Five Step Process of ListeningBarriers to Effective ListeningRecipe to Improve Listening
Delivery
The process of receiving, constructing meaning from, and responding to spoken and/or nonverbal messages.
Attending
Understanding
Remembering
Analyzing
Responding
Defined- The process of selecting and focusing on specific stimuli from the countless stimuli that reaches our senses.
We must train ourselves to attend to what people are saying regardless of our interests or needs.
Three techniques to help focus our attention:1)Get Physically and Mentally ready to
listen 2)Make a complete shift from speaker to listener 3)Resist Tuning Out
Defined- Decoding a message accurately to reflect the meaning intended by the speaker.
Observe nonverbal cues
Practice Active Listening to ensure accuracy
Three Active Listening Devices:1)The Question2)Paraphrasing3)Empathy Statements
Defined- Retaining Information; being able to retain information and recall it when needed.
Three Techniques:1)Repeat Information2)Construct Mnemonics- Ex. BASMOQN3)Write it Down
Defined- The process of evaluating what you hear in order to determine truthfulness.
Listen critically
Separate facts from opinions and recognize sarcasm, etc.
Defined- Give comfort; help people feel better about themselves and their behavior when warranted.
Realize that sometimes others just want us to listen.
Encourage, reassure, bolster, soothe, or console through supportive responses.
Avoid being a “buzz killer”
Noise- Physical, Psychological, Physiological and Semantic
Problems with the Speaker (Messenger)
Problems with the Message
Pseudo Listening- Giving the appearance of listening when not.
Selective Listening- Responding only to the part(s) that interest you; rejecting everything else.
Traditional Chinese Character for “Listen”A Recipe
Three P’s: 1)Prepare2)Practice3)Present
Importance of Nonverbal signals and Mannerisms- one can show involvement, passion, enthusiasm, and personality.
Impromptu- No time to prepare, get up and speak
Memorized- Recite from memory, not conversational. Dangerous if you lose your place.
Manuscript- Read from notes or a script. Little eye contact unless manufactured.
Extemporaneous- Not memorized with every work planned out, rather conversational and prepared to where can maintain organization and flow.