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Collaborate Or DieCollaborate Or Die
Joanne BodineJoanne Bodine
Neil BodineNeil Bodine
The Bodine GroupThe Bodine Group
Two QuestionsTwo Questions
Why collaborate?Why collaborate?
What does collaboration look like?What does collaboration look like?
Golden BallsGolden Balls
Contestant optionsContestant options
Split, split – 50%/50%Split, split – 50%/50%
Spilt, steal – 100% for stealerSpilt, steal – 100% for stealer
Steal, steal – nothingSteal, steal – nothing
Golden BallsGolden Balls
Think about what you would doThink about what you would do
Pay close attention to the dialoguePay close attention to the dialogue
– What do they say?What do they say?
– What works?What works?
Think about the outcomeThink about the outcome
– Why did it happen?Why did it happen?
– Long term consequences?Long term consequences?
Golden Balls clip 1Golden Balls clip 1
Clip 1: QuestionsClip 1: Questions
What stuck you?What stuck you?
Why the result? Why the result?
What consequences—short and What consequences—short and long term?long term?
To what extent was trust a factor?To what extent was trust a factor?
What would you have done?What would you have done?
Golden Balls Clip 2Golden Balls Clip 2
Clip 2: QuestionsClip 2: Questions
What struck you?What struck you?
Why the different result?Why the different result?
What difference was there in dialogue, What difference was there in dialogue, if any?if any?
What created trust?What created trust?
What was the basic nature of the What was the basic nature of the relationship?relationship?
2 Views of Self-Interest
Independent Interdependent
InterdependenceInterdependence
Interdependence Interdependence
– means I cannot meet my needs means I cannot meet my needs unless your needs are metunless your needs are met
– is fact, not a choice is fact, not a choice
The CHOICE is to compete, ignore The CHOICE is to compete, ignore or collaborateor collaborate
The fundamental question The fundamental question in every relationship and in every relationship and
organizationorganization
Are we interdependent or Are we interdependent or not?not?
If we are interdependent, If we are interdependent, we should act like itwe should act like it
Otherwise we ultimately Otherwise we ultimately harm ourselvesharm ourselves
Elements of Elements of CollaborationCollaboration Recognition of everyoneRecognition of everyone’’s values value
Problem solving and decision Problem solving and decision making based on interests and making based on interests and inquiryinquiry
Common set of values & normsCommon set of values & norms
Deep and honest communicationDeep and honest communication
Elements of Elements of CollaborationCollaboration Complete transparencyComplete transparency
Focus on facts and dataFocus on facts and data
Commitment to work things out in Commitment to work things out in a way that meets everyonea way that meets everyone’’s s interestsinterests
When one tugs at one When one tugs at one thing in nature, he thing in nature, he finds it attached finds it attached to the rest of the to the rest of the
worldworld..John Muir John Muir
Collaborative Problem Collaborative Problem Solving, Decision Solving, Decision Making & NegotiationMaking & Negotiation
Letting Others Have Your WayLetting Others Have Your Way
Alternative ModelsAlternative Models
Position based processPosition based process
Interest based processInterest based process
Position-based ProcessPosition-based Process
My position
Discussion/
Debate
Your position
Prevail, Withdraw
or Compromise
Natural Problem Natural Problem Solving Process Solving Process Understand the problem Understand the problem
Look at underlying concerns Look at underlying concerns
Explore possible ways to solve Explore possible ways to solve
Evaluate possible solutionsEvaluate possible solutions
Choose a specific solutionChoose a specific solution
Interest-BasedInterest-Based ApproachApproach
My information & perspective
Problem Your information and perspective
My needs Needs/interests Your needs
Develop options/ Possible solutions
Evaluate
Commit & plan
Which model is more Which model is more consistent with consistent with
interdependence?interdependence?
Why?Why?
