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ELEMENTARY SCHOOL SUCCESS
Joanne Lynch Blaney
School Counselor
What is Success?
Definition– To prosper– To thrive– To achieve
“To come through with flying colors.”“To earn one’s wings.”
What is Success for an Elementary School Age Child?
A successful child- is eager to try new things- appears happy and content- demonstrates positive self-esteem- enjoys friendships- recognizes his/her achievements- is interested in learning
The Keys to Success
Parents are the keys to their children’s success in school!
PARENTS
P = Physical CareA = Academic PursuitsR = ResiliencyE = EsteemN = Nurture T = Time OutS = Social Skills
P = Physical Care
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Basic Needs
SELF-ACTUALIZATION
SELF-ESTEEM
BELONGING & LOVE
SAFETY
PHYSICAL
P = PHYSICAL CARE
“A family is a safe island.”“Inner security is born at home.”
Dr. M. Scott Peck
- Sleep- Nutrition- Exercise- Limits- Balance
A = ACADEMIC PURSUITS
Successful Children Enjoy Learning.
- Create a study environment- Provide materials- Emphasize the importance of learning- School involvement- Limit TV and other electronics- Focus on strengths - praise effort- Set high expectations
R = RESILIENCY
“Flexibility is the hallmark of a survivor personality.” Al Siebert
- Coping Skills & Stress- Problems are temporary, specific, &
impersonal- Develop workable plans- OPTIMISM
E = ESTEEM
Components of self-esteem
1. Basic Worth: I am loveable.
2. Competence: I am capable.
E = ESTEEM: Basic Worth
“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves.”
Thomas Merton
Basic Worth affects:- how a child feels about himself- how a child views the world- the choices that a child
makes in life
E = ESTEEM: Basic Worth
• Parents can help raise their child’s sense of self-worth by:
-The generous use of positive feedback- Be specific- Be sincere- Go public!
-Listen and communicate- Be attentive- Be respectful
E = ESTEEM: Competence
Successful children have an “I can do”Attitude!
Competence is effective when it has expectations that are:
- Reasonable- Age Appropriate
N = NURTURE
• Definition:- to care - to guide- to comfort- to nourish - to cherish- to “parent”
N = NURTURE
Children who are successful in school have parents who nurture them.
- Establish Family Traditions- Dinner time = Conversations- New Experiences- Family Values and Beliefs
T = TIME OUT
Discipline and Punishment
- Discipline is not punishment.- Punishment is what we do to control our
children.- Discipline is how we teach our children to
control themselves.
T = TIME OUT
Effective Discipline- Focuses on the Behavior- Age Appropriate
Behaviors = Consequences
Consequences:- Clear- Respectful- Firm - Consistent- Reasonable
S = SOCIAL SKILLS
“Children with good social and problem solving skills make new friends. They are comfortable in new situations.” Martin Seligman
Social Competence is necessary for success in today’s world.
S = SOCIAL SKILLS
Social Competence means developing Interpersonal Skills
- Skill of Initiating- Skill of Assertiveness- Skill of Listening- Skill of Cooperating- Skill of Negotiating
S = SOCIAL SKILLS
Interpersonal Skills
- Initiating: Greeting others
- Assertiveness: “I- messages”
Passive Assertive Aggressive
MeOthers
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Others
S = SOCIAL SKILLS
Interpersonal Skills (con’t)
- Listening: Attentiveness
- Cooperating: Sharing, CooperationCooperation vs. Competition
- Negotiating: Win/Win, Forgiveness
CONCLUSION
“Nothing will help children succeed in schools more than parents who provide a safe and loving environment and take care of their children’s physical and emotional needs.” Staff writer from Barrow Journal
RESOURCES
www.practicalhelpforparents.com www.overindulgenceinf.com www.parentsoup.com www.parenting.com www.aboutourkids.org