May, 2019 Volume 50, Issue 5 Experience, Strength, and Hope in Orange County Inside This Issue I don’t think I’ve ever witnessed an alcoholic who came to Alcoholics Anonymous who loved himself or who wasn’t riddled with guilt and shame. It’s hard to understand why alcohol affects some people differently than others. I’ve observed members who came from good family environments that ended up on the streets, and others who came from alcohol-infested families that turned out normal as can be. In either case, the alcoholic seems to have something missing in their mental state that engenders the need to find a way to neutralize this negave self-image, and that first drink of alcohol does something that gives them the relief which makes them feel somewhat normal. I’ve heard it said that once a person starts to drink to cover up these feelings, especially in the adolescent years, they stop growing emo- onally. When they finally show up in AA, they have the emoonal state consistent with the age they were when they started drinking, absent of the coping skills of a normal person. They’ll have to revisit all those under-developed behavioral paerns and replace them with mature and healthy thoughts and acons. Easier said than done! When I look around the room at an AA meeng, we all seem to look about the same in the way we dress and in our outside appearances. The only thing that makes us different is what is going on in between our ears. If we all woke up this morning with amnesia, we would all be the same. It’s the tortures of past that torment us, and therein lies the problem and the soluon. If we can understand and accept this well-established approach to our mental condion, we can take acons that will restore our self esteem and we can live an incredi- bly happy and peaceful life. We cannot change one moment of the past, but we can resolve the issues in our lives that brought about the need to escape from those horrible memories of the things that we regreed having done. The habits and deeds that triggered the guilt and shame that led us to seek relief in the bole can be reined in, if we are fortunate enough to believe this. You may want to revisit the Fourth and Fiſth Steps to idenfy those deeds that we drag around like a ball and chain and keep us from actuang the rest of the program. “Even AA Oldmers, sober for years, oſten pay dearly for skimping this step” (12X2, The Step Five Ball and Chain 1,15 Service Board Informaon 2 Events 3 “Model Housewife” 3 Web Tally Stats 4 Our Principles 6 Roving Reporter 8 Cartoon 9 Alcoholic Rain on My Brain 10 Perfect! 11 I’ll Brush My Teeth First 11 March Donaons 12 Speaker Meengs 13 No 13 May Featured Book 14 Statement of Income and Expense 15 Word Search 16 The Step Five Ball and Chain Freedom and Peace of Mind Connued on page 15 You may want to revisit the Fourth and Fiſth Steps to idenfy those deeds that we drag around like a ball and chain and keep us from actuang the rest of the program.
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May, 2019 Volume 50, Issue 5
Experience, Strength, and Hope in Orange County
Inside This Issue
I don’t think I’ve ever witnessed an alcoholic who came to Alcoholics
Anonymous who loved himself or who wasn’t riddled with guilt and
shame. It’s hard to understand why alcohol
affects some people differently than others. I’ve
observed members who came from good family
environments that ended up on the streets, and
others who came from alcohol-infested families
that turned out normal as can be. In either case,
the alcoholic seems to have something missing in
their mental state that engenders the need to
find a way to neutralize this negative self-image,
and that first drink of alcohol does something
that gives them the relief which makes them feel somewhat normal.
I’ve heard it said that once a person starts to drink to cover up these
feelings, especially in the adolescent years, they stop growing emo-
tionally. When they finally show up in AA, they have the emotional
state consistent with the age they were when they started drinking,
absent of the coping skills of a normal person. They’ll have to revisit
all those under-developed behavioral patterns and replace them
with mature and healthy thoughts and actions. Easier said than
done!
When I look around the room at an AA meeting, we all seem to look
about the same in the way we dress and in our outside appearances.
The only thing that makes us different is what is going on in between
our ears. If we all woke up this morning with amnesia, we would all
be the same. It’s the tortures of past that torment us, and therein
lies the problem and the solution. If we can understand and accept
this well-established approach to our mental condition, we can take
actions that will restore our self esteem and we can live an incredi-
bly happy and peaceful life.
