bullying

• VerbalVerbal

• SexualSexual

• RacistRacist

• PhysicalPhysical

• EmotionalEmotional

• CyberCyber

Defining The Types of Defining The Types of BulliesBullies

• VERBALVERBAL: Includes mocking, laughing at someone : Includes mocking, laughing at someone at their expense and name –calling.at their expense and name –calling.

• SEXUALSEXUAL: Making inappropriate comments, : Making inappropriate comments, unwanted physical contact or sexually abusive.unwanted physical contact or sexually abusive.

• RACIALRACIAL: Using racial slurs, offensive gestures : Using racial slurs, offensive gestures and making inappropriate jokes about ones and making inappropriate jokes about ones cultural back ground.cultural back ground.

• PHYSICALPHYSICAL: Threats of physical harm. Can be : Threats of physical harm. Can be accompanied with verbal bullying which includes, accompanied with verbal bullying which includes, hitting, kicking, biting, hair pulling and pinching.hitting, kicking, biting, hair pulling and pinching.

Defining The Types of Defining The Types of BulliesBullies

• EMOTIONAL: EMOTIONAL: Most common among girls, this Most common among girls, this kind of bullying includes shunning or calling kind of bullying includes shunning or calling out the victims in front of a crowd. Laughing out the victims in front of a crowd. Laughing when the victim is in ear shot, but the bully when the victim is in ear shot, but the bully denies they were laughing about the victim denies they were laughing about the victim when confronted. Rumor spreading is a large when confronted. Rumor spreading is a large component here. The use of “he said she component here. The use of “he said she said”, ‘stirring up the pot’ with the aid of the said”, ‘stirring up the pot’ with the aid of the bullies friends, is most common. Isolating the bullies friends, is most common. Isolating the victim where they feel they have no one on victim where they feel they have no one on their side.their side.

THE NEW BULLY TACTIC: CYBER THE NEW BULLY TACTIC: CYBER BULLYINGBULLYING

• Cell PhonesCell Phones

• Text MessagingText Messaging

• Internet: E-MailInternet: E-Mail

• My SpaceMy Space

• Face BookFace Book

• TwitterTwitter

• Others? Others?

How Does Cyber Bullying How Does Cyber Bullying Work?Work?

• Cyber space, the final frontier…ok, this Cyber space, the final frontier…ok, this isn’t Star Trek, but this is getting serious! isn’t Star Trek, but this is getting serious! Bullies are now using new technology to Bullies are now using new technology to bring their issues to school. bring their issues to school.

• Texting, Internet Social Rooms and E-mail Texting, Internet Social Rooms and E-mail have made bullying faceless. You may not have made bullying faceless. You may not know who is really behind a vicious know who is really behind a vicious message. Bullies can deny any wrong message. Bullies can deny any wrong doing, or say someone else was on their doing, or say someone else was on their account, and it will be hard to prove their account, and it will be hard to prove their part in any of it. Students need to be pro part in any of it. Students need to be pro active when it comes to cyber bullies.active when it comes to cyber bullies.

What To Do If I Get Cyber What To Do If I Get Cyber BulliedBullied• 11stst. You must never answer the bullies message. When . You must never answer the bullies message. When

you respond you gave the power to them. They got you respond you gave the power to them. They got exactly what they wanted, even if it is as simple as who exactly what they wanted, even if it is as simple as who is this? And why are you writing this to me? is this? And why are you writing this to me?

• 22ndnd. You must save everything the bully wrote to you.. You must save everything the bully wrote to you. (Again, if you responded, the bully might save your (Again, if you responded, the bully might save your

responses, and now you could look equally as bad!)responses, and now you could look equally as bad!)

• 33rdrd. Bring the saved messages to a person you trust . Bring the saved messages to a person you trust can help you. Parents, Teachers, SROs, Administrators, can help you. Parents, Teachers, SROs, Administrators, anyone that you feel can help solve this puzzle.anyone that you feel can help solve this puzzle.

What To Do If I Get Cyber What To Do If I Get Cyber BulliedBullied

• Once the information has been Once the information has been released and an investigation has released and an investigation has begun, the people in question usually begun, the people in question usually understand that they are very close understand that they are very close to being caught and stop the to being caught and stop the behavior. If it were to continue, the behavior. If it were to continue, the police could be brought in and police could be brought in and harassment charges could be filed.harassment charges could be filed.

What Do I Do If I Am Being Bullied?What Do I Do If I Am Being Bullied?

• Always tell an adult.Always tell an adult. Students who keep Students who keep this problem inside have high risks of this problem inside have high risks of depression and even suicide. Once you tell depression and even suicide. Once you tell someone it will empower you. It can give someone it will empower you. It can give you a sense of relief knowing others have you a sense of relief knowing others have been through what you are going through been through what you are going through and that they found ways to defeat it.and that they found ways to defeat it.

• Stay in a group. Stay in a group. Bullies look for weak links. Bullies look for weak links. They want to go after the easy prey, those They want to go after the easy prey, those who are loners. When you are a part of a who are loners. When you are a part of a group, Bullies have a tendency to shy group, Bullies have a tendency to shy away.away.

What Do I Do If I Am Being What Do I Do If I Am Being Bullied?Bullied?

