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1 The Family Newspaper of St Hilda’s, Ashford, Middlesex CROSSROADS Free - but donations welcome! No. 695 December 2018/January 2019
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The Family Newspaper of St Hilda’s, Ashford, Middlesex
CROSSROADS
Free - but donations welcome!
No. 695 December 2018/January 2019
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The Parish of St Hilda, Ashford in the Diocese of London
Charity Reg. No. 1134119
Vicar Fr. Joseph Fernandes Phone: 01784 254237 e-mail: [email protected]
Parish Office St Hilda’s Parish Office, Stanwell Road Ashford, Middlesex TW15 3QL
Phone: 01784 245712 e-mail: [email protected]
Church Web site: Facebook: Streetlife: Twitter:
www.sthilda.org StHildaAshford st-hildas @St_Hilda_Ashfrd
Parish PA: Helen Stroudley Contact via Parish Office
Lay Ministers: Carolyn Clark Rosalyn Young
Contact via Parish Office
Church Wardens: Gordon Clark Bobbie Bedford
Contact via Parish Office
Church Hall Booking Secretary: Chris Davenport Phone: 01784 252170
CROSSROADS
Editor: Rosemary Greenwood e-mail: [email protected]
Circulation: Valerie Scott Phone: 254748
Advertising: Contact via Parish Office
Sunday 08.00 Eucharist
09.30 Parish Eucharist
09.30
10:45
Junior Church
Coffee after service
Chris Davenport 252170
Tuesday 09.45 Eucharist
Wednesday 20.00 Bible Study Group Rosemary Greenwood
Friday 19.00 Choir Practice
Normal Weekly Services and Events Leader / contact / notes
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The Greatest Showman was a highlight of the movie season in
2017. The Christian potential of the lyrics of the iconic song
This is Me, not intended by the songwriters, were quickly
appropriated by several churches, who started playing it and
dancing to it. Fast forward to 2018 and it also made an
appearance at St Hilda’s Got Talent, back in September, which
highlights its prevalent popularity. Its success lies in the
combination of powerful vocals, excellent choreography and
stirring lyrics. Some of the words sound harsh, but they are a call to arms, coming
from a place deep within, crying out for recognition, for triumph over prejudice and
discrimination, acknowledging the harshness of life, the bruises that come with it:
“Run away, they say, no one’ll love as you are, but I won’t let them break me down
to dust… I won’t let the shame sink in… When the sharpest words wanna cut me
down… I’m not scared to be seen, I make no apologies… I am brave, I am bruised,
I am who I’m meant to be... This is me”.
There are echoes here of several Bible passages: 2 Corinthians 4:8-9 “We are
afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair;
persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed”; Psalm 23:4 “Even
though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you
are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”; Joshua 1:9 “Have I not
commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be
dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go”; and Isaiah
54:17 “No weapon that is fashioned against you shall succeed, and you shall refute
every tongue that rises against you in judgement”.
By now you are probably wondering why on earth is this connected with
Christmas? The key lies in one key verse of the song: “This is me and I know that I
deserve your love”. When looking at the Bible, it becomes clear why Jesus was
incarnate: 1 John 4:9-11 “God’s love was revealed among us in this way: God sent
his only Son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not
that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice
for our sins. Beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one
another”; John 1:14 “And the Word became flesh and lived among us, and we have
seen his glory, the glory as of a father’s only son, full of grace and truth.”
Despite our brokenness, our imperfections, our bruises, our struggles, our
difficulties, God seeks us and accepts who we are, regardless of where we are. It is
not cheap grace, it is unconditional love. God does not hide in churches, God does
not hide amongst a select few, God is out on the streets, amongst those on the
margins, amongst those who struggle, amongst those who suffer, amongst those
who are not perfect, amongst those who are broken, which means all of us. We do
not need to make any apologies for who we are, we deserve God’s love, we deserve
his Son, we deserve Christmas: “Look out 'cause here I come”.
Fr. Joseph Fernandes
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POPPIES
Some time ago at a PCC meeting the idea was raised about marking the
centenary of the end of WW1. Before I knew it, I was suggesting an idea
that I had seen on Facebook about painting the bottom of bottles red and
black and adding green pea sticks on the back to make poppies. It was an
idea that I had seen last year on various Girl Guiding Facebook pages and
that I had intended on doing with my Brownies this year.
The months went on and I was reminded of my suggestion. A sample was
made and was shown at a later PCC meeting and at the beginning of
September I showed my sample and announced my idea in church one
Sunday morning. I asked for the bottoms of bottles that have five “lobes” on
the bottom of them which when looked at from the inside, lend their shape to
looking like a poppy.