We cannot change one moment of the past, but we can resolve
the issues in our lives that brought about the need to escape
from those horrible memories of the things that
we regretted having done. The habits and deeds
that triggered the guilt and shame that led us to
seek relief in the bottle can be reined in, if we are
fortunate enough to believe this. You may want
to revisit the Fourth and Fifth Steps to identify
those deeds that we drag around like a ball and
chain and keep us from actuating the rest of the
program. “Even AA Oldtimers, sober for years,
often pay dearly for skimping this step” (12X2,
The Step Five Ball and Chain 1,15
Service Board Information 2
Events 3
“Model Housewife” 3
Web Tally Stats 4
Our Principles 6
Roving Reporter 8
Cartoon 9
Alcoholic Rain on My Brain 10
Perfect! 11
I’ll Brush My Teeth First 11
March Donations 12
Speaker Meetings 13
No 13
May Featured Book 14
Statement of Income and Expense 15
Word Search 16
The Step Five Ball and Chain Freedom and Peace of Mind
Continued on page 15
You may want to revisit the Fourth and Fifth Steps to
identify those deeds that we drag around like a ball and
chain and keep us from actuating the rest of the program.
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through contributions from the AA groups and members of Orange Coun-ty. The Lifeline is published to meet the following needs of the Orange County AA membership: to inform the AA membership regarding AA
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Public Information Committee: Meets the 4th Wednesday of the month at 7:00PM, Central Offiice, 1526 Brookhollow, Suite 75, Santa Ana Group Relations Committee: Meets the 2nd Wednesday of the month at 6:30PM, the Costa Mesa Senior Center, 695 West 19th St. (30 minutes before the Intergroup meeting) Lifeline Committee: Meets the 1st Thursday of the month at 7:00PM, Cen-tral Office, 1526 Brookhollow, Suite 75, Santa Ana Special Events Committee: meets the 2nd Wednesday of the month at 6:00PM, the Costa Mesa Senior Center, 695 West 19th St. (1 hour before the In-tergroup meeting) South Orange County H & I meets the 3rd Wednesday of the month at 7:00PM (new members’ orientation) and 7:45PM (business meeting), Laguna Beach Canyon Club, 20456 Laguna Can-yon Road, Laguna Beach Orange County H & I meets the 2nd Sunday of the month at 4:00PM and 6:00PM, Garden Grove Alano Club, 9845 Belfast Drive, Garden Grove
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“Model Housewife” For many years, they called me a “model housewife,” inside, I was dying from stresses and strife. My friends and family were “too blind” to see the turmoil and torture brewing inside of me. I sought doctors galore, hospitals, and pills. They all diagnosed “just nerves” as the cause of my ills. I thought I was insane; my mind assured that; I just never quite knew where I was at. I was on a treadmill, and just couldn’t stop; alcohol drug me to the bottom; I lost sight of the top. Angers and resentments kept me in a fix; manic depression and paranoia were a soul-destroying mix. My body was altered with breast implants, you see; My mind thought this would make you like me. My love for anyone was far out of reach; my patience was gone; my voice was a screech! The “great expectations” of all those around me, kept my fears gripping; they tried to astound me. My checkbook had become so completely entangled; covering my “tracks” kept my nerves well-jangled. I finally found my way, by God’s amazing grace, to a meeting of AA where I could slow-down my pace. So, friends, look-around you; maybe you’ll see, that “model housewife” of yours, hurting just like me. Effie R.
Step Five: Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human
being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Surely the idea of admitting our faults to God seems like a good
idea. After writing about our resentments and recognizing our
own roles in our conflicts with others, it probably seems like a
one-on-one conversation with our Higher Power should be
enough. God already knows all about our previous wrongdoing,
and a trusted sponsor can help us to truly see our own part in our
past suffering. A sponsor can also help us to recognize a pattern
of behavior that we might not notice at first. Finally, by talking to
another person, no matter how embarrassing the rehashing of
our past misdeeds, we can come to terms with our past without
the temptation to justify that bad behavior. Besides, no matter
how well a sponsor appears to have their lives together, the
sponsor usually has couple of their own stories of past resent-
ments that could have been handled better. It can be a bonding
experience with our sponsor.
