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Family Matters Diane Coffill State Family Program Director [email protected] (919) 664-6324 SFC Calvin Buchan State Family Program Assistant [email protected] (919) 664-6124 SSG Ju Autry Budget Analysis [email protected] (919) 664-7583 SGT Daniel Holland HR Assistant [email protected] (919) 664-6124 PFC Carolyn Stevens HR Assistant [email protected] (919) 664-6876 Lana Greer State FAC Coordinator [email protected] (828) 271-5029 Renee Brotherton FAC Team Leader [email protected] (704) 359-5736 Kathleen Flaherty, LTC (Ret.) Airman & Family Readiness Program Mgr. [email protected] (704) 398-4949 Pamela Hughes State FRG Advisor [email protected] (919) 693-5016 ext. 13 Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator [email protected] (919) 664-7616 Individual Highlights Community Cares 2 Upcoming Events 3-4 Father’s Day Photo Tribute 5 Father’s Day Card 6 Change Quiz 7 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon 8-10 Family Retreat Registration 11 Coupons/Quick Reference 12 FAC Staff Directory 13 June 2010Volume 2, Issue 6 VIEW EVENTS ONLINE www.nc.ngb.army.mil Family Programs Events Calendar GET WITH THE “PROGRAM!” FACEBOOK ~ BECOME A FAN North Carolina National Guard Family Programs JOIN JSS jointservicessupport.org Get program information, events, chat with other military Families, and more. You will also receive emails with lots of great opportunities. ~IN THE KNOW~ Be Army Strong! North Carolina National Guard Families continue to navigate various phases of the deploy- ment cycle. Whether your Service Member is deployed, on R&R, or recently returned … Summer is here! And, Summer is a time to enjoy life, the heat from the Sun, and have fun. Resolve to make this a great summer for you and your family. Inside, you’ll find a lot of events happening in June that are sure to please. We also wanted to let you know about the highlights from the May Yellow Ribbon Event for the 30th HBCT. We’ve learned that North Carolina National Guard Soldiers and Families are all about ‘getting over it,’ ‘working through it,’ and ‘taking advantage of the resources.’ You work hard, and you owe yourself a little fun! Enjoy your Summer!!! Exclusive Summer Getaways and discounts for NCNG military Families. Family Retreat Coming in August. Space is limited. Use Registration form on page 9 to reserve a spot today!
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Page 1: Family Matters June 2010

Family Matters Diane Coffill State Family Program Director dianecoffill2usarmymil (919) 664-6324

SFC Calvin Buchan State Family Program Assistant calvinbuchanusarmymil (919) 664-6124

SSG Ju Autry Budget Analysis juautryusarmymil (919) 664-7583

SGT Daniel Holland HR Assistant danhollandusarmymil (919) 664-6124

PFC Carolyn Stevens HR Assistant carolynstevens1usarmymil (919) 664-6876

Lana Greer State FAC Coordinator lanamgreerusarmymil (828) 271-5029

Renee Brotherton FAC Team Leader reneebrothertonusarmymil (704) 359-5736

Kathleen Flaherty LTC (Ret) Airman amp Family Readiness Program Mgr

kathleenflahertyctrnccharangafmil

(704) 398-4949

Pamela Hughes State FRG Advisor pamelahughes5usarmymil (919) 693-5016 ext 13

Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator alicedeanusarmymil (919) 664-7616

Individual Highlights

Community Cares 2

Upcoming Events 3-4

Fatherrsquos Day Photo Tribute 5

Fatherrsquos Day Card 6

Change Quiz 7

30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon 8-10

Family Retreat Registration 11

CouponsQuick Reference 12

FAC Staff Directory 13

June 2010mdashVolume 2 Issue 6

VIEW EVENTS ONLINE wwwncngbarmymil

Family Programs

Events Calendar

GET WITH THE ldquoPROGRAMrdquo FACEBOOK ~ BECOME A FAN North Carolina National Guard

Family Programs

JOIN JSS

jointservicessupportorg

Get program information events

chat with other military Families and

more You will also receive emails

with lots of great opportunities

~IN THE KNOW~

Be Army Strong North Carolina National Guard Families continue to navigate various phases of the deploy-ment cycle Whether your Service Member is deployed on RampR or recently returned hellip Summer is here And Summer is a time to enjoy life the heat from the Sun and have fun Resolve to make this a great summer for you and your family Inside yoursquoll find a lot of events happening in June that are sure to please We also wanted to let you know about the highlights from the May Yellow Ribbon Event for the 30th HBCT Wersquove learned that North Carolina National Guard Soldiers and Families are all about lsquogetting over itrsquo lsquoworking through itrsquo and lsquotaking advantage of the resourcesrsquo You work hard and you owe yourself a little fun Enjoy your Summer

Exclusive Summer Getaways and

discounts for NCNG military Families

Family Retreat Coming in August Space is

limited Use Registration form on page 9 to

reserve a spot today

2

COMMUNITY CARES |community outreach

Healing the Wounds of War Breath by Breath The Yoga Warrior method is designed to provide ad-

vanced knowledge and practical tools for yoga teach-

ers working with combat veterans diagnosed with Com-

bat and Operational Stress Reaction or Post Traumatic

Stress Disorder (PTSD) The Yoga Warriors Method skillfully

integrates concepts from yoga therapy traditional

yoga philosophy psychology and sensory integration

theory with current scientific knowledge of the mind-

body connection to promote health wellness and

peace of mind from within For information about Yoga

and PTSD visit wwwyogawarriorscom

FREE CLASSES FOR COMBAT VETERANS

ANDOR SPOUSES

Tuesday nights from 630-8pm at the American Red Cross in Raleigh starting June 15 until August 24 2010 Class is free and open to the first 25 students who register by calling Diane Callan at 919-650-1806 or emailing wellnessforwarriorsgmailcom Sunday nights from 530-645pm at Yoga Garden Apex Open to first 10 students who register online at wwwyogagardencom or by calling Margaret Richards at 919- 267-9264 Friday mornings from 10-1130am at Noda Yoga Charlotte NC starting June 4 until August 20 2010 Open to first 10 stu-dents who reserve call Jillian Longsworth 704-560-6144

A Day of Love amp Appreciation

for Military Wives On Saturday May 22 2010 the Raleigh (NC) Chapter

of The Links Inc honored military wives with ldquoA Day of

Love amp Appreciation for Military Spousesrdquo event The

event included a continental breakfast chair mas-

sages fashion tips on how to dress for less beauty tips

and resume-building Participants also had one-on-

one sessions with a financial counselor and life consult-

ant if desired A Chic-Fil-A lunch with trimmings was

provided for the wives The luncheon speaker K975

Radio Host ldquoMary Janerdquo addressed how self-

acceptance and a positive support group are keys to

happiness She said ldquoItrsquos essential to surround yourself

with people that will have your back in the tough

timesrdquo Several door prizes were given away one that

included a $175 Spa Gift Package Each Military Wife

received a tote bag filled with lots of great giveaways

Susan S Taylor with The Links said ldquoI would like the

Guard community to know how much the community

really supported this program All of the food and

many giveaways were donatedrdquo

Thank You

Military

Spouses

UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun

Relationship Enhancement Programs

Single Soldier‟s Retreat

How Not to Date a Jerk or Jerkette August 20-22mdashSmoky Mountains

For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124

Marriage Enrichment Weekend Retreats Laughing Your Way to a Better Marriage

Reserve your Slot Now July 9-11 2010 - Beach

July 23-25 2010 - Beach

August 13-15 2010 - Beach

August 27-29 2010 - Beach

For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124

Military Appreciation Days

May 30-31 July 4-5

Carowinds will offer FREE admission to any ac-

tive or retired military personnel on May 30-31

and July 4-5 2010 when showing proper identifi-

cation at the Carowinds Front Gate Along with

free admission active and retired members of

the military will also be able to purchase dis-

counted admission tickets at the Carowinds

Front Gate for members of their immediate fam-

ily on these dates The free ticket offer is only

available on the dates above and a valid mili-

tary ID must be presented to receive this special

offer

Throughout 2010 members of the military and as

many as three direct dependents may enter Sea-

World Busch Gardens or Sesame Place parks with a

single-day complimentary admission

Visit httpwwwherosalutecomcavatxindexhtml

Kings Dominion

announces its

Tribute to the

Armed Forces

May 30 amp 31

July 4 amp 5

3

Kings Dominion is pleased to announce that it will offer

FREE admission to active retired and former United

States military personnel on Sunday and Monday of

both the Memorial Day and July 4th weekends as a

part of its Tribute to the Armed Forces program The ex-

act dates are May 30 31 and July 4 5 2010 and in-

clude all branches of the service including National

Guard and Reserves The free ticket offer will be avail-

able on the Sunday and Monday of each weekend

and a valid military ID or discharge papers must be pre-

sented at Kings Dominion on one of the dates of the

program Place your credit card order online at

wwwkingsdominioncom Then simply click on tickets

then corporate partner Your COMPANY ID is AFAD8

Fathers DayService Member Card

Craft Event Family Readiness Groups will be onsite on June 5 at

the Morganton Armory from 1-3pm to make Fatherrsquos

Day Cards and also at the Lincolnton Armory from

10am to 12pm

You can also show your love for your Father or Military

Member at the Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

Walk in and make a card at your convenience Join

us on Friday June 18 2010 at 2-6 pm at the Lenoir

State Family Assistance Center 1535 Beecher Ander-

son Rd Lenoir NC

Music in the Park (Stump Sound Park) Saturday June 12 2010 ~ 6pm-9pm ~ Onslow County

Free Admission moonwalk concessions live entertainment

Bring your lawn chairs Call 9103475332

Danny Desens Jr amp Fallen Heroes Memorial Ride

Sunday June 27 2010 Ride in memory of Danny Desens Jr and all the Service mem-

bers who have made the ultimate sacrifice Registration starts

at 11am Donations are accepted for scholarships Ride be-

gins at 1pm For more info call 9103469997 or email

teacheyccoastalcarolinaedu

4

UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun for KIDS

Operation Kids on Guard

Day Drills

June 19 Kinston Armory

July 10 Raeford Armory

July 24 Winston Salem Armory

August 21 Morrisville Armory

August 28 Asheville Armory

Overnight Weekend Camps

September 24-26 2010 Camp Butner

Spaces fill quickly

To learn more and to register contact

Bridgette Carroll KOG Assistant at

bridgettecarrollusarmymil

or call 9196647664 Registration Forms can

be found at wwwncngbarmymil bdquoFamily

Programs‟ bdquoChild amp Youth Programs‟

THE FIRST TEE

Itrsquos tee time for children from

military Families thanks to The

First Tee Military Affiliate Pro-

gram The program offers free

golf instruction to children from

National Guard and Reserve

Families geographically sepa-

rated from a military base at

The First Teersquos 200 chapters

across the nation School-age

children at all skill levels from

beginner to advanced are in-

vited to hone their golf game

with the help of trained

coaches The program not only

sharpens childrenrsquos skills on golf

course greens and fairways but

it also provides life skills Along

with basic golf instruction The

First Tee coaches teach children

interpersonal communication

managing emotions goal-

setting and overcoming obsta-

cles To sign up parents can visit

a First Tee chapter in their com-

munity or download a coupon

for free instruction by visiting The

First Tee website http

wwwthefirstteeorgmilitary The

site also includes a listing of

chapter locations

HERSHEYS TRACK amp FIELD MEET Tuesday June 1 2010

Rain date is Thursday June 3 2010

White Oak High School Track

1001 Piney Green Rd Jacksonville

Registration 5-530pm

Meet begins 545pm

Open to boys amp girls ages 9-14 on

before Dec 31 2010 Those who turn 15

this year are not eligible No Charge

Come test your skills If you are between

the ages of 9 and 14 years old and you

like to run jump and throw then the

Hersheyrsquos Track amp Field Youth Program is

for you A birth certificate is required to

Child amp Youth Program

2025 National Guard Dr Morrisville 27560

FAX (919) 664-6156

Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator

(919) 664-7616 alicedeanusarmymil

Bridgette Carroll KOG Coordinator

(919) 693-3651 ext 21 bridgettecarrollusarmymil

Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator (919) 693-3651 ext 23

kristiwagnerusarmymil

5th Annual Step Up For Soldiers Children‟s Fishing Tournament

Saturday June 19 2010

7am-1pm ~ Kure Beach Pier

Enjoy a day of fishing and fun for

military kids and their Families Pier

activities include fishing food and

prizes After the tournament a live

performance by Wilmington Police

Pipe and Drum Band and from 1-

5pm free admission to Splash Inflat-

able Water Park To donate or vol-

unteer call Jim Verdon at

5709710553

Pre-registration Required

httpstepupforsoldiersorg

Contact Tom Russell 9102974981

or email stepup4soldiersaolcom

NC Operation Military Kids Science Day Camps (Middle School Age Youth)

June 21-25 2010mdashWayne Co

Contact Summer E Young or Wallace Sim-

mons at 9197311527

Youngest Heroes Camp

This camp is just for military kids

ages 5-8 Youth will engage in

traditional camp activities

sleep in cabins and gain self-

confidence in learning man-

agement Youth will also cre-

ate a camp craft and partici-

pate in recreational activities This camp is

FREE for military youth Kids will enjoy rock

climbing canoeing kayaking camp fire sto-

ries archery and more See camp options

below

Betsy-Jeff Penn 4-H CentermdashReidsville NC

July 18-21 2010

To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or

contact Stacy Burns at 3363499455

Millstone 4-H CampmdashEllerbe NC

August 1-4 2010 or August 6-8 2010

To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or

contact Gene Shutt Director at

9106525905

Day Camp (ages 9-12)

August 2-5 2010

Contact Wanda Mills at 9104555873

Camp for Youth with

Developmental Disabilities

August 5-8 2010

Eastern 4-H Conference Center

Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800

Family Camp Weekend

September 3-5 2010

Eastern 4-H Conference Center

Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800

Contact Scott Enroughty at 9195158500 or

scott_enroughtyncsuedu

Kids Fishing Derby ~ June 5 9am Jacksonville TrainingAcademy Range

Fishing contest and prizes for

youth up to 16 years of age 12

and under requires an adult to

accompany Call 910347-5332

Visit wwonslowcountyncgovparks

5

We Wish all Dads a Happy Fatherrsquos Day

FATHERS F aithful

A lways there

T rustworthy

H onoring

E ver-loving

R ighteous

S upportive Author Unknown

Print out a Fatherrsquos

Day Card on Page 6

and write a custom

message for your dad

for Fatherrsquos Day (provided by Microsoftcom)

Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change

1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You

a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried

b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news

c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it

2 After the shock of the change you

a) Make a plan of action

b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen

c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed

3 If the change will affect your financial future you

a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman

b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the

change on you

c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know

4 To you change signifies

a) Opportunity

b) Adversity

c) Nothing in particular

5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says

a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the

future

b) An eye for an eye

7

Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out

Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and

A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do

you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in

life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us

fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what

we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us

stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-

gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo

Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power

of change

Courtesy of niaonlinecom

Scoring You may have wanted to answer

all of the above for each question That

would be understandable because we all

experience waves of varying emotions in

times of uncertainty However if you an-

swered mostly Cs you are slow to accept

change and may live in a state of denial

longer than most people do Mostly Bs

means you use anger to make yourself feel

empowered when dealing with change If

your answers were mainly As you embrace

change with a positive attitude

Free Counseling No Paperwork

John Alleman

Adult and Family Specialist

johnballemanhealthnetcom

(919) 745-9635

Betty Steelman

Youth and Family Specialist

bettysncmflcgmailcom

(919) 665-9178

Asheville

ngmflclenoirgmailcom

(828) 729-0729

Charlotte

ngmflccharlottegmailcom

(980) 213-6458 or 6459

Greenville

ngmflcgreenvillegmailcom

(252) 295-8558

Morrisville

ngmflcmorrisvillegmailcom

919) 627-4360 or 4361

Wilmington

ngmflcwilmingtongmailcom

(910) 508-6170

If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change you can always take advantage of the free counseling

services through the Military Family Life Consultants These counselors donrsquot keep records or paperwork on who they as-

sist so you donrsquot have to worry hellip your privacy is maintained

MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS

Free Private Call today

YELLOW RIBBON TEAM

800-621-4136 EXT 6054

John Gattis

Program Director

johngattisusarmymil

Staff

David Coffill

davidcoffillusarmymil

Adam Garrity

adamlgarrityusarmymil

Lola Lawson

lolalawsonusarmymil

Ken Martinsen

kennethmartinsenusarmymil

Gerald Murray

geraldmurrayusarmymil

David Nobles

davidnoblesusarmymil

Chris Rosehart

christopherrosehartusarmymil

DON‟T MISS

30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

60-Day Event

Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm

Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm

Koury Convention Center

3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC

1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon

30-Day Reintegration Event

Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm

Registration and vendor displays

Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and

Seminars 8am to 3pm

Raleigh Convention Center

500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC

POC Lola Lawson 9196646054

YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature

8

Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success

The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina

National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9

Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs

ldquo Wersquove been planning for this

day since the day you leftrdquo

9

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8

MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA

The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great

CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION

The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported

2 10

Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs

For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-

tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat

Team their Families and friends toughest

challenge is living without one another

for a year Soldiers are learning to live in

a defensive environment much different

than the life they live at home Spouses

learn to be single or single parents mak-

ing all the decisions for the house their

children and themselves They are

stressed daily from worrying about the

safety and wellbeing of their loved one

deployed However one thought is the

same for both soldiers and Families look

forward to the day of being together

again

Once Soldiers return and the celebration

of their homecoming is over Families

and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-

ties of reintegration When Soldiers return

home they may feel like a stranger in their

own home or are faced with decisions and

choices they are not use to Military wife

Kelsey Heiney said When he first came

homehellipit was whoo you know good

times and then it got rough For Mrs

Heiney it was hard sharing what was her

space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had

the apartment all to myself for a year and

so of course its tough trying to just share

the apartment with somebody She said

getting the routines together and getting

use to each other has been something they

have been working through and they are

trying to figure out the best way to com-

promise

Getting things back to normal resounds

heavily in many Families and soldiers

lives Simple things like finding a bowl or

spoon can be frustrating for both the one

at home and the one returning One mili-

tary spouse said It drove me crazy when

my husband was in the kitchen and kept

opening and closing the drawers Finally I

got so irritated I asked him What is it

that you are looking for While she was

frustrated with her spouse for opening

and closing the drawers he was frustrated

that he knew where nothing was During

reintegration frustration reaches multiple

levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon

events are a great place for soldiers and

Families to come together and share ex-

periences and solutions It is a place where

they are not alone

During Yellow Ribbon events Families

and soldiers attend classes and seminars

with other soldiers and Families from the

same deployment Mrs Heiney said I

think it is good from a spouses point of

view because I can meet other womenhellip

and relate to them whereas over the

phone it is different It is kind of hard to

talk to someone over the phone about

stuff During downtime participants had

the opportunity to meet one-on-one with

vendors ranging from support organiza-

tions to potential employers

The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-

diers and Families a support network

SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa

230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-

pany A says it is good to have these

events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-

ployment because problems and issues do

come up before returning to drill and hav-

ing this information now is helpful The

most helpful for her was the Marriage

Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was

deployed to Iraq before but I havent been

an Army wife with my husband de-

ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment

class they know and talked about the

changes couples go through during de-

ployments and coming home It made me

feel better to hear somebody say thisit is

normal She said it helped her and her

husband understand that each of them is

going through different challenges and

they are not harder than what the other is

facing While he is challenged with com-

ing back from a deployment she is chal-

lenged with him being away Kawa says

she was glad she chose to attend the op-

tional Marriage Enrichment class and

hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events

in the future

Participants have the choice to leave the

Yellow Ribbon event with information

and help pertaining to them and if they

dont find anything helpful at least they

were able to get together with their

second family the soldiers and Fami-

lies they shared a year of their life These

events help Families and soldiers pick up

their lives while getting to know each

other again

SPC Cleta Kawa

wife of Sgt Mark

Kawa 230th

Brigade Support

Battalion

Company A

says The most

helpful for her

was the

Marriage

Enrichment

Seminar

A major part of successful reintegration

for Soldiers their Families amp friends is

communication Resolving to openly

discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition

Military Family

Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids

Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon

participants what Operation Military Kids does

and what they offer Like the upcoming summer

camps for kids throughout the state

2 11

Raising a military family is a little more complicated

when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and

Family Programs are bringing military Families training

relevant to the special dynamics of military family life

during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first

Family Retreat

Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home

North Carolina National Guard

Family Retreat

August 20-22

Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010

Make check or money order payable

to NCNG Family Readiness

Mail form and Payment To

NCNG Family Programs

CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road

Raleigh NC 27607

Guard Memberrsquos Name

Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number

Spouse Name (If applicable)

Spouse Social Security Number

Mailing Address

Phone Number (include area code)

Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)

Military Unit

Number of Children

Please List their Names and Ages Below

Please check the appropriate boxes

We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night

We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop

We have included the names and ages of our children

Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee

Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or

carolynstevens1usarmymil

Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee

Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor

105 West Spring Street

Oxford 27565

(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil

Family Readiness

Support Assistants

Charlotte

(704) 359-5707

Clinton

Sarah Strickland

sarahrstricklandusarmymil

(910) 299-5466

Goldsboro

Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil

(919) 739-5319

Jacksonville

Judy Richardson

judyrrichardsonusarmymil

(910) 347-4352line 11

Morrisville

Jim Roberson

jamesrobersonusarmymil

(919) 664-7655

12

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QUICK REFERENCE

DEERSID Cards 18005389552

TriCare

18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil

Transition Assistance

Andy Jackson 9196646573

American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)

Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)

The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment

Locations

Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920

Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616

Asheville Military Family Resource

Center

7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803

Fax (828) 274-8572

David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator

davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Debra Collington FAC Specialist

debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)

4240 West Blvd 28208

Fax (704) 359-5759

Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist

racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756

Lynn White FAC Specialist

lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center

449 East Mountain Dr 28306

Fax na

Amy Wallace FAC Specialist

amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-

ter

110 Franklin Blvd 27401

Fax (336) 691-7725

Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator

katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712

Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist

sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center

1401 N Memorial Dr 27834

Fax (252) 551-6136

Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator

dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR

6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081

Fax (704) 359-5759

Shane Judd FAC Specialist

shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553

Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist

dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center

2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504

Fax (252) 526-2772

Vacant (252) 526-2711

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Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

(SFAC)

1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645

Fax (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator

nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Frances Johnson FAC Specialist

francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center

130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966

Fax (919) 334-9971

Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator

markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966

Earlene Capps FAC Specialist

earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957

Lisa Faison FAC Specialist

lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center

406 Hospital Rd 27577

Fax (919) 934-2901

Abby Millsap FAC Specialist

abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center

500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387

Fax (910) 692-3659

David Butler FAC Specialist

davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center

2412 Infantry Rd 28412

Fax (910) 251-7130

Jim Marley FAC Specialist

jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center

3114 Randall Pkwy 28403

Fax (910) 343-1776

Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator

judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775

Julie Rowe FAC Specialist

BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates

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Page 2: Family Matters June 2010

2

COMMUNITY CARES |community outreach

Healing the Wounds of War Breath by Breath The Yoga Warrior method is designed to provide ad-

vanced knowledge and practical tools for yoga teach-

ers working with combat veterans diagnosed with Com-

bat and Operational Stress Reaction or Post Traumatic

Stress Disorder (PTSD) The Yoga Warriors Method skillfully

integrates concepts from yoga therapy traditional

yoga philosophy psychology and sensory integration

theory with current scientific knowledge of the mind-

body connection to promote health wellness and

peace of mind from within For information about Yoga

and PTSD visit wwwyogawarriorscom

FREE CLASSES FOR COMBAT VETERANS

ANDOR SPOUSES

Tuesday nights from 630-8pm at the American Red Cross in Raleigh starting June 15 until August 24 2010 Class is free and open to the first 25 students who register by calling Diane Callan at 919-650-1806 or emailing wellnessforwarriorsgmailcom Sunday nights from 530-645pm at Yoga Garden Apex Open to first 10 students who register online at wwwyogagardencom or by calling Margaret Richards at 919- 267-9264 Friday mornings from 10-1130am at Noda Yoga Charlotte NC starting June 4 until August 20 2010 Open to first 10 stu-dents who reserve call Jillian Longsworth 704-560-6144

A Day of Love amp Appreciation

for Military Wives On Saturday May 22 2010 the Raleigh (NC) Chapter

of The Links Inc honored military wives with ldquoA Day of

Love amp Appreciation for Military Spousesrdquo event The

event included a continental breakfast chair mas-

sages fashion tips on how to dress for less beauty tips

and resume-building Participants also had one-on-

one sessions with a financial counselor and life consult-

ant if desired A Chic-Fil-A lunch with trimmings was

provided for the wives The luncheon speaker K975

Radio Host ldquoMary Janerdquo addressed how self-

acceptance and a positive support group are keys to

happiness She said ldquoItrsquos essential to surround yourself

with people that will have your back in the tough

timesrdquo Several door prizes were given away one that

included a $175 Spa Gift Package Each Military Wife

received a tote bag filled with lots of great giveaways

Susan S Taylor with The Links said ldquoI would like the

Guard community to know how much the community

really supported this program All of the food and

many giveaways were donatedrdquo

Thank You

Military

Spouses

UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun

Relationship Enhancement Programs

Single Soldier‟s Retreat

How Not to Date a Jerk or Jerkette August 20-22mdashSmoky Mountains

For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124

Marriage Enrichment Weekend Retreats Laughing Your Way to a Better Marriage

Reserve your Slot Now July 9-11 2010 - Beach

July 23-25 2010 - Beach

August 13-15 2010 - Beach

August 27-29 2010 - Beach

For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124

Military Appreciation Days

May 30-31 July 4-5

Carowinds will offer FREE admission to any ac-

tive or retired military personnel on May 30-31

and July 4-5 2010 when showing proper identifi-

cation at the Carowinds Front Gate Along with

free admission active and retired members of

the military will also be able to purchase dis-

counted admission tickets at the Carowinds

Front Gate for members of their immediate fam-

ily on these dates The free ticket offer is only

available on the dates above and a valid mili-

tary ID must be presented to receive this special

offer

Throughout 2010 members of the military and as

many as three direct dependents may enter Sea-

World Busch Gardens or Sesame Place parks with a

single-day complimentary admission

Visit httpwwwherosalutecomcavatxindexhtml

Kings Dominion

announces its

Tribute to the

Armed Forces

May 30 amp 31

July 4 amp 5

3

Kings Dominion is pleased to announce that it will offer

FREE admission to active retired and former United

States military personnel on Sunday and Monday of

both the Memorial Day and July 4th weekends as a

part of its Tribute to the Armed Forces program The ex-

act dates are May 30 31 and July 4 5 2010 and in-

clude all branches of the service including National

Guard and Reserves The free ticket offer will be avail-

able on the Sunday and Monday of each weekend

and a valid military ID or discharge papers must be pre-

sented at Kings Dominion on one of the dates of the

program Place your credit card order online at

wwwkingsdominioncom Then simply click on tickets

then corporate partner Your COMPANY ID is AFAD8

Fathers DayService Member Card

Craft Event Family Readiness Groups will be onsite on June 5 at

the Morganton Armory from 1-3pm to make Fatherrsquos

Day Cards and also at the Lincolnton Armory from

10am to 12pm

You can also show your love for your Father or Military

Member at the Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

Walk in and make a card at your convenience Join

us on Friday June 18 2010 at 2-6 pm at the Lenoir

State Family Assistance Center 1535 Beecher Ander-

son Rd Lenoir NC

Music in the Park (Stump Sound Park) Saturday June 12 2010 ~ 6pm-9pm ~ Onslow County

