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YOU CAN BE A COUNSELOR
TO HELP YOUR NEAR & DEAR
Presented To You Through Slide Share
By Life Improvement Mind Engineering
(LIME)
Ganesh Ramachandran
BEFORE WE KNOW WHAT ‘S
COUNSELLING….
Let’s See How And Why People Differ From Each
Other !!
Why This Difference From Person To Person?
What Are The Causes?
Siddhas of Ancient India Say Conception of Child is Banned
In Certain Places
Please Understand
IN THICK FOREST
NEAR A WATER
FALL
CLOSE TO DESERT
SEA SHORE
NEAR MOUNTAINS
& CAVES
NEAR CREMATION
GROUND
Conception should not happen on these days & OCCASIONS
New Moon Day
MOURNING DAYs/ DEATH ANNIVERSARIES
WHEN EITHER OF THE PARTNERS ARE PHYSICALLY OR MENTALLY WEAK / DISTURBED
WHEN EITHER OF THE PARTNER IS SICK
WHEN THE STOMACH IS FULL WITH FOOD
WHEN THE BLADDER / BOWEL IS FULL
WHEN THE ROOM HOME IS NO PEOPLE LIVING IN IT AND WITHOUT ANY LIGHT IN THE ROOM
Parenting Starts Even With The
Unborn Child
Emotions of Mother, Sounds /Noise From
Outside And Environmental
Impact Affect The Unborn Child To A Very Great Extent
Our First Relationship Is
With Our Mother
Through The Emotion of Love & Care
Hard-Wired
Information
Soft-Wired
Information
Hard-Wired
Information
Tells Your SC Mind
How Your Body &
Mind Work In
Tandem with each
other – through non
verbal mode alone
Soft-Wired
Information Soft-Wired Information
tells Your SC Mind how
you personally interpret
your world at any given
time – in relation to
fulfilling your inner
strivings to both survive
and thrive – Verbal &
Non-verbal Mode
A Child’s Brain Is In One Of The Following Two Modes
Protective Mode
To Survive
Learning Mode To
Thrive
Development of A Child’s Mind Is Influenced In Every Stage of Its
Growth
Lose Self Confidence and Develop Dependence on others
Develop Anxiety And Restlessness demanding things to be done at once
Easily lose temper and shout for anything and everything
Easily picks up all sorts of bad habits especially that satisfies the mouth
Those children Are Prone To Mental Diseases at any stage of their life
Oral Fixation (tha; epiy kd tsHr;rpj; jil) may occur
Teach The Child With Love & Care On Toilet Habits – Never Compel Using
Authority And Force
When Controlled, Children Develop Tendency To Control Passing On Urine &
Stools Or Spend Much Time In Toilet Playing There
Later In Life They May Either Adopt Over Sanitation Or Remain Dirty &
Shabby
They Become Misers And Irresponsible In Life
From 3 To 6 Years – This Stage Exists In Children. Children Come To Know Their Gender – They Touch Their
Primary Sexual Parts And Feel Good
Phallic Stage
Male Child Gets Attached to Mother – Become Very Possessive And Not Allowing Father To Touch Mom – Oedipus Complex
For Male Child and Electra Complex For Female Child
Though There Is No Sexual Instinct, Children Know Gender Difference And Get Attached To Opposite Sex
Children Of This Age Watch Their Parents – We Must Be Very Careful
At This Stage
When We Don’t Give Freedom To Children To Make Physical Contacts With
Us As They Like, Serious Mental Reactions Will Happen Which Will Affect The Children When They Become
Youth
This is the Period Children Are Socialized – No Difference Between Male& Female
During Interaction
Children Compare & Feel Inferior/Superior Learn New Behavior & Habits, Peer Group
Influence
Ego, Self Esteem, Self Confidence Develop SEER Belief Sets In
Autism
What’s Is It
IMPORTANT TIPS - INFANTS
Close Proximity – Touch & Emotions – Sounds –
Body Gestures
Mother Feeding – Give Importance To Oral
Pleasure
Know Their Food & Sleep Habits As Well As Their
Bio Rhythm
IMPORTANT TIPS - BABIES
Give Required Moral & Physical
Support
Facilitate Easy Movements
Facilitate Learning Process
IMPORTANT TIPS - CHILDREN
Never Snatch Any Playthings From Children Even- though
They Are Dangerous To Them
Get Them Suitable & Sufficient Toys To Play With
IMPORTANT TIPS - CHILDREN
Encourage Outing & Lot Of Physical
Sports
Mistakes of Parents In Rearing Up Children End Up
In Wrong Attitude & Mentality In Grown Up Men
& Women
Right !! What’s
Counseling?