Tradition Five: Each group has but one primary purpose . . . to
carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.
AAs come from different walks of life and have wildly diverse
backgrounds. Though each AA group might be tempted to offer
services that would help alcoholics, like help finding employment
or a place to live, the group’s function is to help the alcoholic
who is still suffering. This can be done by one alcoholic showing
another exactly how they were able to achieve sobriety one
day at a time. This also means that most of us are not medical
doctors and should not be giving our opinions of the best way
to treat another alcoholic’s mental health. This is one of the
many reasons that the newcomer is often thought to be the
most important person in the room.
Concept V: Throughout our world services structure, a tradi-
tional “Right of Appeal” ought to prevail, thus assuring us
that minority opinion will be heard and that petitions for the
redress of personal grievances will be carefully considered.
People who are new to AA’s General Service Conference might
be surprised to see that after a vote, even one with an obvious
majority, the people who opposed a passing vote are asked to
share their opinion. There are several instances in which the
minority view has changed people’s minds and the Conference
has reversed its prior ruling. The “Right of Appeal” reminds us
that the minority view is often the correct decision, and the
minority must share their views to make sure that the correct
action is taken. This Concept warns us against “the tyranny of
the majority” and suggests that many votes require at least a
two-thirds majority to pass. A simple majority usually will not
do.
Anonymous
Tradition Five: Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.
1. Do I ever cop out by saying, “I’m not a group so this or that Tradition doesn’t apply to me”? 2. Am I willing to explain firmly to a newcomer the limitations of AA help, even if he gets mad at me for not giving him a loan? 3. Have I today imposed on any AA member for a special favor or consideration simply because I am a fellow alcoholic? 4. Do I help my group in every way I can to fulfill our primary purpose? 5. Do I remember that AA old-timers, too, can be alcoholics who still suffer? Do I try both to help them and to learn from them? (Reprinted with permission from the AA Grapevine) (Traditions Checklist available from Central Office)
How Am I Doing?
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Reminder
Orange County Intergroup Meeting
2nd Wednesday of each month, 7:00PM
Costa Mesa Senior Center
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There are new member orientation sessions which
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CALL FORWARDING
The call forwarding program instituted by Orange County Central Office insures that our help line phones are answered by volunteers 24/7. During hours when the Central Office is closed, calls to the Central Office are forwarded to a call forwarding volunteer’s home or cell phone, where the vol-unteer answers the calls just as if he or she were sitting in the Central Office. This service allows the Central Office to real-ize a significant cost saving because we do not need to contract with a phone answering ser-vice. Even more vital, when a call is placed to Alcoholics Anonymous in Orange County, the caller will be talking to an Alcoholics Anony-mous member not a phone service! This truly is “front-line” 12th Step work and we would appreciate any time you can give.
VOLUNTEERING: In order to volunteer for this service it is sug-gested that you have two years of sobriety. Please arrange with the Central Office Manag-er in Santa Ana (714) 556-4555 or the Satellite Office Manager in Mission Viejo (949) 582-2697 for a brief orientation session which will be held at one of the offices. THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE.
ROVING REPORTER Better Sober Than When I Was Drinking
Interview with Christina, 9 months sober
Q: What made you decide to go to your first meeting? A: My roommate suggested going to a meeting with her neighbor I had expressed concern about my drinking.
Q: What made you decide to get sober? A: I was tired of making a decision to stop drinking, and not following through with it made me feel insane.
Q: What is the hardest thing about being sober A: Feeling like I will miss out on experiences with “normal” people in my life.
Q: What was your hardest amends? A: I haven’t done my Step Five yet but have practiced making amends regularly over the nine years since my first attempt at sobriety, and it always feels good!
Q: What do you like about dating sober? A: The absence of morning-after remorse and the uncer-tainty of my previous actions that were fueled by alcohol.
Q: What is your favorite part of being in AA? A: Having a community and fellowship of people that I know and feel I belong with. I know I’m never truly alone.
