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Doc:Creating Personal Change, Philip Baylis Copyright January 2003 To be only copied and used with the prior written agreement from Philip Baylis
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Languageis how you use the words thatyou use, will do or cant do,
words with obstacles or
futuristic words, the passion inyour voice, the tone, the wordsthat express confidence and
ability
Your Triad of State
What is your state?
Your state is controlled by you, not someoneelse
Focusis what you decide to focus on.If you focus on the past thenyou cannot achieve the future.If you focus on not being ableto do something then you will
not do it.
Physiologyis how you hold yourself, your physical being,the expressions on your face, the amount of
energy in your body
Physiology
Language Focus
Your Triadof State
How to change oneself
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What are your beliefs?
What controls your beliefs?
Values
Beliefs
Perceptions
Your Beliefs
Beliefsare what you believe in in
every day life
Valuesare the feelings thatyou value most and
strive to have more of
Perceptionsare how you view, orinterpret, what goes
on around you
AssociationsYour beliefs are supported, or created, by
representations or associations to experiences
in the past, propping up your beliefs as if it is atable. These associations can be either positiveor negative. These
are the foundations to your character
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SadnessRejection
Displaced
Depression
-ve
Negativefeelings Determination
FulfilmentAchievement
Satisfied Happiness
+ve
Positivefeelings
What are your feelings?
What creates an emotion or feeling?
You do not feel an emotion, you do anemotion. An emotion is a result of a motionwith energy.
What is it that stops you getting that youwant fear, stress is fear?
Radicalchange in physiology is fastest wayto change fear
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Values
Beliefs
Perceptions
FocusLanguage
Associations in your past that creates your beliefs
Foundation of your Character
YourCharacter
YourPersonality
Yourbeliefs
YourTriad of
State
Associations
SadnessRejection
Displaced
Depression
-ve
Negative feelings
Determination
FulfilmentAchievementSatisfied Happiness
+ve
Positive feelings
Your state
creates yourfeelings
Your beliefscreates your
state
Yourassociationscreates your
beliefs
Your feelings
Physiology
Pain Pleasure
What controls your feelings?
What controls your state?What controls your Beliefs?
It is your state that creates your feelings
All behaviour, your state, is controlled by yourbeliefs, values and perception
Your beliefs are supported by associations toexperiences in the past, propping up your beliefs asif it is a table. These associations can be eitherpositive or negative
Radicalchange in physiology is fastest way tochange fear
How do we create maximum output, performance?
It is your choice what you believe and perceive, andthis determines your behaviour
Your character is the inner core. Your personality(words, actions etc) needs to be aligned to theinner core.
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Values
Beliefs
Perceptions
FocusLanguage
Associations in your past that creates your beliefs
Foundation of your Character
YourCharacter
YourPersonality
Yourbeliefs
Your
Triad ofState
Associations
SadnessRejection
Displaced
Depression
-ve
Negative feelings
Determination
FulfilmentAchievementSatisfied Happiness
+ve
Positive feelings
Your state
creates yourfeelings
Your beliefscreates your
state
Yourassociationscreates your
beliefs
Your feelings
Physiology
Pain PleasureYour mind controls yourpersonality or your state
Since your mind has beenconditioned by your past, yourmind therefore dictates thefeelings that you have in the
present
Your mind controls your state andhence feelings
Controlledby your
Mind
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Values
Beliefs
Perceptions
FocusLanguage
Associations in your past that creates your beliefs
Foundation of your Character
YourCharacter
YourPersonality
Yourbeliefs
Your
Triad ofState
Associations
SadnessRejection
Displaced
Depression
-ve
Negativefeelings
Your state
creates yourfeelings
Your beliefscreates your
state
Yourassociationscreates your
beliefs
Your feelings
Physiology
Pain
Controlledby your
Mind
Any negative beliefs will determine negativemindset which determine negative feelings
If you focus on negativeexperiences or on the past, then
your body language will reflectthis, also your language and tone ofvoice becomes negative.
Your negative state will be causedby a negative perception of your
past, or a particular belief systemand values that are holding youwithin that negative state.
You will then develop negativefeelings.
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Values
Beliefs
Perceptions
FocusLanguage
Associations in your past that creates your beliefs
Foundation of your Character
YourCharacter
YourPersonality
Yourbeliefs
Your
Triad ofState
Associations
SadnessRejection
Displaced
Depression
-ve
Negativefeelings
Your state
creates yourfeelings
Your beliefscreates your
state
Yourassociationscreates your
beliefs
Your feelings
Physiology
Pain
Controlledby your
Mind
Any negative beliefs will determine negativemindset which determine negative feelings
To overcome this negative habityou must divorce your mind fromyour past.
So when you have ve feelings,then dont think or analyse thosefeelings, but acknowledge themand stand back to observe
them. Then see how youbehave/feel. This has to berepeated in order to change ahabit.