Free Admission moonwalk concessions live entertainment

Bring your lawn chairs Call 9103475332

Danny Desens Jr amp Fallen Heroes Memorial Ride

Sunday June 27 2010 Ride in memory of Danny Desens Jr and all the Service mem-

bers who have made the ultimate sacrifice Registration starts

at 11am Donations are accepted for scholarships Ride be-

gins at 1pm For more info call 9103469997 or email

teacheyccoastalcarolinaedu

4

UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun for KIDS

Operation Kids on Guard

Day Drills

June 19 Kinston Armory

July 10 Raeford Armory

July 24 Winston Salem Armory

August 21 Morrisville Armory

August 28 Asheville Armory

Overnight Weekend Camps

September 24-26 2010 Camp Butner

Spaces fill quickly

To learn more and to register contact

Bridgette Carroll KOG Assistant at

bridgettecarrollusarmymil

or call 9196647664 Registration Forms can

be found at wwwncngbarmymil bdquoFamily

Programs‟ bdquoChild amp Youth Programs‟

THE FIRST TEE

Itrsquos tee time for children from

military Families thanks to The

First Tee Military Affiliate Pro-

gram The program offers free

golf instruction to children from

National Guard and Reserve

Families geographically sepa-

rated from a military base at

The First Teersquos 200 chapters

across the nation School-age

children at all skill levels from

beginner to advanced are in-

vited to hone their golf game

with the help of trained

coaches The program not only

sharpens childrenrsquos skills on golf

course greens and fairways but

it also provides life skills Along

with basic golf instruction The

First Tee coaches teach children

interpersonal communication

managing emotions goal-

setting and overcoming obsta-

cles To sign up parents can visit

a First Tee chapter in their com-

munity or download a coupon

for free instruction by visiting The

First Tee website http

wwwthefirstteeorgmilitary The

site also includes a listing of

chapter locations

HERSHEYS TRACK amp FIELD MEET Tuesday June 1 2010

Rain date is Thursday June 3 2010

White Oak High School Track

1001 Piney Green Rd Jacksonville

Registration 5-530pm

Meet begins 545pm

Open to boys amp girls ages 9-14 on

before Dec 31 2010 Those who turn 15

this year are not eligible No Charge

Come test your skills If you are between

the ages of 9 and 14 years old and you

like to run jump and throw then the

Hersheyrsquos Track amp Field Youth Program is

for you A birth certificate is required to

Child amp Youth Program

2025 National Guard Dr Morrisville 27560

FAX (919) 664-6156

Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator

(919) 664-7616 alicedeanusarmymil

Bridgette Carroll KOG Coordinator

(919) 693-3651 ext 21 bridgettecarrollusarmymil

Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator (919) 693-3651 ext 23

kristiwagnerusarmymil

5th Annual Step Up For Soldiers Children‟s Fishing Tournament

Saturday June 19 2010

7am-1pm ~ Kure Beach Pier

Enjoy a day of fishing and fun for

military kids and their Families Pier

activities include fishing food and

prizes After the tournament a live

performance by Wilmington Police

Pipe and Drum Band and from 1-

5pm free admission to Splash Inflat-

able Water Park To donate or vol-

unteer call Jim Verdon at

5709710553

Pre-registration Required

httpstepupforsoldiersorg

Contact Tom Russell 9102974981

or email stepup4soldiersaolcom

NC Operation Military Kids Science Day Camps (Middle School Age Youth)

June 21-25 2010mdashWayne Co

Contact Summer E Young or Wallace Sim-

mons at 9197311527

Youngest Heroes Camp

This camp is just for military kids

ages 5-8 Youth will engage in

traditional camp activities

sleep in cabins and gain self-

confidence in learning man-

agement Youth will also cre-

ate a camp craft and partici-

pate in recreational activities This camp is

FREE for military youth Kids will enjoy rock

climbing canoeing kayaking camp fire sto-

ries archery and more See camp options

below

Betsy-Jeff Penn 4-H CentermdashReidsville NC

July 18-21 2010

To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or

contact Stacy Burns at 3363499455

Millstone 4-H CampmdashEllerbe NC

August 1-4 2010 or August 6-8 2010

To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or

contact Gene Shutt Director at

9106525905

Day Camp (ages 9-12)

August 2-5 2010

Contact Wanda Mills at 9104555873

Camp for Youth with

Developmental Disabilities

August 5-8 2010

Eastern 4-H Conference Center

Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800

Family Camp Weekend

September 3-5 2010

Eastern 4-H Conference Center

Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800

Contact Scott Enroughty at 9195158500 or

scott_enroughtyncsuedu

Kids Fishing Derby ~ June 5 9am Jacksonville TrainingAcademy Range

Fishing contest and prizes for

youth up to 16 years of age 12

and under requires an adult to

accompany Call 910347-5332

Visit wwonslowcountyncgovparks

5

We Wish all Dads a Happy Fatherrsquos Day

FATHERS F aithful

A lways there

T rustworthy

H onoring

E ver-loving

R ighteous

S upportive Author Unknown

Print out a Fatherrsquos

Day Card on Page 6

and write a custom

message for your dad

for Fatherrsquos Day (provided by Microsoftcom)

Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change

1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You

a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried

b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news

c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it

2 After the shock of the change you

a) Make a plan of action

b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen

c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed

3 If the change will affect your financial future you

a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman

b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the

change on you

c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know

4 To you change signifies

a) Opportunity

b) Adversity

c) Nothing in particular

5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says

a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the

future

b) An eye for an eye

7

Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out

Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and

A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do

you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in

life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us

fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what

we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us

stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-

gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo

Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power

of change

Courtesy of niaonlinecom

Scoring You may have wanted to answer

all of the above for each question That

would be understandable because we all

experience waves of varying emotions in

times of uncertainty However if you an-

swered mostly Cs you are slow to accept

change and may live in a state of denial

longer than most people do Mostly Bs

means you use anger to make yourself feel

empowered when dealing with change If

your answers were mainly As you embrace

change with a positive attitude

Free Counseling No Paperwork

John Alleman

Adult and Family Specialist

johnballemanhealthnetcom

(919) 745-9635

Betty Steelman

Youth and Family Specialist

bettysncmflcgmailcom

(919) 665-9178

Asheville

ngmflclenoirgmailcom

(828) 729-0729

Charlotte

ngmflccharlottegmailcom

(980) 213-6458 or 6459

Greenville

ngmflcgreenvillegmailcom

(252) 295-8558

Morrisville

ngmflcmorrisvillegmailcom

919) 627-4360 or 4361

Wilmington

ngmflcwilmingtongmailcom

(910) 508-6170

If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change you can always take advantage of the free counseling

services through the Military Family Life Consultants These counselors donrsquot keep records or paperwork on who they as-

sist so you donrsquot have to worry hellip your privacy is maintained

MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS

Free Private Call today

YELLOW RIBBON TEAM

800-621-4136 EXT 6054

John Gattis

Program Director

johngattisusarmymil

Staff

David Coffill

davidcoffillusarmymil

Adam Garrity

adamlgarrityusarmymil

Lola Lawson

lolalawsonusarmymil

Ken Martinsen

kennethmartinsenusarmymil

Gerald Murray

geraldmurrayusarmymil

David Nobles

davidnoblesusarmymil

Chris Rosehart

christopherrosehartusarmymil

DON‟T MISS

30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

60-Day Event

Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm

Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm

Koury Convention Center

3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC

1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon

30-Day Reintegration Event

Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm

Registration and vendor displays

Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and

Seminars 8am to 3pm

Raleigh Convention Center

500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC

POC Lola Lawson 9196646054

YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature

8

Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success

The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina

National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9

Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs

ldquo Wersquove been planning for this

day since the day you leftrdquo

9

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8

MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA

The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great

CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION

The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported

2 10

Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs

For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-

tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat

Team their Families and friends toughest

challenge is living without one another

for a year Soldiers are learning to live in

a defensive environment much different

than the life they live at home Spouses

learn to be single or single parents mak-

ing all the decisions for the house their

children and themselves They are

stressed daily from worrying about the

safety and wellbeing of their loved one

deployed However one thought is the

same for both soldiers and Families look

forward to the day of being together

again

Once Soldiers return and the celebration

of their homecoming is over Families

and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-

ties of reintegration When Soldiers return

home they may feel like a stranger in their

own home or are faced with decisions and

choices they are not use to Military wife

Kelsey Heiney said When he first came

homehellipit was whoo you know good

times and then it got rough For Mrs

Heiney it was hard sharing what was her

space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had

the apartment all to myself for a year and

so of course its tough trying to just share

the apartment with somebody She said

getting the routines together and getting

use to each other has been something they

have been working through and they are

trying to figure out the best way to com-

promise

Getting things back to normal resounds

heavily in many Families and soldiers

lives Simple things like finding a bowl or

spoon can be frustrating for both the one

at home and the one returning One mili-

tary spouse said It drove me crazy when

my husband was in the kitchen and kept

opening and closing the drawers Finally I

got so irritated I asked him What is it

that you are looking for While she was

frustrated with her spouse for opening

and closing the drawers he was frustrated

that he knew where nothing was During

reintegration frustration reaches multiple

levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon

events are a great place for soldiers and

Families to come together and share ex-

periences and solutions It is a place where

they are not alone

During Yellow Ribbon events Families

and soldiers attend classes and seminars

with other soldiers and Families from the

same deployment Mrs Heiney said I

think it is good from a spouses point of

view because I can meet other womenhellip

and relate to them whereas over the

phone it is different It is kind of hard to

talk to someone over the phone about

stuff During downtime participants had

the opportunity to meet one-on-one with

vendors ranging from support organiza-

tions to potential employers

The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-

diers and Families a support network

SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa

230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-

pany A says it is good to have these

events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-

ployment because problems and issues do

come up before returning to drill and hav-

ing this information now is helpful The

most helpful for her was the Marriage

Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was

deployed to Iraq before but I havent been

an Army wife with my husband de-

ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment

class they know and talked about the

changes couples go through during de-

ployments and coming home It made me

feel better to hear somebody say thisit is

normal She said it helped her and her

husband understand that each of them is

going through different challenges and

they are not harder than what the other is

facing While he is challenged with com-

ing back from a deployment she is chal-

lenged with him being away Kawa says

she was glad she chose to attend the op-

tional Marriage Enrichment class and

hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events

in the future

Participants have the choice to leave the

Yellow Ribbon event with information

and help pertaining to them and if they

dont find anything helpful at least they

were able to get together with their

second family the soldiers and Fami-

lies they shared a year of their life These

events help Families and soldiers pick up

their lives while getting to know each

other again

SPC Cleta Kawa

wife of Sgt Mark

Kawa 230th

Brigade Support

Battalion

Company A

says The most

helpful for her

was the

Marriage

Enrichment

Seminar

A major part of successful reintegration

for Soldiers their Families amp friends is

communication Resolving to openly

discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition

Military Family

Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids

Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon

participants what Operation Military Kids does

and what they offer Like the upcoming summer

camps for kids throughout the state

2 11

Raising a military family is a little more complicated

when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and

Family Programs are bringing military Families training

relevant to the special dynamics of military family life

during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first

Family Retreat

Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home

North Carolina National Guard

Family Retreat

August 20-22

Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010

Make check or money order payable

to NCNG Family Readiness

Mail form and Payment To

NCNG Family Programs

CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road

Raleigh NC 27607

Guard Memberrsquos Name

Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number

Spouse Name (If applicable)

Spouse Social Security Number

Mailing Address

Phone Number (include area code)

Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)

Military Unit

Number of Children

Please List their Names and Ages Below

Please check the appropriate boxes

We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night

We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop

We have included the names and ages of our children

Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee

Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or

carolynstevens1usarmymil

Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee

Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor

105 West Spring Street

Oxford 27565

(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil

Family Readiness

Support Assistants

Charlotte

(704) 359-5707

Clinton

Sarah Strickland

sarahrstricklandusarmymil

(910) 299-5466

Goldsboro

Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil

(919) 739-5319

Jacksonville

Judy Richardson

judyrrichardsonusarmymil

(910) 347-4352line 11

Morrisville

Jim Roberson

jamesrobersonusarmymil

(919) 664-7655

12

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JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg

Get program information

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NCNG Family Programs

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QUICK REFERENCE

DEERSID Cards 18005389552

TriCare

18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil

Transition Assistance

Andy Jackson 9196646573

American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)

Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)

The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment

Locations

Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920

Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616

Asheville Military Family Resource

Center

7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803

Fax (828) 274-8572

David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator

davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Debra Collington FAC Specialist

debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)

4240 West Blvd 28208

Fax (704) 359-5759

Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist

racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756

Lynn White FAC Specialist

lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center

449 East Mountain Dr 28306

Fax na

Amy Wallace FAC Specialist

amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-

ter

110 Franklin Blvd 27401

Fax (336) 691-7725

Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator

katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712

Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist

sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center

1401 N Memorial Dr 27834

Fax (252) 551-6136

Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator

dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR

6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081

Fax (704) 359-5759

Shane Judd FAC Specialist

shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553

Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist

dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center

2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504

Fax (252) 526-2772

Vacant (252) 526-2711

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Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

(SFAC)