Q: What is the most fun you’ve had being sober? A: Every experience I go through is better sober than when I was drinking; more specifically, watching my-self become more successful in my career.
Q: What does your family think about your sobriety?A: They are extremely proud and excited for me while also careful when dealing with me, knowing that this is “one day at a time.”
Q: What about spirituality; does it apply to you? How? A: I consider myself very spiritual. I do not wholly follow one particular religion. My Higher Power is similar to the ever-present LOVE and energy.
Q: Have you been to any AA events? What was your favorite? A: Sober Bingo. They called it “Naughty Bingo.” We played games and had a pot luck at a fellow AA mem-ber’s home.
Q: What was a funny thing that has happened to you sober? A: “Normal” people’s confusion with my constant happiness. They just can’t understand it!
Effie R.
Every experience I go through is better sober than when I was drinking; more specifically, watching myself become more successful in my career.
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Alcoholic Rain on my Brain
Alcoholic Rain on my Brain
I felt the acid rain today!
An alcoholic rain
Pounding on my brain.
It screams go ahead
Only one is OK today
But I will feel the pain
And wish I was dead
Who or what will stop this rain?
Pounding on my head
Don't want to be dead
Long as I can remember alcoholic
"rain pain" has been pouring on me
Clouds of pain and misery over my
head
I keep wondering what can stop this
rain pain?
The rain will never stop
Calm today, no storm
But It will surely come
Prepare myself I must.
AA umbrella in my hand
No strength to open by me alone
Need a power greater than me ... A
Higher Power!
God is that Power!
He can and will help me, if I
ask. Ask I have!
The "who or what" is answered, I believe.
Preparation for my next alcoholic storm may come slowly or
quickly but prepared I will be, IF I do "the work" consistently.
Jim M.
*Inspired by the Credence Clearwater Revival song "Who’ll Stop
the Rain"*
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I look around my house and am appalled by the untidi-ness. It’s not exactly dirty, but it’s not clean either. I wan-der over to the refrigerator. I don’t have the right ingredi-ents to make a meal I’d like to eat, so I make what my mom called a Honeymoon Salad, “lettuce alone” with
some soon-to-be-expired Ranch dressing. My daughter toddles over wanting to be nursed. Did I brush my teeth yet today? I wonder as I open Facebook and distractedly type a happy birthday message to someone I haven’t seen in twenty years. There is the familiar feeling of un-manageability in my life that I thought would be gone once I got sober.
Almost eleven years ago, I was at that place that all real alcoholics know: I knew I couldn’t keep living the way I was living. Alcohol was no longer working for me, but I didn’t know how to stop drinking either. But I’m a good person, I thought often, almost like a personal mantra. If people just tried to understand where I was coming from, they would see that my intentions were good, that I was good. I felt like everyone wanted so much from me, though I now see that I was incapable of even the mini-mum standards society required. I was pretty sure that if I could just stop drinking, all my problems would go away. But I’m a good person; alcohol was surely the only prob-lem standing in the way of that beautiful life I deserved.
At my first meeting, I read the Steps on the wall. We ad-mitted that were powerless over alcohol, that our lives had become unmanageable. This made perfect sense to me. I agreed that my life was unmanageable because of alco-hol. If I stopped drinking, I reasoned, my life would be manageable. I would pay my bills on time. My family wouldn’t be mad at me. I would have a good job and a perfect boyfriend. Everything would be OK. No one was more surprised than I was that getting sober didn’t magi-cally fix my life.
Today as I sit in my untidy house looking at a framed pho-to of my husband and children, I am grateful that my life is a thousand times better than I could have imagined when I first got sober. I also realize now that alcohol was my solution for my unmanageable life, not the cause of it. When I start feeling out of control, I can do something about it today. Being a stay-at-home mom is lonely some-times, but I don’t have to be alone. I’ll go to a meeting to-night with childcare.* I’ll read a story out of the Big Book. I’ll call another alcoholic to ask about her day—but I’ll brush my teeth first. Anonymous *Editor’s note: Meetings with childcare can be found by going to the meeting directory on www.oc-aa.org.
Perfect!
