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Table Of Contents

Coreword

D#a4ter E:

Donfidence Is > Gental >ttitude

D#a4ter H:

>ntici4ations

D#a4ter I:

Je8innin8 Cactors and Su44ositions

8oreword

Ly4nosis6 t#an@s to t#e sta8e6 TM6 and a lot of 3ovies6 t#e very word calls

fort# a 4icture of a w#is@ered and devilis# #y4notist swayin8 a 4oc@et watc#

before #is zo3bie li@e sub=ectNs face; Or of individuals w#o are bar@in8 li@e

4u44ies or clac@in8 li@e c#ic@ens6 or actin8 in anot#er unusual 3anner on a

sta8e;

Re8rettable! >s t#e 3isconce4tions induced by t#e false stuff on sta8e and

television #ave scared a lot of 4eo4le away fro3 benefitin8 fro3 t#is fantastic

and 4otent sensory syste3 t#at is si34ly as natural as breat#in8;

<it# @nowled8e co3es 3i8#t; T#e 8oal of t#is e-Joo@ is to #el4 you to

co34re#end w#at is inducin8 you to #ave feelin8s of fear6 doubtfulness6 and

a lac@ of confidence6 and #ow to 8o about substitutin8 t#ese da3a8in8

feelin8s wit# feelin8s of confidence and coura8e;

Courage And Confidence 

Summon the giant within and take control of your destiny. 

 

Chapter 1: Confidence Is A Mental Attitude 

 

>ynopsis

 

It might sound commonplace, but now is really the 1st day 

of the remainder of your life! 

Confidence is a mental attitude, which will let you have 

confident, yet honest opinions of yourself and your states 

of affairs. When you have confidence, you'll believe on 

your own powers, and have a universal sense of command 

over your life. You'll think that, within reason, you'll be 

able to accomplish what you wish to do.

Attitude Donfidence is a 3ental attitude t#atNs learned wit# ex4eriences; Once

you under8o success6 youNll tend to antici4ate bein8 successful; >nd

t#at notion of antici4ation will cause you to #ave a feelin8 of self-

confidence;

Cor instance: > youn8 fellow wis#es to learn #ow to be a boxer6 so #e

acquires lessons6 and acquires a coac#;

Lis coac# wonNt 4ut #i3 into t#e rin8 till #e #as accu3ulated

adequate sta3ina and s@ill; >nd even t#en6 t#e coac# will only 4ut

#i3 u4 a8ainst a rival t#at #e reco8nizes #is fi8#ter 3ay beat; <#en

#is fi8#ter beats t#e adversary6 #eNs successful6 and be8ins to realize

confidence in #is abilities;

<it# every contest6 t#e coac# 4uts #is fi8#ter u4 a8ainst an adversary

w#oNs a sli3ly better fi8#ter t#en t#e last6 but not 8reat enou8# to

trounce #is 3an; Jy t#e finis# of t#e Ird fi8#t6 t#e youn8 boxer starts

to ex4ect to win #is Tt#6 and so #is self-confidence continues to

develo4; T#is scenario 8oes forward to re4eat itself; >nd as lon8 as t#e

fi8#ter succeeds6 #is ex4ectations of success6 and #is feelin8s of

confidence will 8o on to 8row;

Donceive of #ow your life would be better if you felt confident; Cirst of

all6 sit bac@ and ta@e a cou4le of 3inutes to let yourself relax; If you

understand #ow to do 4ro8ressive relaxation6 t#en you ou8#t to 8o

a#ead and do t#at; Or6 you are able to download so3et#in8 off t#e

net;

Or 3erely fantasize a relaxin8 ex4erience; Do you li@e t#e beac#V If

you do6 t#en 3a@e a s#ort illusion of bein8 at t#e beac#; If your t#in8

is t#e 3ountains6 t#en 3a@e an illusion of bein8 t#ere;

<#en you feel deco34ressed6 itNs ti3e for you to start your first

exercise; Ga@e a 3ental 4icture of yourself; In your 4icture I need you

to see yourself loo@in8 to #ave self-assurance; <#at would you li@e

self-assurance to ac#ieve for youV Low would you li@e it to 3a@e your

life 3ore beneficialV T#atNs w#at t#e story of your 3ental 4icture will

be about;

