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From Rock Bottom

to

Rock Solid(No Subtitle Needed)

Deanna Eiting

The mbassador of Happiness

TM


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From Rock Bottomto

Rock Solid(No Subtitle Needed)

All Rights Reserved

Copyright 2016 Deanna Eiting, The Ambassador of HappinessTM

All Rights Reserved. Photocopy, unauthorized sharing, blogging or social

media distribution is prohibited unless expresses permission is authorized

by author.

This e-book may not be reproduced in whole or part, except in brief

quotations or articles for reference and credit to author must be cited.

Cover Photo by Mike Eiting 2014


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This book is dedicated to YOU- The reader! The seeker, the doer, the one

who just wants more out of life! I am with you all the way! TO THE

TOP OF THE ROCKS WE GO!!! SOLID!

To my fam- who has always had my back in my crazy, wild, rebelliousway of being. For believing in me and my weirdness- and loving me not

despite my ways- but because of them. Peace and Love!

To my girlies- Thing 1 & Thing 2 (with love right there girls1). My ever

present lighthouses always bringing “momma” back home to what

matters. YOU are the reasons I never give up!

And lastly, to my bestest pal EVER- my absolutely dedicated and fiercely

devoted husband, Mike, who always makes sure my life is beautiful!

There are no words to express my gratitude for your undying belief in

your “blue-eyed wild Irish rose.” Always and always my love.


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ContentsDeanna Eiting ........................................................................................................................................ 1

WELCOME. .........................................................................................Error! Bookmark not defined.

About the Author ........................................................................................................................... 12

Introductio ..................................................................................................................................... 13

This is CRITICAL! .............................................................................................................................. 21

YOUR MIND MUST BE IN THE PROPER STATE! ......................................................................... 21

Why Do I Succeed? ............................................................................................................................ 33

In order to attract positive- we must be in a positive state. ........................................................... 49

Have compassion. That is one sure fire way to switch from a negative state to a positive state!

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Section 4 ........................................................................................................................................ 53


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STRESS WILL KILL YOU!

80-90% of all diseases, chronic or acute, are caused by stress!

Were you aware that MOST STRESS is caused by FEAR! Yes- FEAR!

Did you know that most fear is caused by something YOU HAVE CONTROL over?

It has been shown that most people experience fear when they feel out of control,

overwhelmed, and stuck in groove for which they see no way out.

Most people experience some sort of fear when they are faced with challenges and obstacles in

their life. The fear sets in because THEY AREN’T HANDLING THE CHALLENGES AS WELL ASTHEY COULD. These “challenges” knock you down, wear you out causing frustration,

irritation, negativity, and generally they make for a pretty miserable day if YOU don’t have the

upper hand on them.

If you don’t control your challenges- they control you. Enter the FEAR, STRESS, ILLNESS, and

ABDOMINAL FAT (more about that later-I have an answer to this issue!)

Sound familiar?

Let me ask you a question- Have you ever had a “challenge” in your life? Yes, that is me being

fasicious and somewhat rhetorical. We all have them, more often than not, we have them

daily. Challenges and obstacles come in all shapes and sizes. Some are little annoyances that

you just whisk under the rug. Others however, can feel overwhelming and insurmountable.

Knock you flat on your back and take the wind right out of you. Leaving little energy to

actually “solve the issue.”

I have some good news and yes, I have some bad news.


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Bad news first- always a good policy. The bad news is that challenges will always be a part of

life.

Ready for the good news? The good news is that challenges will always be a part of life.

Re-read that if you need to.

Now- before you throw this book across the room or on to the floor (which I do not

recommend obviously if you are using your electronic device) let me give you something to

ponder. Have you ever looked at people whose lives are overwhelmed with challenges,

adversity, tragedy, trauma, drama- they never seem to catch a break- yet they seem to handle

their life with strength, resilience and even, dare I say, some happiness and joy? You say to

yourself “ Wow! How do they do that? They seriously should have given up or cracked by

now.” You know those people? What do they know that other people do not?

What do they do that makes them handle their challenges better and have a better life?

Excellent question and one that more people should be asking and finding an answer to. After

years of immersion in personal development, scholastic research, and a wealth of personal

experience, I found that these ROCK SOLID people share three common characteristic traits. I

have interviewed many people who by all accounts had every reason to give up, lay down,

check out and run away from life. BUT THEY DON”T!

They don’t accept defeat. They don’t cower in the face of adversity and let fear take over.

They have a solid and strong mental state and they embrace whatever life sends them and they

learn, grow, and come out the other side stronger and wiser.

Becoming ROCK SOLID and having the upper hand on your challenges allows you to have

enduring persistence, solid footing, strength, and resilience for the tough times. It also allows

you to deeply appreciate the good times. Everything is a cycle. Good times come and go. So

to do bad times. Being ROCK SOLID isn’t about having a few tools in a “tool box” to help you

when things are hard. It is a lifestyle. It is a true way of being. It becomes second nature and

you move from CHAOTIC REACTOR to CALM RESPONDER which augments every aspect of

your life. From health and wellness, to career, finances, and relationships, to being solid and

courageous to take on whatever it is you want.

When your ROCK SOLID you handle life better and you HAVE A BETTER LIFE.

In this E-book guide we are going to talk about building your strongest, most resilient, ROCK

SOLID personal foundation. What exactly does that mean? Well, it simply means you become

better at handling life! It really is that simple. When you can handle life better, the better life

you can have.


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Whether you feel fairly rock solid now and think your life could just use a few ―tweaks‖ here and

there, or whether you were like me, below rock bottom, nay, the algae on the rocks below rock

bottom and you simply need to learn how to resurface and get some oxygen, then this guide is

for you.

YOU WILL BENEFIT FROM THIS PROGRAM.

The tips, tools, principles, and practices included in this guide are exactly what I did to pull

myself up from suicidal depression, battling a life threatening infection, financially bankrupt,

and well- just DONE! You too will learn how to bounce back more swiftly and more sound

and BURST forward with enduring persistence.

HOW AM I LIVIN TODAY YOU ASK

Today I live with purpose that is driven by my relentless passion to make a difference in the

world. I have absolute happiness. And a ROCK SOLID MINDSET that helps me navigate

through the daily challenges and obstacles that I encounter. (Read the whole story below)

WHAT‘S IN IT FOR YOU?

You will learn how to quickly shift your energy state from a negative, stagnate, fixed & rigid

mindset-wheels-spinning- drowning- in- quicksand to a resilient, energetic, effective problem

solving ROCK SOLID person with a growth mindset that handles adversity with grace, gratitude,

and optimism.

MY PROMISE TO YOU

By the time you are done reading this guide, if you will do the exercises consistently and

implement the principles into your daily life, you will have an arsenal of tools to help

you become that person that others look at and to and say ―WOW! How does she/he

handle life

so well? ‖

As you move through the program you will:

Learn how to identify and use your INTENTION to light your life on fire

Gain a deep and sustained excitement about the day ahead and shift your mindset

from

Develop an attitude of gratitude and shift from the self -sabotaging attitude of "have-

to-do to "want-to-do" and no longer feel like you have to run away or escape from

your life!

You will just be loving how you live-everyday!

How would it feel to have THAT kind of life?


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Keep reading and find out!

As we tie things up in this program you will learn a few matters of ENERGY! And energy

matters my friends. It is everything. Scientists and spiritualist alike agree in totality on thatone.

You will become that person that walks in a room and lights it up. Your energy will be

radiant and positive. I will teach you how to swiftly remove that little gray cloud that might

be floating above you, dampering your mood and impacting your family, friends, coworkers-

everybody, because believe me- IT DOES.

With a few simple breathing techniques and posture adjustments, you can learn to

immediately arrest energy zapping and stress inducing negativity that drags you into the abyss

of misery. This allows you to stop that freefall into the blackhole-bring it to a screeching halt!

Roadblocks in place you become powerful to redesign stragtegies that elevate you from sick

and tired, exhausted and overwhelmed, to a renewed and vibrant you that now has

maximum traction to do anything and achieve everything.

Stress is linked to about 90% of all disease

. So, not only does this program help you develop

your mindset, it can help you be physically more healthy. BONUS right there!

