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DATING STRATEGIES TO MAINTAIN
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
I can identify effective means to create a healthy dating relationship.
I can identify warning signs in an unhealthy dating relationship.
I can create and practice a dating bill of rights.
LEARNING TARGETS
If you could only take 3 people with you on a trip, who would
you take and why?
JOURNALWEEK 5
11-16-15
Young men may believe: They have the right
to “control” their female partners in any way necessary.
“Masculinity” is physical aggressiveness.
They should demand intimacy.
They may lose respect if they are attentive and supportive towards their girlfriends.
Young women may believe: They are responsible for
solving problems in their relationships.
Their boyfriend’s jealousy, possessiveness and even physical abuse, is “romantic”.
Abuse is “normal” because their friends are also being abused.
There is no one to ask for help.
INFLUENCES ON TEEN DATING VIOLENCE
1. Get to know the person you are interested in by becoming friends fi rst.
2. Only go out with someone you genuinely trust.3. Decide before you go out how you want to be treated.4. Be polite but clear about your expectations. Live your
values.5. Make sure you have input on activities-share decisions
and talk about issues as they come up.6. Don’t go anywhere you don’t feel safe. Trust your
instincts. Learn to say “No”.7. Always tell someone you trust where you are going and
when you plan to return. Leave contact information and times to check in with each other.
8. Be responsible!9. Never go with strangers. Call a friend or parent to
come and get you if necessary.10. End a friendship if negative behaviors start to develop.
SAFETY STRATEGIES FOR TEEN DATING
1. Double date the fi rst few times you go out with a new person.
2. Before leaving on a date, know the plans for the time you will be gone. Make sure a parent or friend knows these plans too.
3. Determine a time to be home. Let your date know that you are expected to call or tell someone when you get in.
4. Be responsible!5. Assert yourself when necessary. Be fi rm and
straightforward in your relationships.6. Trust your instincts. If a situation makes you
uncomfortable, try to be calm and think of a way to remove yourself from the situation.
SAFETY STRATEGIES FOR TEEN COUPLES
Extreme jealousyControlling behaviorUses for during an
argumentCruel to animals or
childrenVerbally abusiveAbused former
partnerThreatens violence
Shows hypersensitivity
Quick involvementUnpredictable mood
swingsAlcohol or drug useExplosive angerIsolates you from
friend and familyBlames others for
problems or feelings
BEWARE OF THE SIGNSEARLY WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSIVE BEHAVIORS
Build Balance
Non-threatening
behavior
Respect
Trust & Support
Honesty & Accountabili
ty
Self-Confiden
ce & Personal Growth
Communication
Shared Power
Negotiation &
Fairness
TEEN DATING EQUALITY WHEEL
Dating Contract/BillASSIGNMENT
YOUR RIGHTS
Create a list of your “Dating Bill of Rights”
Minimum of 10 RightsReflection
Is it important to have limits & rights in dating relationships? Why or why not?
What happens when someone doesn’t follow your rights?
How important is advice or input from your parents when it comes to your relationships?
What can I do to create a healthy dating relationship?
What are signs I should consider in a relationship that may be unhealthy?
What rights do I have in a dating relationship?
WRAP IT UP