A Story of Online DatingBy:
Katie V. Lefevre
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There was NO online dating!
Once upon a time...
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Then humans created online dating hubs.
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With that extra work,
& A LOT of human capital to produce a culture of social media…
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Dating was changed forever!
The End.
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…Or so we thought!
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TH
E
HIS
TO
RY
What Is E-dating?
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“Online dating or Internet dating is a dating system which allows individuals, couples and groups to make contact and communicate with each other over the Internet, usually with the objective of developing a personal romantic or sexual relationship. …” –Wikipedia.com
Image by majgicdating1, FlikrWikipedia. “Online Dating Service.” Accessed May 18, 2011. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_dating
So, homo sapiens have been mating for 100 000 years.
PBS. “Evolution.” Accessed May 16, 2011.http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/evolution/library/faq/cat06.html.
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But we have only been
‘dating’ for300
years. And…
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LiveScience. “The 300-Year History of Internet Dating.” Accessed May 15, 2011. http://www.livescience.com/3362-300-year-history-internet-dating.html.
“…in the days to come, the online dating society will have fully strong and deeply penetrating roots...”
-Online Dating Expert, Francis K. Githinji.
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Article Trader. “Online Dating Society Its Growth And Influence Can Not Certainly Be Ignored.” Accessed May 18 , 2011. http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/online-dating-society-its-growth-and-influence-can-not-certainly-be-ignored.html.
TH
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LO
CA
TIO
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Where Is Online Dating?
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Online dating has transpired the globe.
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ScienceDirect. “Structure And Time Evolution of An Internet Dating Community.” Accessed May 20, 2011. http://www.sciencedirect.com/science_ob=ArticleURL&_udi=B6VD1-4BYNRWX-1&_user=1025668&_coverDate=05%2F31%2F2004&_rdoc=1&_fmt=high&_orig=gateway&_origin=gateway&_sort=d&_docanchor=&view=c&_searchStrId=1758286458&_rerunOrigin=google&_acct=C000050549&_version=1&_urlVersion=0&_userid=1025668&md5=bc0c0ffca3ed3c1a420de9415f94218d&searchtype=a.
…Across different cultures.
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Yet, where is e-dating,
...really?
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Is online dating in our heads?
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Dating Headshots. “Headshots for Internet Dating.” Accessed May 20, 2011. http://www.datingheadshots.com/headshots-for-internet-dating.php
“Why Does Online Dating
Sometimes Depress
Me?” -From Online Dating
Magazine
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Online Dating Magazine. “Online Dating Depression.” Accessed May 16, 2011. http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/datingoffice09/onlinedatingdepression.html.
TH
E IS
SU
ES
Is It Really Complicated?
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Critics say online dating can’t be true love…
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The Guardian. “Internet Dating Unplugged.” Accessed May 16th, 2011. http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/jun/27/internet-dating.
“Some sites are working actively to
prevent divorces
before they even
happen.” -ABC News
Image by DatingExpert, Flikr ABC. “Internet Marriages More Likely to End in Divorce?” Accessed May 17, 2011.
http://abcnews.go.com/US/story?id=3080313&page=1
.
…Others still think online dating is desperate.
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But what if e-
dating gives nerdy girls a
chance?
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…& what if there’s nothing nerdy about e-daters at all
?
Image by Internet dating service, FlikrWorld of Psychology. “Who Uses Internet Dating?” Accessed May 16th, 2011. http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/07/23/who-uses-internet-dating/.
E-dating has successfully de-stigmatized itself!
Despite recent economic downturn, online dating services are boasting a
400.0% year to year sales growth. Image by
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Forbes. “Online Dating Sites Flirt with Record Growth.” Accessed May 19, 2011. http://www.forbes.com/2009/01/06/online-dating-industry-face-markets-cx_je_0105autofacescan01.html.
Some say online dating is heteronormative.
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Others consider LGBT online dating to be more “advantageous”…
“…you can be sure your date shares your sexual
preference.”-lovetoknow.comImage by medialicious.tv, Flikr
Love to Know. “Gay and Lesbian Online Dating.” Accessed May 20, 2011. http://dating.lovetoknow.com/Gay_and_Lesbian_Online_Dating.
E-dating even has it’s own
language
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Where you mustread between the lines. Image by Jennuine Captures, Flikr
It also has its
own code
of ethics
!
ArticleSphere. “Dating Ethics – A Question for the Online ating Community.” Accessed May 19,
2011 http://www.article
sphere.com/Article/Dating-Ethics---A-Question-for-the-Online-Dating-Community/131193
.
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…That cover age
?
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And visual expectation
s?
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…And bandaging broken s?
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“In 2008 New Jersey created the Internet Dating Safety Act and in 2010 New York State passed a similar act. New York requires online dating safety tips on their websites and additional information if any criminal background checks are required on members.”
–Online Dating Service Statistics
Online Dating Service Statistics. “Marriage Statistics.” Accessed May 20, 2011. http://onlinedatingServicestatistics.blogspot.com/.