From the prison of perfectionism, to the joy of authenticity,
Breaking free from bondage of self and learning to love the real me.
After years of recovery, I was still running from myself,
Leaving a partnership with God and others on an out-of-the-way shelf.
I was taught that life was something to miserably muddle through,
Enjoying life was never something I had permission to do.
Who am I to be happy, joyous, and free?
I had to make sure no one was working harder than me!
I worked twice as hard to feel half as good,
Not understanding my sense of worthlessness was based on a
falsehood.
There was always a new meeting or friend to run to in AA,
But I wasn't running to them, I was running away.
My sponsor told me, "When you no longer need to be a star,
You'll be able to stay where you are."
I desperately wanted you to see me as perfect,
As if that could possibly be true,
I deluded myself for years in program,
Until I finally "came to.”
Others can see what we're hiding by the way we try to hide it,
My character defects were announcing to the world what I couldn't
admit.
I was screaming, "I hate myself!" with every action I took,
The horrible person I believed I was, to the world, was an open book.
Through the steps I've come to love the woman inside,
I no longer need to run, there's no monster from which to hide.
I had to become willing to let God remove what stood in the way,
Of my usefulness to others, in step 7, there's no half-way.
I don't get to choose what's removed and what will stay,
But I do get to choose my actions each day.
When an action belies a defect,
I ask God to take it away.
At times I've begged my Higher Power to remove a specific flaw,
Instead, to see it become an asset, defying natural law.
"Impression management" is an exhausting job, from which I've now
retired,
In humans, and in life, perfection is NOT required.
When put together, the words "perfect" and "person" are an oxymo-
ron, not a goal,
It's letting down our guard that endears us to others, and makes visible
our soul!
Janet H.
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We 7:00A-Whale Watchers (M)'s, PCH $155
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We 7:00A-(M)'s Book Study, 1042 Te $250 $475
We 6:00P-Beg Disc, 20456 LCR $63
We 6:30P-Spkr Mtg, 31872 PCH $158
Th 6:00P-(W)'s Stag, 20456 LCR $100
Fr 12:00P-Q & A, 20456 LCR $50 $193
Fr 6:00P-Fri Nite Lit Disc, 21632 Wes $660 $660
Fr 7:30P-Candlelight Accept, 20456 L $160
Sa 12:30P-Into Action, 20456 LCR $65
Sa 7:00A-Whale Watchers (M)'s, PCH $815 $1,654
LAGUNA HILLS ^ ^
Su 7:30P-Legacy Grp, 23802 Ave de $300 $900
Tu 7:00P-(M)'s Stag, 23802 ADC $300
Tu 7:30P-By the Book, 23802 ADC $140
We 7:00P-Get Happy 12&12 Stdy, 23 $100
Th 7:00P-Stop in Time, 23802 ADC $114
Fr 6:30P-Fri Eve Meditation, 23802 A $75
Sa 7:00A-Warmer-Upper, 23802 Ave $120 $120
Sa 11:00A-Acceptance Grp, 23802 Av $93 LAGUNA NIGUEL ^ ^