1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645

Fax (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator

nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Frances Johnson FAC Specialist

francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center

130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966

Fax (919) 334-9971

Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator

markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966

Earlene Capps FAC Specialist

earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957

Lisa Faison FAC Specialist

lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center

406 Hospital Rd 27577

Fax (919) 934-2901

Abby Millsap FAC Specialist

abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center

500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387

Fax (910) 692-3659

David Butler FAC Specialist

davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center

2412 Infantry Rd 28412

Fax (910) 251-7130

Jim Marley FAC Specialist

jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center

3114 Randall Pkwy 28403

Fax (910) 343-1776

Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator

judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775

Julie Rowe FAC Specialist

BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates

on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina

National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo

TELL A FRIEND

Page 3: Family Matters June 2010

UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun

Relationship Enhancement Programs

Single Soldier‟s Retreat

How Not to Date a Jerk or Jerkette August 20-22mdashSmoky Mountains

For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124

Marriage Enrichment Weekend Retreats Laughing Your Way to a Better Marriage

Reserve your Slot Now July 9-11 2010 - Beach

July 23-25 2010 - Beach

August 13-15 2010 - Beach

August 27-29 2010 - Beach

For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124

Military Appreciation Days

May 30-31 July 4-5

Carowinds will offer FREE admission to any ac-

tive or retired military personnel on May 30-31

and July 4-5 2010 when showing proper identifi-

cation at the Carowinds Front Gate Along with

free admission active and retired members of

the military will also be able to purchase dis-

counted admission tickets at the Carowinds

Front Gate for members of their immediate fam-

ily on these dates The free ticket offer is only

available on the dates above and a valid mili-

tary ID must be presented to receive this special

offer

Throughout 2010 members of the military and as

many as three direct dependents may enter Sea-

World Busch Gardens or Sesame Place parks with a

single-day complimentary admission

Visit httpwwwherosalutecomcavatxindexhtml

Kings Dominion

announces its

Tribute to the

Armed Forces

May 30 amp 31

July 4 amp 5

3

Kings Dominion is pleased to announce that it will offer

FREE admission to active retired and former United

States military personnel on Sunday and Monday of

both the Memorial Day and July 4th weekends as a

part of its Tribute to the Armed Forces program The ex-

act dates are May 30 31 and July 4 5 2010 and in-

clude all branches of the service including National

Guard and Reserves The free ticket offer will be avail-

able on the Sunday and Monday of each weekend

and a valid military ID or discharge papers must be pre-

sented at Kings Dominion on one of the dates of the

program Place your credit card order online at

wwwkingsdominioncom Then simply click on tickets

then corporate partner Your COMPANY ID is AFAD8

Fathers DayService Member Card

Craft Event Family Readiness Groups will be onsite on June 5 at

the Morganton Armory from 1-3pm to make Fatherrsquos

Day Cards and also at the Lincolnton Armory from

10am to 12pm

You can also show your love for your Father or Military

Member at the Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

Walk in and make a card at your convenience Join

us on Friday June 18 2010 at 2-6 pm at the Lenoir

State Family Assistance Center 1535 Beecher Ander-

son Rd Lenoir NC

Music in the Park (Stump Sound Park) Saturday June 12 2010 ~ 6pm-9pm ~ Onslow County

Free Admission moonwalk concessions live entertainment

Bring your lawn chairs Call 9103475332

Danny Desens Jr amp Fallen Heroes Memorial Ride

Sunday June 27 2010 Ride in memory of Danny Desens Jr and all the Service mem-

bers who have made the ultimate sacrifice Registration starts

at 11am Donations are accepted for scholarships Ride be-

gins at 1pm For more info call 9103469997 or email

teacheyccoastalcarolinaedu

4

UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun for KIDS

Operation Kids on Guard

Day Drills

June 19 Kinston Armory

July 10 Raeford Armory

July 24 Winston Salem Armory

August 21 Morrisville Armory

August 28 Asheville Armory

Overnight Weekend Camps

September 24-26 2010 Camp Butner

Spaces fill quickly

To learn more and to register contact

Bridgette Carroll KOG Assistant at

bridgettecarrollusarmymil

or call 9196647664 Registration Forms can

be found at wwwncngbarmymil bdquoFamily

Programs‟ bdquoChild amp Youth Programs‟

THE FIRST TEE

Itrsquos tee time for children from

military Families thanks to The

First Tee Military Affiliate Pro-

gram The program offers free

golf instruction to children from

National Guard and Reserve

Families geographically sepa-

rated from a military base at

The First Teersquos 200 chapters

across the nation School-age

children at all skill levels from

beginner to advanced are in-

vited to hone their golf game

with the help of trained

coaches The program not only

sharpens childrenrsquos skills on golf

course greens and fairways but

it also provides life skills Along

with basic golf instruction The

First Tee coaches teach children

interpersonal communication

managing emotions goal-

setting and overcoming obsta-

cles To sign up parents can visit

a First Tee chapter in their com-

munity or download a coupon

for free instruction by visiting The

First Tee website http

wwwthefirstteeorgmilitary The

site also includes a listing of

chapter locations

HERSHEYS TRACK amp FIELD MEET Tuesday June 1 2010

Rain date is Thursday June 3 2010

White Oak High School Track

1001 Piney Green Rd Jacksonville

Registration 5-530pm

Meet begins 545pm

Open to boys amp girls ages 9-14 on

before Dec 31 2010 Those who turn 15

this year are not eligible No Charge

Come test your skills If you are between

the ages of 9 and 14 years old and you

like to run jump and throw then the

Hersheyrsquos Track amp Field Youth Program is

for you A birth certificate is required to

Child amp Youth Program

2025 National Guard Dr Morrisville 27560

FAX (919) 664-6156

Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator

(919) 664-7616 alicedeanusarmymil

Bridgette Carroll KOG Coordinator

(919) 693-3651 ext 21 bridgettecarrollusarmymil

Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator (919) 693-3651 ext 23

kristiwagnerusarmymil

5th Annual Step Up For Soldiers Children‟s Fishing Tournament

Saturday June 19 2010

7am-1pm ~ Kure Beach Pier

Enjoy a day of fishing and fun for

military kids and their Families Pier

activities include fishing food and

prizes After the tournament a live

performance by Wilmington Police

Pipe and Drum Band and from 1-

5pm free admission to Splash Inflat-

able Water Park To donate or vol-

unteer call Jim Verdon at

5709710553

Pre-registration Required

httpstepupforsoldiersorg

Contact Tom Russell 9102974981

or email stepup4soldiersaolcom

NC Operation Military Kids Science Day Camps (Middle School Age Youth)

June 21-25 2010mdashWayne Co

Contact Summer E Young or Wallace Sim-

mons at 9197311527

Youngest Heroes Camp

This camp is just for military kids

ages 5-8 Youth will engage in

traditional camp activities

sleep in cabins and gain self-

confidence in learning man-

agement Youth will also cre-

ate a camp craft and partici-

pate in recreational activities This camp is

FREE for military youth Kids will enjoy rock

climbing canoeing kayaking camp fire sto-

ries archery and more See camp options

below

Betsy-Jeff Penn 4-H CentermdashReidsville NC

July 18-21 2010

To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or

contact Stacy Burns at 3363499455

Millstone 4-H CampmdashEllerbe NC

August 1-4 2010 or August 6-8 2010

To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or

contact Gene Shutt Director at

9106525905

Day Camp (ages 9-12)

August 2-5 2010

Contact Wanda Mills at 9104555873

Camp for Youth with

Developmental Disabilities

August 5-8 2010

Eastern 4-H Conference Center

Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800

Family Camp Weekend

September 3-5 2010

Eastern 4-H Conference Center

Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800

Contact Scott Enroughty at 9195158500 or

scott_enroughtyncsuedu

Kids Fishing Derby ~ June 5 9am Jacksonville TrainingAcademy Range

Fishing contest and prizes for

youth up to 16 years of age 12

and under requires an adult to

accompany Call 910347-5332

Visit wwonslowcountyncgovparks

5

We Wish all Dads a Happy Fatherrsquos Day

FATHERS F aithful

A lways there

T rustworthy

H onoring

E ver-loving

R ighteous

S upportive Author Unknown

Print out a Fatherrsquos

Day Card on Page 6

and write a custom

message for your dad

for Fatherrsquos Day (provided by Microsoftcom)

Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change

1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You

a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried

b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news

c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it

2 After the shock of the change you

a) Make a plan of action

b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen

c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed

3 If the change will affect your financial future you

a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman

b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the

change on you

c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know

4 To you change signifies

a) Opportunity

b) Adversity

c) Nothing in particular

5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says

a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the

future

b) An eye for an eye

7

Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out

Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and

A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do

you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in

life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us

fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what

we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us

stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-

gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo

Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power

of change

Courtesy of niaonlinecom

Scoring You may have wanted to answer

all of the above for each question That

would be understandable because we all

experience waves of varying emotions in

times of uncertainty However if you an-

swered mostly Cs you are slow to accept

change and may live in a state of denial

longer than most people do Mostly Bs

means you use anger to make yourself feel

empowered when dealing with change If

your answers were mainly As you embrace

change with a positive attitude

Free Counseling No Paperwork

John Alleman

Adult and Family Specialist

johnballemanhealthnetcom

(919) 745-9635

Betty Steelman

Youth and Family Specialist

bettysncmflcgmailcom

(919) 665-9178

Asheville

ngmflclenoirgmailcom

(828) 729-0729

Charlotte

ngmflccharlottegmailcom

(980) 213-6458 or 6459

Greenville

ngmflcgreenvillegmailcom

(252) 295-8558

Morrisville

ngmflcmorrisvillegmailcom

919) 627-4360 or 4361

Wilmington

ngmflcwilmingtongmailcom

(910) 508-6170

If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change you can always take advantage of the free counseling

services through the Military Family Life Consultants These counselors donrsquot keep records or paperwork on who they as-

sist so you donrsquot have to worry hellip your privacy is maintained

MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS

Free Private Call today

YELLOW RIBBON TEAM

800-621-4136 EXT 6054

John Gattis

Program Director

johngattisusarmymil

Staff

David Coffill

davidcoffillusarmymil

Adam Garrity

adamlgarrityusarmymil

Lola Lawson

lolalawsonusarmymil

Ken Martinsen

kennethmartinsenusarmymil

Gerald Murray

geraldmurrayusarmymil

David Nobles

davidnoblesusarmymil

Chris Rosehart

christopherrosehartusarmymil

DON‟T MISS

30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

60-Day Event

Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm

Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm

Koury Convention Center

3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC

1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon

30-Day Reintegration Event

Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm

Registration and vendor displays

Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and

Seminars 8am to 3pm

Raleigh Convention Center

500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC

POC Lola Lawson 9196646054

YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature

8

Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success

The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina

National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9

Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs

ldquo Wersquove been planning for this

day since the day you leftrdquo

9

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8

MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA

The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great

CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION

The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported

2 10

Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs

For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-

tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat

Team their Families and friends toughest

challenge is living without one another

for a year Soldiers are learning to live in

a defensive environment much different

than the life they live at home Spouses

learn to be single or single parents mak-

ing all the decisions for the house their

children and themselves They are

stressed daily from worrying about the

safety and wellbeing of their loved one

deployed However one thought is the

same for both soldiers and Families look

forward to the day of being together

again

Once Soldiers return and the celebration

of their homecoming is over Families

and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-

ties of reintegration When Soldiers return

home they may feel like a stranger in their

own home or are faced with decisions and

choices they are not use to Military wife

Kelsey Heiney said When he first came

homehellipit was whoo you know good

times and then it got rough For Mrs

Heiney it was hard sharing what was her

space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had

the apartment all to myself for a year and

so of course its tough trying to just share

the apartment with somebody She said

getting the routines together and getting

use to each other has been something they

have been working through and they are

trying to figure out the best way to com-

promise

Getting things back to normal resounds

heavily in many Families and soldiers

lives Simple things like finding a bowl or

spoon can be frustrating for both the one

at home and the one returning One mili-

tary spouse said It drove me crazy when

my husband was in the kitchen and kept

opening and closing the drawers Finally I

got so irritated I asked him What is it

that you are looking for While she was

frustrated with her spouse for opening

and closing the drawers he was frustrated

that he knew where nothing was During

reintegration frustration reaches multiple

levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon

events are a great place for soldiers and

Families to come together and share ex-

periences and solutions It is a place where

they are not alone

During Yellow Ribbon events Families

and soldiers attend classes and seminars

with other soldiers and Families from the

same deployment Mrs Heiney said I

think it is good from a spouses point of

view because I can meet other womenhellip

and relate to them whereas over the

phone it is different It is kind of hard to

talk to someone over the phone about

stuff During downtime participants had

the opportunity to meet one-on-one with

vendors ranging from support organiza-

tions to potential employers

The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-

diers and Families a support network

SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa

230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-

pany A says it is good to have these

events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-

ployment because problems and issues do

come up before returning to drill and hav-

ing this information now is helpful The

most helpful for her was the Marriage

Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was

deployed to Iraq before but I havent been

an Army wife with my husband de-

ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment

class they know and talked about the

changes couples go through during de-

ployments and coming home It made me

feel better to hear somebody say thisit is

normal She said it helped her and her

husband understand that each of them is

going through different challenges and

they are not harder than what the other is

facing While he is challenged with com-

ing back from a deployment she is chal-

lenged with him being away Kawa says

she was glad she chose to attend the op-

tional Marriage Enrichment class and

hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events

in the future

Participants have the choice to leave the

Yellow Ribbon event with information

and help pertaining to them and if they

dont find anything helpful at least they

were able to get together with their

second family the soldiers and Fami-

lies they shared a year of their life These

events help Families and soldiers pick up

their lives while getting to know each

other again

SPC Cleta Kawa

wife of Sgt Mark

Kawa 230th

Brigade Support

Battalion

Company A

says The most

helpful for her

was the

Marriage

Enrichment

Seminar

A major part of successful reintegration

for Soldiers their Families amp friends is

communication Resolving to openly

discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition

Military Family

Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids

Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon

participants what Operation Military Kids does

and what they offer Like the upcoming summer

camps for kids throughout the state

2 11

Raising a military family is a little more complicated

when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and

Family Programs are bringing military Families training

relevant to the special dynamics of military family life

during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first

Family Retreat

Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home

North Carolina National Guard

Family Retreat

August 20-22

Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010

Make check or money order payable

to NCNG Family Readiness

Mail form and Payment To

NCNG Family Programs

CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road

Raleigh NC 27607

Guard Memberrsquos Name

Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number

Spouse Name (If applicable)

Spouse Social Security Number

Mailing Address

Phone Number (include area code)

Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)

Military Unit

Number of Children

Please List their Names and Ages Below

Please check the appropriate boxes

We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night

We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop

We have included the names and ages of our children

Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee

Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or

carolynstevens1usarmymil

Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee

Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor

105 West Spring Street

Oxford 27565

(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil

Family Readiness

Support Assistants

Charlotte

(704) 359-5707

Clinton

Sarah Strickland

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(910) 299-5466

Goldsboro

Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil

(919) 739-5319

Jacksonville

Judy Richardson

judyrrichardsonusarmymil

(910) 347-4352line 11

Morrisville

Jim Roberson

jamesrobersonusarmymil

(919) 664-7655

12

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TriCare

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Transition Assistance

Andy Jackson 9196646573

American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)

Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)

The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment

Locations

Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920

Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616

Asheville Military Family Resource

Center

7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803

Fax (828) 274-8572

David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator

davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Debra Collington FAC Specialist

debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)