Core Principles of IBPSCore Principles of IBPS
1.1. Everyone has an equal voiceEveryone has an equal voice
2.2. Focus on interests, rather than Focus on interests, rather than positionspositions
3.3. Focus on issues, not peopleFocus on issues, not people
4.4. Defer commitment to the endDefer commitment to the end
Core Principles Core Principles
5.5. Commit to candor & full Commit to candor & full disclosure disclosure
6.6. Inquire, rather than assumeInquire, rather than assume
7.7. Persuade, rather than coercePersuade, rather than coerce
8.8. Assume the best intentionsAssume the best intentions
Contrasting PrinciplesContrasting Principles
Position-based Position-based approachapproach
Use information Use information tacticallytactically
Focus on our Focus on our proposalproposal
Argue to winArgue to win
Interest-based Interest-based approachapproach
Be candid & fully Be candid & fully disclosedisclose
Explore many Explore many possible solutionspossible solutions
Ask questions to Ask questions to understandunderstand
Contrasting PrinciplesContrasting Principles
Proposal-based Proposal-based approachapproach
Connect Connect relationship & relationship & content content
Decide how to treat Decide how to treat the otherthe other
Interest-based Interest-based approachapproach
Separate Separate relationship & relationship & content content
Agree how to treat Agree how to treat each other each other
Stages of IB ProcessStages of IB Process
1.1. DESCRIBE the problemDESCRIBE the problem
2.2. IDENTIFY stakeholders & their interests IDENTIFY stakeholders & their interests
3.3. DEFINE the issuesDEFINE the issues
4.4. CREATE optionsCREATE options
5.5. EVALUATE options based on interestsEVALUATE options based on interests
6.6. COMMIT to solutions and a plan of actionCOMMIT to solutions and a plan of action
Stage 1: Describe the Stage 1: Describe the ProblemProblem Agree on the subject matterAgree on the subject matter Tell the storyTell the story
WhatWhat’’s happening?s happening? WhatWhat’’s working? s working? WhatWhat’’s not working?s not working?
Perceptions need not match Perceptions need not match – The goal is understanding, not The goal is understanding, not
agreementagreement
Stage 2: Identify Stage 2: Identify Stakeholders And Stakeholders And InterestsInterests Identify the stakeholdersIdentify the stakeholders
– Those directly affected by the problemThose directly affected by the problem
Identify their interestsIdentify their interests
Interests Interests
– Are the underlying motivation for what Are the underlying motivation for what we want: needs, desires, fears, we want: needs, desires, fears, concernsconcerns
– Answer the question Answer the question ““Why?Why?””
Stage 2: Identify Stage 2: Identify Stakeholders And Their Stakeholders And Their InterestsInterestsProcessProcess
Identify the direct stakeholdersIdentify the direct stakeholders
Identify your own interests Identify your own interests
Seek to understand othersSeek to understand others’’ interests interests
Explore which interests are separate, Explore which interests are separate,
mutual or interdependentmutual or interdependent
Interest T-ChartInterest T-Chart
StakeholderStakeholder StakeholdStakeholderer
StakeholdStakeholderer
Stage 3: Define the Stage 3: Define the IssuesIssues Identify the issues to resolve Identify the issues to resolve
Stage 4: CreateStage 4: Create OptionsOptions
OptionsOptions are are Possible solutionsPossible solutions
Answer the questionAnswer the question ““How?How?””
Stage 4: CreateStage 4: Create OptionsOptions
ProcessProcess
Use free-flowing brainstormingUse free-flowing brainstorming
No criticism or evaluationNo criticism or evaluation
No one owns an optionNo one owns an option
No one has to defend an option, but No one has to defend an option, but
may need to explain itmay need to explain it
Options do not require agreementOptions do not require agreement
Stage 5: Evaluate Stage 5: Evaluate OptionsOptions
ProcessProcess
Clarify & cluster optionsClarify & cluster options
Compare options to the interestsCompare options to the interests
Modify options to better meet Modify options to better meet interestsinterests
Eliminate options by consensusEliminate options by consensus
Stage 6: Commit To Stage 6: Commit To Solutions And A PlanSolutions And A Plan
ProcessProcess
Create & refine a straw designCreate & refine a straw design
When the straw design When the straw design adequately meets all interests, adequately meets all interests, explicitly commitexplicitly commit
Put the agreement in writingPut the agreement in writing
Develop an implementation planDevelop an implementation plan
Understanding the Problem
• Sifting data and defining the issues
• Identifying and probing interests
Searching For Solutions
• Option generation• Working as a team and
staying on the same page
Reflection• Evaluation• Check the vision• Revisit assumptions,
values, beliefs, and interests
• Focus on learning
Reaching Agreements
• Evaluating and analyzing options (against interests and alternatives)
• Refining/narrowing the list
• Deciding and committing
Cyclical Nature of Problem Solving
Stage 1 TasksStage 1 Tasks
1.1. Tell your storiesTell your stories
2.2. Ask questions to clarifyAsk questions to clarify
Stage 2 TasksStage 2 Tasks
1.1. Identify the stakeholdersIdentify the stakeholders
2.2. Identify their interests Identify their interests
3.3. Explore which interests are Explore which interests are separate, mutual and separate, mutual and interdependentinterdependent
Stage 3 TasksStage 3 Tasks
1.1. Identify the issues Identify the issues
Stage 4 TasksStage 4 Tasks
1.1. Brainstorm optionsBrainstorm options
2.2. Do not comment or evaluateDo not comment or evaluate
3.3. Hold your questions for nowHold your questions for now
4.4. Write down and number optionsWrite down and number options
Stage 5 TasksStage 5 Tasks
1.1. Evaluate each option Evaluate each option
2.2. Eliminate options by consensusEliminate options by consensus
3.3. Revise, combine or add options Revise, combine or add options to better meet the intereststo better meet the interests
