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TRANSACTIONS & EGO STATES
FREUDS CONCEPT
y ID : Part of psyche residing in the unconscious source of
instinctive energy which seeks satisfaction in accordance with
pleasure principle. These are modified by the ego and super ego
before they are given Overt expression.
y Ego : Is the part of psyche that experiences and reacts to the
outside world and bring out drives of Id and demands of Social
& Physical Environment.
y Super Ego : That part of the psychic which mediates between
Ego drives & Social Ideals acting as a Conscience which may
be partly conscious & partly unconscious.
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EGO STATES
ADULT
NURTURINGPARENT
CRITICALPARENT
LITTELEPROFESSOR NA
TURA
LCHILD
REBELLIOUSCHILD
ADAPTIVECHILD
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CRITICAL PARENT
Thoughts : Do/Dont , Good/Bad, Always/Never,Right/Wrong, Ought, I Know The Best, Must
Feelings : Self-Righteous, Intolerant, Demanding
Behavior : Foot-Tapping, Frowned Brow, HandWagging, Stern Stare, Finger Wagging, Hands On Hips
Voice Tones : Superior, Criticizing, Putting Down,Accusing, Taunt, Insistent, Tongue Clicking, Sighing
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Vocabulary Clues : Shocking, Nonsense, Lazy, Poor ThingEverybody Why You, Do It, You Never
Physical Postures : Stroking, Chin, Puffed Up, SuperCorrect, Very Proper, Superior Attitudes, Throwing HandsIn Air
Facial Expressions : Frowns, Worried, Disapproving Looks,Tight Lips, Jutting Chin, Stern Stare
Gestures : Pointing Finger, Pencil/Boot Tapping, Arms
Folded Across Chest, Striking Table with Fist
General : Closure To New Data, Automatic Judgments Basedon Archaic Material
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NURTURING PARENT
Thoughts :Work Hard, Do Your Best, Everything Will
Be OK, Dont Give Up, Never Give Up
Feelings : Protective, Loving, Caring, Encouraging
Behavior : Smiling, Outstretched Arms, ConcernedLook, Hugging
Voice Tones : Concerned, Comforting, Caring, Soothing
Vocabulary Clues :Whats Wrong ?, Are You OK ?, CanI Help You ?, Dont Worry, Everything Will Be OK
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Physical Postures : Open Arms, Protecting From Fall
Or Hurt, Pack On Back, Arm Around Shoulder
Facial Expressions : Concerned, Supportive,Encouraging, Warm, Happy
Gestures : Reaching For, Hugging Protecting &Shielding From Harm
General : Support & Concern
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ADULT
Thoughts :Who, What, Why, When, Where, ExecutiveBetween Child & Parent, Develop Alternatives,Estimate Probabilities, Make Decisions
Feelings : Transferred From Child Or Parent, No LongerOut Of Past But Feelings Are Reality Based, Direct &Authentic, No Anger
Behavior : Active Concerned Listening, Pondering &
Reflective, Patient & Relaxed, Large Muscle Activity
Voice Tones : Matter of Fact, Even, Calm
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Vocabulary Clues : How, What ,When, Why, Who. Whatsthe Probability, Is It Possible, In What Way, I Speak Only
For Myself & Not For Others
Physical Postures : Relaxed, Attentive, Eye Contact,Listening With Openness, Continuous Reaction ThroughFace/Eyes/Body
Facial Expressions :Alert Eyes Paying Close Attention
Gestures : Learning Forwarded In Chair, Eye-To-EyeContact, Listening With Openness
General : Data Gathering Sensitivity, Openness & Thinking
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ADAPTIVE CHILD
Thoughts : Dont, Leave Me, Help Me, Show Me,Protect Me
Feelings : Insecure, Dependent, Fearful, Cautious,
Affectionate
Behavior : Complaint, Wringing Hand, Timid,Downcast Eyes, Biting Nails
Voice Tones :Whining, Shirking With Anger, Begging,Regretful