Ga@e your 4icture as trut#ful as 4ossible; To t#e best of your 4ower6

you #ave to 3a@e t#e3: Govin8W colorizedW closeW t#ree-dW centered

s#ar4lyW and ty4ically bri8#t; Try out t#e followin8 4ro4erties of your

3ental 4icture to see w#ic# one 3a@es it feel t#e 3ost credible to

you:

>tte34t 4uttin8 in a borderW atte34t 3a@in8 it borderless Xli@e an

unfra3ed i3a8eYW atte34t 3a@in8 your 4icture into a 4anora3a;

Dorrect your 4icture so t#at it feels as true and believable as 4ossible;

T#e 3ore frequently you watc# t#ese 3ental 4ictures6 t#e 3ore

beneficial; Jedti3e is a fantabulous ti3e to 3a@e t#ese 3ental

4ictures;

Jrief reca4: Self-confidence is a 3ental attitude t#atNs learned wit#

ex4eriences; Once you #ave success6 youNll tend to ex4ect to be

successful; >nd t#at antici4ation will cause you to 8et a feelin8 of self-

assurance;

> 3inute a8o we tal@ed about #ow a coac# could #el4 to build u4 #is

boxerNs confidence;

Zi@ewise6 a 8irl w#oNs afraid of #ei8#ts wis#es to learn to 4lun8e into a

swi33in8 4ool fro3 an elevated divin8 board; So s#e deter3ines a

divin8 coac# w#o as@s #er to lea4 into t#e 4ool fro3 t#e Est ste4 of

t#e ladder u4 to t#e elevated board; T#e Est ste4 of t#e ladder isnNt

really #i8#6 so t#e 8irl feels no fri8#t6 and s#e bounds fro3 t#at ste46

and lands in t#e water unscat#ed;

Collowin86 t#e coac# #as #er lea4 fro3 t#e Hnd ste4 of t#e ladder6 and

so on; I believe t#at youNre be8innin8 to co34re#end; <it# every

additional ste4 u4 t#e ladder6 as t#e youn8 lady was successful on t#e

4rior ste46 and t#is followin8 ste4 is only so3ew#at #i8#er t#en t#e

last6 t#e fri8#t factor is 4altry6 and t#e 3issy ex4ects to be successful;

<#en s#e lea4s in and lands unscat#ed6 t#e 8irlNs self-confidence

8rows6 and #er antici4ation of success on t#e followin8 ste4 u4 t#e

ladder ste4-u4s; If an individual w#o #as a lon8 #istory of success and

notions of self-confidence does bo3b6 t#ey all t#e sa3e tend to ex4ect

success t#e followin8 ti3e out;

Donversely6 w#en an individual w#oNs wea@ in t#e confidence

de4art3ent bo3bs6 t#ey tend to lose self-confidence6 and start to

antici4ate failure6 w#ic# 3ay beco3e a self-fulfillin8 4ro4#ecy;

Lavin8 real self-assurance doesnNt 3ean t#at youNll be able to

acco34lis# everyt#in8; Individuals6 w#o #ave true confidence6

co33only #ave ex4ectations t#at are trut#ful; Even w#en a few of

t#eir ex4ectations are not fulfilled6 t#ey 8o on to be 4ositive and to

acce4t t#e3selves;

Individuals6 w#o lac@ self-confidence6 tend to de4end to a fault on t#e

a44roval of ot#er 4eo4le in order to feel 8ood about t#e3selves; T#ey

tend to 4revent ta@in8 ris@s as t#ey fear failure; T#ey frequently 4ut

t#e3selves down and tend to discount or brus# aside t#e

co34li3ents t#at t#ey do 8et; Does any of t#is sound fa3iliar to youV

Chapter A: Anticipations 

 

>ynopsis

Do you recall the Rubik's Cube that we all had when we were 

youngsters? It's a block that has many little different colored 

cubes assembled into it. And you are able to twist and turn 

every cube so that every side of the block is either one solid 

color, or it appears like a checkerboard of different colors. 