4240 West Blvd 28208

Fax (704) 359-5759

Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist

racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756

Lynn White FAC Specialist

lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center

449 East Mountain Dr 28306

Fax na

Amy Wallace FAC Specialist

amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-

ter

110 Franklin Blvd 27401

Fax (336) 691-7725

Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator

katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712

Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist

sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center

1401 N Memorial Dr 27834

Fax (252) 551-6136

Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator

dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR

6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081

Fax (704) 359-5759

Shane Judd FAC Specialist

shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553

Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist

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Kinston Unit Family Contact Center

2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504

Fax (252) 526-2772

Vacant (252) 526-2711

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Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

(SFAC)

1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645

Fax (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator

nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Frances Johnson FAC Specialist

francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center

130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966

Fax (919) 334-9971

Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator

markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966

Earlene Capps FAC Specialist

earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957

Lisa Faison FAC Specialist

lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center

406 Hospital Rd 27577

Fax (919) 934-2901

Abby Millsap FAC Specialist

abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center

500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387

Fax (910) 692-3659

David Butler FAC Specialist

davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center

2412 Infantry Rd 28412

Fax (910) 251-7130

Jim Marley FAC Specialist

jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center

3114 Randall Pkwy 28403

Fax (910) 343-1776

Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator

judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775

Julie Rowe FAC Specialist

BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates

on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina

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Page 4: Family Matters June 2010

4

UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun for KIDS

Operation Kids on Guard

Day Drills

June 19 Kinston Armory

July 10 Raeford Armory

July 24 Winston Salem Armory

August 21 Morrisville Armory

August 28 Asheville Armory

Overnight Weekend Camps

September 24-26 2010 Camp Butner

Spaces fill quickly

To learn more and to register contact

Bridgette Carroll KOG Assistant at

bridgettecarrollusarmymil

or call 9196647664 Registration Forms can

be found at wwwncngbarmymil bdquoFamily

Programs‟ bdquoChild amp Youth Programs‟

THE FIRST TEE

Itrsquos tee time for children from

military Families thanks to The

First Tee Military Affiliate Pro-

gram The program offers free

golf instruction to children from

National Guard and Reserve

Families geographically sepa-

rated from a military base at

The First Teersquos 200 chapters

across the nation School-age

children at all skill levels from

beginner to advanced are in-

vited to hone their golf game

with the help of trained

coaches The program not only

sharpens childrenrsquos skills on golf

course greens and fairways but

it also provides life skills Along

with basic golf instruction The

First Tee coaches teach children

interpersonal communication

managing emotions goal-

setting and overcoming obsta-

cles To sign up parents can visit

a First Tee chapter in their com-

munity or download a coupon

for free instruction by visiting The

First Tee website http

wwwthefirstteeorgmilitary The

site also includes a listing of

chapter locations

HERSHEYS TRACK amp FIELD MEET Tuesday June 1 2010

Rain date is Thursday June 3 2010

White Oak High School Track

1001 Piney Green Rd Jacksonville

Registration 5-530pm

Meet begins 545pm

Open to boys amp girls ages 9-14 on

before Dec 31 2010 Those who turn 15

this year are not eligible No Charge

Come test your skills If you are between

the ages of 9 and 14 years old and you

like to run jump and throw then the

Hersheyrsquos Track amp Field Youth Program is

for you A birth certificate is required to

Child amp Youth Program

2025 National Guard Dr Morrisville 27560

FAX (919) 664-6156

Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator

(919) 664-7616 alicedeanusarmymil

Bridgette Carroll KOG Coordinator

(919) 693-3651 ext 21 bridgettecarrollusarmymil

Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator (919) 693-3651 ext 23

kristiwagnerusarmymil

5th Annual Step Up For Soldiers Children‟s Fishing Tournament

Saturday June 19 2010

7am-1pm ~ Kure Beach Pier

Enjoy a day of fishing and fun for

military kids and their Families Pier

activities include fishing food and

prizes After the tournament a live

performance by Wilmington Police

Pipe and Drum Band and from 1-

5pm free admission to Splash Inflat-

able Water Park To donate or vol-

unteer call Jim Verdon at

5709710553

Pre-registration Required

httpstepupforsoldiersorg

Contact Tom Russell 9102974981

or email stepup4soldiersaolcom

NC Operation Military Kids Science Day Camps (Middle School Age Youth)

June 21-25 2010mdashWayne Co

Contact Summer E Young or Wallace Sim-

mons at 9197311527

Youngest Heroes Camp

This camp is just for military kids

ages 5-8 Youth will engage in

traditional camp activities

sleep in cabins and gain self-

confidence in learning man-

agement Youth will also cre-

ate a camp craft and partici-

pate in recreational activities This camp is

FREE for military youth Kids will enjoy rock

climbing canoeing kayaking camp fire sto-

ries archery and more See camp options

below

Betsy-Jeff Penn 4-H CentermdashReidsville NC

July 18-21 2010

To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or

contact Stacy Burns at 3363499455

Millstone 4-H CampmdashEllerbe NC

August 1-4 2010 or August 6-8 2010

To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or

contact Gene Shutt Director at

9106525905

Day Camp (ages 9-12)

August 2-5 2010

Contact Wanda Mills at 9104555873

Camp for Youth with

Developmental Disabilities

August 5-8 2010

Eastern 4-H Conference Center

Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800

Family Camp Weekend

September 3-5 2010

Eastern 4-H Conference Center

Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800

Contact Scott Enroughty at 9195158500 or

scott_enroughtyncsuedu

Kids Fishing Derby ~ June 5 9am Jacksonville TrainingAcademy Range

Fishing contest and prizes for

youth up to 16 years of age 12

and under requires an adult to

accompany Call 910347-5332

Visit wwonslowcountyncgovparks

5

We Wish all Dads a Happy Fatherrsquos Day

FATHERS F aithful

A lways there

T rustworthy

H onoring

E ver-loving

R ighteous

S upportive Author Unknown

Print out a Fatherrsquos

Day Card on Page 6

and write a custom

message for your dad

for Fatherrsquos Day (provided by Microsoftcom)

Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change

1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You

a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried

b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news

c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it

2 After the shock of the change you

a) Make a plan of action

b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen

c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed

3 If the change will affect your financial future you

a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman

b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the

change on you

c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know

4 To you change signifies

a) Opportunity

b) Adversity

c) Nothing in particular

5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says

a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the

future

b) An eye for an eye

7

Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out

Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and

A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do

you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in

life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us

fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what

we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us

stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-

gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo

Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power

of change

Courtesy of niaonlinecom

Scoring You may have wanted to answer

all of the above for each question That

would be understandable because we all

experience waves of varying emotions in

times of uncertainty However if you an-

swered mostly Cs you are slow to accept

change and may live in a state of denial

longer than most people do Mostly Bs

means you use anger to make yourself feel

empowered when dealing with change If

your answers were mainly As you embrace

change with a positive attitude

Free Counseling No Paperwork

John Alleman

Adult and Family Specialist

johnballemanhealthnetcom

(919) 745-9635

Betty Steelman

Youth and Family Specialist

bettysncmflcgmailcom

(919) 665-9178

Asheville

ngmflclenoirgmailcom

(828) 729-0729

Charlotte

ngmflccharlottegmailcom

(980) 213-6458 or 6459

Greenville

ngmflcgreenvillegmailcom

(252) 295-8558

Morrisville

ngmflcmorrisvillegmailcom

919) 627-4360 or 4361

Wilmington

ngmflcwilmingtongmailcom

(910) 508-6170

If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change you can always take advantage of the free counseling

services through the Military Family Life Consultants These counselors donrsquot keep records or paperwork on who they as-

sist so you donrsquot have to worry hellip your privacy is maintained

MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS

Free Private Call today

YELLOW RIBBON TEAM

800-621-4136 EXT 6054

John Gattis

Program Director

johngattisusarmymil

Staff

David Coffill

davidcoffillusarmymil

Adam Garrity

adamlgarrityusarmymil

Lola Lawson

lolalawsonusarmymil

Ken Martinsen

kennethmartinsenusarmymil

Gerald Murray

geraldmurrayusarmymil

David Nobles

davidnoblesusarmymil

Chris Rosehart

christopherrosehartusarmymil

DON‟T MISS

30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

60-Day Event

Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm

Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm

Koury Convention Center

3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC

1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon

30-Day Reintegration Event

Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm

Registration and vendor displays

Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and

Seminars 8am to 3pm

Raleigh Convention Center

500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC

POC Lola Lawson 9196646054

YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature

8

Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success

The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina

National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9

Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs

ldquo Wersquove been planning for this

day since the day you leftrdquo

9

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8

MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA

The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great

CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION

The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported

2 10

Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs

For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-

tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat

Team their Families and friends toughest

challenge is living without one another

for a year Soldiers are learning to live in

a defensive environment much different

than the life they live at home Spouses

learn to be single or single parents mak-

ing all the decisions for the house their

children and themselves They are

stressed daily from worrying about the

safety and wellbeing of their loved one

deployed However one thought is the

same for both soldiers and Families look

forward to the day of being together

again

Once Soldiers return and the celebration

of their homecoming is over Families

and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-

ties of reintegration When Soldiers return

home they may feel like a stranger in their

own home or are faced with decisions and

choices they are not use to Military wife

Kelsey Heiney said When he first came

homehellipit was whoo you know good

times and then it got rough For Mrs

Heiney it was hard sharing what was her

space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had

the apartment all to myself for a year and

so of course its tough trying to just share

the apartment with somebody She said

getting the routines together and getting

use to each other has been something they

have been working through and they are

trying to figure out the best way to com-

promise

Getting things back to normal resounds

heavily in many Families and soldiers

lives Simple things like finding a bowl or

spoon can be frustrating for both the one

at home and the one returning One mili-

tary spouse said It drove me crazy when

my husband was in the kitchen and kept

opening and closing the drawers Finally I

got so irritated I asked him What is it

that you are looking for While she was

frustrated with her spouse for opening

and closing the drawers he was frustrated

that he knew where nothing was During

reintegration frustration reaches multiple

levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon

events are a great place for soldiers and

Families to come together and share ex-

periences and solutions It is a place where

they are not alone

During Yellow Ribbon events Families

and soldiers attend classes and seminars

with other soldiers and Families from the

same deployment Mrs Heiney said I

think it is good from a spouses point of

view because I can meet other womenhellip

and relate to them whereas over the

phone it is different It is kind of hard to

talk to someone over the phone about

stuff During downtime participants had

the opportunity to meet one-on-one with

vendors ranging from support organiza-

tions to potential employers

The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-

diers and Families a support network

SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa

230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-

pany A says it is good to have these

events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-

ployment because problems and issues do

come up before returning to drill and hav-

ing this information now is helpful The

most helpful for her was the Marriage

Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was

deployed to Iraq before but I havent been

an Army wife with my husband de-

ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment

class they know and talked about the

changes couples go through during de-

ployments and coming home It made me

feel better to hear somebody say thisit is

normal She said it helped her and her

husband understand that each of them is

going through different challenges and

they are not harder than what the other is

facing While he is challenged with com-

ing back from a deployment she is chal-

lenged with him being away Kawa says

she was glad she chose to attend the op-

tional Marriage Enrichment class and

hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events

in the future

Participants have the choice to leave the

Yellow Ribbon event with information

and help pertaining to them and if they

dont find anything helpful at least they

were able to get together with their

second family the soldiers and Fami-

lies they shared a year of their life These

events help Families and soldiers pick up

their lives while getting to know each

other again

SPC Cleta Kawa

wife of Sgt Mark

Kawa 230th

Brigade Support

Battalion

Company A

says The most

helpful for her

was the

Marriage

Enrichment

Seminar

A major part of successful reintegration

for Soldiers their Families amp friends is

communication Resolving to openly

discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition

Military Family

Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids

Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon

participants what Operation Military Kids does

and what they offer Like the upcoming summer

camps for kids throughout the state

2 11

Raising a military family is a little more complicated

when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and

Family Programs are bringing military Families training

relevant to the special dynamics of military family life

during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first

Family Retreat

Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home

North Carolina National Guard

Family Retreat

August 20-22

Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010

Make check or money order payable

to NCNG Family Readiness

Mail form and Payment To

NCNG Family Programs

CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road

Raleigh NC 27607

Guard Memberrsquos Name

Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number

Spouse Name (If applicable)

Spouse Social Security Number

Mailing Address

Phone Number (include area code)

Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)

Military Unit

Number of Children

Please List their Names and Ages Below

Please check the appropriate boxes

We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night

We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop

We have included the names and ages of our children

Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee

Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or

carolynstevens1usarmymil

Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee

Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor

105 West Spring Street

Oxford 27565

(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil

Family Readiness

Support Assistants

Charlotte

(704) 359-5707

Clinton

Sarah Strickland

sarahrstricklandusarmymil

(910) 299-5466

Goldsboro

Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil

(919) 739-5319

Jacksonville

Judy Richardson

judyrrichardsonusarmymil

(910) 347-4352line 11

Morrisville

Jim Roberson

jamesrobersonusarmymil

(919) 664-7655

12

$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$

JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg

Get program information

events chat with other

military Families and

more

You will also receive

emails with lots of great

opportunities

NCNG Family Programs

ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo

QUICK REFERENCE

DEERSID Cards 18005389552

TriCare

18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil

Transition Assistance

Andy Jackson 9196646573

American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)

Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)

The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment

Locations

Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920

Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616

Asheville Military Family Resource

Center

7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803

Fax (828) 274-8572

David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator

davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Debra Collington FAC Specialist

debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)

4240 West Blvd 28208

Fax (704) 359-5759

Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist

racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756

Lynn White FAC Specialist

lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center

449 East Mountain Dr 28306

Fax na

Amy Wallace FAC Specialist

amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-

ter

110 Franklin Blvd 27401

Fax (336) 691-7725

Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator

katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712

Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist

sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center

1401 N Memorial Dr 27834

Fax (252) 551-6136

Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator

dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR

6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081

Fax (704) 359-5759

Shane Judd FAC Specialist

shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553

Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist

dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center

2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504

Fax (252) 526-2772

Vacant (252) 526-2711

13

Fa

mily

Assis

tan

ce

Ce

nte

rs hellip

He

re t

o H

elp

Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable

Let us help Call or Stop By

Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

(SFAC)

