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FAMILY LIFE CYLCEChild Development
Stage 1Singles/ Individuals
Stage 2Marriage
Stage 3Childbearing
Stage 4Parenting
Stage 5Launching/ Teens
Stage 6Middle Years
Stage 7Senior Years
Stage 1 Single/Individual• Emotional changes from relying on family to
emotional and financial responsibility to oneself.
• Beginning to find oneself and develop own beliefs and ideas. May reject family values and belief.
• Teens developing intimate peer relationships on a deeper level than before.
• Nutritional Analysis #2 due today– Put name on your print out of one of your day’s
summary and turn into my desk– Fitness Pal – come up the my desk and show me
at least 5 whole days in September
Stage 2 Marriage
What age is best to get married?• 24-30 Youthful marriages• Up to age 30, the older you are at
marriage the greater likelihood of marital happiness and success
• Teens have highest divorce rates• After age 30 higher divorce rate than
20-30.
PREDICTION OF SUCCESS: Until death do us part: Not a fact for most
marriages.
Prediction of Marital Success
• Education = income, insight, status• Length of engagement• Childhood environment & relationship with family.• Divorced parents may cause a shying away from
marriage.• Loving each other did not have affect on whether or
not they fought.• HONEYMOON EFFECT: Overlooking problems.
Reality vs. idealized relationship.
PREDICTION OF SUCCESS FACTORS
• Communicates well• Resolve conflict in a constructive way• Realistic expectations of marriage• Like each other as people (opposites attract
doesn’t work)• Undesirable traits are magnified in marriage• Agree on religion & ethical issues• Spend leisure activities/time with each other
Why have an engagement?
• Reduces anxiety about marriage.
• Gives couple time to mature and break from family.
• Make sure partner is right person.
What’s the secret to a happy marriage?
• When the couple met they felt immediately at home with each other. Friendship was immediate. There is a strong physical and/or emotional attraction.
• Happy couples have similar values and beliefs, but embrace each other’s differences.
• Happy couples have trust
Happily Married
• Happy couples usually describe their mate as their best friend. They like each other very much, above all others. They spent a lot of time together.
• Happy couples share a life dream. They work together to make the dream come true.
• Happy couples don’t hold a grudge. High capacity to resolve conflict and move on.
HAPPILY MARRIED continued…
• Happy couples roll with the changes. People do change and good marriages change too.
• Happy couples agree to have or not to have children. Couples agree on whether or not to have children.
• Happy couples understand the importance of sex & romance. Friendship was more important than sex but sex was the strong force binding them together through the years.
Essentials of a good marriage• Marriage is priority, even over the kids
• They are united in their parenting
• Fidelity and commitment!!!
• Unselfishness• Each person is important
• Time spent together• Couple time is sacred
• Good Communication
• Respectful to each other
• Read pg. 540-541– How do parents influence their children?– How do children influence their parents?
Teenage Pregnancy
• 81% of teens births are to unmarried teens• 56% need public assistance• About 1 million teenage girls are pregnant
every year• Father is financially responsible until the child
is 18 years old• How would your life change because of a
pregnancy?
STAGE 3 - CHILDBEARING
• Adjusting to becoming a family or increased family size.
• Caring for an infant (Wow it’s tough!)• Providing a positive developmental
environment and learning to be a parent.• Making sacrifices • Adjusting to having less couple time.
STAGE 4 - Parenting
• Caring for Children• Coping with demands on
energy and attention with less privacy at home.
• Increasing need to make sacrifices for children and family
• VERY stressful time for parents.
STAGE 4 – Parenting Continued
Family importance:
• Promoting educational achievement• Fitting in the community of families with
school-age children• Supporting children’s interests (attend
events!)
STAGE 5 – Launching/ Teens
(When the oldest child is between the ages of 13 and 20)
• Allowing and helping children to become more independent
• Coping with their independence
• Developing new interests beyond child care
STAGE 6 – MIDDLE AGE MARRIAGES
Parents more likely to divorce at this time. Parents who stayed together just for the children feel free to move on.
Empty Nest SyndromeBoomerang generation: Children
return home due to high unemployment, housing cost, low wages, divorce and personal problems.
Parents may become grandparents at this time.
Parents may have to care for their own parents (grandparents)
STAGE 7 - LATER LIFE • Grand parenting
• Retirement
• How will you live your life once your family is grown?
• What will you do when you don’t have a job to go to every day?
• Many people look forward to their “Golden Years”
Does parenting end when children are grown & gone? Does parenting end when children are grown & gone?
GRANDPARENTING
• Grandparents = distance is biggest factor in amount of involvement
• 25% of preschool children cared for by grandparents
• Grandparent experience the joys of children without all of the responsibilities
Stage Review• Stage 1 (18-21 yrs) Developing autonomy and becoming
independent• Stage 2 (22-28 yrs) Developing intimacy & occupational
identification. May marry at this time. • Stage 3 (29-31 yrs) Most likely to become parents at this time. • Stage 4 (32-39 yrs) Deepening commitments; pursuing more
long-range goals and parenting.• Stage 5 (40-42 yrs) Parenting transitioning into launching.• Stage 6 (43-59 yrs) Re-establishing marital relationship/empty
nest• State 7 (60+ yrs) Dealing with aging while retaining zest for
life. Grand parenting.