EMOTIONS &

EMOTIONAL

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Put yourself in someone else’s place –be more open and accepting of their perspectives and needs.

• Emotion – a natural instinctive state of mind in response to a particular event that is usually short in duration.

• Feeling – an affirmative state of consciousness resulting from emotions, thoughts and desires.

• Mood – a state of feeling at a particular time.

DEFINITIONS

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Put yourself in someone else’s place –be more open and accepting of their perspectives and needs.

• Perception – how we see things.

• Cognition – how we label and think about what we see.

• Emotion – physical and mental response to our thoughts.

THREE INTERCONNECTED PROCESSES

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1. Emotions begin as an instant bio-chemical response to change.

2. Rapid bodily reactions to those bio-chemical shifts.

3. Our conscious cognitive brain matches up our internal state with the external context to interpret these reactions and names them as our feelings.

THREE LEVELS OF REACTION

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Try logging every emotion you feel throughout the day and spend time reflecting on those emotions and the information that each emotion provides.

BECOMING AWARE OF FEELINGS

An Event Occurs We Experience ItWe Respond

Physiologically - Feel Emotion

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Examine how you react to stressful situations. Keep your emotions under control when things go wrong.

BECOMING AWARE OF FEELINGS

An Event Occurs

We Response

Physiologically

We Experience an Emotion

We interpret this arousal; we use the context to

decide what emotion

we’re experiencin

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Take responsibility for your actions. Apologize.

THE SWINGING BRIDGE EXPERIMENT

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If your decision will impact others, put yourself in their place.

---HOW MANY

FEELINGS CAN YOU NAME?

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Don’t advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture others.

Word # of People

Happy 10

Sad 10

Excited 6

Depressed 5

Scared 4

TOP 5 USED WORDS

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Take more responsibility for your feelings.

• Feelings are our way of noticing emotions that interrupt cognitive processes and behaviors and that require attention.

FEELINGS AND MOOD

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Become emotionally literate. Label your feelings, rather than labeling people or situations.

Good Mood Bad Mood• Positive & Optimistic

approach to things• Negative &

Pessimistic approach to things

1. Identify or name the feelings.

2. Use sensory descriptions and make up ways to describe how you feel.

3. Report what kind of action the feeling urges you to do.

4. Use figures of speech as descriptions of feelings.

4 WAYS – EXPRESSING FEELINGS

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Use your feelings to make decisions, but don’t let your mood affect them.

THE BIOLOGICAL MECHANICS OF FEELINGS

Stimulus Event

Cognition

Feeling State

Overt Behavio

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Focus on the what you are feelings as opposed to what happened.

(1) “It hurts when you step on my legs, please stop it!”

(2) “I can’t watch the movie properly when you keep asking me questions, and I don’t like it. I’d appreciate it if you waited with your questions until after the movie.”

(3) “Your singing is so terribly annoying, and I can’t stand it anymore, please stop singing!”

(4) “Call me before you come over, it frustrates me when I have to get ready in such a short time.”

EXPRESSING FEELINGS

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Show respect for other people’s feelings.

THE. END.

BY DIN WAISMARK