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DESIGN YOUR LIFE

The Craft of Being Alive

“Be patient. Nothing worth doing is worth doing quickly. Nothing worth building is worth building in a rush. Nothing of value is formed in a minute.

Plan in decades. Think in years. Work in months. Live in days.”

Nic Haralambous

www.theblueroster.com

Four-Step Refinement

DISCOVER

PLAN

ACT

EXCEL


DISCOVER 01

A typology to gain insights into self-awareness and personal development. Knowing your Enneagram can help you “catch yourself in the act” and react in productive ways in the context of business, relationship, parenting, personal growth, and all forms of communication. You can orient yourself to higher cognitive and psychological qualities based on your Enneagram type.

Discover: Uncover Self Through Enneagram


Type Basic Fear Basic Desire Temptation Addiction/Trap

1 Being bad To be reasonable Self-righteousness Perfection/Justice

2 Being unloved To be loving People-pleasing Service

3 Being worthless To be outstanding Driven to excel Achievement

4 Being without identity To be unique Given to fantasy and mood

Elitism

5 Being incapable To be perceptive Conceptual and removed from immediacy

Knowledge

6 Being without support

To be reliable Invest in external source of security

Security

7 Being deprived To be enthusiastic Restless and acquisitive

Idealism

8 Being To be strong Highly pragmatic and self-sufficient

Arrogance

9 Being separated To feel whole and peaceful

Highly accommodating

Indecision/Self-abasement


Discover: Uncover Self Through Enneagram

Take the free test or a full test for USD12 here: www.enneagraminstitute.com/guide-to-all-riso-hudson-tests Now that you understand your internal structure and your continuum of behaviors, attitudes, defenses and motivations, how would you use this understanding in your life? Note: Recommendations expressed in this presentation are not associated with any partnerships or sponsorships.


Discover: Exercise

Driver Inner Outer

Basic Certainty – Need for control, order, predictability, safety, security

Uncertainty – Need for adventure, challenge, change, excitement, variety

Self Significance – Need to feel important, special, wanted, worthy of love

Love & Connection – Need for attachment, communication, intimacy

Spirit Growth – Need for constant emotional, intellectual and spiritual development

Contribution – Need to care, give, protect and serve other

Every day we react, respond, and make choices in ways that are driven by our human needs. Meeting our human needs is key to becoming fulfilled and successful.

by Tony Robbins


Discover: Identify Your 6 Human Needs

What are your top two human needs? Find out here: six-human-needs-test.herokuapp.com/members/new How are you meeting your human needs? Are you meeting your needs in a constructive or damaging ways? Note: Recommendations expressed in this presentation are not associated with any partnerships or sponsorships.


Discover: Exercise

“…Your work is the process of achieving your values, and to lose your ambition for values is to lose your ambition to live--that your body is a

machine, but your mind is its driver, and you must drive as far as your mind will take you, with achievement as the goal of your road--that the man who

has no purpose is a machine that coasts downhill at the mercy of any boulder to crash in the first chance ditch, that the man who stifles his mind is

a stalled machine slowly going to rust, that the man who lets a leader prescribe his course is a wreck being towed to the scrap heap, and the man who makes another man his goal is a hitchhiker no driver should ever pick

up--that your work is the purpose of your life, and you must speed past any killer who assumes the right to stop you, that any value you might find outside your work, any other loyalty or love, can be only travelers you

choose to share your journey and must be travelers going on their own power in the same direction.”

Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged


Your value system is a set of principles that drives and guides your perceptions and behaviors. It determines what is important, meaningful, or ethical to you. It shapes your priorities and defines your views on success. It protects you from “going with the flow”, impulse, and instant gratification by giving you an inner personal compass for solid reasoning and decision-making. Values can change over time.

Discover: Establish Your Value System


1.  When do you feel happiest? 2.  When do you feel most fulfilled and satisfied? 3.  When do you feel most peaceful and relaxed? 4.  What are the achievements you are most proud of? 5.  What’s the biggest risk you’ve taken? 6.  What do you think about / daydream about / your

dominant thought? 7.  What do you talk about in social setting? 8.  What do you love to learn and read about? 9.  What are your goals? 10. What inspires you? 11. How do you fill your personal physical space? 12. How do you spend your time? 13. How do you spend your energy? 14. How do you spend your money? 15.  In which areas of your life do you have the most order

and organization? 16.  In which areas of your life are you most reliable,

disciplined and focused? 17.  In what ways have you allowed fear to hold you back

from doing what you wish to do?


Discover: Exercise

Legacy Love Loyalty Making a difference Mastery Merit Obedience Openness Order Originality Patriotism Perfection Piety Positivity Practicality Preparedness Professionalism Prudence Reliability Resourcefulness Restraint Results-oriented Rigor Security Self-actualization Self-control

Accountability Accuracy Achievement Adventurousness Altruism Ambition Assertiveness Balance Belonging Boldness Calmness Carefulness Challenge Cheerfulness Clear-mindedness Commitment Community Compassion Competitiveness Consistency Contentment Contribution Control Cooperation Correctness Courtesy

Creativity Curiosity Decisiveness Democracy Dependability Determination Devoutness Diligence Discipline Discretion Diversity Dynamism Effectiveness Efficiency Empathy Enjoyment Enthusiasm Equality Excellence Excitement Expertise Exploration Expressiveness Fairness Faith Family

Fidelity Fitness Fluency Focus Freedom Fun Generosity Goodness Grace Growth Happiness Health Holiness Honesty Honor Humility Independence Ingenuity Inquisitiveness Insightfulness Intelligence Intellectual Status Intuition Joy Justice Leadership

Selflessness Self-reliance Sensitivity Service Simplicity Spirituality Spontaneity Stability Strength Structure Success Support Teamwork Thankfulness Thoroughness Thoughtfulness Timeliness Tolerance Traditionalism Trustworthiness Understanding Uniqueness Unity Usefulness Vision Vitality

This list is a guideline. You may use your own word outside of this list.