 

>ee The Outcome Est youNd twist t#e cubes so t#at every side of t#e bloc@ loo@ed li@e a

c#ec@erboard of dissi3ilar colors; T#e #urdle of t#e 4uzzle is to

atte34t to twist it all bac@ so t#at every side of t#e bloc@ is one solid

color once a8ain;

Lave you ever used a Rubi@Ns DubeV Do you recall #ow difficult it was

for you to fi8ure out t#e 4uzzle of t#e Rubi@Ns DubeV It a44eared to be

out of t#e question; >nd all t#e sa3e6 t#ere are co34etitions6 and a

few youn8sters can solve t#e 4uzzle in a cou4le of 3inutes;

>ll t#e sa3e6 now #ere is t#e astonis#in8 t#in86 youn8sters 3ay solve

t#ese 4uzzles6 but 8rownu4s find it nearly inconceivable; Now w#y do

you t#in@ t#at isV

I believe t#at itNs because youn8sters donNt understand t#at itNs out of

t#e question to solve t#e 4uzzle6 and as t#ey donNt @now itNs out of t#e

question6 t#eyNre able to resolve it;

Per#a4s t#ey donNt understand itNs out of t#e question as t#ey #avenNt

#ad enou8# ti3e in t#eir little life to 8o t#rou8# 3uc# failure;

Lowever by t#e ti3e youNre a 8rownu46 youNve ex4erienced failure at

assorted co34lex 4uzzles a lot of ti3es6 and so your antici4ations are

really different fro3 t#ose of a youn8ster; >nd as you 8et w#at you

antici4ate;

Do you wis# to find out #ow to be8in ex4ectin8 w#at you wis# so t#at

you are able to really acquire itV T#en youNll wis# to 8o bac@ to

c#a4ter one of t#is e-boo@ and re#earse t#e 3ental exercise t#at I

4rovided you t#ere; Lowever t#is ti3e6 you #ave to 3a@e a sli3

3odification to t#e exercise;

>fter youNve viewed t#e 4icture of yourself be#avin8 and feelin8 li@e

you #ave self-assurance6 rewind t#e 3ovie and 8et inside of it so t#at

t#e ca3era is wit#in of your #ead6 and your eyes are t#e lenses of t#e

ca3era; Put differently6 see w#at youNd see6 fro3 t#e sa3e view as

really bein8 t#ere; >nd youNll wis# to #ear w#at youNd #ear6 and feel

w#at youNd feel if you were really livin8 inside of t#at 4icture;

Envisa8e #ow 3uc# better your life would be if you could feel

4ositive; Bou 3ay 8et t#e lady friend6 or t#e 8uy6 and #ave t#e #o3e

wit# t#e w#ite 4ic@et fence; Or #ow 8ood would you feel if you were

able to acquire a 3ore beneficial line of wor@6 or be8in a business of

your ownV Picture w#at your life will be li@e once you feel totally

confident;

>3on8 t#e 3e3bers of t#e 8y3 t#at I belon8 to is forever @iddin8

around wit# 3e; Le forever as@s 3e if #e 3ay #ire 3e to do #is

wor@outs for #i3; >nd t#at 8ave 3e a t#ou8#t; <#at if you could

4urc#ase self-assuranceV <ould youV >s actually you are able to!

If you truly want to alter your life ra4idly and easily and 8et t#e lady

friend6 or t#e financial success6 or t#e early retire3ent6 t#en youNll

wis# to 8o online and ta@e a 8ood loo@ at ]self-assurance!]

>s we tal@ed about earlier6 individuals6 w#o lac@ self-confidence6 tend

to de4end excessively on t#e a44roval of ot#er 4eo4le in order to feel

8reat about t#e3selves; T#ey tend to 4revent ta@in8 ris@s as t#ey fear

failure; T#ey frequently 4ut t#e3selves down and tend to discount or

brus# aside t#e co34li3ents t#at t#ey do 8et;

Donversely6 w#en youNre a confident individual6 youNll be willin8 to

ris@ t#e disa44roval of ot#er 4eo4le as youNll trust your own abilities;

BouNll be able to acce4t yourselfW and you wonNt feel li@e you #ave to

ada4t in order to be acce4ted;

Si34ly because an individual feels self-assurance in one or 3ore

facets of t#eir life6 doesnNt 3ean t#at t#eyNll feel confident in eac# 4art

of t#eir life; Cor instance6 an individual 3ay feel confident about t#eir

at#letic ability6 but not feel 4ositive w#ere 3e3bers of t#e o44osite

sex are involved6 li@e in a datin8 state of affairs6 or social

relations#i4s; So one 3ay feel confident on t#e one #and6 w#ile

feelin8 ti3id on t#e ot#er;

Chapter 3: Beginning Factors and Suppositions 

 

>ynopsis

How is confidence acJuired at first and what about the 

suppositions?  