Su 7:30P-Speaker, 24360 Yosemite $190
Mo 7:00A-(M)'s Stag B2B, 30071 Ivy $490
Mo 10:30A-(W)'s 12X12 Stdy, 27802 $83
Mo 5:30P-What's The Purpose Mens, $120 $120
Th 5:30P- Mixed Meditaion, 29102 C $70
Fr 7:00A-Back to Basics Men's, 30 $500 $500
Sa 8:30A-(M)'s Meditation, 29102 Cr $50
Sa 6:00P-Candlelight, 27802 El Lazo $108
LAGUNA WOODS ^ ^
Dly 7:30A-Do It Sober, 24442 Mou $1,626
We 1:15P-(W)'s BB Stdy, 24351 El T $50
Fr 10:30A-Top/Hill Gang, 24252 El T $75
LA HABRA ^ ^
M-F 6:15A- Topic Disc, 631 N. Euclid $110 $190
LAKE FOREST ^ ^
We 7:30P-Back To Basics, 23262 El $120
LA MIRADA ^ ^
LAS FLORES ^ ^
LOS ALAMITOS ^ ^
Su 4:00P-Happy Hour Disc., 4388 K $120
MISSION VIEJO ^ ^
Mo 7:00P-(W)'s 12 x 12 Study, 26051 $135 $135
We 9:30A-(W)'s Topic, 26051 Margu $362 $552
Th 9:30A-(W)'s 12 x 12, 26872 Est $40
NEWPORT BEACH ^ ^
M-F 2:00P-Nwprt Nomads, 414 Old N $400
M-F 6:30A-Chicken Coop Round Tabl $1,500
M-F 6:45A-Attitude Adj, Bayside Dr (Y $1,400
M-F 12:15P-Shark@Aquatic, 1Whitecl $450
M-F 5:30P-Fish Out'a Water, 414 E. $500 $500
M&Th 9:00A-(W)'s 12x12/BB, 414 E. $50
Su 7:15A-Men's Closed B/B Study, 79 $120
Su 9:30A-Sandy Survivors, On/Beach $250
Mo 6:00P-(W)'s BB & SS 2414 Vista $151
Mo 7:00P-(M)'s Disc, 301 Nwprt Blvd $339
Tu 6:00P-Castaways (W's) BB, 798 D $213
We 7:00P-Steps&Trads, 2200 San J $280 $280
We 8:00P-Recovery Radicals, 301 N $65
Th 7:00P-Over 40's, 414 32nd Street $79
Sa 8:00A-Easy Risers, 2100 Mar $210 $551
Sa 11:00A-Here & Now, 414 E. 32nd $100
Sa 6:00P-Discovery Grp, 414 E. 32nd $18
ORANGE ^ ^
Tu 7:00P-(W)'s Keep It Simple, 1310 $131
We 11:15A-Chapman & Lewis Mtg., $95
Th 7:30P-777 (M) Beginners, 395 S. $120
Th 7:30P-We Got a C/P, 300 Taft $75
PLACENTIA ^ ^
RANCHO SANTA MARGARITA ^ ^
Su 7:00P-Old Time AA 12&12, 30605 $120
Tu 7:30P-Old TimeAA BB Stdy, 30 $240
M-F 6:30A-Att & Grat, 30605 Ave D/L $100 $250
Sa 10:30A-(W)'s BB Stdy, VCD $247
SAN CLEMENTE ^ ^
Su 7:00P-Sandy Bottom, 35522 Cam $180
Tu 7:00A-Step Sisters (W), 101 Ave D $115
Tu 6:00P-SOS(W)'s Disc, 190 Ave La $138
Th 7:00P-The Joy of Sobriety, 3522 $40
Fr 7:00P-(W)'s BB & SS, 202 Ave A $90
Fr 7:00P-Friday Knights, 35522 Cam $120 $740
Sa 9:30A-AA Pamphlet, 1040 Calle N $37 $37
SAN JUAN CAPISTRANO ^ ^
Dly Various- San Juan Meetings $794 $3,045
Su 5:00P-1 Hr Top Disc, 32222 Del O $88 $88
Tu 6:00P-(M)'s Stag/Munchies, 32202 $82
Th 6:00P-Do The Steps, 32202 Del $275
Th 7:30P-(M)'s Q & A/Gator Mtg, 32 $154 $620
Sa 6:30A-Eye Opener, 32202 Del Ob $1,000
SANTA ANA ^ ^
Dly 7:00A-Early Birds, 2425 N. Tustin $104
Th 12:00P-Downtown Lunch, 600 N. $20 $40
SEAL BEACH ^ ^
We 7:00P- BYO Coffee BB, 148 10th $115
We 7:30P-(W)'s SS, 138 8th St $201 $201
SILVERADO CANYON ^ ^
SUNSET BEACH ^ ^
Su 9:15A-Part., 16865 PCH $60
Su 10:00A-Sunset Bch Mtg, PCH & W $40 $40
Su 11:00A-Inner Peace Group, 16865 $174
Su 3:00P-Discussion, 16865 PCH $125
Mo 7:00A-BB Study, 16865 PCH $75
Tu,Th 7:00A-Disc, 16865 PCH $205
Tu 12:00P-Disc, 16865 PCH $75 $150