1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645

Fax (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator

nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Frances Johnson FAC Specialist

francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center

130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966

Fax (919) 334-9971

Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator

markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966

Earlene Capps FAC Specialist

earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957

Lisa Faison FAC Specialist

lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center

406 Hospital Rd 27577

Fax (919) 934-2901

Abby Millsap FAC Specialist

abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center

500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387

Fax (910) 692-3659

David Butler FAC Specialist

davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center

2412 Infantry Rd 28412

Fax (910) 251-7130

Jim Marley FAC Specialist

jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center

3114 Randall Pkwy 28403

Fax (910) 343-1776

Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator

judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775

Julie Rowe FAC Specialist

BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates

on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina

National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo

TELL A FRIEND

Page 5: Family Matters June 2010

5

We Wish all Dads a Happy Fatherrsquos Day

FATHERS F aithful

A lways there

T rustworthy

H onoring

E ver-loving

R ighteous

S upportive Author Unknown

Print out a Fatherrsquos

Day Card on Page 6

and write a custom

message for your dad

for Fatherrsquos Day (provided by Microsoftcom)

Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change

1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You

a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried

b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news

c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it

2 After the shock of the change you

a) Make a plan of action

b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen

c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed

3 If the change will affect your financial future you

a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman

b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the

change on you

c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know

4 To you change signifies

a) Opportunity

b) Adversity

c) Nothing in particular

5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says

a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the

future

b) An eye for an eye

7

Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out

Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and

A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do

you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in

life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us

fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what

we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us

stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-

gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo

Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power

of change

Courtesy of niaonlinecom

Scoring You may have wanted to answer

all of the above for each question That

would be understandable because we all

experience waves of varying emotions in

times of uncertainty However if you an-

swered mostly Cs you are slow to accept

change and may live in a state of denial

longer than most people do Mostly Bs

means you use anger to make yourself feel

empowered when dealing with change If

your answers were mainly As you embrace

change with a positive attitude

Free Counseling No Paperwork

John Alleman

Adult and Family Specialist

johnballemanhealthnetcom

(919) 745-9635

Betty Steelman

Youth and Family Specialist

bettysncmflcgmailcom

(919) 665-9178

Asheville

ngmflclenoirgmailcom

(828) 729-0729

Charlotte

ngmflccharlottegmailcom

(980) 213-6458 or 6459

Greenville

ngmflcgreenvillegmailcom

(252) 295-8558

Morrisville

ngmflcmorrisvillegmailcom

919) 627-4360 or 4361

Wilmington

ngmflcwilmingtongmailcom

(910) 508-6170

If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change you can always take advantage of the free counseling

services through the Military Family Life Consultants These counselors donrsquot keep records or paperwork on who they as-

sist so you donrsquot have to worry hellip your privacy is maintained

MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS

Free Private Call today

YELLOW RIBBON TEAM

800-621-4136 EXT 6054

John Gattis

Program Director

johngattisusarmymil

Staff

David Coffill

davidcoffillusarmymil

Adam Garrity

adamlgarrityusarmymil

Lola Lawson

lolalawsonusarmymil

Ken Martinsen

kennethmartinsenusarmymil

Gerald Murray

geraldmurrayusarmymil

David Nobles

davidnoblesusarmymil

Chris Rosehart

christopherrosehartusarmymil

DON‟T MISS

30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

60-Day Event

Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm

Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm

Koury Convention Center

3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC

1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon

30-Day Reintegration Event

Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm

Registration and vendor displays

Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and

Seminars 8am to 3pm

Raleigh Convention Center

500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC

POC Lola Lawson 9196646054

YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature

8

Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success

The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina

National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9

Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs

ldquo Wersquove been planning for this

day since the day you leftrdquo

9

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8

MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA

The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great

CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION

The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported

2 10

Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs

For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-

tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat

Team their Families and friends toughest

challenge is living without one another

for a year Soldiers are learning to live in

a defensive environment much different

than the life they live at home Spouses

learn to be single or single parents mak-

ing all the decisions for the house their

children and themselves They are

stressed daily from worrying about the

safety and wellbeing of their loved one

deployed However one thought is the

same for both soldiers and Families look

forward to the day of being together

again

Once Soldiers return and the celebration

of their homecoming is over Families

and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-

ties of reintegration When Soldiers return

home they may feel like a stranger in their

own home or are faced with decisions and

choices they are not use to Military wife

Kelsey Heiney said When he first came

homehellipit was whoo you know good

times and then it got rough For Mrs

Heiney it was hard sharing what was her

space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had

the apartment all to myself for a year and

so of course its tough trying to just share

the apartment with somebody She said

getting the routines together and getting

use to each other has been something they

have been working through and they are

trying to figure out the best way to com-

promise

Getting things back to normal resounds

heavily in many Families and soldiers

lives Simple things like finding a bowl or

spoon can be frustrating for both the one

at home and the one returning One mili-

tary spouse said It drove me crazy when

my husband was in the kitchen and kept

opening and closing the drawers Finally I

got so irritated I asked him What is it

that you are looking for While she was

frustrated with her spouse for opening

and closing the drawers he was frustrated

that he knew where nothing was During

reintegration frustration reaches multiple

levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon

events are a great place for soldiers and

Families to come together and share ex-

periences and solutions It is a place where

they are not alone

During Yellow Ribbon events Families

and soldiers attend classes and seminars

with other soldiers and Families from the

same deployment Mrs Heiney said I

think it is good from a spouses point of

view because I can meet other womenhellip

and relate to them whereas over the

phone it is different It is kind of hard to

talk to someone over the phone about

stuff During downtime participants had

the opportunity to meet one-on-one with

vendors ranging from support organiza-

tions to potential employers

The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-

diers and Families a support network

SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa

230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-

pany A says it is good to have these

events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-

ployment because problems and issues do

come up before returning to drill and hav-

ing this information now is helpful The

most helpful for her was the Marriage

Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was

deployed to Iraq before but I havent been

an Army wife with my husband de-

ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment

class they know and talked about the

changes couples go through during de-

ployments and coming home It made me

feel better to hear somebody say thisit is

normal She said it helped her and her

husband understand that each of them is

going through different challenges and

they are not harder than what the other is

facing While he is challenged with com-

ing back from a deployment she is chal-

lenged with him being away Kawa says

she was glad she chose to attend the op-

tional Marriage Enrichment class and

hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events

in the future

Participants have the choice to leave the

Yellow Ribbon event with information

and help pertaining to them and if they

dont find anything helpful at least they

were able to get together with their

second family the soldiers and Fami-

lies they shared a year of their life These

events help Families and soldiers pick up

their lives while getting to know each

other again

SPC Cleta Kawa

wife of Sgt Mark

Kawa 230th

Brigade Support

Battalion

Company A

says The most

helpful for her

was the

Marriage

Enrichment

Seminar

A major part of successful reintegration

for Soldiers their Families amp friends is

communication Resolving to openly

discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition

Military Family

Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids

Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon

participants what Operation Military Kids does

and what they offer Like the upcoming summer

camps for kids throughout the state

2 11

Raising a military family is a little more complicated

when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and

Family Programs are bringing military Families training

relevant to the special dynamics of military family life

during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first

Family Retreat

Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home

North Carolina National Guard

Family Retreat

August 20-22

Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010

Make check or money order payable

to NCNG Family Readiness

Mail form and Payment To

NCNG Family Programs

CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road

Raleigh NC 27607

Guard Memberrsquos Name

Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number

Spouse Name (If applicable)

Spouse Social Security Number

Mailing Address

Phone Number (include area code)

Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)

Military Unit

Number of Children

Please List their Names and Ages Below

Please check the appropriate boxes

We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night

We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop

We have included the names and ages of our children

Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee

Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or

carolynstevens1usarmymil

Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee

Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor

105 West Spring Street

Oxford 27565

(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil

Family Readiness

Support Assistants

Charlotte

(704) 359-5707

Clinton

Sarah Strickland

sarahrstricklandusarmymil

(910) 299-5466

Goldsboro

Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil

(919) 739-5319

Jacksonville

Judy Richardson

judyrrichardsonusarmymil

(910) 347-4352line 11

Morrisville

Jim Roberson

jamesrobersonusarmymil

(919) 664-7655

12

$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$

JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg

Get program information

events chat with other

military Families and

more

You will also receive

emails with lots of great

opportunities

NCNG Family Programs

ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo

QUICK REFERENCE

DEERSID Cards 18005389552

TriCare

18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil

Transition Assistance

Andy Jackson 9196646573

American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)

Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)

The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment

Locations

Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920

Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616

Asheville Military Family Resource

Center

7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803

Fax (828) 274-8572

David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator

davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Debra Collington FAC Specialist

debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)

4240 West Blvd 28208

Fax (704) 359-5759

Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist

racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756

Lynn White FAC Specialist

lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center

449 East Mountain Dr 28306

Fax na

Amy Wallace FAC Specialist

amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-

ter

110 Franklin Blvd 27401

Fax (336) 691-7725

Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator

katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712

Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist

sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center

1401 N Memorial Dr 27834

Fax (252) 551-6136

Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator

dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR

6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081

Fax (704) 359-5759

Shane Judd FAC Specialist

shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553

Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist

dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center

2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504

Fax (252) 526-2772

Vacant (252) 526-2711

13

Fa

mily

Assis

tan

ce

Ce

nte

rs hellip

He

re t

o H

elp

Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable

Let us help Call or Stop By

Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

(SFAC)

1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645

Fax (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator

nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Frances Johnson FAC Specialist

francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center

130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966

Fax (919) 334-9971

Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator

markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966

Earlene Capps FAC Specialist

earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957

Lisa Faison FAC Specialist

lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center

406 Hospital Rd 27577

Fax (919) 934-2901

Abby Millsap FAC Specialist

abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center

500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387

Fax (910) 692-3659

David Butler FAC Specialist

davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center

2412 Infantry Rd 28412

Fax (910) 251-7130

Jim Marley FAC Specialist

jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center

3114 Randall Pkwy 28403

Fax (910) 343-1776

Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator

judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775

Julie Rowe FAC Specialist

BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates

on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina

National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo

TELL A FRIEND

Page 6: Family Matters June 2010

Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change

1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You

a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried

b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news

c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it

2 After the shock of the change you

a) Make a plan of action

b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen

c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed

3 If the change will affect your financial future you

a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman

b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the

change on you

c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know

4 To you change signifies

a) Opportunity

b) Adversity

c) Nothing in particular

5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says

a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the

future

b) An eye for an eye

7

Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out

Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and

A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do

you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in

life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us

fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what

we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us

stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-

gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo

Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power

of change

Courtesy of niaonlinecom

Scoring You may have wanted to answer

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experience waves of varying emotions in

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means you use anger to make yourself feel

empowered when dealing with change If

your answers were mainly As you embrace

change with a positive attitude

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DON‟T MISS

30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

60-Day Event

Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm

Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm

Koury Convention Center

3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC

1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon

30-Day Reintegration Event

Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm

Registration and vendor displays

Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and

Seminars 8am to 3pm

Raleigh Convention Center

500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC

POC Lola Lawson 9196646054

YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature

8

Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success

The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina

National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9

Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs

ldquo Wersquove been planning for this

day since the day you leftrdquo

9

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8

MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA

The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great

CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION

The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported

2 10

Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs

For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-

tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat

Team their Families and friends toughest

challenge is living without one another

for a year Soldiers are learning to live in

a defensive environment much different

than the life they live at home Spouses

learn to be single or single parents mak-

ing all the decisions for the house their

children and themselves They are

stressed daily from worrying about the

safety and wellbeing of their loved one

deployed However one thought is the

same for both soldiers and Families look

forward to the day of being together

again

Once Soldiers return and the celebration

of their homecoming is over Families

and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-

ties of reintegration When Soldiers return

home they may feel like a stranger in their

own home or are faced with decisions and

choices they are not use to Military wife

Kelsey Heiney said When he first came

homehellipit was whoo you know good

times and then it got rough For Mrs

Heiney it was hard sharing what was her

space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had

the apartment all to myself for a year and

so of course its tough trying to just share

the apartment with somebody She said

getting the routines together and getting

use to each other has been something they

have been working through and they are

trying to figure out the best way to com-

promise

Getting things back to normal resounds

heavily in many Families and soldiers

lives Simple things like finding a bowl or

spoon can be frustrating for both the one

at home and the one returning One mili-

tary spouse said It drove me crazy when

my husband was in the kitchen and kept

opening and closing the drawers Finally I

got so irritated I asked him What is it

that you are looking for While she was

frustrated with her spouse for opening

and closing the drawers he was frustrated

that he knew where nothing was During

reintegration frustration reaches multiple

levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon

events are a great place for soldiers and

Families to come together and share ex-

periences and solutions It is a place where

they are not alone

During Yellow Ribbon events Families

and soldiers attend classes and seminars

with other soldiers and Families from the

same deployment Mrs Heiney said I

think it is good from a spouses point of

view because I can meet other womenhellip

and relate to them whereas over the

phone it is different It is kind of hard to

talk to someone over the phone about

stuff During downtime participants had

the opportunity to meet one-on-one with

vendors ranging from support organiza-

tions to potential employers

The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-

diers and Families a support network

SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa

230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-

pany A says it is good to have these

events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-

ployment because problems and issues do

come up before returning to drill and hav-

ing this information now is helpful The

most helpful for her was the Marriage

Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was

deployed to Iraq before but I havent been

an Army wife with my husband de-

ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment

class they know and talked about the

changes couples go through during de-

ployments and coming home It made me

feel better to hear somebody say thisit is

normal She said it helped her and her

husband understand that each of them is

going through different challenges and

they are not harder than what the other is

facing While he is challenged with com-

ing back from a deployment she is chal-

lenged with him being away Kawa says

she was glad she chose to attend the op-

tional Marriage Enrichment class and

hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events

in the future

Participants have the choice to leave the

Yellow Ribbon event with information

and help pertaining to them and if they

dont find anything helpful at least they

were able to get together with their

second family the soldiers and Fami-

lies they shared a year of their life These

events help Families and soldiers pick up

their lives while getting to know each

other again

SPC Cleta Kawa

wife of Sgt Mark

Kawa 230th

Brigade Support

Battalion

Company A

says The most

helpful for her

was the

Marriage

Enrichment

Seminar

A major part of successful reintegration

for Soldiers their Families amp friends is

communication Resolving to openly

discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition

Military Family

Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids

Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon

participants what Operation Military Kids does

and what they offer Like the upcoming summer

camps for kids throughout the state

2 11

Raising a military family is a little more complicated

when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and

Family Programs are bringing military Families training

relevant to the special dynamics of military family life

during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first

Family Retreat

Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home

North Carolina National Guard

Family Retreat

August 20-22

Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010

Make check or money order payable

to NCNG Family Readiness

Mail form and Payment To

NCNG Family Programs

CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road

Raleigh NC 27607

Guard Memberrsquos Name

Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number

Spouse Name (If applicable)