IT IS NOT JUST TALKING
IT IS NOT PACIFYING SOMEONE ON SOMETHING
IT IS NOT MAKING A COMPROMISE
IT IS NOT GIVING DRY ADVICES
IT IS UNDERSTANDING THE WOES OF AN INDIVIDUAL WITH
EMPATHY IN RIGHT PERSPECTIVE AND GIVING SUITABLE AND ACCEPTABLE
SUGGESTIONS
SUGGESTIONS
WHO CAN BE COUNSELLED?
PERSONS HAVING MENTAL CONFUSION
PERSONS HAVING STRAINED RELATIONSHIP
PERSONS WHO WANT TO GIVE UP BAD HABITS
PERSONS HAVING ILLOGICAL PREPOSITIONS
QUALITIES OF THE COUNSELLOR
GOOD OBSERVER
GOOD HUMAN BEING
HAVING GOOD ANALYTICAL MIND
GOOD PATIENT LISTENER
TYPES OF COUNSELLING
EMOTIONAL COUNSELLING
LOGICAL COUNSELLING
WHO SHOULD NOT BE CONSIDERED FOR COUNSELLING?
INSANE PERSONS
PERSONS HAVING LUNATIC PROBLEMS
PERSONS WHO ARE UNDER PSYCHIATRIC TREATMENT
PERSONS WHO ARE NOT READY FOR COUNSELLING
EVERY PERSON IS UNIQUE IN HIS/HER OWN
PERCEPTION
What is Mind, Where is it, What is
its Shape?
MIND IS NOTHING BUT COLLECTION OF
THOUGHTS
Your Subconscious Mind is 6000
times powerful than
your conscious
mind!!
Critical Filter at Conscious Level
Critical Filter at Sub Conscious Level
OUR PERSONALLITY IS BASED ON
THE CRITICAL FILTERS
PAST EXPERIENCE
TYPE AND QUALITY OF THOUGHTS
ID
EGO
SUPER EGO
Our Perception, Response &
Reaction Reveal Us To The World
EMOTIONS
OUR PERCEPTION IS MAINLY BASED ON OUR
CRITICAL FILTERS AND ON OUR OWN EXPERIENCE
NO SINGLE INCIDENT CAN EVOKE SAME RESPONSE
FROM ALL
You Know The Cockroach Story
On seeing A Cockroach, Different People React Differently !!
HUMAN BEHAVIOUR IS THUS
PROBABILISTIC AND NOT PREDICTABLE
WHAT ‘S MIND PROGRAMMING?
Makes us alive and Makes Us
Happy
BODY
CONSCIOUS MIND
SUBCONSCIOUS MIND
Conscious Mind Works As A Central Command Centre
BODY
CONSCIOUS MIND
SUB CONSCIOUS MIND BYPASSED
WEAK OUTPUT
By Passed
Inputs Directly
Received
BODY
CONSCIOUS MIND
SUBCONSCIOUS MIND
VISION
TASTE
HEARING
TOUCH
SMELL
Inputs Powerfully Enhanced
BODY
CONSCIOUS MIND
SUBCONSCIOUS MIND
VISION
TASTE
HEARING
TOUCH
SMELL
In Mind Programming, We Pass On the Inputs Consciously to the
Subconscious Mind
By Passed
Inputs Directly
Received
BODY
CONSCIOUS MIND
SUBCONSCIOUS MIND
VISION
TASTE
HEARING
TOUCH
SMELL
MENTAL PARADIGM
THOUGHT
IMAGE
EMOTION
ENERGY
EFFECT ON BODY
BODY SYNDROME
WILD SWING BETWEEN LIBIDO
AND MARTIDO
IMBALANCE BETWEEN
ANIMALISTIC INSTINCT AND
CULTURED MIND
First Counselling Session
It is advisable to know the problem of the Counselee from those who know him/her very well without the knowledge of
the Counselee PRIOR to the First Session
First Counselling Session contd..
Establish Perfect Rapport
Facilitate the Counselee Talk Freely
Establish Your Authority
First Counselling Session contd..
The Counselee Should Develop Faith on the Counselor
In case the Counselee wants to talk to you Privately send all others out
Assure the counselee Professional Ethics
We May Require More Than One
Session
IMPORTANT DON’Ts
Never Interrupt The Flow Of The Counselee
Never Indulge In Argument
Never Thrust Your Opinion Initially
IMPORTANT DON’Ts contd..
Never Ridicule, Condemn or Make Sarcastic Comments
Never Reveal To Anyone The Outcome of the session
Never Discourage The Counselee And Avoid Negative Words
WHEN YOU FAIL TO IMPRESS IN THE FIRST SESSION, I AM SORRY YOU WILL NOT BE SUCCESSFUL
IN YOUR EFFORTS
R GANESH FOUNDER LIFE IMPROVEMENT MIND ENGINEERING (LIME) CELL: 9442200231 EMAIL: [email protected] Web: www.rganesh.in