THIS GUIDE IS FOR YOU….

If you are ready to stop chasing that wild goose, spinning your wheels,

and suffering the maddening frustration of―samestuff-different day. ‖

If you are ready to get the upper hand over your obstacles and challenges

If you are tired of having a flimsy foundation that gets shaken to its core every

time the wind blows. You want to handle life better.

If that sounds like you, then let‘s get building that ROCK SOLID foundation!

Do you want—?

• Better relationships

• A more meaningful life

• Health

• Wealth

• Resilience

• Outstanding career

• Satisfaction

Sure you do. Doesn‘t everybody?


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I‘d be lying if I said this work is easy. I‘d be lying if I said that I live every day without frustration

or angst. We all have challenges, each and every day. But with the tools and tips and practices

in this guide, you have at the ready, effective strategies for helping you through them.

THIS PROGRAM AND ALL IT‖S WONDERFULNESS WILL NOT ERASE OR ELIMINATE

CHALLENGES FROM YOUR LIFE. Just know that from the get go.

It will help you handle them much better. When you can handle life better, you can have a

better life!

WHAT I ASK OF YOU

I ask that you set an intention of understanding that there is no magic bullet. No quick fix. It

takes commitment to doing better and being better at your approach to life.

YOU WILL BE FACED WITH OBSTACLES THAT WILL TRY YOUR EVER LIVING PATIENCE.

YOU WILL FEEL FRUSTRATED FROM TIME TO TIME.

YOU WILL ENCOUNTER NEGATIVITY.

This guide will give you the tools and practices that teach you how to stop for a brief moment,

reassess, and re-strategize.So if you are ready to start building that ROCK SOLID foundation….

LET‘S GET BUSY!

Peace,

Deanna


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Introduction

Hitting Rock Bottom, Re-surfacing, and Making it All Happen

Section 1: Mindset--- You Must Start Here

• YOU ARE NOT BROKEN- Stop Trying To Change

• What do you really believe about yourself

• What ARE you thinking? Take Control of Your Mind & Life- Turn Off the Autopilot

Section 2: Intention

• What do you really want out of YOUR life

• Dream Big--Average & Mediocre DO NOT equate to success

• Time to Own IT! State your intention–THEN GO DO IT!

Section 3: State of Being- Choose to Be Happy Right NOW

• Energy Matters: Change your state IMMEDIATELY

• Lean Toward the Positive

• Process the Negative

• And for the love- BREATHE!!!! It‘s not optional

Section 4: In the End- There is Always a New Beginning….. (That‘s deep isn‘t it?)

Click on image for link to your workbook

Table of Contents


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Don’t live for the bounty

of tomorrow.

Live in the beauty of

today!

-Deanna Eiting


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About the Author

As a survivor of domestic violence, successfully battling a potentially life threatening illness,

and treacherously navigating the desperate throws of depression and suicidal thoughts, she

knows intimately how to rebuild your self-esteem, self-worth, and health & wellness in

general! Her desire is to help others who feel stuck in a rut, unsure of themselves, or thosewho are wanting more out of life.

And she does it in a quick & simple format, allowing people to GET ON WITH LIFE NOW

Through her powerful blogs, webinars, social media interactions, books, programs, and live

speaking events, she is helping people take control of their lives, find peace of mind, and

achieve all the success they ever dreamed of (and getting some amazing surprises they could

have never imagined).

Deanna Eiting is the self-proclaimed

of As the

CEO/Founder of Real Living Academy, her

mission/vision are to empower others to find

their purpose & passion, cultivate absolute

happiness, and create a remarkable life that is

worth living! Her holistic approach focuses on

body-mind-spirit practices and principles to

build a strong and balanced life.

She is the creator of an internationally growing

Facebook community appropriately named

―Declaration of Happiness.‖ This space was

created when Deanna was below rock bottom

and she needed inspiration. One of her many

mantras is ― When you feel helpless- help

others.‖ And so she did.

Deanna openly & honestly shares the truth, the

pain & the glory of life and teaches her clients

to build a strong, unshakeable personal

foundation that enables them to handle anyadversity that life throws at them- Making

them ROCK SOLID. When you handle life

better - you have a better life.


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Introduction

Hitting Rock Bottom, Re-Surfacing, and Making It All Happen

The bathroom floor is cold. There is no nice fluffy rug to cushion me as I lay in fetal position with a razor

blade in my hand. Not much solace would have been found in a luxury item like a soft rug anyway.

I was exhausted.

Physically ill.

Financially broke.

And spiritually shattered.

The infection on my face was raging. A painfully obvious reminder of the stress I had been carrying for

years. You see, stress will find its way out of your body one way or another. If you don‘t effectively

manage it, it will force you to do so. And this usually comes as some sort of ailment.

―MRSA,‖ they said. A potentially life threatening infection that will eat away at your flesh. And it was

smack dab in the middle of my cheek.

After the surgical removal of the invading bacteria, antibiotic therapy for weeks and weeks. No work. No

visitors. MRSA is so highly contagious and everyone around you is at risk.

I felt like a leper. Seriously should have bought a one-way ticket to the colony. But, I was broke and stuck

just trying to decontaminate my house and myself daily. Daily sheet washing. Daily bleach wash down of

bathroom, kitchen and living room. Daily surgical soap scrub of my entire body that left me raw and sore.

I had no energy. Keeping up with the rigorous detail was overwhelming.

Just one more thing I couldn‘t take care of. The list was growing and my mind was in negative overdrive.

I was spiraling down a very dark road into the abyss of devastation.

The year preceding my diagnosis saw the culmination of things that could be likened to the ―perf ect

storm.‖

I had lost all control and the storm was raging.

I met my abuser in 2004 just a short while after I had divorced my children‘s father. I was lonely. And he

was interested.


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He rescued me from the single mom lifestyle of shabby jeans and t-shirts, all work-no play and brought

some life back to the woman in me who desperately needed to feel wanted and loved by a man.

I was a walking target.

I saw the signs. I saw his control increasing. I saw what he was doing. But the trap sets quickly and you

become stuck.

The physical abuse is nothing compared to the psychological warfare in which they drown you. He

threatened to kill me and my children if I ever left.

And I believed him. I knew what he was capable of.

The night he wrapped his hands around my neck, threw me face down on the bed, telling me he would

―…Takewhat he wanted from me because I belonged to him,‖ I knew one way or another the outcome of

this situation was not going to be good.

When an abuser steps over the line from physical and emotional abuse to sexual domination, the

likelihood of the victim being killed increases exponentially.

The likelihood that they will target other members of the family increases exponentially as well. And my

daughters were in the home often.

My choices- stay and face my abuser everyday knowing that my risk of serious harm or possibly death was

real. Knowing that the risk for my daughters was very real. Or leave. Knowing that the risk of leaving

presents an even more dangerous situation.

I left. I was going to fight for my life away from him. If I was going to die, I was going to do it trying to

save myself and my girls. I chose not to lie down and give up! I isolated myself from my children and

kept them far away for a long time. He knew that was my weak spot and I was certain he would target

them.

I was in my late 30‘s at this time. I had to move back to my parent‘s home for safety reasons. I lost my

home. My car. My belongings. My career. My self-esteem. My friends. My health. I nearly lost my

family in the process. I lost my freedom. I was never left alone for over a year. Dad made sure of that.

But the hardest part in the aftermath of this destruction was losing the respect of my children. They didn‘t

understand. They felt abandoned by the one person who was supposed to protect them.

My oldest daughter, 13 at the time, wanted nothing to do with me.

She blamed me for letting this happen. She hated me. She never wanted to see me again. She felt like she

had no momma and would be better off without me.

And the guilt consumed me.

And the razor blade held the answer.

The world would be better off without me. I had nothing left to offer.


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The Voice that Called

When I looked in the mirror that dreadful night, holding a sharp blade, what I saw was a worn-out,

forever scared, ugly shell of myself. I had failed at everything. I had failed my children and I couldn‘t bare

the sight of myself anymore.

The bathroom floor was cold. And so was I.

But a strange thing happened while I was laying there deciding which approach would do the job most

swiftly.