Spouse Social Security Number

Mailing Address

Phone Number (include area code)

Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)

Military Unit

Number of Children

Please List their Names and Ages Below

Please check the appropriate boxes

We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night

We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop

We have included the names and ages of our children

Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee

Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or

carolynstevens1usarmymil

Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee

Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor

105 West Spring Street

Oxford 27565

(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil

Family Readiness

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Judy Richardson

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Fax (910) 343-1776

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John Gattis

Program Director

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Staff

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David Nobles

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Chris Rosehart

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DON‟T MISS

30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

60-Day Event

Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm

Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm

End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm

Koury Convention Center

3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC

1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon

30-Day Reintegration Event

Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm

Registration and vendor displays

Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and

Seminars 8am to 3pm

Raleigh Convention Center

500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC

POC Lola Lawson 9196646054

YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature

8

Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon

Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success

The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina

National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9

Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs

ldquo Wersquove been planning for this

day since the day you leftrdquo

9

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8

MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA

The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great

CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION

The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported

2 10

Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs

For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-

tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat

Team their Families and friends toughest

challenge is living without one another

for a year Soldiers are learning to live in

a defensive environment much different

than the life they live at home Spouses

learn to be single or single parents mak-

ing all the decisions for the house their

children and themselves They are

stressed daily from worrying about the

safety and wellbeing of their loved one

deployed However one thought is the

same for both soldiers and Families look

forward to the day of being together

again

Once Soldiers return and the celebration

of their homecoming is over Families

and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-

ties of reintegration When Soldiers return

home they may feel like a stranger in their

own home or are faced with decisions and

choices they are not use to Military wife

Kelsey Heiney said When he first came

homehellipit was whoo you know good

times and then it got rough For Mrs

Heiney it was hard sharing what was her

space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had

the apartment all to myself for a year and

so of course its tough trying to just share

the apartment with somebody She said

getting the routines together and getting

use to each other has been something they

have been working through and they are

trying to figure out the best way to com-

promise

Getting things back to normal resounds

heavily in many Families and soldiers

lives Simple things like finding a bowl or

spoon can be frustrating for both the one

at home and the one returning One mili-

tary spouse said It drove me crazy when

my husband was in the kitchen and kept

opening and closing the drawers Finally I

got so irritated I asked him What is it

that you are looking for While she was

frustrated with her spouse for opening

and closing the drawers he was frustrated

that he knew where nothing was During

reintegration frustration reaches multiple

levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon

events are a great place for soldiers and

Families to come together and share ex-

periences and solutions It is a place where

they are not alone

During Yellow Ribbon events Families

and soldiers attend classes and seminars

with other soldiers and Families from the

same deployment Mrs Heiney said I

think it is good from a spouses point of

view because I can meet other womenhellip

and relate to them whereas over the

phone it is different It is kind of hard to

talk to someone over the phone about

stuff During downtime participants had

the opportunity to meet one-on-one with

vendors ranging from support organiza-

tions to potential employers

The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-

diers and Families a support network

SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa

230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-

pany A says it is good to have these

events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-

ployment because problems and issues do

come up before returning to drill and hav-

ing this information now is helpful The

most helpful for her was the Marriage

Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was

deployed to Iraq before but I havent been

an Army wife with my husband de-

ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment

class they know and talked about the

changes couples go through during de-

ployments and coming home It made me

feel better to hear somebody say thisit is

normal She said it helped her and her

husband understand that each of them is

going through different challenges and

they are not harder than what the other is

facing While he is challenged with com-

ing back from a deployment she is chal-

lenged with him being away Kawa says

she was glad she chose to attend the op-

tional Marriage Enrichment class and

hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events

in the future

Participants have the choice to leave the

Yellow Ribbon event with information

and help pertaining to them and if they

dont find anything helpful at least they

were able to get together with their

second family the soldiers and Fami-

lies they shared a year of their life These

events help Families and soldiers pick up

their lives while getting to know each

other again

SPC Cleta Kawa

wife of Sgt Mark

Kawa 230th

Brigade Support

Battalion

Company A

says The most

helpful for her

was the

Marriage

Enrichment

Seminar

A major part of successful reintegration

for Soldiers their Families amp friends is

communication Resolving to openly

discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition

Military Family

Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids

Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon

participants what Operation Military Kids does

and what they offer Like the upcoming summer

camps for kids throughout the state

2 11

Raising a military family is a little more complicated

when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and

Family Programs are bringing military Families training

relevant to the special dynamics of military family life

during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first

Family Retreat

Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home

North Carolina National Guard

Family Retreat

August 20-22

Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010

Make check or money order payable

to NCNG Family Readiness

Mail form and Payment To

NCNG Family Programs

CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road

Raleigh NC 27607

Guard Memberrsquos Name

Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number

Spouse Name (If applicable)

Spouse Social Security Number

Mailing Address

Phone Number (include area code)

Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)

Military Unit

Number of Children

Please List their Names and Ages Below

Please check the appropriate boxes

We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night

We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop

We have included the names and ages of our children

Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee

Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or

carolynstevens1usarmymil

Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee

Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor

105 West Spring Street

Oxford 27565

(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil

Family Readiness

Support Assistants

Charlotte

(704) 359-5707

Clinton

Sarah Strickland

sarahrstricklandusarmymil

(910) 299-5466

Goldsboro

Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil

(919) 739-5319

Jacksonville

Judy Richardson

judyrrichardsonusarmymil

(910) 347-4352line 11

Morrisville

Jim Roberson

jamesrobersonusarmymil

(919) 664-7655

12

$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$

JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg

Get program information

events chat with other

military Families and

more

You will also receive

emails with lots of great

opportunities

NCNG Family Programs

ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo

QUICK REFERENCE

DEERSID Cards 18005389552

TriCare

18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil

Transition Assistance

Andy Jackson 9196646573

American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)

Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)

The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment

Locations

Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920

Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616

Asheville Military Family Resource

Center

7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803

Fax (828) 274-8572

David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator

davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Debra Collington FAC Specialist

debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)

4240 West Blvd 28208

Fax (704) 359-5759

Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist

racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756

Lynn White FAC Specialist

lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center

449 East Mountain Dr 28306

Fax na

Amy Wallace FAC Specialist

amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-

ter

110 Franklin Blvd 27401

Fax (336) 691-7725

Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator

katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712

Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist

sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center

1401 N Memorial Dr 27834

Fax (252) 551-6136

Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator

dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR

6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081

Fax (704) 359-5759

Shane Judd FAC Specialist

shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553

Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist

dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center

2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504

Fax (252) 526-2772

Vacant (252) 526-2711

13

Fa

mily

Assis

tan

ce

Ce

nte

rs hellip

He

re t

o H

elp

Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable

Let us help Call or Stop By

Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

(SFAC)

1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645

Fax (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator

nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Frances Johnson FAC Specialist

francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center

130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966

Fax (919) 334-9971

Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator

markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966

Earlene Capps FAC Specialist

earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957

Lisa Faison FAC Specialist

lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center

406 Hospital Rd 27577

Fax (919) 934-2901

Abby Millsap FAC Specialist

abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center

500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387

Fax (910) 692-3659

David Butler FAC Specialist

davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center

2412 Infantry Rd 28412

Fax (910) 251-7130

Jim Marley FAC Specialist

jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center

3114 Randall Pkwy 28403

Fax (910) 343-1776

Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator

judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775

Julie Rowe FAC Specialist

BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates

on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina

National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo

TELL A FRIEND

Page 8: Family Matters June 2010

9

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8

MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA

The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great

CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION

The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported

2 10

Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs

For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-

tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat

Team their Families and friends toughest

challenge is living without one another

for a year Soldiers are learning to live in

a defensive environment much different

than the life they live at home Spouses

learn to be single or single parents mak-

ing all the decisions for the house their

children and themselves They are

stressed daily from worrying about the

safety and wellbeing of their loved one

deployed However one thought is the

same for both soldiers and Families look

forward to the day of being together

again

Once Soldiers return and the celebration

of their homecoming is over Families

and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-

ties of reintegration When Soldiers return

home they may feel like a stranger in their

own home or are faced with decisions and

choices they are not use to Military wife

Kelsey Heiney said When he first came

homehellipit was whoo you know good

times and then it got rough For Mrs

Heiney it was hard sharing what was her

space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had

the apartment all to myself for a year and

so of course its tough trying to just share

the apartment with somebody She said

getting the routines together and getting

use to each other has been something they

have been working through and they are

trying to figure out the best way to com-

promise

Getting things back to normal resounds

heavily in many Families and soldiers

lives Simple things like finding a bowl or

spoon can be frustrating for both the one

at home and the one returning One mili-

tary spouse said It drove me crazy when

my husband was in the kitchen and kept

opening and closing the drawers Finally I

got so irritated I asked him What is it

that you are looking for While she was

frustrated with her spouse for opening

and closing the drawers he was frustrated

that he knew where nothing was During

reintegration frustration reaches multiple

levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon

events are a great place for soldiers and

Families to come together and share ex-

periences and solutions It is a place where

they are not alone

During Yellow Ribbon events Families

and soldiers attend classes and seminars

with other soldiers and Families from the

same deployment Mrs Heiney said I

think it is good from a spouses point of

view because I can meet other womenhellip

and relate to them whereas over the

phone it is different It is kind of hard to

talk to someone over the phone about

stuff During downtime participants had

the opportunity to meet one-on-one with

vendors ranging from support organiza-

tions to potential employers

The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-

diers and Families a support network

SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa

230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-

pany A says it is good to have these

events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-

ployment because problems and issues do

come up before returning to drill and hav-

ing this information now is helpful The

most helpful for her was the Marriage

Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was

deployed to Iraq before but I havent been

an Army wife with my husband de-

ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment

class they know and talked about the

changes couples go through during de-

ployments and coming home It made me

feel better to hear somebody say thisit is

normal She said it helped her and her

husband understand that each of them is

going through different challenges and

they are not harder than what the other is

facing While he is challenged with com-

ing back from a deployment she is chal-

lenged with him being away Kawa says

she was glad she chose to attend the op-

tional Marriage Enrichment class and

hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events

in the future

Participants have the choice to leave the

Yellow Ribbon event with information

and help pertaining to them and if they

dont find anything helpful at least they

were able to get together with their

second family the soldiers and Fami-

lies they shared a year of their life These

events help Families and soldiers pick up

their lives while getting to know each

other again

SPC Cleta Kawa

wife of Sgt Mark

Kawa 230th

Brigade Support

Battalion

Company A

says The most

helpful for her

was the

Marriage

Enrichment

Seminar

A major part of successful reintegration

for Soldiers their Families amp friends is

communication Resolving to openly

discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition

Military Family

Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids

Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon

participants what Operation Military Kids does

and what they offer Like the upcoming summer

camps for kids throughout the state

2 11

Raising a military family is a little more complicated

when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and

Family Programs are bringing military Families training

relevant to the special dynamics of military family life

during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first

Family Retreat

Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home

North Carolina National Guard

Family Retreat

August 20-22

Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010

Make check or money order payable

to NCNG Family Readiness

Mail form and Payment To

NCNG Family Programs

CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road

Raleigh NC 27607

Guard Memberrsquos Name

Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number

Spouse Name (If applicable)

Spouse Social Security Number

Mailing Address

Phone Number (include area code)

Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)

Military Unit

Number of Children

Please List their Names and Ages Below

Please check the appropriate boxes

We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night

We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop

We have included the names and ages of our children

Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee

Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or

carolynstevens1usarmymil

Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee

Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor

105 West Spring Street

Oxford 27565

(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil

Family Readiness

Support Assistants

Charlotte

(704) 359-5707

Clinton

Sarah Strickland

sarahrstricklandusarmymil

(910) 299-5466

Goldsboro

Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil

(919) 739-5319

Jacksonville

Judy Richardson

judyrrichardsonusarmymil

(910) 347-4352line 11

Morrisville

Jim Roberson

jamesrobersonusarmymil

(919) 664-7655

12

$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$

JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg

Get program information

events chat with other

military Families and

more

You will also receive

emails with lots of great

opportunities

NCNG Family Programs

ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo

QUICK REFERENCE

DEERSID Cards 18005389552

TriCare

18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil

Transition Assistance

Andy Jackson 9196646573

American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)

Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)

The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment

Locations

Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920

Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616

Asheville Military Family Resource

Center

7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803

Fax (828) 274-8572

David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator

davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Debra Collington FAC Specialist

debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)

4240 West Blvd 28208

Fax (704) 359-5759

Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist

racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756

Lynn White FAC Specialist

lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center

449 East Mountain Dr 28306

Fax na

Amy Wallace FAC Specialist

amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-

ter

110 Franklin Blvd 27401

Fax (336) 691-7725

Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator

katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712

Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist

sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center

1401 N Memorial Dr 27834

Fax (252) 551-6136

Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator

dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR

6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081

Fax (704) 359-5759

Shane Judd FAC Specialist

shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553

Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist

dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center

2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504

Fax (252) 526-2772

Vacant (252) 526-2711

13

Fa

mily

Assis

tan

ce

Ce

nte

rs hellip

He

re t

o H

elp

Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable

Let us help Call or Stop By

Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

(SFAC)

