Effective Parentingfor Peace

& Nation Building

Haplos At Kalinga sa Buhay ng Anak at MagulaNG( HAKBANG

para sa BAYAN at KAPAYAPAAN )

PPersonal ersonal EEmpowermentmpowermentequals equals AAwarenesswareness

plus plus RResponse esponse AAbilitybility((PEPE==AA++RR))

Let us keep singing aLet us keep singing aSONGSONG

(Awareness of (Awareness of SS-self; -self; OO-others, -others, NN-nature, -nature, GG-God)-God)

Process of purifying ourProcess of purifying ourWATCHWATCH

((WWords, ords, AActions,ctions, TThoughts, houghts, CCharacter, haracter,

HHeart)eart)

Sources of Joy and Happiness

FAITH &FAITH & FAMILYFAMILY

Who is Who is God?God?

Father Father ((love)love)

KingKing((obedience)obedience)

HealerHealer((humility)humility)

Saviour Saviour ((hope)hope)

Provider Provider ((trust)trust)

Leader Leader ((service)service)

Who am I ?Who am I ?AKO AY MAHAL, AKO AY ALAGA.

AKO AY SADYANG MAHALAGA.

Who am I ?Who am I ?Our first power :

The dignity that I am

a child of God.

“Ang pinakamagandangparaan ng pag-aalaga

sa mga anak ay alagaan muna ang sarili bilang ama, bilang ina.”

To treat everyoneTo treat everyoneas your equalas your equal

possessingpossessingthe samethe same

human dignityhuman dignityas children of Godas children of God

with absolute with absolute respect.respect.

Witnessing :Witnessing :

II. FAMILYFAMILY -FatherAndMotherILoveYou , the face of God here on earth., the face of God here on earth.

THE ROLE OF THE FAMILYTHE ROLE OF THE FAMILY

a.a. The First SchoolThe First School1. Reverence to God1. Reverence to God2. Responsibility2. Responsibility3. Respect for People3. Respect for People

Development of CharacterDevelopment of Character

{ Emotional Quotient (EQ){ Emotional Quotient (EQ)& Spiritual Quotient (SQ)}& Spiritual Quotient (SQ)}

THE ROLE OF THE FAMILYTHE ROLE OF THE FAMILYb.b. The First Church :The First Church :

3 Altars of a Strong and Stable Family3 Altars of a Strong and Stable Family1) Altar of the Community1) Altar of the Community Eucharistic Meal/Worship (Simbahan)Eucharistic Meal/Worship (Simbahan)2) Altar of the Family2) Altar of the Family Family Table (Hapag-Kainan)Family Table (Hapag-Kainan)3) Altar of the Couple3) Altar of the Couple Matrimonial Bed (Hapag-Tulugan)Matrimonial Bed (Hapag-Tulugan)

THE ROLE OF THE FAMILYTHE ROLE OF THE FAMILY

c.c. The First GovernmentThe First GovernmentTraining in Responsible Citizenship Training in Responsible Citizenship thru Family Meetingthru Family Meeting( “Ang nakikialam, walang hanggang ( “Ang nakikialam, walang hanggang

reklamo. Ang nakikilahok, reklamo. Ang nakikilahok, nakikibahagi sa solusyon.”nakikibahagi sa solusyon.”

- P-Noy ) - P-Noy )

How the Family is Destroyed by the How the Family is Destroyed by the Culture of Culture of DEATHDEATH

DDEEAATTHH

ivorceivorceuthanasiauthanasiabortionbortionotal fertility controlotal fertility controlomosexual unionomosexual union

Three Parenting Styles :Three Parenting Styles :1. AUTOCRATIC

( hard side of love/mahigpit at malupit)

2. PERMISSIVE( soft side of love/maluwag at kunsintidor)

3. DEMOCRATIC( firm but gentle love )

Three Kinds of Children According to Temperament :

1. Easy child2. Slow to warm up3. Difficult to handle

There are no “bad children”,only difficult to handle,

WORLD OF KIDSTerrible Two (TT)

Trusting Three (TT)

Frustrating Four (FF)

Fascinating Five (FF)

WORLD OF TEENAGERS1. Identity Seeking

2. Independence

3. Intimacy

GROWTH DEVELOPMENTAL STAGE :

• 0-10 yrs. old Dependence Stage

• 11-19 yrs. old Group Identity• 20-23 yrs. old Individual Identity• 23 yrs. old & above Family Life

UNDERSTANDING WHY CHILDREN MISBEHAVE

CHILD’S INTENTION PARENT’S REACTION

1. Calling Attention inis (annoyed)

2. Power Struggle galit (anger)

3. Revenge sakit ng kalooban (hurt, insulted)

4. Display of Inadequacy bigo (frustrated)

5. Peer/Parental Pressure/Family Stress

HOW TO BE AN EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT PARENT :

a. Disengage

b. Never give attention on demand

c. Get the child’s cooperation

d. Avoid criticism/ downer words

ELEMENTS of a BLESSING

1. Attaching high value on people2. Magic of Words :

I love you. I’m sorry. Thank You. Please.

3. Picturing a special future/Kything (Prayer Partner)

4. Magic of Touch – Stroking, kiss and hug, hand blessing

5. Active Commitment – just do it. Action speaks louder than words!

The first experienceof violence

happens in the family.Healing too,

has to happen first in the family.Let there be peace

and let it begin with me.

Peace begins at home.

THREE RESPONSES TO VIOLENCE :

PASSIVITY

COUNTER VIOLENCE

ACTIVE NON-VIOLENCE

6 P’s of PEACE :1. Proclaim the truth2. Protest and part from the injustice3. Penetrate the conscience of the

other4. Pay the price5. Pray for guidance6. Persevere

Non-Violent Methods :

1. Critical Analysis: The Inverted Triangle

2. Building Communities of Active Non-Violence / Alay-Dangal

3. Alternative Constructive Program

Non-Violent Actions :1. Dialogue

(Thank you… I’m sorry… proposed action… - in private)

2. Direct Action (in public)3. Non-cooperation4. Civil Disobedience5. International Solidarity6. Prayer and Fasting

When Mother Teresa was

asked,“How can we help

promote peacein the world?”Her answer:

“GO HOME AND LOVE YOUR FAMILY!”

Save the family and you savethis nation.

Save the family and you save

the world.Save the family and you save the Christiancivilization.

Save the family and you saveyourselves.