What does it mean?

“The ability to identify and achieve goals based on a foundation of knowing and valuing oneself.”

Self-Determination

We are going to focus on the following four components for this training…

Communicating Assertively Self-Management Self-Awareness Taking Responsibility

There are many components to Self-Determination

» Aggressive- likely to encounter anger from others.

» Passive- needs and wants will not be known.

» Assertive- Express their needs and wants in a way that is likely to be met with a positive response from others.

People communicate their needs and wants in three different ways.

For Example:Help students communicate

assertively by using “I” statements.“I would like…” or “I need to…”

What does it mean? The way in which we talk with

people affects how well they are able to understand us and react to us.

For Example: Use visual choices to help your buddy pick which room they would like to visit that day. Monitor their behavior and try using this technique for communication to help them do what they want before they become agitated.

What does it mean? Knowing our

strengths, weaknesses, needs and preferences.

We learn more about ourselves through our experiences.

Help your buddy discover and become aware of their likes and dislikes by presenting them with options.

For Example: “Would you like to play

with play-dough or make an art project?”

“Would you like to go on the swings or in the ball-pit?”

What does it mean? Being able to

control and manage oneself in a manner that will help them get what they want.

For Example: You are going to

make a beaded keychain in the art room with your buddy. Help them make the first step.

Ask them, “What is the first thing we need to do to make the keychain?”

Then prompt them throughout the process.

Self-Management

What does it mean? The more

responsibility one demonstrates, the more control he/she has in a situation.

Help your buddy keep track of their “stuff”.

For Example: When finishing an

art project encourage your buddy to help you clean-up the materials and space that they used.

Taking Responsibility

What does it mean?

“An act of repeated aggressive behavior in order to intentionally hurt another person, physically or mentally.”

Types of Bullying:Direct Social

Cyber Bullying

Examples:

Hitting, grabbing, pushing, chasing with an intent to harm, threatening to hurt

Verbal or Physical Attacks

What is it? It is the most obvious

form of bullying and includes physical and/or verbal attacks.

Examples:

Exclusion, Rumors, Gossip, Lies

What is it? Behaviors that harm others

through damage (or threat of damage) to relationships or feelings of acceptance.

Examples:

E-mail, Text Messages, Facebook, Twitter

What is it? Use of information

and technology to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior by an individual or group.

» Bullies˃Characteristics such as: Aggressive, Hostile, Domineering towards peers

and other behavior problems such as truancy or drug and alcohol abuse.

» Victims˃Characteristics such as: Passive, Insecure, Weak, Withdrawn, Sensitive and

Quiet.

» Bystanders˃A person who witnesses or hears about an act of bullying and does nothing

to stop the situation.

˃85% of children that are neither bullies nor victims.

Listen Your buddy may be

comfortable enough to tell you what happens at school.

Watch Is your buddy acting

differently that he/she used to?

What to do: Listen to what your buddy has

to say and ask questions to find out what exactly happened.

Support his/her feelings by acknowledging and validating the way they feel.

Ask what he/she thinks would be helpful to stop the bullying.

Tell your buddy’s parent or the program director what your buddy has told you.

Don’t ignore it.

What NOT to do:˃Don’t offer premature solutions

such as, “This is what you should do next time.”

˃Don’t blame your buddy or give them the impression that he/she is responsible for why it happened.

˃ Ignore it.

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