COUNSELLING

• Rev JOBIN JOHN

MODULE 1 : COUNSELLING

Meaning Definition

CharacteristicsGoals of counselling

Elements of counselling

COUNSELLING : Meaning • C – caring, Committed , confidentiality • O- Open mind• U – Understands the person and his problems • N – Neutral and objective, non- judgmental• S- Systematic , Service oriented , sincere• E – Empathise, expect no reward/ return• L – Listens with interest • L – Loyal to the client’s welfare • O – Obliging , optimistic • R – Resourceful and reaches out to do the best to the

client , respects the clients unconditionally

COUNSELLING : Meaning • Counseling is the

process of helping a

person with a

problem

• Sort out what's

happening and how

they feel about it,

• Look at their options

• Choose a course of

action that fits their

values, resources and

lifestyles (not yours),

• Implement their

decisions, and

• Evaluate the practical

and emotional results.

COUNSELLING : Meaning

Is about helping

normal, functional

people handle the usual

problems,

opportunities and

choices that come up in

any life.

COUNSELLING : Meaning

Primarily provide with a safe

time and place in which to

figure out their own situation,

and

Secondarily by sharing our

specialized knowledge

and resources with them

when asked.

COUNSELLING : Meaning

Few examples of reasons we might want to see a counselor

Thoughts "She/he won't listen"

"She/he isn't making any sense"

"Everyone's out to get me"

"If only they knew what I was really like, ..."

Feelings Constant anger Stressed out Feeling blamed Constant

tiredness

BehaviourNot getting your voice or opinion heard

Allowing yourself to be bullied

Shouting, slamming doors, throwing things

Shutting yourself away from other people

Explore/ Clarify

"I don't know what to do about my relationship"

Feeling confused about a situation or person

My life lacks direction

Personal worries

What is Counselling? Counselling is the opportunity to talk with a

professionally trained counsellor who can offer support, advice and new perspectives on your issues.

The main steps in the counselling process are: • To help clarify the problem • To identify options open to you in the situation • To work out what you hope to achieve • Identify ways to achieve this goal • Provide support and advice as you work towards

your goal.

• Counselling is defined as ‘the service of helping people to adjust to or deal with personal problems by enabling them to discover for themselves the solution to the problems while receiving attention from a counsellor.’ (Chambers Dictionary)

COUNSELLING : Definition

COUNSELLING : Definition • Counselling is an interactive process characterized

by a unique relationship between counselor and client that leads to change in the client in one or more of the following areas: – Behaviour (overt changes in the ways clients act, their

coping skills, decision making skills, and / or relationship skills)

– Beliefs and values ( Ways of thinking about self , others, and the world) or emotional concerns relating to these perceptions

– Level of emotional distress ( uncomfortable feelings or reactivity to environmental stress.)

COUNSELLING : Definition • Counseling is a learning oriented process, carried on a

simple one to one social environment, in which the counselor professionally competent in psychological skills and knowledge seeks to assist the Client by methods appropriate to the latter’s needs and within the context of the total personal programme, to learn how to put such understanding into effect in relation to more clearly perceived and realistically defined goals to the end that the client may become a happier and more productive member of the society.

• Assistance provided to improve psychological, emotional, social, intellectual, and personal developments

• One to one, one to many or one to group. (e.g. Family counseling and group counseling.)

COUNSELLING : Characteristics

COUNSELLING : Characteristics • It is through a helping

relationship between the counselor and the counselee

• It is through the professional conversation and series of problem solving interviews

• A process that leads action on the part of the counselee

Goals are the expected results and objectives from the counseling process

• Allow the person to ventilate his feelings in a safe and accepting atmosphere.

• Help the counselee to place his problem in the context of reality without his emotions getting in the way.

• Enable the individual to chose among possible options the one which seems good for him/her.

Goals of COUNSELLING

• To make the individual fully functioning and productive individual

• To solve the immediate problems and concerns to recapitulate the real existence of the client

• To fulfill the potentials of the individual.

Goals of COUNSELLING

•Counselor’s goals: understanding the behavior,

motivation, feeling..•Counselee’s goals: relief from tension, solving a

problem, taking a decision.

Goals of COUNSELLING

The goals will give a sense of direction needed for a useful evaluation and monitoring of the process.

• Immediate goals or Short-term goals --counselee’s problems.• Long-term goals --purpose in general

counselor’s goals.• Process goals --for the counselor

counselee relationship.

Goals of COUNSELLING

Goals of COUNSELLING

•Achievement of positive mental health. - Selfactualising-self

realizing-fully functioning.

•Resolution of problems.

•Improving personal effectiveness.

•To aid the change process

•Improvising decision-making.

•Preventing the further occurrences of issues

•Behavior modification.

Elements of COUNSELLING

• Empathetic relationship

• Adherence to the clients problems

• Existence of an atmosphere of mutual

trust and confidence

• Clearly defined goals and objectives

• Well maintained rapport