1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645

Fax (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator

nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Frances Johnson FAC Specialist

francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center

130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966

Fax (919) 334-9971

Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator

markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966

Earlene Capps FAC Specialist

earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957

Lisa Faison FAC Specialist

lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center

406 Hospital Rd 27577

Fax (919) 934-2901

Abby Millsap FAC Specialist

abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center

500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387

Fax (910) 692-3659

David Butler FAC Specialist

davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center

2412 Infantry Rd 28412

Fax (910) 251-7130

Jim Marley FAC Specialist

jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center

3114 Randall Pkwy 28403

Fax (910) 343-1776

Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator

judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775

Julie Rowe FAC Specialist

BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates

on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina

National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo

TELL A FRIEND

Page 9: Family Matters June 2010

2 10

Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs

For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-

tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat

Team their Families and friends toughest

challenge is living without one another

for a year Soldiers are learning to live in

a defensive environment much different

than the life they live at home Spouses

learn to be single or single parents mak-

ing all the decisions for the house their

children and themselves They are

stressed daily from worrying about the

safety and wellbeing of their loved one

deployed However one thought is the

same for both soldiers and Families look

forward to the day of being together

again

Once Soldiers return and the celebration

of their homecoming is over Families

and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-

ties of reintegration When Soldiers return

home they may feel like a stranger in their

own home or are faced with decisions and

choices they are not use to Military wife

Kelsey Heiney said When he first came

homehellipit was whoo you know good

times and then it got rough For Mrs

Heiney it was hard sharing what was her

space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had

the apartment all to myself for a year and

so of course its tough trying to just share

the apartment with somebody She said

getting the routines together and getting

use to each other has been something they

have been working through and they are

trying to figure out the best way to com-

promise

Getting things back to normal resounds

heavily in many Families and soldiers

lives Simple things like finding a bowl or

spoon can be frustrating for both the one

at home and the one returning One mili-

tary spouse said It drove me crazy when

my husband was in the kitchen and kept

opening and closing the drawers Finally I

got so irritated I asked him What is it

that you are looking for While she was

frustrated with her spouse for opening

and closing the drawers he was frustrated

that he knew where nothing was During

reintegration frustration reaches multiple

levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon

events are a great place for soldiers and

Families to come together and share ex-

periences and solutions It is a place where

they are not alone

During Yellow Ribbon events Families

and soldiers attend classes and seminars

with other soldiers and Families from the

same deployment Mrs Heiney said I

think it is good from a spouses point of

view because I can meet other womenhellip

and relate to them whereas over the

phone it is different It is kind of hard to

talk to someone over the phone about

stuff During downtime participants had

the opportunity to meet one-on-one with

vendors ranging from support organiza-

tions to potential employers

The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-

diers and Families a support network

SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa

230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-

pany A says it is good to have these

events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-

ployment because problems and issues do

come up before returning to drill and hav-

ing this information now is helpful The

most helpful for her was the Marriage

Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was

deployed to Iraq before but I havent been

an Army wife with my husband de-

ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment

class they know and talked about the

changes couples go through during de-

ployments and coming home It made me

feel better to hear somebody say thisit is

normal She said it helped her and her

husband understand that each of them is

going through different challenges and

they are not harder than what the other is

facing While he is challenged with com-

ing back from a deployment she is chal-

lenged with him being away Kawa says

she was glad she chose to attend the op-

tional Marriage Enrichment class and

hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events

in the future

Participants have the choice to leave the

Yellow Ribbon event with information

and help pertaining to them and if they

dont find anything helpful at least they

were able to get together with their

second family the soldiers and Fami-

lies they shared a year of their life These

events help Families and soldiers pick up

their lives while getting to know each

other again

SPC Cleta Kawa

wife of Sgt Mark

Kawa 230th

Brigade Support

Battalion

Company A

says The most

helpful for her

was the

Marriage

Enrichment

Seminar

A major part of successful reintegration

for Soldiers their Families amp friends is

communication Resolving to openly

discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition

Military Family

Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids

Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon

participants what Operation Military Kids does

and what they offer Like the upcoming summer

camps for kids throughout the state

2 11

Raising a military family is a little more complicated

when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and

Family Programs are bringing military Families training

relevant to the special dynamics of military family life

during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first

Family Retreat

Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home

North Carolina National Guard

Family Retreat

August 20-22

Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010

Make check or money order payable

to NCNG Family Readiness

Mail form and Payment To

NCNG Family Programs

CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road

Raleigh NC 27607

Guard Memberrsquos Name

Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number

Spouse Name (If applicable)

Spouse Social Security Number

Mailing Address

Phone Number (include area code)

Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)

Military Unit

Number of Children

Please List their Names and Ages Below

Please check the appropriate boxes

We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night

We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop

We have included the names and ages of our children

Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee

Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or

carolynstevens1usarmymil

Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee

Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor

105 West Spring Street

Oxford 27565

(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil

Family Readiness

Support Assistants

Charlotte

(704) 359-5707

Clinton

Sarah Strickland

sarahrstricklandusarmymil

(910) 299-5466

Goldsboro

Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil

(919) 739-5319

Jacksonville

Judy Richardson

judyrrichardsonusarmymil

(910) 347-4352line 11

Morrisville

Jim Roberson

jamesrobersonusarmymil

(919) 664-7655

12

$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$

JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg

Get program information

events chat with other

military Families and

more

You will also receive

emails with lots of great

opportunities

NCNG Family Programs

ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo

QUICK REFERENCE

DEERSID Cards 18005389552

TriCare

18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil

Transition Assistance

Andy Jackson 9196646573

American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)

Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)

The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment

Locations

Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920

Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616

Asheville Military Family Resource

Center

7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803

Fax (828) 274-8572

David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator

davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Debra Collington FAC Specialist

debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)

4240 West Blvd 28208

Fax (704) 359-5759

Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist

racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756

Lynn White FAC Specialist

lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center

449 East Mountain Dr 28306

Fax na

Amy Wallace FAC Specialist

amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-

ter

110 Franklin Blvd 27401

Fax (336) 691-7725

Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator

katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712

Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist

sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center

1401 N Memorial Dr 27834

Fax (252) 551-6136

Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator

dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR

6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081

Fax (704) 359-5759

Shane Judd FAC Specialist

shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553

Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist

dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center

2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504

Fax (252) 526-2772

Vacant (252) 526-2711

13

Fa

mily

Assis

tan

ce

Ce

nte

rs hellip

He

re t

o H

elp

Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable

Let us help Call or Stop By

Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

(SFAC)

1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645

Fax (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator

nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Frances Johnson FAC Specialist

francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center

130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966

Fax (919) 334-9971

Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator

markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966

Earlene Capps FAC Specialist

earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957

Lisa Faison FAC Specialist

lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center

406 Hospital Rd 27577

Fax (919) 934-2901

Abby Millsap FAC Specialist

abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center

500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387

Fax (910) 692-3659

David Butler FAC Specialist

davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center

2412 Infantry Rd 28412

Fax (910) 251-7130

Jim Marley FAC Specialist

jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center

3114 Randall Pkwy 28403

Fax (910) 343-1776

Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator

judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775

Julie Rowe FAC Specialist

BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates

on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina

National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo

TELL A FRIEND

Page 10: Family Matters June 2010

2 11

Raising a military family is a little more complicated

when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and

Family Programs are bringing military Families training

relevant to the special dynamics of military family life

during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first

Family Retreat

Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home

North Carolina National Guard

Family Retreat

August 20-22

Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010

Make check or money order payable

to NCNG Family Readiness

Mail form and Payment To

NCNG Family Programs

CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road

Raleigh NC 27607

Guard Memberrsquos Name

Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number

Spouse Name (If applicable)

Spouse Social Security Number

Mailing Address

Phone Number (include area code)

Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)

Military Unit

Number of Children

Please List their Names and Ages Below

Please check the appropriate boxes

We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night

We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop

We have included the names and ages of our children

Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee

Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or

carolynstevens1usarmymil

Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee

Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor

105 West Spring Street

Oxford 27565

(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil

Family Readiness

Support Assistants

Charlotte

(704) 359-5707

Clinton

Sarah Strickland

sarahrstricklandusarmymil

(910) 299-5466

Goldsboro

Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil

(919) 739-5319

Jacksonville

Judy Richardson

judyrrichardsonusarmymil

(910) 347-4352line 11

Morrisville

Jim Roberson

jamesrobersonusarmymil

(919) 664-7655

12

$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$

JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg

Get program information

events chat with other

military Families and

more

You will also receive

emails with lots of great

opportunities

NCNG Family Programs

ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo

QUICK REFERENCE

DEERSID Cards 18005389552

TriCare

18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil

Transition Assistance

Andy Jackson 9196646573

American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)

Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)

The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment

Locations

Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920

Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616

Asheville Military Family Resource

Center

7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803

Fax (828) 274-8572

David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator

davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Debra Collington FAC Specialist

debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)

4240 West Blvd 28208

Fax (704) 359-5759

Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist

racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756

Lynn White FAC Specialist

lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center

449 East Mountain Dr 28306

Fax na

Amy Wallace FAC Specialist

amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-

ter

110 Franklin Blvd 27401

Fax (336) 691-7725

Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator

katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712

Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist

sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center

1401 N Memorial Dr 27834

Fax (252) 551-6136

Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator

dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR

6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081

Fax (704) 359-5759

Shane Judd FAC Specialist

shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553

Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist

dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center

2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504

Fax (252) 526-2772

Vacant (252) 526-2711

13

Fa

mily

Assis

tan

ce

Ce

nte

rs hellip

He

re t

o H

elp

Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable

Let us help Call or Stop By

Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

(SFAC)

1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645

Fax (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator

nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Frances Johnson FAC Specialist

francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center

130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966

Fax (919) 334-9971

Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator

markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966

Earlene Capps FAC Specialist

earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957

Lisa Faison FAC Specialist

lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center

406 Hospital Rd 27577

Fax (919) 934-2901

Abby Millsap FAC Specialist

abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center

500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387

Fax (910) 692-3659

David Butler FAC Specialist

davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center

2412 Infantry Rd 28412

Fax (910) 251-7130

Jim Marley FAC Specialist

jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center

3114 Randall Pkwy 28403

Fax (910) 343-1776

Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator

judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775

Julie Rowe FAC Specialist

BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates

on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina

National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo

TELL A FRIEND

Page 11: Family Matters June 2010

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor

105 West Spring Street

Oxford 27565

(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil

Family Readiness

Support Assistants

Charlotte

(704) 359-5707

Clinton

Sarah Strickland

sarahrstricklandusarmymil

(910) 299-5466

Goldsboro

Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil

(919) 739-5319

Jacksonville

Judy Richardson

judyrrichardsonusarmymil

(910) 347-4352line 11

Morrisville

Jim Roberson

jamesrobersonusarmymil

(919) 664-7655

12

$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$

JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg

Get program information

events chat with other

military Families and

more

You will also receive

emails with lots of great

opportunities

NCNG Family Programs

ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo

QUICK REFERENCE

DEERSID Cards 18005389552

TriCare

18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil

Transition Assistance

Andy Jackson 9196646573

American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)

Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)

The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment

Locations

Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920

Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616

Asheville Military Family Resource

Center

7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803

Fax (828) 274-8572

David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator

davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Debra Collington FAC Specialist

debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)

4240 West Blvd 28208

Fax (704) 359-5759

Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist

racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756

Lynn White FAC Specialist

lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center

449 East Mountain Dr 28306

Fax na

Amy Wallace FAC Specialist

amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-

ter

110 Franklin Blvd 27401

Fax (336) 691-7725

Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator

katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712

Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist

sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center

1401 N Memorial Dr 27834

Fax (252) 551-6136

Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator

dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR

6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081

Fax (704) 359-5759

Shane Judd FAC Specialist

shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553

Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist

dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center

2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504

Fax (252) 526-2772

Vacant (252) 526-2711

13

Fa

mily

Assis

tan

ce

Ce

nte

rs hellip

He

re t

o H

elp

Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable

Let us help Call or Stop By

Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

(SFAC)

1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645

Fax (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator

nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Frances Johnson FAC Specialist

francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center

130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966

Fax (919) 334-9971

Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator

markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966

Earlene Capps FAC Specialist

earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957

Lisa Faison FAC Specialist

lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center

406 Hospital Rd 27577

Fax (919) 934-2901

Abby Millsap FAC Specialist

abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center

500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387

Fax (910) 692-3659

David Butler FAC Specialist

davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center

2412 Infantry Rd 28412

Fax (910) 251-7130

Jim Marley FAC Specialist

jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center

3114 Randall Pkwy 28403

Fax (910) 343-1776

Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator

judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775

Julie Rowe FAC Specialist

BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates

on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina

National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo

TELL A FRIEND

Page 12: Family Matters June 2010

Asheville Military Family Resource

Center

7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803

Fax (828) 274-8572

David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator

davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Debra Collington FAC Specialist

debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)

4240 West Blvd 28208

Fax (704) 359-5759

Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist

racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756

Lynn White FAC Specialist

lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center

449 East Mountain Dr 28306

Fax na

Amy Wallace FAC Specialist

amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-

ter

110 Franklin Blvd 27401

Fax (336) 691-7725

Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator

katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712

Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist

sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center

1401 N Memorial Dr 27834

Fax (252) 551-6136

Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator

dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR

6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081

Fax (704) 359-5759

Shane Judd FAC Specialist

shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553

Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist

dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center

2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504

Fax (252) 526-2772

Vacant (252) 526-2711

13

Fa

mily

Assis

tan

ce

Ce

nte

rs hellip

He

re t

o H

elp

Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable

Let us help Call or Stop By

Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center

(SFAC)

1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645

Fax (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator

nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Frances Johnson FAC Specialist

francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center

130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966

Fax (919) 334-9971

Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator

markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966

Earlene Capps FAC Specialist

earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957

Lisa Faison FAC Specialist

lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center

406 Hospital Rd 27577

Fax (919) 934-2901

Abby Millsap FAC Specialist

abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center

500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387

Fax (910) 692-3659

David Butler FAC Specialist

davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center

2412 Infantry Rd 28412

Fax (910) 251-7130

Jim Marley FAC Specialist

jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center

3114 Randall Pkwy 28403

Fax (910) 343-1776

Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator

judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775

Julie Rowe FAC Specialist

BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates

on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina

National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo

TELL A FRIEND


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