Over the weeks bottles have arrived in church and, along with the help of
Chris Davenport, have been cut down to the required size. I have then been
sticking the sticks on the back with a hot glue gun and adding them to the
crate ready for painting. Help was asked for them to be painted and on a
Saturday morning along with a team of volunteers, we began the mammoth
task of transforming them.
Almost 500 bottles have been transformed into poppies which have now
been “planted” outside on the north side of the church for everyone to see.
Unfortunately we had run out of paint before finishing them all, so a further
175ish were done later, but still completed before Remembrance weekend
and added to the garden.
Along with these, we have managed to get hold of a “There But Not There”
Soldier silhouette which has been placed on a chair within the Nave of the
church. These have been designed by the Royal British Legion to be put into
places to remember the fallen of the First World War.
Well done and thank you to everyone who has helped.
Christine Makriel
Well done and thank you to Christine, for her inspiration and hard work.
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If you would like to help with the
mission of St. Hilda's by
contributing to the cost of
producing Crossroads, there is a
box in the back wall of the church
for donations, or use a Giftaid
envelope and write "Crossroads"
on it - or give it to your Crossroads
distributor.
Deadline for February 2019 copy is
Sunday 6th January
Deadline for March 2019 copy is
Sunday 3rd February
Post typed or written copy, CD discs or memory sticks
at the Parish Office, or e-mail:
An item submitted after the deadline
may be accepted for inclusion IF the
Editor has been informed by the
deadline that the item is on its way.
WANTED: used British and
foreign stamps for Princess
Alice Hospice, trimmed ¼″ all
round. Place in box at back of
church or give them to
Pauline Milton
proudly present their 2018 Pantomime,
the ever-popular story of
Cinderella
at St Hilda’s Hall
Friday 30th November at 7.45pm
Saturday 1st December at 10.30am, 2.30pm and
7.00pm
Friday 7th December at 7.45pm
Saturday 8th December at 2.30pm and 7.00pm
Tickets £10
(Concessions £8)
Box Office
01784 245298
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The Findings of Phoebe
The other day I found an old photograph of my grandmother whom I never
knew as she died when I was young, and it reminded me of a bible passage
where Paul praises a mum and a grandma.
I, Paul, am on special assignment for Christ, carrying out God’s plan laid
out in the Message of Life by Jesus. I write this to you, Timothy, the son I
love so much. All the best from our God and Christ be yours! Every time I say your name in prayer—which is practically all the time—I
thank God for you, the God I worship with my whole life in the tradition of
my ancestors. I miss you a lot, especially when I remember that last tearful
good-bye, and I look forward to a joy-packed reunion.
That precious memory triggers another: your honest faith—and what a rich
faith it is, handed down from your grandmother Lois to your mother Eunice,
and now to you! And the special gift of ministry you received when I laid
hands on you and prayed—keep that ablaze! God doesn’t want us to be shy
with his gifts, but bold and loving and sensible.
You can find this story in your Bible in the 2nd Letter to Timothy chapter 1
verses 1-7. I have used The Message translation.
This set me thinking about what the story might mean. What a wonderful
statement about the role of family.
What memories do you have or will you carry with you of your parents and
your grandparents? What role do they, did they, have in your being a
Christian and growing in your faith. Bed time stories from the Bible, singing
choruses, being taken to church and Sunday school?
But the family isn’t just those to whom we are linked by blood. There are
those who, as part of church communities have played an important part in
sharing the Christian faith with us as children and young adults.
Elsewhere Paul reminds us: The Message is as true among you today as
when you first heard it. It doesn’t diminish or weaken over time. It’s the
same all over the world. The Message bears fruit and gets larger and
stronger, just as it has in you. Colossians 1:5
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So the Family of the Church is worldwide. And we are part of that. We
are reminded of this at our Baptism and again when we are Confirmed. We
are reminded:
There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism,
By one Spirit we are all baptised into one body.
We welcome you into the fellowship of faith,
We are children of the same heavenly Father;
We welcome you.
So give thanks to all who have supported you and continue to support you
in your Christian growth
And why not pray for a Christian community somewhere else in the world
as a reminder that we are part of a world wide family.
Think about it.
VOLUNTEERS NEEDED - ESPECIALLY DRIVERS!
Ashford Helping Hands is a voluntary organisation which provides
help to people in the TW15 postal area. They can always use more
volunteers and at the moment are particularly short of drivers to take
people to medical appointments etc.