Tu 8:00P- Nomad'sBB Study, 16865 $134 $134
Th 7:00A-Disc, 16865 PCH $80 $80
Fr 6:00P-(M)'s Never Had It So Good, $111 $341
TUSTIN ^ ^
Dly 6:00A-Foothill Early Risers, 19211 $153
Dly 6:00A-Attitude Mod, 1221 Wass $298 $968
Tu, Th, Sa 12:00P-Brown Baggers, 600 $200
M-F 12:00P-Alkies Winners, 555 W $211
M,W,F 12:00P- Spiritual Experience, $150 $150
Su 7:00P-Sober & Crazy Spkrs, 1834 $46 $117
Tu 7:00P-Tustin BB Stdy, 225 W. Main $69 $129
We 7:00P-(W)'s Solutions, 19211 Do $64 $235
Th 7:00P-12 Steps & 12 Trads, 225 $50
Fr 6:30P-It's in the Book, 225 W. Main $214 $578
Sa 7:30A-Tustin Acceptance, 225 W. M $150 $300
VILLA PARK ^ ^
WESTMINSTER ^ ^
WHITTIER ^ ^
YORBA LINDA ^ ^
UNLISTED GROUPS ^ ^
Anonymous Meeting $100 $100
No B.S., Long Beach $93
WANDERING GROUPS ^ ^
MISC. DONATIONS ^ ^
OCCO Change Can $42
Southern CA Men's Banquet $1,357
PERSONAL DONATIONS ^ ^
Anonymous $110 $1,905
Anne M., RSM $78 $78
Garry N., Capo Beach $250
J. R., Pomona $10
June (B.J.) L., Irvine $75
Robert H., RSM $40 $40
IN LOVING MEMORY ^ ^ GROUP INFORMATION
REQUESTED ^ ^
Receipt #0970 CK #222 $250
Receipt #1004 CK #4422 $500
Receipt #1081 CK #186 $70
Receipt #1139 CK #1287 $150 $150
TOTALS $13,718 $54,107
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Speaker Meetings
7:00PM, Saturday Mission Speakers Meeting The Laguna Treatment Hospital (Cafeteria) 24552 Pacific Park Dr. Contact: Christina K. or Dawn M.
7:00PM, Sunday Sunday Night Costa Mesa Speaker Mesa Verde United Methodist Church 1701 West Baker St.
05/05 Rachel R., Newport Beach
05/12 Brandon F., Lake Forest
05/19 Marni T., Costa Mesa
05/26 Ancio R., Stanton
Dana Point Harbor Monthly Speaker Birthday Group 1st Sunday only each month Wind & Sea Restaurant upstairs Dana Point Harbor Contact: Christine G.
7:00PM, Saturday HOW Hall Saturday Night Lite Speaker Meeting 19092 Beach Blvd. #G & H
8:00PM, Saturday Living Sober Speaker Meeting Guild Hall 428 Park Ave. @Catalina (behind church) Contact: Jordan B.
7:30PM, Sunday Laguna Niguel Speaker Meeting Mission Lutheran Church 24360 Yosemite Rd. (at La Paz) 05/05 - Joan S., San Diego 05/12 - Scott J., Laguna Niguel 05/19 - Danny S., Eagle, ID 05/26 - Barbara D., Mission Viejo Contact: Lynne W.
8:00 PM, Friday Friday Night No Puffers Community of Christ Church 395 S. Tustin St. Contact: Ryan B. 7:00PM, Sunday Sunday Night Speakers Meeting River47 Church 250 S. Prospect St. Contact: Eddie P.
7:30PM, Friday Roads End Participation 30322 Via Con Dios @ Santa Margarita Pkwy. Speaker last Friday of the month
8:00PM, Saturday Saturday Night Visiting Speakers 18341 Lassen Dr. Fairhaven & Esplanade (Prentice School) Contact: Josh O. 7:00PM, Sunday Sober & Crazy Speaker Meeting 18431 Lassen Dr. (Fairhaven@Esplanade) Contact: Chuck D. Jr. 9:02AM, Sunday Podium Participation Speaker Meeting & Q & A 18341 Lassen Dr. Fairhaven & Esplande (Prentice School) Contact: Mike L. Or Linda P.
