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DATINGChapter 7
The Dating Proces7:1
DATE MY DAUGHTER
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What is the Purpose of Dating
You keep a positive attitude about yourself
You avoid a long-term commitment too early in life
You make decisions that are consistent with your long-term goals
Functions of Dating
Dating is the pathway that leads to engagement and marriage
Understanding Others
Develop close romantic friendships Learn how others:
Think and feelWhat they like to doWhat are their goals
Understanding Yourself
Developing a relationship requires that you also share you ideas and feelings
Providing Companionship Dating gives you the opportunity spend
time with someone who shares your interests.
Feelings of friendship may develop into a deeper relationship as your spend more time with the other person.
Improving Communication Skills
Open communication is an important part of building any relationshipYour verbal and nonverbal message need to
matchNeed to practice active listening skills
Learning to Negotiate
Sensitive to the other’s ideas and feelings
Helps you develop empathy Helps you grow socially and emotionally
Learning to Be Responsible Provides opportunities to take
responsibility Show responsibility for other
commitments Show another person that you care
about them
Evaluation Personality Traits Find out what personality traits you most
like in a partner Evaluate qualities and find those that do
or do not appeal to you What it takes to get along with your
dating partner The qualities you would like to find in
your ideal mate for marriage become easier to identify
Stages of the Dating Process
Group Dating – a group of people spend time together and develop friendship
Pair Dating – a couple will develop a relations with each other
Steady Dating – a commitment to date only one person
The couple may make a serious commitment to become engaged for marriage
Group Dating
Informal group dating You can improve your social skills
without making the commitment
Pair Dating
Two people spend time as a couple building their friendship
Double date – when another couple joins a date
Steady dating or going out- commitment to date only each other
The Advantages and Disadvantages of Steady Dating Advantages
Develop trust Openness Respect for each
other Being themselves Resolving and
handling conflicts in a positive way
Disadvantages Limit your experiences
with friends Limit your opportunities
to meet new people Break up can be
difficult○ Feel trapped○ Feel used or
controlled You may not want to
hurt the other person
Beginning a Dating Relationship
Make your appearance count
Be friendly, confident, and courteous
Start a conversation
Listen intently to what the person shares
Plan some time together
Personal Boundaries Personal Boundaries are limits for behavior that you will
accept in your relationships What you are willing to say Think Do in your relationship has crossed the line
When one person in the relationship forces that other to do something outside of his/her personal boundaries, it is a sign of abuse
Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
Any kind of physical abuse
Verbal abuse
Demands on your time
Demands for sexual favors
Disrespect for your ideas, feelings and person
Ending a Dating Relationship
Dating relationships end in many ways:May not have enough in commonCouples may drift apart One partner many not feel the relationship is
growing closeBreaking up most difficult of the person who
wants to keep the relationship going○ Realize your partner will feel hurt○ Change your dating patterns○ Recognize your feelings are normal○ Emphasize other aspects of your life
Commitment to marry
Most people follow the dating process through engagement to marriage
Engagement is the formal commitment before marriage
Love7:2
Romantic Love
Infatuation – a strong feeling of attraction that tends to be self-centered or one-sided
Some people are disappointed when this feeling fades
Mature Love Mature love is different from infatuation
Characterized by giving and unselfish attitude
Committed to finding and doing what is best for each other
You cannot “fall” into mature love
Mature love grows as a relationship grow
The Growth of Mature Love1. Develop Rapport
2. Personal SharingTrust develops
3. Dependency on each other
4. Feeling of satisfaction
Chart pg 156 and 157
Making the Decision to Wait Set your personal boundaries
Peer Pressure
Media Pressure
Why Wait? Psychological Consequences
Values Does not mean commitment Self-doubt, guilt, feeling used or abused, fear and lack of trust
Unwanted Pregnancy
Sexually Transmitted Infections Human Papillomavirus (HPV) – genital warts Gonorrhea Chlamydia Genital Herpes Syphilis Hepatitis B HIV/AIDS
Responding to Pressure
Set your personal boundaries Talk to your partner Avoid situations that may cause you to
be tempted Never too late to make a decision to wait
Date or Acquaintance Rape
Rape – forced sexual intercourse
Date Rape – sexual intercourse with a dating partner
Acquaintance Rape – occur between friends, classmates, or coworkers
Date Rape Drugs cause victims to become physically helplessHas no color, smell or taste