If you can help, please phone Olive on 01784 245203
If you need help, phone the AHH Duty Officer on 07754 083502
between 10am and noon Monday - Friday
For more information see: www.ashfordhelpinghands.btck.co.uk
Capital Vision Prayer
Generous God, You have called us to be salt and light in this great city;
Guide us by your Holy Spirit to discern your will for your Church
as we seek to follow your Son Jesus Christ
in loving and serving our neighbours.
Give us the wisdom and strength to fulfil the vision you put before us
and help us to play our part in transforming our earthly city into a sign of
the Heavenly Jerusalem where you live and reign, Father, Son and Holy Spirit, One God now and for ever. Amen
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NOTICES
ST. HILDA'S MOTHERS' UNION
Tuesday 4th December 9.45am Corporate Communion
Wednesday 12th December 8.00pm Carols by Candlelight
Tuesday 8th January 12.45pm Lunch in Small Hall: Christmas
Memories
No meeting in December or January.
From February will meet on 1st Thursday in the month
at 2.30 in church. EVERYONE IS WELCOME
7th February: Bible Timeline “What? The Bronze
Age?” 7th March: Travels with Paul
4th April: Pick and Mix time
PRAYER MEETING
Every Monday at 7.30 pm in St. Hilda's Lady Chapel
Everyone is welcome; see Carolyn Clark for more details
ST. HILDA'S 2019 CALENDAR
On sale in church in aid of church funds. £9 each or 3 for £22.
Ideal present for local people or friends from St. Hilda's who have moved away
The Editorial Team wish our advertisers, contributors, the collating
and distribution teams, and all our readers a joyful Christmas and happy
New Year, with best wishes for 2019. Thank you all for your support
this year.
Rosemary Greenwood, Mike Davenport, Chris Holliday,
Pauline Milton, Terry Rickson, Valerie Scott
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CHRISTMAS CARD AT ST. HILDA'S
Are you looking forward to scrabbling through the crate at the back of
church for Christmas cards addressed to you? And realising that you forgot
to send one to someone? For the second year we have a solution for you!
We will again have a single large card in church addressed to everyone in
St. Hilda's, which anyone can sign. This should save some hassle, and a tiny
bit of the Earth's resources. The money you save in individual cards can be
donated to a local charity, the Penrose Club, which supports people with
learning disabilities. You are, of course, still free to give individual cards to
your friends. The card will be in church during December.
Rosemary Greenwood
ADVENT STUDY TIME
Join us as we explore some Advent Themes through
four masterpieces of Western Art over four Tuesday
mornings (24th Nov, 4th Dec, 11th Des, 18th Dec)
starting at 9.15am in the Lady Chapel, finishing with
a celebration of Holy Communion at 9.45am.
Rosalyn Young
ADVENT REFLEXIONS
Wednesdays: November 28th Watching December 5th Prophets December 12th Prepare the Way December 19th Let it be - I am the servant of the Lord
At Laleham Methodist Church 7.30 pm for 8 pm
Note that St. Hilda's Bible Study Group will not meet on these dates, to enable
members to join with our Methodist friends.
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Children of St. Hilda's Church accompanied by a group of musicians
present
Hosanna Rock in
St. Hilda’s Church on Thursday 20th December at 7pm
The Story of the birth of Christ is told in simple song and dance by a group of children aged between 6 and 15, supplemented by
explanations from a narrator.
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Week of Christian Unity
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♪♫ ♪♫ St Hilda's Choir still needs more members. If you are interested in
joining, please see Peter Pritchard or Paula Gething.
Go on - give it a try!
Our Mission Prayer:
Bless our Community. Make its people; Strong in Faith,
Steadfast in Hope, And Generous in Love.
Amen.
St Hilda’s Mothers’ Union
Jumble Sale
& Auction
on Saturday
19th January
in St Hilda’s Hall
Opens 2.00pm
Admission 50p
Goods to the Hall
from 10.00am
Phone 01784 252170
for collection
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Mention this advertisement
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St Hilda’s.
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PROBLEMS FOR OLDER HIV PATIENTS
Older people with HIV are frequently lonely and depressed, many of them face
serious housing and financial hardships, and they have high rates of physical
ailments such as chronic pain, heart disease, diabetes and fatigue that can diminish
their quality of life.
All of this has been known for several years. However, services to meet their
needs still fall short, say people with HIV and the groups that support them (such as
London charities Riverhouse and CARA), and simply quantifying their mental and
physical health problems has been a challenge.