Aliso Viejo
Dana Point
7:30PM, Saturday Back to Basics Speaker Meeting 414 E. 32nd St. Contact: Nicole A. 8:30PM, Saturday Hoag Hut Speaker Meeting 201 Newport Blvd. (Hospital Conference Center—enter parking structure from PCH, elevator to Level C) Contact: Cheri K.
Newport Beach
Anonymous
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MAY 2019
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pg. 56). Those things will not go away, but the
mental and emotional pain that we drank to
nullify can be arrested; we can finally put it all
behind us and live a wonderful life. I know this
from experience.
When I revisited my Fourth and Fifth Step, I
was stronger and talked to someone about
those deeds from the past that plagued me. I
realized that most people who abuse alcohol
are also plagued by that same emotional pain,
to one degree or another. If they are willing to
address it, they can be free from that Ball and
Chain, and my experience is that it freed me
up to continue the rest of the Steps with
pleasure. I had no comprehension of the
effect it would have on me, for if I did, I would
have cut to the chase much sooner and avoid-
ed several years of discontent. As long as
those deeds were in the past and not habits of
the present, this process worked exactly as it
was intended per the program. I hope that this
encourages at least one person to find some-
one they trust and find the relief that I have
experienced as the result of cleaning the slate,
and I wish them a happy life. It worked for me.
Rick R.
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS
ORANGE COUNTY INTERGR0UP ASSOCIATION STATEMENT OF INCOME & EXPENSE
PERIOD ENDING 03/31/2019 UNAUDITED
Continued from page 1
March YTD
INCOME
Birthday Donations 244.30 420.30
Group Donations 13,835.68 51,423.02
Individual/Fellowship 192.00 2,042.00
Interest Earned 5.08 14.75
Literature Sales 15,134.25 35,920.13
Misc/Repaid Bounced Checks 35.71 35.71
TOTAL INCOME: 29,447.02 89,885.93
Cost of Goods Sold
Cost of Literature Sold 13,443.87 30,515.73 Inventory Adjustments 148.06 502.93
Total COGS 13,591.93 31,018.66
Gross Profit 15,855.09 58,867.27
EXPENSES
Accounting - 1,240.00
Auto Expense (all Mgrs.) 56.95 190.07
Convention & Ser Event Expenses
354.62 354.62
Copier Expense (Canon) 34.03 139.45
Credit Card Expense 144.25 502.37
Freight & Shipping Cost 66.25 126.25
Insurances 1,723.00 2,025.23
Intergroup Expense 414.49 1,147.73
Internet Expense 134.60 401.08
Lease Expense 296.07 888.21
LIFELINE Expense 1,524.50 4,617.50
Offices Supplies & Expenses 192.73 611.59
Outside Service 660.00 660.00
Payroll Tax Expense 626.79 2,186.47
Postage 77.86 180.80
Reimb. Health Insurance 500.00 1,500.00
Rent Main/Satellite Offices 3,040.89 9,122.67
Returned Checks 35.71 35.71
Salaries 8,233.50 25,631.68
Sales Tax on Lease 21.31 63.93
Taxes & Licenses - 59.00
Telephone Expense 872.64 2,617.93
Utilities 104.74 293.99
Volunteers Coffee + Water 15.75 131.90
Website Expense 227.50 812.50
TOTAL EXPENSES: 19,361.17 55,540.71
INCOME/(LOSS): (3,506.08) 3,326.56
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May Word Search
Word Search Competition
Complete the word search (words can be forwards, backwards, up, down, or diagonal), and make sure to include your name and
phone number or email address. Take a picture and email it to: [email protected], or mail the completed puzzle to
Central Office at 1526 Brookhollow Dr. Suite 75, Santa Ana, CA, 92705. Your name will be entered into a drawing for a chance to