A voice popped into my head and said ―D, what keeps you going?‖

Naturally, I think, ―Nothing. I am done. I am not going on.‖

―You‘ve been through so much. So many other people would have given up long before you have. What

keeps you going?‖

This is getting annoying as you can imagine. I didn‘t need a friggen pep talk. I was trying to kill myself.

―D- You have to keep going. It‘s not over. ‖

And at that moment- I paused.

Something in my head and heart knew that voice was right.

I did not have an answer right at that moment as to what had kept me going all the previous years----

But I sudden ly realized that I had a purpose. I didn‘t escape the bonds of violence to end up laying here

on this cold floor.

I didn‘t fight like hell to get away and save my life and the lives of my children to end up laying here onthis cold floor.

I didn‘t change my entire lifestyle to try and fight this life threatening infection for nothing!

I could not let all this be in vain.

I put the blade down. I made a decision to continue fighting for my life.

I didn‘t know what kept me going. But I started a mission to figure it out.

I didn‘t know what it was that was coming. I only knew it would be bigger and better than where I was

currently. It had to better than lying on the cold floor of my bathroom. Anything would have been UP.

My pain and misery, trials and trauma were a gift that I had not yet realized. And they were going to be

my catalyst.

Let your biggest setback become your greatest comeback.

And so it is.


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Resurfacing, Rebuilding, and Making It All Happen

I had zero idea how I was going to get out of this mess. How was I going to rise above? How was I going

to re-surface from the muck and mire of rock bottom in which I was drowning?

But—I did!

I simply started to rebuild. Step-by-step. Day by day. Sometimes, minute by minute.

Something amazing started to happen along the way. People started asking me for advice.

Me? The financially broke, physically ill, and spiritually fractured woman who was a victim of domestic

violence and carried a clinical diagnosis likened to PTSD. Who failed miserably at life…? Seriously?

I was confused and baffled.

And then, just like any light bulb or aha moment- I had clarity.

I knew my purpose.

My story was meant to be shared. I was given a voice and I needed to get the message out there. People

wanted to know how to be strong and resilient.

People wanted to know how to build a strong personal foundation.

If you are going through a difficult period in your life, and you just can‘t see the light, or you have lost

hope and you just can‘t see a way to turn things around, please understand that I get it.

Please know this- there is always a way

Never give up There are some incredible things awaiting you!

My Life Now

It has been 6 years since I put the razor blade down.

I have never again contemplated ending my life.

Every day I am grateful for the new opportunities that await me when I wake up.

I am inspired. I am optimistic. I am strong.

I am now pursuing my PhD in Metaphysics- which is the study of the nature of the universe from a

philosophical view: Why am I here? What is my purpose?

I am happily remarried to the most genuine, loving, intelligent, supportive man that I could have ever

dreamed of.


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I work every day on building my business – from my home. My reach and impact increase every day. I

happily receive messages from around the world thanking me for being brave enough to share my story

and transparent enough that it‘s just real and inspiring.

I am writing a book –finally! It has been burning inside me.

I have achieved many of my goals and dreams since that life changing night on my bathroom floor. I

don‘t tell you that to impress you. I tell you that because I want you to know that you CAN make

amazing things happen. You can learn to handle disappointment, because guess what- it happens.

Sometimes things just don‘t go exactly how we planned. When you build a solid foundation and

understand a few things about life- you will come to know that even disappointment can be valuable.

I have my freedom!

It takes a little belief. A little time. And some courage.

And, I am now closer to my two daughters than I think I would have ever been had we not endured those

trials and challenges. We are deeply open and honest with each other. I know my children so very well.

And they know me.

My oldest daughter is now following her own dreams and making her way in the world. She texts or calls

me daily. Just to check in.

She calls me―momma.‖ And my heart and soul soar!

My youngest daughter is on track to graduate high school ahead of time and is making plans to attend

early enrollment college.


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I finally did something right!

So, no matter where you are in your life right now, I want to assure you that there is HOPE. Always!

The key-critical factor that you must embrace right now- is NEVER GIVE UP!

I want you to say that out loud- right now- No matter how hard it gets, I WILL NEVER GIVE UP.

I want you to share your unique gifts with the world. The world needs you. There is no one else like you.

I want for you to come alive and experience the good stuff too! And I want to empower you with the

strength and resilience to handle all the obstacles and challenges with grace and gratitude- become a

stronger you!

Let me make it a little easier for you. I don‘t want you to have to take 7, 8, 10 years to figure a few things

out. Let me share with you a way that builds your foundation of strength, resilience, hope, and success

that allows you to GET ON WITH YOUR AM AZING & REMARKABKLE LIFE- RIGHT NOW

Follow along. Learn. Integrate the principles and practices I share, and I promise it will make a grand

difference in your life.

Just as it has mine.

I do not believe in coincidence. Everything happens for a very specific purpose. arIteihs enroeaccident that you

reading this.

Your time is now. You have been searching for an answer. A solution. A guide.

You and I are together for a specific purpose.

How about we agree that it is time for you step into your greatness. I know it‘s in you. No more excuses.

No more waiting and wondering.

Let‘s discover who you really are. What you really want.


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And exactly how to get there. And more importantly if you ask me- is HOW TO STAY THERE!

Sound fair?

Awesome!

Let‘s get building shall we?

What Next?

This program is structured in 3 unique parts. Each is integral to your building a solid foundation. This will

become your solution to ending the frustrating and overwhelming obstacle course you run with your

challenges driving you to a head on collision with what you DON"T WANT to running on the right track,

in stride with WHAT YOU DO WANT.

Section 1: Mindset---You Must Start Here

In this section we explore what you are thinking and believing. Evict the negative self-talk tenet from your

mind space and gain the upper hand over your obstacles so you can remodel and re -frame them as Lessons

of Perfection- they are exactly what you need to reconstruct and re-consolidate a sound path to your

highest potential. Mindset is the #1 critical factor in building and expanding your life. If your mind isn‘t in

the right frame, you will continue to spin your wheels and you will not move from struggling to thriving.

Section 2: Intention

This section you will learn how to purposefully and powerfully realize the deep seeded visions and dreams

that drive you at your core-the hunger you feel for more and the craving that seeps into your dreams and

thoughts daily. Revealing YOUR WHY will help you conquer the beast of fear, cultivate your

determination, reinforce your motivation, and inspire you into action. You will transform from mere

dreamer to tenacious-persistent DOER!

Section 3: Choose Your "State" Now

In this section you will be introduced to matters of energy. How to use the Laws of the Universe to your

advantage and how to change your mind state quickly and easily to stay in a positive mindset that brings

to you all that you desire. You will also learn how to swiftly process those negative emotions and feelings

so they don‘t fester inside your body creating disease and disharmony. This will help you stay strong during

times of challenge! No more shall we have extended pity parties- stop that dance and put away that black

tie attire!

Each section is specifically aimed at building the foundation you need to be strong, resilient, and remarkable.

These 3 elements are the foundation for all other practices and principles of personal development and

success.

I want you to make a commitment to read the entire book.

Take notes. Do the work!!! (hint-hint! This is actually required )


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When you are done, send me a note. I would love to hear how this program has helped you. Did you

have any aha moments? Did you have any breakthroughs? Are you still struggling?

I am happy to share this process that transformed my life. My deepest and sincerest hope is that you too

find the peace, happiness, joy, success, and life you deserve.

From Rock Bottom to Rock Solid

Let‘s build that strong personal foundation that creates unstoppable momentum in your life!


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This is CRITICAL

In order for you to achieve any kind of success in your life whether that is financial, health & wellness,

relationships, career, business, or just building that strong foundation on which everything else rests:

YOUR MIND

MUST

BE IN THE PROPER STATE

I am going to debunk a long standing myth right now – that when I fully embraced and understood -

COMPLETELY TRANSFORMED MY OUTLOOK AND APPROACH TO LIFE IN HUGE-MONUMENTAL

WAYS!

HUGE-MONUMENTAL! Got that? Good.

You do not need to change. You are not broken or in need of fixing. And the more you tell

yourself you need to change, the more you create the idea that you are broken.