Also just by changing yourcurrent state (say by standingstraight if you were slouched)would tend to change your
negative feelings about your self.This change needs to berepeated constantly to changethe negative habit.
Think ofnegative
experiences
Negative bodylanguage
Talk of negativeexperiences
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Values
Beliefs
Perceptions
FocusLanguage
Associations in your past that creates your beliefs
Foundation of your Character
YourCharacter
YourPersonality
Yourbeliefs
Your
Triad ofState
Associations
SadnessRejection
Displaced
Depression
-ve
Negative feelings
Determination
FulfilmentAchievementSatisfied Happiness
+ve
Positive feelings
Your state
creates yourfeelings
Your beliefscreates your
state
Yourassociationscreates your
beliefs
Your feelings
Physiology
Pain Pleasure
Surface - Personality
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2
3
4 Outer -Support
Inner -Character
Inner - Sub-conscious
Relating these differentmodels
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Values
Beliefs
Perceptions
FocusLanguage
Associations in your past that creates your beliefs
Foundation of your Character
YourCharacter
YourPersonality
Yourbeliefs
Your
Triad ofState
Associations
SadnessRejection
Displaced
Depression
-ve
Negative feelings
Determination
FulfilmentAchievement
Satisfied Happiness+ve
Positive feelings
Your state
creates yourfeelings
Your beliefscreates your
state
Yourassociationscreates your
beliefs
Your feelings
Physiology
Pain Pleasure
Your mind controls your state andhence feelings
Controlledby your
Mind
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ss To create maximum output you need to condition your state to be peak,
forward looking, output orientated.What prevents us from changing to create this peak state?
Often our belief in ourselves prevent us from changing, often they aredetermined from what has happened in the past, our associations. Do our currentbeliefs serve us now?
Our perception of what is happening around us is interpreted to strengthen our
beliefs whatever you perceive you will receive for yourself. So perception couldbe either negative or positive.
The feelings that we value most willeither move us forward or hold us back.There are feelings that we want to avoid and those that inspire us.
What is the peak state that I desire in the future when managing or involved ina project?
What is the yes feeling that I would most like to experience everyday of myworking life?
Write it down
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Creating peak state
To create maximum output you need to condition your state to be peak, forward looking,
output/outcome orientated.
i) Change is a must not a should should never happens.
ii) I must change it
iii) I can change it this is the internal belief in yourself
Continuously ask What is my outcome? what do I really want in any situation. Must have a compellingvision
Know why you want it, know what your purpose is. Purpose provides drive.
Design your state to suit the outcome that you desire, and take massive action the number one thingthat stops taking action is your belief of fear of failure or rejection.
Right strategy to take action & overcome limiting beliefs, get them aligned to achieve your outcome, egovercoming fear, creating rapport, developing relationships, love
Raise your standards, demand more for yourself than anyone else demands from you
See it as it really is
Need to know what you are getting. Know if it is working.
Change your approach until you achieve your outcome
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ss 3 steps to ensure change occurs
i) Leverage
Person needs to link up that not changing will mean massive immediate unbearable levelsof pain. Fear of change inhibits change as change equals pain therefore do not change.
Need to associate, in your gut not just so you feel it, in mind, that to change now equalsmassive levels of pleasure.
ii) Interrupt the limiting pattern.
Repeatedly interrupt the old pattern, or belief, as it occurs, before creating the newpattern, it is like scratching a record so that the wont play again.
iii) Create an empowering alternative pattern
Create a new pattern or belief, repeat it often, reinforce it, reward it, give pleasureuntil it becomes a habit. Demonstrate the benefits that the new pattern has given.
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Changing your habits
Old habit Newhabit
Interrupt
Aware
Assess
Newapproach
Practice andpersistence
Consistency
Conditioning
Competent
What old habit do you to want to avoid, and what new habit do you want?
What interrupts will you use on yourself, to change from one habit to theother, & frequency of interrupt?
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ss Creating change by asking questions, for example:-
What is great about it? And if there was something what would itbe?
What do you really want?
What output do you want?
What makes you feel really valued?
What do you really get excited about?
Whats really great about your life right now?What could you be happy about?
What do you really want instead of this negative pattern?
What are you truly grateful for?
What will you do to make a significant difference?
What are you capable of now even more so than before?
What is not perfect yet?
What would you do in my position?
What would you like to see?
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ss How can you learn from this problem, never to happen again?
How can you turn this round?How can your job be improved?
How can you use this?
How much happier will you feel if you changed?
How can you be of help?
How can you maintain your focus?
How can you achieve perfection?
How can you become a role model for others?
How can you turn adversity into opportunity with integrity?
Are you really making the most effective use of your time right now?
How is this action serving you and adding more value to your life?