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US EUROPE AFRICA ASIA Editorials OpEd Columnists Contributors Cartoons Specials From the Press Forum Trends From the Readers Debate Editor's Pick: Nepal new earthquake Modi's visit ChinaDenmark ties Parade CrossStraits ties PhD woman Comments Print Mail Large Medium Small Chinese women and sa jiao ( bbs.chinadaily.com.cn) Updated: 20140414 10:11 Editor's note: Sa jiao (撒娇) means acting like a spoiled child. Many Chinese women often resort to sa jiao when they want more attention or if they want to get their boyfriend or husband to do something for them. It is considered cute and feminine in Chinese society and a woman who does not use this "technique" is often seen as not feminine. But one of our forum readers from the US offers a different perspective. Lexalee （US） In China, sa jiao is understood and apparently OK as a form of role play between some couples. The narcissistic woman puts on a spoiled child act, throws tantrums, makes demands, and the guy shows he cares by acquiescing and giving in. It can get expensive for him, but it's a way of showing his masculinity to her and anyone watching. Foreigners find this sort of thing very embarrassing to watch. They are astonished at how a woman who seems sane suddenly changes into an infantile monster and how her boyfriend will just do whatever she wants. There's no dignity in it. I don't recommend Chinese couples put on such displays in America, certainly not in public. Feminism has taken too strong a hold to make sa jiao acceptable behavior here. An American woman cannot assume that a man will take care of her, buy her expensive gifts, etc. If she makes too many unreasonable demands, he's likely to dump her. In fact, many American men are looking for a strong, smart woman to do the providing. Nuts to that. Whether you're a man or woman, you should at least be able to take care of yourself, because nothing in this Is your smartphone killing relationships? Ridiculous stereotypes about India Lijiang ancient town, the home of Naxi people Would you go on a blind date? How has China changed you? Are school uniforms necessary? Most Viewed Today's Top News What do you think of organ donation? Do celebrities have a right to privacy? Tap, tap ... these gadgets are crazy! Some Americans yet to wake up from Cold War Double standards hinder fight against terrorism Paparazzi's immorality over singer's death The three worries of 2015 By ColinSpeakman We hope for a better 2015 and I am an optimist. However we have not started the new year well and there are three worries that will dog us as the year progresses. Forum Trends Are models necessary for auto shows? Should pet owners be taxed? Top 12 tips for traveling in China How has China changed you? Would you help an injured stranger? Columnists Featured Contributors Star Bloggers Opinion / Forum Trends HOME CHINA WORLD BUSINESS LIFESTYLE CULTURE TRAVEL SPORTS OPINION REGIONAL FORUM NEWSPAPER