• If it feels safe, try to stand up to the bully. If it feels safe, try to stand up to the bully. Bullies Bullies want you to get angry or sad, they want a reaction want you to get angry or sad, they want a reaction physical or whatever. Cut to the quick, give a short physical or whatever. Cut to the quick, give a short non emotional response to the bully, like “ Leave non emotional response to the bully, like “ Leave me alone” or “me alone” or “ Cut it out”. Afterwards, turn and Cut it out”. Afterwards, turn and walk away. Then be sure to tell an adult ASAP!walk away. Then be sure to tell an adult ASAP!

• Join Clubs or after-school activitiesJoin Clubs or after-school activities. Finding people . Finding people with similar interests, being part of a team, with similar interests, being part of a team, associating with new faces and people that can associating with new faces and people that can help you is key to avoiding bullies. You have now help you is key to avoiding bullies. You have now made new friends and contacts of people that will made new friends and contacts of people that will help you stay focused. These people create the help you stay focused. These people create the groups that bullies tend to shy away from. You groups that bullies tend to shy away from. You realize that you have more important things in your realize that you have more important things in your life than wasting time on a bully, and that maturity life than wasting time on a bully, and that maturity and self confidence is key to a healthy lifestyle. and self confidence is key to a healthy lifestyle.

Stop The Madness!!! Stop The Madness!!! Why We Must Take Actions!!!Why We Must Take Actions!!!

• Bullying will only stop if you make it. Telling Bullying will only stop if you make it. Telling someone does not make you a “tattle tale”, it someone does not make you a “tattle tale”, it makes you someone who wants to feel safe and makes you someone who wants to feel safe and protected in a place where you should everyday. protected in a place where you should everyday.

• If you are a bully, put yourself in someone else's If you are a bully, put yourself in someone else's shoes, look at it from their perspective. Think shoes, look at it from their perspective. Think about how it makes them feel, then STOP IT! Get about how it makes them feel, then STOP IT! Get some help, talk to an adult and see if you can some help, talk to an adult and see if you can stop this behavior before it gets you in a bunch of stop this behavior before it gets you in a bunch of trouble.trouble.

• Bullies lose their popularity as they get older and Bullies lose their popularity as they get older and are eventually disliked by the majority of students are eventually disliked by the majority of students

Stop The Madness!!! Stop The Madness!!! Why We Must Take Actions!!!Why We Must Take Actions!!!

• By age 24, 60% of identified bullies have a By age 24, 60% of identified bullies have a criminal conviction. criminal conviction.

• Children who are repeatedly victimized Children who are repeatedly victimized sometimes see suicide as their only escape. sometimes see suicide as their only escape.

• Bullying is one of the most underrated and Bullying is one of the most underrated and enduring problems in schools today. enduring problems in schools today.

• Schools are a prime location for bullying.Schools are a prime location for bullying.

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• Primary age children who were labeled by their peers Primary age children who were labeled by their peers as bullies required more support as adults from as bullies required more support as adults from government agencies, had more court convictions, government agencies, had more court convictions, more alcoholism, more antisocial personality more alcoholism, more antisocial personality disorders and used more mental health services. disorders and used more mental health services.

• Many adults do not know how to intervene in bullying Many adults do not know how to intervene in bullying situations, therefore bullying is often overlooked. situations, therefore bullying is often overlooked.

• Only 25% of students report that teachers intervene Only 25% of students report that teachers intervene in bullying situations, while 71% of teachers believe in bullying situations, while 71% of teachers believe they always intervene. they always intervene.

Stop The Madness!!! Stop The Madness!!! Why We Must Take Actions!!!Why We Must Take Actions!!!

• Bullying occurs once every seven minutes .Bullying occurs once every seven minutes .

• On average, bullying episodes are brief, On average, bullying episodes are brief, approximately 37 seconds long. approximately 37 seconds long.

• The emotional scars from bullying can last a The emotional scars from bullying can last a lifetime. lifetime.

• The majority of bullying occurs in or close to school The majority of bullying occurs in or close to school buildings.buildings.

• Most victims are unlikely to report bullying. Most victims are unlikely to report bullying.

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• Students who feel bullied must be pro active!Students who feel bullied must be pro active!

• Tell an Adult: Teachers, SROs Administrators, Tell an Adult: Teachers, SROs Administrators, Guidance Counselors, Custodial Staff, Coaches, Guidance Counselors, Custodial Staff, Coaches, Others???…Do it ASAP, DON’T WAIT!!!Others???…Do it ASAP, DON’T WAIT!!!

• Save any evidence you can from a bully. Text Save any evidence you can from a bully. Text Messages, e-mails, face book and my space Messages, e-mails, face book and my space messages, etc…Do Not Respond to these!!messages, etc…Do Not Respond to these!!

• Share evidence with an adult.Share evidence with an adult.

• If you feel depressed or that you have know way If you feel depressed or that you have know way out of this I assure you that you do. Go to an adult out of this I assure you that you do. Go to an adult you trust. If that didn’t get the results you were you trust. If that didn’t get the results you were looking for, go to another! We have many caring looking for, go to another! We have many caring people on our staff, and they will all give you the people on our staff, and they will all give you the help you need, or find someone who can!help you need, or find someone who can!

• Be a self advocate. If you know you can’t sit next Be a self advocate. If you know you can’t sit next to someone in a class, that you can’t be paired in a to someone in a class, that you can’t be paired in a group, that the person waits outside the room for group, that the person waits outside the room for you, or looks for you at lunch, let someone know! you, or looks for you at lunch, let someone know! Help is right around the corner, all you have to do is Help is right around the corner, all you have to do is say something!!!!say something!!!!

• Together we can stop the madness of bullying. Together we can stop the madness of bullying. Thank You.Thank You.

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