And that creates a negative feedback loop in your mind. It projects a negative situation/attraction out into

the universe. And it reinforces negative core beliefs (lies) that are sabotaging your life.

And it is exactly what you will get back. Negative-negative-negative- broken. Vicious circle of―needingto

fix ‖ yourself."BOOMERANG!"

In the sometimes confusing world of self-help and personal development people often seek an answer to

the question ―whatis my purpose? ‖The answers run the gamut.

It‘s no wonder people are continuing to struggle.

Section 1


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In my research, schooling, and experience I have found that there are 3 components to our purpose as

human beings. We all have the same ―purpose.‖ What make us unique are our passions, our unique

desires and/or ―calling‖in life. Often the words are used synonymously. I believe they are different.

The purpose to the life of human beings is:

• To grow personally• To evolve forward

• To expand into your highest potential

How you choose to do these three things is entirely up to you.

So how does this relate to ―change‖ and the idea that you are not broken?

Here‘s the good stuff that really changed my attitude, mindset and approach to my life.

YOU MUST BE CHALLENGED

In order for anything to grow, evolve or expand--- IT MUST BE CHALLENGED.

It must be given the opportunity to push past limitations or obstacles to discover its strength- To expand

and evolve.

Nothing that sustains life has ever evolved ―BACKWARDS.‖ We are not meant to do that. If you do not

evolve, you will eventually die. Literally and/or figuratively.

The infinite wisdom of the Universe, Nature, or the God of your understanding only wants expansion and

evolution. The opportunities are given to you as gifts or lessons.

Everything, the good, the bad, the ugly is delivered to you so that you might step up!

It is quite arrogant for us to say ―Whydoes this bad stuff always happen TO me? ‖No-

no my friends. It happens for you.

And everything is unfolding perfectly for you to fulfill that HUMAN PURPOSE!

It‘s not broken. You are not broken. You don‘t need to change.

ACTION STEP:

Before you go any further- I want you to say out loud-

I AM NOT BROKEN. I DO NOT NEED TO CHANGE

Then say out loud-

EXPAND INTO

OPPORTUNITIES AND THEY ARE PERFECT FOR ME.‖


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Disaster! The subconscious held steady as your ever ready servant, but it couldn‘t course correct for the

―curvein the road. ‖It held course as programmed until you came to a complete stop. Weren‘t expecting

that now were ya? You had different plans, but your subconscious has more power.

The subconscious is a just a large data bank of all our experiences, thoughts, feelings and here‘s the BIGGIE-

OUR PERCEPTIONS!

It cannot and does not distinguish fact fromfiction. Hence the use of the word―lies‖ .

It only knows what you tell it.

And that input comes originally from the conscious mind.

It‘s kind of a vicious cycle with a beginning that‘s somewhat hard to determine. Research shows that input

into the conscious mind started when we were little itty bitty folk.

When we are young, usually less than 7 years old, we are pretty much a blank slate. Like a hard-drive that

needs software, we are just soaking up all kinds of information, usually with no regard to its truth or

validity. We model those around us, those usually with some authority, like parents, teachers, religious

leaders, older siblings and so on. We believe most of what is told to us, because we trust these authorities.

An interesting part of this is that while we are so blind to trust these people, we are ―egocentric‖in our

rationalization and interpretation of what they teach us. Meaning, the world revolves around us and

everything that happens is usually because of our doing.

―It‘s all my f ault,‖ that is how we think when we are forming beliefs.

It is just the way the childhood brain processes. This can be direct or indirect.

Let me explain-

Take the situation where you have an insensitive parent who says things like‖

―Can‘t you do anything right?‖

―Are you EVER going to get this? ‖

―Are you stupid or something?‖

Now these are very direct, painful and obvious. We can certainly see where a painful memory would

develop and a complete shattering of self-esteem for the child. They become hard-wired beliefs because

we attach a very unpleasant emotion to them. We feel it was all our fault and we have disappointed these

people we trust.

And we carry these beliefs with us into our adulthood. LIMITS like you can‘t believe!

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We model people in our lives as we try to figure out how to fit into society. Our illogical child brain

makes generalizations, usually inaccurate, as we can‘t possibly see or understand all the other possibilities,

and then the real issue comes in.

We have an emotional response to this event. If the event were painful, which in our little kid brains,most events are, we create a ―belief ‖ and form a pattern in our brain that says ―Iam never letting that

happen again. ‖And the subconscious brain sets to work for you. It will do everything in its power to

ensure that you never experience that sort of pain again.

It does so in the form of LIMITING BELIEFS. Lies. Negative self-talk. Know what I am talkin about? So

how does that work for ―corebeliefs ‖that you are still carrying with you today, in your adulthood?

Negative, limiting core beliefs will drastically reduce your chances of happiness and fulfillment in life.

You have probably heard the story about elephants being trained. If you haven‘t, you are in for some

fascinating stuff about the power of the mind.

When elephants are being trained for a circus or for life in a zoo, they have a large chain attached to their

foot. When they try to move, the chain stops them. This is repeated over and over. Eventually the chain

is removed, the e lephant has ―freedom‖but he goes no further than the chain that previously held himwould let him go. .

The chain is no longer there- but the limiting belief is!

That is the power of conditioning . And that is exactly what we experience when core beliefs are forming.

Let‘s take an indirect example of conditioning and how we form limiting core beliefs.

Little kids need help to do things. Would you agree? We can‘t always reach things on high shelves. Or putour shoes on. Or cut our food, etc. You get my point.

Our loving parents and teachers offer to help us by saying ―Oh let me help you with that. ― Or ―Hey, let

me show you how to do it the right way.‖

In our illogical brains we start this ―it‘smy fault ‖scenario and start believing that we are incapable and

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And we carry that into adulthood.

'Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion

will someday become reality." Earl Nightingale

Over time, similar experiences elicited similar ―feelings ‖and we started to create this groove of response in

our brain. Eventually it ended up deeply imbedded in our subconscious and became a ―TRUTH‖ to us.

At some point, it became an autopilot or cruise control response. The details were programmed. You just

went along. And the subconscious was doing all the thinking and rapid fire responses.

This became so engrained and invisible to you, you were no longer even aware it was happening. You

probably have uttered the phrase ―Ohwell- that‘s just like me to do that. ‖

Habitual reactions vs. conscious responses.

The subconscious mind functions as a way to protect us. Back when you had a ―negative‖experience, you

interpreted the e xperience as ―painful.‖ Your subconscious mind doesn‘t want you to experience pain andconsequently it developed protective mechanisms in order to ensure that you never had a painful

experience again. (that‘s the negative self-talk you hear- BTW)

The problem is that we usually interpret the experience as a reflection

or truth about ourselves. We attach a negative characteristic to

ourselves. This thing happened therefore I am bad or not good

enough. Usually this interpretation was in error. But, we embed it

deeply into our subconscious mind and it becomes what we believe

about ourselves.

Often these show up as negative core beliefs or limiting beliefs and the

negative self-talk that goes on in your mind. If you are not controlling

them- they are controlling you and it‘s never a good thing to get up

from the driver‘s seat! You gotta be watching for those curves in the

road.

When we develop our awareness of these beliefs (lies), erroneous misinterpretations, we are much more

powerful in eliminating them and developing powerful truths that are much more beneficial to our success

in life.

―We don‘t get

what we WANT

in life- we get

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When you complete this program- jump on into our community of people who have embraced my

advanced trainings on ―REALLiving. ‖ We explore and expand o n limiting beliefs and BASHING them

from your mind as well as tuning into your awareness!

In order for us to grow and create that rock solid foundation, our mind must also be in what is referred to

as the ―GROWTHMINDSET.‘

Out mindsets, views and beliefs have a significant impact, if not the most impact on our success in both the

short term and long term.

Are you actually ready for growth or not?

Mindset Mastery Exercises

In order to grow, evolve, and expand into your highest potential you MUST have a mindset that BELIEVES

that it is possible to do such a thing.

New research shows that the brain, yes even the adult brain, is much more pliable and can continue to

learn even into advanced ages ( so no more excuses that you can‘t learn).

Here you will be provided with thought provoking questions that will challenge you to get outside your

comfort zone. And that is exactly what you need to do to GROW and SUCCEED. The brain is a muscle.