Stage 6 TasksStage 6 Tasks
1.1. Create a straw design Create a straw design
2.2. Refine it Refine it Does it address all the issues?Does it address all the issues?
Does it adequately meet all the Does it adequately meet all the interests? interests?
3.3. Explicitly commit when no Explicitly commit when no further refinement is neededfurther refinement is needed
The Interest-based The Interest-based Approach Is Approach Is Not just a method of mutual Not just a method of mutual
problem solving or negotiationproblem solving or negotiation
A template for working togetherA template for working together
A way of thinking about problemsA way of thinking about problems
A template that can be used A template that can be used unilaterally by asking questionsunilaterally by asking questions
– IB AikidoIB Aikido
High above High above the hushed the hushed crowd, Rex crowd, Rex
tried to tried to remain remain
focused. Still, focused. Still, he couldnhe couldn’’t t shake one shake one nagging nagging
thought: He thought: He was an old was an old
dog and this dog and this was a new was a new
trick.trick.
Collaborative Collaborative RelationshipsRelationships
No trustNo trust
No collaborationNo collaboration
No teamNo team
Clip 3: QuestionsClip 3: Questions
What happened?What happened?
Why?Why?
Impact short time & long term?Impact short time & long term?
QuestionsQuestions
How can we lose trust?How can we lose trust?
How can we gain trust?How can we gain trust?
Focus on your own experienceFocus on your own experience
3 Ways To Lose Trust3 Ways To Lose Trust
Untrustworthy behaviorUntrustworthy behavior
Misperceiving othersMisperceiving others’’ intent intent
Ignoring the impact of our Ignoring the impact of our behaviorbehavior
TrustTrust
Can be lost instantaneouslyCan be lost instantaneously
Can only be built or rebuilt Can only be built or rebuilt incrementallyincrementally
Role Of NormsRole Of Norms
StatedStated Norms Norms
– What we What we say say we will dowe will do
– Our Our ““ttalkalk””
OperativeOperative NormsNorms
– What we What we actuallyactually do do
– Our Our ““walkwalk””
The Double StandardThe Double Standard
We are understanding and We are understanding and forgiving forgiving of of ourour own conduct own conduct
– because we know because we know ourour intentintent
We are We are less forgiving of the othersless forgiving of the others’’ conduct conduct
– because we judge only by because we judge only by their their conductconduct and its and its impactimpact on uson us
Tools for Building Tools for Building RelationshipsRelationships
Develop ground rulesDevelop ground rules
Reflect as a group Reflect as a group
Surface relationship issuesSurface relationship issues
Develop Ground RulesDevelop Ground Rules
Decide how you want to Decide how you want to treat treat each othereach other
Capture these norms in Capture these norms in writing writing
Copy & distribute themCopy & distribute them
Reflect As A groupReflect As A group
Periodically take time to Periodically take time to assess assess progressprogress
AskAsk
– What What workedworked? +? +
– What could we What could we improveimprove? ? ΔΔ
– What did we What did we learnlearn??
Surface Relationship Surface Relationship IssuesIssues Conflict is inevitableConflict is inevitable
Relationships Relationships improve or notimprove or not depending on how we depending on how we handlehandle conflictconflict
Failing to surface conflict Failing to surface conflict creates creates distrustdistrust
Addressing conflict constructively Addressing conflict constructively deepens trustdeepens trust
HowHow??
Address relationship issues Address relationship issues separately separately
Describe Describe what happenedwhat happened and and the the impactimpact
Do not ascribe Do not ascribe intentintent
Reaffirm or create new Reaffirm or create new normsnorms
ForgiveForgive and and make amendsmake amends
We awaken in others the We awaken in others the same attitude of mind same attitude of mind we hold toward themwe hold toward them