Discover: Exercise

“It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.”

Roy Disney


My basic fear and desire are _________________. I am inclined to _________________. To feel happy and satisfied, I strive to meet my top 2 needs of ____________ and ____________. My life is shaped by my values of: 1.  _________________ 2.  _________________ 3.  _________________ 4.  _________________ 5.  _________________ 6.  _________________


Discover: Exercise

PLAN 02

If you don’t plan your own life, someone else will. You can’t get what you want out of life until you know what you don’t want and what you want. The level of success in your life depends on how clear the image is fixed in your mind. The challenge is getting clarity on what you really want. Today’s objective is to help you articulate your purpose which stems from your personal values, and then create an actionable plan that you can focus on.

Plan: Why is Purpose Important?


1.  When are you most productive? When do you lose track of time? 2.  What did you enjoy doing as a child that you’ve stopped doing as an adult? 3.  What’s one thing that is most often on your mind that you’d like to bring change

or manifest into your life? 4.  If no obstacles stood in the way, what would you most like to achieve in life right

now/in 10 years/in 20 years? 5.  What’s the most important thing you can do with your time? 6.  What’s one thing that you think is wrong about the world/your community and

bothers you the most? 7.  When do you enjoy working? When does work become more challenging or

draining? 8.  Whose career or work ethic do you admire, and what characteristics do you

admire them for? 9.  How do you define success for yourself? How would success fulfill your value

system? 10. What are you willing to struggle for? What would be one problem worthy of your

life which would inspire and enliven you?


Plan: Exercise

ACT 03

“Passion is the result of action, not the cause of it.”

Mark Manson


You are your word. Declare your purpose and plan, become emotionally invested, and take actions towards it. Articulating and accomplishing your commitment is a way to build up your personal integrity. The muscle of doing what you say you will do takes practice. Break down your purpose into goals and weekly promises to ourselves. Promises build on each other as a process of learning what works for you and toward bigger plans. Promise should be realistic: something you believe can happen and can be turned into a habit or routine. Be as specific as possible: duration, how long, how, far. Create consequence for failing to meet promise so you can restore integrity.

Act: Structure for Success


1.  Career 2.  Character 3.  Emotional Life 4.  Financial Life 5.  Health & Fitness 6.  Intellectual Life 7.  Life Vision 8.  Parenting 9.  Quality of Life 10.  Romantic Relationship 11.  Social Life 12.  Spiritual Life

Act: 12 Key Areas in Life


Act: Turn Purpose into Commitments


End Result Doors Specific Activities

Area Attachment Action Accountability

Why I want it / How does it serve me?

Start doing

Stop doing

Action Kept/Not Kept?

Action Not Kept -

Consequence

Milestone to achieve Timeline

Career Character

Emotional Life

Financial Life Health & Fitness Intellectual Life Life Vision Parenting Quality of Life Romantic Relationship

Social Life Spiritual Life


Act: Exercise

Taking responsibility means declaring you are the cause in the matter and you have both the power and resources to shape the result you desire. When you place accountability on other people for your outcomes and circumstances, you give your personal power away and remove yourself as the primary creative force in your life. Lack of absolute responsibility leads to pessimism, resignation, cynicism and resentment. When you blame other people, it becomes an invisible shield to keep us safe from looking bad. It is also a barrier that stops you from getting what you want.

Act: Take Absolute Responsibility


Refer to the 12 areas and pick out the areas n your life where you do not have power, freedom or full self-expression. Begin to tell the truth about the unworkability in each area of your life. Tell the truth without any validation, loss of power or embarrassment. Get present to the impact of them. Select one area and answers these questions: •  Which area in my life am I not taking full responsibility right now? •  What are some of my patterns of pessimism or helplessness? •  What triggers negativity or victimhood in me? •  What is my pretense? •  What is the cost of my pretense? •  How can I begin to take responsibility? •  How will my life change when I take responsibility?


Act: Exercise

EXCEL 04

3 sources of upset: thwarted intention, unfulfilled expectation, undelivered communication. Distinguish a persistent upset in your life - •  My usual complaint is: •  My fixed way of being is: •  The payoff is: being right / own domination / winning / justify yourself •  The cost is: love / affinity / self expression / satisfaction / fulfillment •  What I am going to do to drop this upset:


Excel: Upset Barrier

When an expectation is not met, disappointment or upset occurs. Expectation is a way of perceiving how the future “should” or “must be”. Looking back and using the words “should have” create a space in your mind that is separate from reality and what actually happened. You attach yourself to that space and it becomes an anchor on your tail that keeps you from being in the present or moving forward into the future. “Should-ing all over yourself” disassociates you from reality.


Excel: Expectation Barrier

Select areas where you have had fear of failing, rejection or looking bad. •  What worries you? •  What are you trying to protect? •  What are you avoiding? •  What steps can you take to face your fear head on?


Excel: Fear Barrier

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