…Even ‘brokener’ of hearts now that our gadgets store convenient break-up apps.
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TIME Healthland. “Text Leads to Sex Sooner – and Easier Breakups Later.” Accessed May 9, 2011. http://healthland.time.com/2011/01/26/digital-flirting-leads-to-sex-sooner-%E2%80%94-and-easier-breakups-later/#ixzz1LtgRkZfU.
Despite all this, some
people find their
future families online.
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Others find that only their computers share a
relationship.
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But what if everyone’s doing it?
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If we fail to go with the flow of e-
relationships…,
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Do we
then miss out? On the
future of
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TH
E F
UTU
RE
What’s In Store?
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Online dating is NOT just a
personal
activity.
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It’s a multi-million dollar institution.
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…into our cultural infrastructure.
…that’s becoming increasingly embedded
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“6 hours
of search and e-mailing for 1 cup of coffee
…”
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http://bigthink.com/ideas/20749
We must ask
ourselves,
is this natur
al?
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--gone too far?
Or, has our quest for love
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Arewejust in love…
with our
gadgets?
http://iphonedatingapps.com/
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…perhaps with ourselves?
Hooking Up Smart. “Are You Dating a Narcissist?’ Accessed on May 20, 2011. http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2009/07/07/hookinguprealities/are-you-dating-a-narcissist/.
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But in
the end,isn’t love…
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simply love?
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s*
Thank You!
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ABC. “Internet Marriages More Likely to End in Divorce?” Accessed May 17, 2011. http://abcnews.go.com/US/story?id=3080313&page=1.
ArticleSphere. “Dating Ethics – A Question for the Online ating Community.” Accessed May 19, 2011 http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/Dating-Ethics---A-Question-for-the-Online-Dating-Community/131193.
Article Trader. “Online Dating Society Its Growth and Influence Can Not Certainly Be Ignored.” Accessed May 18 , 2011. http://www.articletrader.com/society/dating/online-dating-ociety-its-growth-and-influence-can-not-certainly-be-ignored.html.
Bigthink. “Why Online Dating Is So Unsatisfying.” Accessed May 18, 2011. http://bigthink.com/ideas/20749.
CNN Tech. “With New GPS Dating Apps, It’s Love The One You’re Near.” Accessed May 10, 201http://articles.cnn.com/2010-08-06/tech/gps.dating.apps_1_apps-grindr-skout?_s=PM:TECH.
CTV News. “Does Facebook Help Relationships or Hurt Them? Accessed May 10, 2011. http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/TopStories/20101124/social-media-studies-101128/.
Dating Headshots. “Headshots for Internet Dating.” Accessed May 20, 2011. http://www.datingheadshots.com/headshots-for-internet-dating.php.
Film315 Digital Media Theory. “Blog.” Accessed May 13-20, 2011. http://film315s.com/blog/.
Forbes. “Online Dating Sites Flirt with Record Growth.” Accessed May 19, 2011. http://www.forbes.com/2009/01/06/online-dating-industry-face-markets-cx_je_0105autofacescan01.html.
Hooking Up Smart. “Are You Dating a Narcissist?’ Accessed on May 20, 2011. http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2009/07/07/hookinguprealities/are-you-dating-a-narcissist/.
iTunes Preview. “Film 315 Social Friendship Part 1.” Accessed May 13, 2011. http://itunes.apple.com/ca/itunes-u/film315/id431627154.
LiveScience. “The 300-Year History of Internet Dating.” Accessed May 15, 2011. http://www.livescience.com/3362-300-year-history-internet-dating.html.
Love to Know. “Gay and Lesbian Online Dating.” Accessed May 20, 2011. http://dating.lovetoknow.com/Gay_and_Lesbian_Online_Dating.
Online Dating Magazine. “Online Dating Depression.” Accessed May 16, 2011. http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/datingoffice09/onlinedatingdepression.html.
Online Dating Service Statistics. “Marriage Statistics.” Accessed May 20, 2011. http://onlinedatingServicestatistics.blogspot.com/.
PBS. “Evolution.” Accessed May 16, 2011. http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/evolution/library/faq/cat06.html.
ScienceDirect. “Structure And Time Evolution of An Internet Dating Community.” Accessed May 20, 2011. http://www.sciencedirect.com/.
The Guardian. “Internet Dating Unplugged.” Accessed May 16th, 2011. http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/jun/27/internet-dating.
TIME Healthland. “Text Leads to Sex Sooner – and Easier Breakups Later.” Accessed May 9, 2011. http://healthland.time.com/2011/01/26/digital-flirting-leads-to-sex-sooner-%E2%80%94-and-easier-breakups-later#ixzz1LtgRkZfU .
Wikipedia. “Online Dating Service.” Accessed May 18, 2011. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_dating.
World of Psychology. “Who Uses Internet Dating?” Accessed May 16 th, 2011. http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/07/23/who-uses-internet-dating/.
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