The more you work it, the smarter it becomes. Truth right there folks!

You create new neural networks and higher intelligence every time you challenge your brain.

But really, the ultimate truth of all self-help and personal development comes down to WHAT YOU

BELIEVE. Let‘s look at that now. Let‘s see if you are growth minded or just fixed and stagnating.

Answer the following questions as they pertain to your overall way of thinking-

1. I believe capabilities are seen as inborn talents that are hardly, if ever, changeable. Y N

2. I try to appear as capable as much as possible. Y N

3. I usually avoid challenges because if I fail people may think I am not talented or smart. Y N

4. I believe that if you are talented you don‘t have to put forth much effort. Y N

5. If I suspect that adversity or failure is possible, I will quit early . Y N

6. I do not like criticism- constructive or otherwise. Y N

7. I often look at talented peo ple and think ―wow I wish I were that great.‖ Y N

8. Not everyone has high or great potential. Some people are just not talented. Y N

9. I find it difficult to work in teams where feedback and cooperation are required. Y N


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If you have more ―YES‖answers than ―NO‖ answers chances are your mindset is in what Carol Dweck, one

of the world‘s foremost researchers in the field of motivation and learning, Professor of Psychology at

Stanford University, refers to as the FIXED mindset.

The FIXED mind is rigid and does not allow for new experiences or growth. It sees oneself as a certain way

and that it can never be different.

―Iwas born this way- that never ―changes.‖ ―Ican‘t do that because . ‖(Insert any

number of reasons why not).

But do not b e discouraged. There are numerous ways to transition and retrain your brain to a place where

you can learn and grow.

A GROWTH MINDSET IS KEY TO EVERYTHING IN LIFE

Move from FIXED Mindset to GROWTH Mindset

Step 1: Learn to hear that IXED

mindset voice

(It‘s that pesky dude on your shoulder telling you what you can‘t do or shouldn‘t do).

It often sounds like:

As you face a challenge: Are you really sure you can do this.

You will fail. You can‘t be a failure.

People will laugh at you for thinking you had

talent or ability.

As you have a setback: ―This would have been a lot easier if you actuallyhad talent and were smart.‖

―You have shown the world how limited you reallyare.‖

―Just back out now. Make up some excuse. Try toregain some dignity.‖

When you receive criticism: ―It wasn‘t my f ault. It was someone else who got inmy way and made it go bad.‖

― Who do they think THEY are? I will put them in

their place.‖

Someone may even be giving just constructive

criticism but what you hear is:

―Iam really disappointed in you. I thought you

could do it. But now I see you can‘t. ‖


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Step 2: Realize you have a choice in your thinking

Recall that the subconscious brain is only operating off what you tell it. It can be reprogrammed.

You have two choices:

1. Operate from a ―FIXED‖ mindset and believe that you are limited in ability and talent and that you can‘t

learn and grow

-Keep listening to that negative self-talk and you will be assured of total stagnation

2. Operate from a ―GROWTH‖ mindset and realize that your obstacles are simply signs that you need to

redesign some strategies, turn up your effort, reach and stretch outside that comfort zone (there is no

growth in that zone), and simply expand your abilities.

Understand that EVERY great person w ho has had success started at the bottom or hit rock bo ttom at

some point.

I am ok

failing like

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Step 3: Have a conversation with that negative-fixed mindset

Fixed Mindset says: Growth Mindset says:

When you face a challenge:

― re

you sure you can handle

this. Remember how it went

down last time?

―Whatif you fail-you probably

will. You can‘t be a failure?

―I

am not sure I can do this now,

but I can learn to in time and

with effort.

Most successful people have

failures. It is how they learn.

If you hit a set back :

This would have been easy if

you were smart or talented.

―That

is wrong. Even Michael

Jordan was cut from a basketball

team. JK Rowling was turned

down by numerous publishers.

They had passion and belief and

put forth a lot of effort

You receive criticism:

―It‘snot my fault. It was the

weather, the economy, my

coworker, my spouse,

etc

―If

I don‘t take responsibility, I

can‘t ever make it better. No

matter how painful it is I will

listen and learn whatever Ican

Now--

Step 4: Take action with a ― ROWTH MINDSET

philosophy

It‘s your choice which voice you listen to.

It will impact your success in anything you do-- MASSIVELY!

Are you going to take on challenges wholeheartedly? Or back down and stay stuck?

Are you going to learn from your setbacks, make them your biggest comeback? Or dwell on and live in

misery?

Are you going to take criticism for what it‘s worth? (who is giving you this criticism anyway- if it isn‘t

someone you look up to as a role model-who lives the way you want to live-I would stop and question

their advice to its worth anyway!) Learn from the input you receive. Take it into your own hands and

do something constructive with it.


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Activity # 1-

Make a list of some things you feel you are really good at and some things you would like to do better.

You can make this list as long as you like- but I recommend having at least 5.

Next to each- identify WHY you are good at them. Like really- toot your own horn for a minute! Whatdo you do that makes you great?

Next to the things you do very well- identify and explain how you can continue to improve on them.

Then, write down what you think would you have to do to expand on the good and also enhance the

things you would like to do better.

Finally- as with all things I teach- explore your WHY. Why would it be important for you to continue to

improve on your skill? How will you feel? What benefits can you identify? Does it improve your way of

living? Boost your confidence and sense of satisfaction?

Skill I am

Great At What makes

me GREAT at

this skill?

Can I Improve

on it? What do I need to do

to enhance my ability? Why Would I Want to

make it

―greater

List 3-5 skills

you feel you

are really

good at

Identify the

things you do

that make you

really good at

this skill

Is there room

for

improvement

or do you

want to ramp

it up?

What things can you

identify that could be

done to enhance your

skill?

Your WHY is always going

to be your motivator.

Understanding how you

feel about it and how it will

make you more confident,

happy, successful are key to

keeping at it when you

might not feel like it

Activity # 2-

Think of a time you worked really hard on something, a project or developing a new skill. And you

surprised yourself with your commitment.

Use a notepad and write for at least 3 minutes. Just let it out. Don‘t judge or hold back.

What was it that kept you going? Did you feel like giving up but didn‘t. How did it turn out?

How did you feel when it was done? Hang on to that feeling because I know it‘s a good one!

Research shows that we tend to focus on and spend more time thinking about our negative feelings and

experiences than we do when we experience something positive.

Hold a positive feeling or experience in your brain and heart longer than you do a negative experience

and you will start to shift from a negative state to a positive state.


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Activity # 3-

Pick a skill or craft you‘d really like to develop or improve upon.

Draw up a 2 week action plan for how you do this.

What do you need to do to learn it? How will you bring it into your daily activities?

(I promise you- if it is important enough to you- you will find the time)

Skill I‘d Like to Learn What do I need to do to

start learning this skill?

When will I do it? How do I feel about taking

on something NEW

Research shows that when we challenge our brains we

actually develop new

neurons and increase our

intelligence. It also boosts

our confidence and self-

esteem –just the mere act

of TRYING. Even if we

aren‘t successful the first

time- we gain new courage

to continue learning!

There is no excuse for notbeing able to learn these

days. The internet is full of

FREE information that can

help get you started on

your new skill!

JUST DO IT. (thanks NIKE

Corp for this phenomenal

motivational tid-bit)

Pick a time and stick to it.Or if your schedule is crazy

and unpredictable, just

commit to a certain

amount of time that you

will dedicate and stick with

that.

Do something every day

that supports your new

learning and

skill/craft/hobby.

Be honest with yourself.New things can be

intimidating or

overwhelming. Honor

those feelings and then

have a little talk with that

FIXED mindset.

You may not know how to

do it NOW, but with

persistence and

commitment you will

learn!

Be sure to honor your

excitement too! New stuff

is fun!

Although journaling can be time consuming, it is by far the best way to track and see your progress.

You can keep it simple. Just a few thoughts about your new undertaking. Research shows that if youwill write your thoughts once or twice a week it is actually more effective than daily journaling.

How‘s it going? What did you learn? Are you having fun?

Having the proper mindset will be key to building a strong personal foundation. It allows you to navigate

through the challenges that life will send you.