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Vocabulary Clues : It Always Happens To Me, I Guess I AmJust Unlucky, I Never Seem To Win At Anything, Thats Not
Fair, Every Body Else Does It, Come On, Lets
Physical Postures :Withdrawn & Retreating, Beat Down,Over-Burdened, Self-Conscious
Facial Expressions : Down Cast Eyes, Trembling Lips, MoistEyes
Gestures : Fearful, Raising Hands For Permission, HungHead
General : Expectation Meeting
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NATURAL/FREE CHILD
Thoughts :I Want, I Wish, I Can, Let Me
Feelings : Insecure, Fun Loving, Affectionate
Behavior : Laughter, Pleading, Play, Tears, Touching,Watchful, Anger
Voice Tones : Rising, High Pitched, Noisy
Vocabulary Clues : I Am Mad At You, Hey, Great, IDont Know, Gee, Crazy, Rats, Wow
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Physical Postures : Playful, Excited, Running, Dancing,Jumping Up & Down
Facial Expressions : Excitement, Surprise, EyesShining, Body Tense, Mouth Open
Gestures : Laughter, Limbs Moving Freely, Playful
General :Aroused Feelings Suggesting That The Child
Has Been Hooked
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REBELLIOUS CHILD
Thoughts : No, I Wont Never
Feelings : Frustration, Anger, Rebellion
Behavior : Tantrum, Attack, Sulking, Pouting,Withdrawal, Revengeful
Voice Tones : High Pitched, Noisy, Angry, Insulting
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Vocabulary Clues : So What?, I Will Do It, I Dont Care
Physical Postures : Defensive, Ready To Attack
Facial Expressions : Irritating, Non-Responsive, Wide
Open Eyes
Gestures : Rolling Sleeves, Vulgar
General : High Need for Recognition
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LITTLE PROFESSOR
Thoughts : Let Me Explore, Let Me Try, Any BetterMethod ?
Feelings : Creativity, Satisfaction, Achievement
Behavior : Experimental, Positive, Trying
Voice Tones : Sometimes Very High Pitched,Murmuring
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Vocabulary Clues : Why Cant It Be Done? There HasTo Be A Way Out, Lets Do Something New
Physical Postures : Sometimes Attentive, Sometimes
In Own World
Facial Expressions : Wide Open Eyes, LookingNowhere, Lost, Very Interested
Gestures : Trying
General : Thinks & Behaves Differently
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INDICATORS OF EGO STATESBODYLANGUAGE
EXPRESSIONS VOCAL TONE
PARENT
INDICATORS
Looking down
over rim of glasses.Pointing anaccusing finger.Hands on hip, thehead leaning orstraining forward.
Patting on theback.
You should
You oughtWhy dont youStay looseBe coolDont tell meYou Disappoint
meYou alwaysPoor thingI will protect you
Harsh
JudgmentalSoothingIndignantCommandingComforting
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ADULTINDICATORS
Astraight,relaxed stanceslightly tilted
head,appearance ofactive listening,relaxed, eyecontact andconfident
The offer ofalternatives andoptions. Use of
the 5Ws inquestioning.Aha I seeI see your pointI recognize..How do you feel
about..
RelaxedAssertiveSomewhat
DeliberativeSelfAssertive
CHILDINDICATORS
Forlornappearance.Droopingshoulders.
Withdrawal.Pursued lips.Scowling,Skipping,Hugging, Twinklein eyes
I want I wishWow I shouldIf only Did I dookay? One of
these days Itsnot fair Its notmy faulty (Ohboy)
AppealingComplainingNaggingIndignant
CheerfulProtestingGrublingMumblingSullen
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TRA
NSA
CTIONS :
TRANSACTIONS, INVOLVING STIMULUS AND RESPONSE, CAN BE
CLASSIFIED AS COMPLIMENTARY, CROSSED OR ULTERIOR.
A COMPLEMENTARY TRANSACTION OCCURS WHEN THE MESSAGE SENT
GETS THE PREDICTED RESPONSE FROM THE OTHER PERSON OR WHEN
THE STIMULUS AND RESPONSE MAKE PARALLEL LINES, WHEREAS IN
CROSSED TRANSACTIONS THERE IS AN UNEXPECTED OR INAPPROPRIATE
RESPONSE AND THE LINES OF COMMUNICATION BECOME CROSSED.