People age 50 and older make up nearly two-thirds of all those with HIV in San
Francisco and London. Most of these older adults have been infected with the virus
for 20 or more years. They are the long-term survivors: men and women who were
infected before drugs to treat HIV were widely available, when the illness was
considered a death sentence.
Though those drugs were life-saving, for many survivors, realizing they were
going to live opened a new chapter of emotional and physical challenges.
A new survey, just released, is among the first to describe the breadth of health
problems in older adults with HIV and how they are, or are not, being addressed.
The survey questioned 197 people, all age 50 or older and HIV-positive. Among the
findings:
• More than 60 percent suffer depression and about the same have serious anxiety.
Seventy percent have symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder.
• Nearly half have neuropathy, a form of nerve pain likely caused by HIV or the
early drugs to treat it. Fifty-six percent have severe fatigue. On average, survey
respondents reported at least six mental or physical ailments in addition to HIV
infection.
• A quarter regularly don’t have enough money to cover their expenses. Seven
percent don’t have a permanent home. Nearly half say they sometimes don’t
have enough to eat.
• More than 1 in 4 said they have no one to turn to if they become sick or disabled
and need help with simple chores, like housework or shopping.
• Fifteen percent say they have no one to count on for emotional support.
“When you have a population that didn’t plan to live, it’s not surprising that they
would find aging challenging; there are some days when people see what a blessing
it is to be alive. And then there are the harder days.”
Or in the words of one survey respondent: “There are things worse than AIDS,
like loneliness.”
Please support United Kingdom HIV Charities, especially Riverhouse of which Fr
Chris Rogers is a Trustee, supports and helps www.riverhouseuk.org
Fr. Chris Rogers
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BEYOND THE PARISH from Parish Pump
FIRST NON-BRITISH HEAD FOR MOTHERS' UNION
A South American woman has made history as the MU’s first non-British
Worldwide President. Sheran Harper from Guyana is the new Worldwide President
of the 142 year old movement’s four million members in 84 countries. She takes
over in January 2019 from Lynne Tembey.
Born in the United Kingdom, Harper grew up in Guyana. After her Clinical
Practice at Guy’s Hospital in London, she worked with the Ministry of Health in
Guyana where she opened and managed new physiotherapy departments in
hospitals throughout the country.
She stopped working in this area 17 years ago to focus on Mothers’ Union. She
has served as a volunteer at all levels from parish, diocese and province, and until
recently, she was the worldwide parenting trainer where she rolled out Mothers’
Union parenting programmes in 23 countries across the globe.
CHURCH IN NIGER’S CAPITAL RANSACKED AND BURNED
Attackers recently ransacked, looted and burned a church in the Kossey district of
Niger’s capital Niamey, leaving the building a charred shell, its floor covered with
debris and broken and blackened musical instruments.
Niger’s tiny Christian minority make up less than 1% of the population, but it had
traditionally lived peacefully and unthreatened alongside the large Muslim majority.
The rise of jihadist groups in the Sahel region, including Boko Haram, Islamic State
in West Africa and groups affiliated with Al Qaeda has led to an escalation in
tension.
In 2015, more than 70 churches in Niger were destroyed by Muslim mobs. There
were a number of further attacks on churches in 2017, which resulted in the deaths
of four Christians and in January 2018, three church leaders were kidnapped.
THE WOMAN BISHOP WHO DOES NOT MUCH LIKE ALL-FEMALE CLERGY AT SERVICES
It is as undesirable to see all women 'at the front' of church leading worship as it
was once to see all men 'at the front' leading worship.
So says the Rt Revd Rachel Treweek, Bishop of Gloucester, and the first female
bishop to sit in the House of Lords.
Speaking at this year's Cheltenham Literature Festival, she said: 'For me, I want
to see diverse leadership, and part of that includes men and women working
together.' She spoke of her own joy of 'discovering the joy of being in leadership
alongside men, as an equal.'
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BISHOP CALLS FOR UK 'NET ZERO' COMMITMENT AS CLIMATE CHANGE REPORT PUBLISHED
The Church of England’s lead bishop on the environment has welcomed
indications from the UK Government that it will review long-term targets for
climate change in line with a report recently published by the Intergovernmental
Panel on Climate Change (IPCC).
Bishop Nicholas Holtam, Bishop of Salisbury, said: 'The Government’s decision
to ask the Committee on Climate Change to review the UK’s long-term emission
reduction target is a welcome and sensible response to our changing and very
pressing circumstances.