And remember- life throws you these challenges not as a punishment- but as opportunity for growth.

Nonetheless- they can be trying. I would be lying if I said it was always easy. It isn‘t.

But when I started implementing these practices and I stayed committed to them, my life really started

to transform. I gained courage and self-esteem. I gained a new found confidence. I gained the

strength to get back up and continue reaching for my highest potential.


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Why Do I Succeed?

I succeed because I am willing to do the things you

are not. I will fight against the odds. I will sacrifice!

I am not shackled by fear, insecurity or doubt. I feel

those emotions. Drink them in and then swallow

them away to the blackness of hell. I am motivated

by accomplishment. Not pride. Pride consumes the

weak, kills their hearts from within. If I fall- I willget up! If I am beaten-I will return.

I will never stop

getting better. I will never give up- EVER.


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Is this YOUR life?

Are you doing all the things you WANT to do? Are you doing some of the things you WANT to do? Or

are you continuing to run into the things you DON"T WANT TO DO?

Are you enjoying the things you are doing?

Do youre lly

know what you want to do?

At some point, for many of us, adulthood brings responsibilities, that while so enjoyable, like kids andmarriage and such, these day-to day things seem to push other dreams we had to the back burner. Or to

the freezer in your garage for safe keeping until such time you can revisit them.

You know- the classic bucket list I-will-do-when-I-retire mindset.

Many of us have forgotten our dreams. They are too much to ask for now.

This is where the stuck-in-the-rut syndrome sets in.

This is where people start to get restless, change careers, get divorced. Have a midlife crisis.

But it doesn‘t have to be that way

One of the best ways to get out of your rut is to reallyreflect

on what it is you want your life to be. And -

--this is important so T KE NOTE—BE GR TEFUL FOR WH T YOU H VE NOW .

In my trainings on ― The Cultivation of Absolute Happiness- Smile-! It Makes People Wonder What You Are

Up

To ‖

we delve deeper in to the Practice of Gratitude and how it profoundly impacts your life.

Intention:

An action performed with awareness, done

deliberately and consciously & on purpose.

Webster's Dictionary

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What is it you truly want out of life? If you could envision YOUR ABSOLUTE PERFECT LIFE, what does

that look like? Are there PERFECT things in your life already? (Please don‘t forget those)

Now, if you are serious, and I assume you are if you have stayed with me this far, (Congrats on that by the

way- you are miles ahead of so many other people- who simply give up!) ….

Before you go any further-

Find a quiet place. Sit back and

relax and start visualizing the

Engage all your senses.

See it.

Hear it.

Smell

Taste it.

Touch it.

Dream big and let go of any

judgment you have about it.

I strongly encourage you to follow this practice. If you have tried it before and had little to no success and youthink it‘s a waste of time- I am going to add a KEY element that makes all the difference in the world. It was one

that was missing for me for years. It will determine whether you are successful or not. Plain and simple

WHAT S YOUR WHY?


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Knowing your WHY is the secret to defeating the best of fear, cultivating your determination, andreinforcing your motivation that truly inspires action for maximum traction of achieving your

dreams and desires!

Ask yourself these questions- Why do I want this? When I see this vision of my best life

how do I feel? What does this life do for me, my family, and my community?

Did you do it?

I hope so. You will need to refer to your writing in future exercises. If your INTENTION is to build a

strong, unshakable personal foundation for an unstoppable & remarkable life worth living, then I trust you

understand that doing the work is critical.

You can wish upon a star all night long, but a dream without action is merely a hallucination. The world

doesn‘t need more hallucinations or unfocused dreamers. It needs more dreamers who are DOING.


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In my advanced trainings we go very deep into discovering the most powerful part of your why. I hope

you will join me there! You will be receiving e-mails about the product suites as you are now part of my

community.

You have already done some of the hardest work you will

have to do!

Figuring out what you want I want you to leave the ―HOW‖ part alone f or now.

Now you know what you want out of your life by doing the above exercise.

So set it in motion

(Remember the exercise on the skills you want to improve and the skills you want to

learn? Get those out now )

Action Step

Declaring Your Intentions

Intention - What I Am Going to Do with My Life! Use your language very precisely. This is not what I

WANT to do with my life- It is very focused on what I AM going to do. Very different words- very

different intentions.

Write down your intentions as they fit with your ―best day-in my best life ‖L.ook at the things you desire as

you wrote them in your visioning exercise.


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Example

In my ―best life‖ I see myself healthy, f it, and toned. Strong and f ull of energy.‖

This is your intention . You intend to be healthy, fit, toned, strong and full of energy.

Next to each intention, write the why or reason you intend on do ing or having the ―thing‖.

―

I intend to be healthy, f it, toned, strong and f ull of energy so that I am able to

.‖

What emotion/feeling is welling up inside you as you think about the things you can do when you achieve

your intention? Write it down.

If the reason gets you all emotional and full of motivation- it‘s a good one! Go with it.

The why that makes you cry is the one that will keep you going. Be careful here because sometimes a why

can be negatively driven. It‘s important to turn it into something positive.

Now I want you to rewrite the sentence like this: I AM HEALTHY FIT, TONED, STRONG, and FULL OF

ENERGY AND I AM (fill in the blank with what you are now doing) because when I do this I feel

This builds the foundation for advanced work you can do to identify the how‘s and action steps to

skyrocket your success.

As I shared earlier- at my lowest moment I didn‘t know what I was supposed to do or how I was going to

do it. I only knew I had to do something.

I trusted that it was going to come to me. And it did!

Even if you have to say to yourself, like I did, ―Thisis just a crazy mess. I don‘t know what I want to do. I

don‘t know why this is all happening. I know I am not going through all this for nothing. Something else

will come out of this, ‖that is a good starting place.

OWN IT!

Whether you have grandiose dreams (which I hope you do) or you are

trying to just re-surface and find some oxygen, it is imperative that you

make a very bold statement- from your heart- that says- am doing

this thing because_

It‘s your life my friend. You are in charge. You are the creator. You

are the driver of this vehicle. What plans do you have for yourself?

Are you relying on someone else to tell you those plans? Cuz guess

what- they probably don‘t have much great planned for you. We live

in a world where average is normal and acceptable. But I am guessing

that is not true for you.

TIP:

lways state your intentions in a positive way. Words have energy. Wewant positive states of mind.

“I am open and willing to receive all

the good and wonderful things life

has to offer. I am ready for health,wealth, happiness, success, joy,vitality and strength. I am in the

process of allowing all the good stuffof the universe to come to me.”


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It‘s certainly not for me. I have big dreams. I am not settling. I am not average. And mediocre is

UNACCEPTABLE.

Review your "Best Life " Vision Exercise

What 10 things from your list WILL you accomplish this year?

Write them down!

"I am doing this thing because when I do

I feel ."

I am as serious as a

heart attack here

folks!

It really is that

important!


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So, what is YOUR intention for your life? Do you want to keep colliding with chaos or do you want todance with your dreams?

Just keeping it in your head is not the best practice. I encourage you to write it on a sticky note- keep it

on your refrigerator.

Make a little screen saver inspirational quote picture with your very own personal quotable!

I did that and you wouldn‘t believe the self-confidence boost and pride I got every time I saw my own

words displayed so beautifully.

The mysterious and magical thing that happens when you go from head to paper is that it becomes visible

and ―real‖ .

No longer a wish or hallucination. It exists on paper. It is REPROGRAMMING your subconscious. And it

exists in the universe.

4 Super Charged Tips to Live and Die By when Creating Intentions

1. Focus on VICTORY and your subconscious will start to reprogram and eventually force you to

succeed.

Remember- your subconscious only knows what you tell it and will act accordingly.

It doesn‘t operate of judgment. It‘s only commands are what you tell it to do.

So tell it do something PRODUCTIVE, EFFECTIVE, and WORTHWHILE.

STOP TELLING IT OR BUYING INTO THE FALSE BELIEFS YOU MAY BE HOLDING.

GIVE IT SOMETHING NEW TO DO.

Don‘t dwell on your goals. See them as ―alreadyaccomplished. ‖

This plants a seed for your subconscious to work on.FEEL how it would feel if you had already achieved your goal.