 

Dehind The >cenes

> lot of factors bear u4on t#e develo43ent of confidence; ParentsN

3ental attitudes are of t#e essence in t#e way youn8sters feel about

t#e3selves6 es4ecially in t#eir early years; <#en 4arents su44ly

acce4tance6 youn8sters 8et a solid foundation for 8reat feelin8s about

t#e3selves;

If one or bot# 4arents are overly critical or de3andin86 or if t#eyNre

over4rotective and discoura8e 3oves towards inde4endence6

youn8sters 3i8#t co3e to trust t#eyNre inca4able6 inadequate6 or

substandard;

>ll t#e sa3e6 if 4arents 4ro3ote a youn8sters 3oves towards self-

reliance6 and t#eyNre not too critical w#en t#e youn8ster 3a@es errors6

t#e youn8ster will learn to acce4t #erself6 and will be on t#e way to

acquirin8 self-confidence;

> deficiency of self-assurance isnNt inevitably related to a lac@ of

ability; > deficiency of self-assurance is frequently t#e result of

centerin8 too stron8ly on t#e unrealistic ex4ectancies of ot#er 4eo4le6

4articularly 4arents and acquaintances; T#e influence of

acquaintances 3ay be 3ore 4otent t#an t#ose of 4arents in definin8

t#e feelin8s about oneNs self;

In reaction to external influences6 individuals develo4 su44ositionsW a

few of t#ese are constructive and a few are adverse; In t#e next

c#a4ter weNll discuss t#e fact t#at t#ere are a lot of su44ositions t#at

3ay interfere wit# self-confidence and alternate ways of t#in@in8;

I understand t#at you wis# to:

! Ceel li@e youNre in co33and of your life

! Ceel 8reat about yourself

! Jelieve in your own 4owers

! Ceel t#e bravery to #ave fres# and excitin8 ex4eriences

! Evidence a 4ositive future

! ^et to be 3uc# 3ore 4o4ular

! Gost of us find confident individuals 3ore 3a8netic

! Ceel fantastic self-re8ard

Su44ositions t#at individuals arrive at:

Earlier we tal@ed about t#e difference between individuals w#o #ave

self-assurance6 and t#ose individuals w#o do not; <e li@ewise tal@ed

about #ow self-assurance is initially acquired; Now weNll discuss

4articular su44ositions t#at individuals 3a@e;

In res4onse to outside influences6 individuals develo4 su44ositionsW a

few of t#ese are constructive and so3e are adverse; Gany

4resu34tions t#at 3ay interfere wit# self-assurance and alternate

ways of t#in@in8 are:

Su44osition: I 3ust forever be successful at everyt#in8 t#at I do; T#is

is an alto8et#er unrealistic 4resu34tion; In t#e real world6 eac#

individual #as t#eir stren8t#s6 and t#eir failin8s; <#ile itNs crucial to

learn to do t#e best t#at one 3ay6 itNs 3ore si8nificant to learn to

acce4t t#e self as bein8 #u3an6 and i34erfect; Ceel 8reat about w#at

youNre 8reat at6 and live wit# t#e fact t#at no one @nows everyt#in86 or

is an aut#ority at everyt#in8;

Su44osal: I #ave to be 4erfect6 and loved by everybody6 and satisfy

everybody; Over a8ain6 t#is is an entirely unrealistic su44osition; >ll

#u3an bein8s are fallible; ItNs 3ore beneficial to develo4 4ersonal

criteria and values t#at are not totally de4endent u4on t#e a44roval

of ot#er 4eo4le;

Presu34tion: Everyt#in8 t#at #a44ened to 3e in t#e 4ast is in

co33and of 3y feelin8s and be#aviors in t#e #ere and now;

O4tion: <#ile itNs true t#at your self-confidence was 4articularly

vulnerable to outside influences durin8 your c#ild#ood6 as you 8et

older6 you are able to attain awareness and 4ers4ective on w#at t#ose

influences #ave been; In doin8 so6 you are able to 4ic@ w#ic#

influences youNll continue to let it #ave an effect on your life; Bou do

not #ave to be #el4less in t#e face of 4recedin8 events;

In t#e followin8 c#a4ter weNll tal@ about 3i8#ty tec#niques for

for3ulatin8 self- confidence;