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TRANSACTIONS
P
A
C
P
A
C
A
B
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COMPLIMENTARY TRANSACTIONS
P
A
C
P
A
C
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CROSSED TRANSACTIONS
P
A
C
P
A
C
A
C
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ULTERIOR/DUPLEX TRANSACTIONS
- MORE THAN ONE EGO STATES
P
A
C
P
A
C
SOCIAL
PSYCHO
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4. GAME :
GAME IS A RECURRING SET OF TRANSACTIONS WITH A CONCEALED
MOTIVATION. IN MOST CASES GAMES ARE INTEGRAL COMPONENTS OF
UNSUCCESSFUL LIFE-PLANS OF AN INDIVIDUAL.
5. SCRIPT :
A SCRIPT IS LIKE A BLUEPRINT OF A LIFE PLAN CONTAINING STRICTURES,
INJUNCTIONS, PRESCRIPTIONS AND PERMISSIONS WHICH MAKES ONE
WINNER OR LOSER IN LIFE.
IN ORDER TO MAKE AN INDIVIDUAL EFFECTIVE, IT IS NECESSARY THAT HIS
SCRIPT IS UNDERSTOOD AND REWRITTEN, IF NECESSARY WITH REASON
AND RATIONALITY.
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Life Script
When we engage in transactions, our general approach isdetermined by our life script or life plan which influences how
experiences unfold.
This script is formed by a sense of personal policies or rules which
the individual follows in copying with his environment.
The script may have such messages such as, Always be
prepared, Never trust the opposite sex, Save your money for a
rainy day & Dont get too close to people.
A script may be healthy or unhealthy depending upon our
underlying attitude of confidence and fear.
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CONTAMINATION OF EGO STATE
PREJUDICE
FEAR
PARENT
ADULT
CHILD
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EXCLUSION OF CHILD EGO STATE
PARENT
ADULT
CHILD
ADULT CONTAMINATED BY PARENT & CHILD BLOCKED OUTA PERSON WHO CANNOT PLAYDUTY DOMINATED PERSONSERIOUS MINDED PERSON
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EXCLUSION OF ADULT EGO STATE
PARENT
ADULT
CHILD
PARENT & CHILD CONTAMINATED BY EACH OTHER & ADULT BLOCKED OUTDECOMISSIONED ADULTNO TOUCH OF REALITY
PSYCHOTIC
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EXCLUSION OF PARENT EGO STATE
ADULT
CHILD
PARENT
ADULT CONTAMINATED BY CHILDPARENT BLOCKED OUT
APERSON WITHOUT CONSCIENCEPSYCHOPATH
NO DATAON SOCIAL CONTROL
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A Conscious and Verbal Decision, Other Positions are unconscioussince made early in life
Based on Thoughts, Faith and Wager of Action, other positions are
based on feelings.
Develops due to repeated exposure to situations in which the child
can prove
Learns to recognize and accept the significance of others
Knows his worth and worth of others.
Adult dominates personality
Feels, Life Is Worth Living
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IM NOT OK YOURE OK(Futility Position)
Universal Position At the Time Of Birth
Feels At The Mercy of Other
Has Great Need For Stroking Or Recognition
Inexperienced And Confused Child Predominates The
Personality
Feels, My Life Is Not Worth Much
Feels, Life Is Not Worth Living At All
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IM NOT OK-YOURE NOT OK(Introjective Position)
May Start By One Year Of Age
Infants Logical Conclusion From Reduced Stroking
Adult Stops Developing Due To No Strokes
Loses Interest In Living
Gives Up Hope
Child Dominates Personality
Feels, Life Is Not Worth Living At All
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IM OK-YOURE NOT OK(Projective Position)
May Start To Brutality Of Parent
Infants Logical Conclusion From Licking His Own Wounds
Experiences A Sense Of Comfort All By Himself
Learns To Take Care Of Himself
Blames Others For Miseries
Parent Dominates Personality
Feels, Your Life Is Not Worth Much
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CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE WITH
y If a child live with Criticism He learns to Condemn
y If a child live with Hostility He learns to Fight
y If a child live with Ridicule He learns to be Shy
y If a child live with Shame He learns to feel Guilty
y If a child live with Tolerance He learns to be patient
y If a child live with Encouragement He learns to be Confident
y If a child live with Fairness He learns to be Just
y If a child live with Praise He learns to be Appreciative
y If a child live with Approval He learns to have Faith
y If a child live with Acceptance & He learns to find love in the
Friendship world