Keep that alive my friends! That is the food and fuel for your

NEW subconscious.

It really does work.

―The gap between your dreams and reality is quite small. And if

you put all your time and energy into having the life you want,

living and breathing your achievements, your subconscious will

eventually kick into overdrive to bridge that gap. ‖ Russ Ruffino

As you practice this NEW way of thinking you move from fear,

anxiety, and tension into joy, peace, and enthusiasm.

TIP

A super charged

powerful way to

increase the probability

that you will achieve

whatever it is youdecide to do is----

MAKE A PUBLIC

DECLARATION!


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2. Understand that the universe, God of your understanding, and energetic patterns have a will

for your life that will ALWAYS transcend your wildest dreams.

You may actually find yourself saying ―Wow- that was totally beyond my wildest dreams ‖

someday!

The success that you dream of is just a fraction of what you can achieve. Reality will transcend

it.

3. Visualize & Meditate Daily

It is so important to keep the visions and your intentions in your sight EVERYDAY!

Whether you think about them. Ponder over them. Whatever it is you do to keep that vision

in the forefront of your brain is what will drive it deep into your subconscious where

reprogramming will start.

We train the subconscious with repetition. Plain and simple.

Meditation doesn‘t have to be a complicated endeavor.

Do it in the shower. Do it on your lunch break. 15-20 minutes of quiet brain time where you

just let your visions cross your mind.

Make sure you thank the Universe or God of your understanding in advance for the things

you desire.

In my advanced training ―RealLiving –Life Mastery Intensive ‖you will learn the immense

power of your language and how to phrase your sentences to take maximum advantage of

the energy contained in thoughts and words. (language influences EVERYTHING!)

KEEP THIS IN MIND- this process isn‘t about wishing you had a different life cuz today is

awful and you can‘t stand it anymore. It‘s about reprogramming your subconscious with

positive thoughts and NEW ways of being.

It‘s up to you!

As you go about your day it‘s up to you to reject those things that do not line up with yourvisions and intentions. Be aware. If you don‘t, it will eat up at your confidence and that old,

detrimental, faulty programming of the subconscious will sneak right back in. YIKES!

4. Prioritize and take on one thing at a time

The things that need to be on your to-do list are:


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- Things that have an impact

- Things that scare you

- Things that bring with them the possibility of failure

- Requires new learning

Yeah, I know that sounds frightening and uncomfortable. But always remember- if you want to grow and

be and do better- what do I always say- YOU MUST BE CHALLENGED.

And that is true.

And that is powerful!

But this is hard---

Yeah I know. But I want you to seriously ask yourself- WHAT IS HARDER?

Continuing to wish and dream and have the same ol‘same ol‘- day in and out?

Living with regret? I promise you this- you will never live with more misery & regret than wondering whatif….That is a fact!

This is challenging. This may take you out of your comfort zone.

Ahhh! But you remember that evolution, expansion and stepping up to your highest potential require

challenge.

It‘s not going to kill you It‘s actually the perfect thing for you to do! It makes you COME ALIVE!

As you learned- when you challenge your brain – it actually grows and gets stronger. You increase your

intelligence and your abilities!

SUPER BONUS!!!

Staying where you are-stagnating-no growth-wasting- your- awesome- potential---that is slow suicide. Just

waiting out your days in silent torture. Death with a pulse.

No thank you!


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You are ready to grow. Ready to live life with purpose, passion, and all those other remarkable things you

dream about.

No more daydreaming--- We gettin busy building! Unshakeable. Unstoppable. Remarkable and Solid.


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I am not really talking about your physical locale- nor am I suggesting you pick up-pack up and move to

another state.

Although- as we are deep in the middle of winter here where I live and it‘s snowing like a beast outside my

window- the thought of a warmer region does have its appeal.

I am referring to your ―stateof being ‖.Science and spirituality are narrowing the rift that used to divide

them- and they now agree on one thing for sure-

Where it began and who may have created it remain the ever perplexing and frustrating discussion- but in

the end- we are all just energy.

Energy exists in different ―states.‖For simplicity and not to get to heavy with quantum or metaphysics- we

have positive energy and negative energy. You are welcome to read my book on these fascinating

concepts when it is published.

Do you lean to the positive or fall to the negative? Did you realize that you can shift either state in a

about 3 seconds flat?

Do you project confidence, vitality, happiness, resilience? Do you stand tall, with shoulders back and a

smile on your whole face?

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Or does the weight of the world show up on your shoulders? Does the rumination of last night‘s argument

with your spouse dull your spark?

Does the pile of bills on your counter bring a huge sigh of angst and defeat over your life?

If you follow or immerse yourself in any self-help personal development, you have, no doubt, heard that

saying ―Bepresent inthe now. ‖

Live like it‘s your last day on Earth.

Right? You‘ve heard that.

I struggled with this for years.

It felt to me like an abandonment of responsibility. Because I tell you what, if today were truly my last

day on Earth and I knew it- I probably wouldn‘t pay my bills or do laundry or any of that day to day stuff.

Now what is going to happen if I do that every day until the real day that I die?

So I couldn‘t quite embrace this philosophy. I had to still do what I needed to do to live and not have the

repo man come after me or have stinky clothes and a dirty house, but I wanted to become more

connected with ―thenow ‖because I understand that this exact moment is really Ihave.

I wanted to enjoy my life-all the things of my life. I have a million things I NEED to do. How can I enjoy

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For me, learning how to appreciate a moment, while doing the necessities of life became huge

As well as learning when I had to absolutely do the necessities vs. just being. (Permission granted!)

Letting go of the GUILT of just giving myself a day or heck- even an hour where I did just whatever I

wanted.

It was liberating! I found joy in laundry and dishes. And I found joy in allowing myself to step away from

those things to enjoy my recreation and relaxation.

Both are necessary. And at some point, the necessities of life shifted for me. They are part of my life and

when I started to really enjoy them for what they were, my ―state‖ changed immensely.

My life feels like a vacation every day. I don‘t yearn to escape from my day to day. I like to have a

different landscape to look at or go to places I can explore, but I never feel like I have to run away from

―my life‖ anymore.

Ok-honesty and transparency here- I DO NOT LIKE THE SNOW. I DO NOT LIKE SHOVELING THE

SNOW. I DO NOT LIKE ANYTHING TO DO WITH WINTER AND WISH I LIVED IN SUNNY ARIZONA----BUT I DON ‖T .

Let me share a funny story with you about my distaste for winter.

I am a native Utahn. It snows here and is cold for 9 months of the year.

For me anything less than 85 deg F is chilly.

I want to live where the sun shines more than the snow flies and where I can walk outside most any given

day and not have my eyelids freeze shut or my nose grow icicles.

But I am ―stuck‖ here in Utah- (self-inflicted) ---for now.

Choices- right?

So, this year I decided that I seriously needed to practice what I preach and learn to love and live in the

moment that is called Utah Winter.

I declared my intention that I was going to learn how to ―live‖ with the snow and not have such a

negative state of mind. I declared that when we had enough snow, I was going to build an igloo and sit

inside it with a tasty happiness inducing "Deanna" treat! I would decorate it with little white lights and

have a peaceful moment inside.

And- 1 week after I made this declaration- we got 28 inches of snow-from a storm that lasted 3 days

straight. Time to step up and be good on my word. Plus I thought it would make for a good story. Which- it is!


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And the strangest thing happened--- I had fun! I stayed out all day working on my igloo.

Working on me!

I actually enjoyed the snow and cold for the first time in a really long time.

I was truly in the present.

I wasn‘t thinking about the sunshine and warmth I so love. I wasn‘t even really missing it.

I was as they say ―ONE WITH THE SNOW! ‖

What made this different for me was that I had a true desire to embrace someth ing that I didn‘t enjoy and

make it enjoyable. It is all about the mind my friends.

I choose those thoughts.

I always choose how I am going to be.


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And so do you.

What do you choose?

Mundane monotony that drags you down or fresh, soft, clean towels that wrap you in luxury? Clean

dishes on which you can present a healthy, yummy meal to your family?

Be thankful for those things.