'The evidence shows that the risk level of climate change is now critical. Ours is
the first generation to understand this and probably the last to be able to do
something meaningful.' he said.
'This year has been the hottest on record. Extreme weather events happen with
increasing frequency, and the poorest are most vulnerable to the impact of climate
change which affects us all. For Christians, striving to safeguard the integrity of
creation, and sustaining and renewing the life of the earth is at the heart of what we
believe. We have a narrow window now to act if we are to protect God’s creation
for generations to come.
'The Church of England is playing its part with around 2,000 churches now
running on green energy tariffs, and as a voice in the ear of companies in the seven
highest emitting sectors through its investment portfolio, leading shareholder
resolutions to expedite transition to a low carbon future. We can, and we must do
more to pick up the pace of change.
'Building on the 10-year anniversary of the Climate Change Act, an ambitious UK
government would seek to be a world leader by committing to a target of net zero
emissions by 2050.'
EXPENSIVE CHRISTMAS CRACKER
If you are looking to splash around a vast amount of money this Christmas, why
not contact The Royal Mint? It has just launched Britain's most expensive ever
Christmas crackers - which include a solid gold bar and gold diamond necklace.
A pack of six of the crackers will set you back £5000, but at least they also include
a traditional hat and joke. Fortnum and Mason has previously sold sets for about
£500.
There is a large demand for the £5000 crackers, which form the Mint's first gift
range in its 1100 year history. And if for any reason you don't want to spend £5000
on six Christmas crackers, the other gifts on offer range from a sixpence spoon set
to a gold teddy bear. Go to: https://www.royalmint.com/gifts/
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THE CONVERSION OF EBENEZER SCROOGE
We think of the traditional British Christmas as a few days off work, a family get-
together and a big meal. In fact, that only goes back to Victorian times. Before that
it was a religious event, with church services and carols, but not a great community
event. Among important influences on the change was a single story by Charles
Dickens, 'A Christmas Carol’, first published 175 years ago this December. It is in
effect a morality fable, with a memorable anti-hero, Scrooge, and a splendid happy
ending.
Ebenezer Scrooge ran his business with single-minded dedication to profit. His
former partner, Marley, had died, and now in sole charge he decided to impose a
more rigorous regime. There would be no Christmas Day off for his assistant Bob
Cratchit, which ruled out the family’s hopes of a celebration meal together. Bob’s
wife Martha was shocked, but Bob valued his job and said nothing. Scrooge, who
regarded all such fanciful stuff as ‘humbug’ remained immovable, despite pleas to
the contrary.
That was, until Christmas Eve. That night he had a series of dream-like visions.
The first was of his late partner, Marley, begging him to reconsider his attitude.
There then followed three ghosts. The Ghost of Christmas Past’ was a vision of his
own unhappy childhood. Then came the ‘Ghost of Christmas Present’ about the
disappointment and tears his decision had brought to the Cratchit family. The third
was the most powerful – the ‘Ghost of Christmas Future’, in which he saw his own
grave. Was this how he wanted to be remembered?
When he awoke on Christmas morning, Ebenezer Scrooge was a changed man.
Bob need not work on Christmas day, and Scrooge himself would furnish a
sumptuous meal for them all. The whole day was transformed – tears of joy
(Dickens knew all about tears) and finally the junior of the family, Tiny Tim
rounded off the whole experience with a cry of ‘Merry Christmas, everyone.'
The story captured not only the public mood but also the public’s heart. This was
the sort of Christmas they wanted. And gradually it began to take shape – holidays
for workers, charity for the poor, warmth and love in the family. Eventually the law
and the work of trade unions gave the new tradition a feeling of permanence, but
there’s no doubt Dickens' 'Christmas Carol' story started it all.
Canon David Winter
LEARN A POEM BY HEART THIS CHRISTMAS
That is the challenge Gyles Brandreth, actor and broadcaster set his grandchildren
this year. Memorising poetry is good for everyone. Brandreth cites scientific
research to say that memorising poetry can help keep your brain fit and well.
The Duchess of Cornwall, who recently took over from the Queen as patron of
The Royal Society of Literature, admits to reciting poems to herself as she goes to
sleep. Dame Judi Dench can still recite the whole of Twelfth Night and A
Midsummer Night's Dream.
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Hall Stanwell Road, Ashford,
Middlesex, TW15 3QL
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Need a venue for a function?
The Main and Small Halls at
St Hilda’s are available for Hire.
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For details and availability, contact
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at St Hilda’s Church Hall,
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