If the towels weren‘t clean- well- how would that feel after your nice hot bath or shower?

Yuck. Mildew and stink!

Be thankful for laundry day. Take time to smell them just after they come out of the dryer or off the line.

Appreciate them for what they are and what they do.

You can start doing this practice with any―CHORE‖ .Take time to enjoy the results-even if it is only for a

moment. They will add up!

Choosing in the Moment

When we are hit with an obstacle or circumstance that we don‘t―like‖ or wish were different, research has

shown that the part of our brain that is linked with negative thoughts lights up like the Fourth of July.

Distress, stress, or dissatisfaction also activate the part of our brain that is associated with stress hormones,

fear activation, and fight-or-flight response.

And- remember those―lies‖ that the subconscious holds- yeah- they come up like a volcano!

This all happens even if we aren‘t being chased by a predator (which was this part of the brains original

function-keep us safe)

This happens to us every day. Everyday stressors if not managed lead to chronic stress―state‖in your bod-

which leads to unhappiness and disease.

So what to do?

Build an igloo!

There are numerous ways to―chooseyour state ‖.


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thoughts beliefs in your subconscious bring

about the results in your life. Stop accepting false beliefs

and debilitating fears and begin filling your mind with

thoughts

Paula Noble-Fellingham

Believe It! Become It! How to Hurdle Barriers and Excel

Both hard-core quantum physicists and spiritual gurus alike agree on one thing (so far—making progress!)

We are all made of energy. We are not a solid mass as once thought.

We are patterns of e nergy. We vibrate or oscillate or ―move‖ all the time.

And here‘s the clincher--- THOUGHTS ARE ALSO ENERGY!!

The hippies had it right- Let the good vibes in man.

In order to let the good vibes in, we must also put them out.

In quantum physics- at the subatomic level- like attracts like.

Positive energy attracts positive. This is probably different than what you learned in Newtonian or

standard physics.

Opposites attract. Which is true. But not at the subatomic level- which is where our health and wellness-

happiness, life-satisfaction and so on are formed and influenced.

In order to attract positive- we must be in a positive state.

This is NOT to say that you IGNORE any negative things or emotions that you have. In fact- it is quite the

opposite.

If you continually ignore your negative feelings guess what they do? Fester inside. Build up. Attract more

negative energy until one day your body says ―yeahwell that‘s enough of her not paying attention to me. ‖

And baam!- something happens to you. Illness. Injury. Disease. Trauma. Tragedy. You name it.

But as you know by now- your negative feelings are ―labels‖ you put on the experience. What could be a

negative experience for one person may not be so for another.

IT IS A MATTER OF PERSPECTIVE AND PERCEPTION.

They come from your beliefs about yourself and your expectations of the world and those around you.

That‘s your subconscious at work right there!


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Many of these beliefs are false and

detrimental to you. You‘ve just

played the record too many times.

The groove is deep and the

reaction is usually habitual.


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Step : Put a name to the negative thought

Identifying or labeling the negative thought sheds light on it. This will stop you from ruminating on it as

well.

‗That was an unkind thing of me to say or think that (fill in the blank with your

thought or negative judgment.)

If you are having negative thoughts about another person-

• Understand that you cannot possibly know why they are reacting or criticizing you –it‘s

impossible to fully step into someone else‘s story

• Have some compassion- most people aren‘t out to ―get‘you. They are dealing with their own

stuff too.

-The guy driving really slow in front of you- causing you to be late for work who isn‘t moving

out of your way despite your incessant honking, swearing, and hand gesturing- He just left the

hospital where his wife died.

-The lady in front of you in line at the grocery store, taking her own sweet time to fish her

money out of her wallet- counting every penny slowly- doesn‘t seem to notice your agitation,

glaring eye or loud sighs – she just lost her job and has 3 kids to feed.

-The ―overweight‖ person at the gym who won‘t hurry up and move off the machine you

need –moves a little slower because he just started a workout program after being released

from the hospital after his heart attack.

You never know someone else‘s story. It‘s your subconscious beliefs that surface that tell you something

should be a different way. It‘s your story. Often our stories don‘t line up nicely with others. And usually

we have made an incorrect assumption about the situation.

Have compassion. That is one sure fire way to switch from

a negative state to a positive state!

Step 3: Chose beliefs that empower you

From here on out---

Respect your negative ―feelings‖ as messengers or red flags that are letting you know YOU have something to

deal with.

What is it that YOU need to work on? What belief is cropping up as a reaction to the situation that needs

attention?

Other people will def initely do things that ―annoy‖ you. Your job is to f igure out why you are annoyed.


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What is it you believe about the situation and why is it causing you stress?

You cannot change other people. You can only transform yourself.

In the REAL Living Life Mastery Intensive we explore –on a very advanced level- how to identify your

subconscious core beliefs, where they came from and how to rid yourself of them.

For now- we will start with some simple empowering beliefs that you can use to build a solid foundation.

Read some examples below:

Instead of this disempowering belief: Use these EMPOWERING BELIEFS

I am NO good at this What am I missing?

I give up! I will use some of the strategies I have learned and

go about it a different way

I can‘t make this any better! I can always improve, so I will keep trying!

That person is so annoying and stupid! I wonder if they are having a rough day?

This is too hard! This may take time & effort. And that‘s ok.

My boss is so hard on me and doesn‘t get how hard

I work.

Maybe my boss is overwhelmed too. What can we

do to make it better?

This traffic is always a pain and makes me late! I wonder if there is an accident and someone is

hurt. That would certainly make for a bad day for

someone.

Step 4: BREATHE It isn‘t optional

Most of us breathe incorrectly. Funny isn‘t it? It‘s supposed to be something that just happens naturally.

My body just DOES it. Well- not totally true.

Most of us are stuck in a habitual pattern of ―Shallow breathing‖ .

Often this habitual pattern develops after years of stress and fear that cause us to divert vital energy to life

preservation- not life expansion.

YOU CAN SWITCH IT! You can and should direct your breathing and energy to life expansion!


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And it doesn‘t have to be a complicated Zen yogi meditation session.

Most of generally just don't have the time todo that!

I am going to provide you with some very simple breathing techniques that you can do on the spot- in the

middle of a crisis, irritation, or traumatic event that will greatly transform your state, refresh your mind

and balance your body.

And since I know you are going to be breathing anyway- you might as well learn how to do it effectively

and efficiently!

YIKES! Stress management not only becomes good for our ability to function but a necessity to maintainour health!

Fascinating research is now showing that our stomach-the center of our life force (if you follow any eastern

philosophies- you know this) has similar neurons to our brain. It also houses the majority of our ―happy

hormone ‖ or Serotonin.

As we know- fear is linked

to stress- stress is linked to

disease. In fact research is

now showing that

somewhere around 80-90% of disease

manifestations are

related to stress!


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It is essential that when we do effective ―energy

balancing breathing‖we focus on the abdomen. It is

the center of your life force.

If you are new to this kind of breathing- here is a tip:

- Place both your hands palm down on your

abdomen.

- Inhale through the nose and focus on getting all that

air into your belly. Yes you have to let it expand. No

sucking it in like your walking on the beach in your swimsuit.

LET IT GO- LET IT EXPAND-LET THAT OXYGEN IN

It feels awkward for a little while. But I assure you with time- your body will adjust and start to crave this

deep oxygenation. It will become natural once again. We were born belly breathers!

- Exhale through the mouth slowly- let your entire body contract. Let your stomach contract

and push that oxygen back out through your lungs and out your mouth.

(not like this…)

Exercise 1:

The Stimulating Breath (also called the Bellows Breath)

The Stimulating Breath is adapted from yogic breathing techniques. Its aim is to raise vital energy and

increase alertness.

(Effective technique even without energy drinks or caffeine!)

• Inhale and exhale rapidly through your nose, keeping your mouth closed but relaxed. Your

breaths in and out should be equal in duration, but as short as possible. This is a noisy

breathing exercise.

"Practicing regular,

mindful breathing can be

calming and energizing

and

can even help with

stress-related health problems ranging

from panic attacks to

digestive disorders."


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• Try for three in-and-out breath cycles per second. This produces a quick movement of the

diaphragm, suggesting a be

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