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Gay Male Domestic ViolenceGay Male Domestic Violence
What it looks like and What it looks like and how to help how to help
Presented at 6Presented at 6thth Annual North Texas Annual North Texas Effective Work with BatterersEffective Work with BatterersJ. Michael Cruz, PhD, MA, LPCJ. Michael Cruz, PhD, MA, LPC
Presentation Goals:Presentation Goals:• To describe how gay men define their
abuse/domestic violence.• To address the types of abuse/domestic
violence gay men report experiencing.• To share the reasons victims think gay male
DV occurs.• To suggest guidance in working with gay
male batterers.
Social Constructionist PerspectiveSocial Constructionist Perspective
• Social construction- reducing a symbol to a basic level and attributing meaning to or deriving meaning from that particular symbol.
• Gender- taking a symbol (behavior, appearance) and attributing it to being masculine or feminine.
• DV- Ann Jones says the way we talk about the problem is part of the problem.
• WI Thomas- If we believe situations to be real they are real in their consequences.
Methods- Study 1 (1995/1996)Methods- Study 1 (1995/1996)• Qualitative study• N= 25• Gay identified men in Texas (Dallas)• Age range 25-43• Mean age 30• Relationship duration 10 mos- 10 years• Guiding ?s: a) how do you define
violence/abuse? b) what have you experienced? c) what do you think causes gay male dv/abuse?
Methods- Study 2 (2012/2013)Methods- Study 2 (2012/2013)
• Qualitative study• N= 11• Gay identified men in Texas (Dallas)• Age range 23-58• Mean age 36• Relationship duration 3 mos- 6.5 years• Guiding ?s: a) how do you define
violence/abuse? b) what have you experienced? c) what do you think causes gay male dv/abuse?
CausesCauses• Internalized homophobia• Jealousy/insecurity• “men don’t know how to relate to one
another”• Control• Money/financial problems• Drugs/alcohol• Intergenerational transmission
[Gay] Male Socialization[Gay] Male Socialization• Gay men are socialized in a straight male
society• Messages about patriarchy and privilege
are taught via primary and secondary agents of socialization
• Hegemonic masculinity- power, dominance, control, internalized homophobia
• Non-normative relationship styles• Social media hook up sites
CharacteristicsCharacteristics• Respondent definitions of “violence” and
“abuse”• Cycle of violence (Walker)-– Tension building phase– Abusive episode– Honeymoon phase
• Respondent experiences
ConsequencesConsequences• Economic costs• Stress (physical illness, PTSD)• Social and psychological costs (fear)• Physical consequences (broken bones,
bruises)• Loss of life
Reasons for staying ?Reasons for staying ?• Financial dependence (18.6%)• Naiveté/inexperience (16.3%)• Love (14%)• Hope for change (9.3%)• Loneliness (7%)• Love, codependence/attraction, hope for
change, idea of the ‘one,’ no where else to go/dependence, wanted to make it work, low self esteem, thought it was normal.
Issues with Gay Male BatterersIssues with Gay Male Batterers• Power and control • Two men- reciprocity/mutual fighting• Gender socialization- men fight back• Self-definitions of abuse- “just a fight”
rather than domestic violence/battering/abuse
• Non-normative relationship styles
Effectively Working with Gay Male Effectively Working with Gay Male BatterersBatterers
• Know your limitations- seek guidance• Learn the client• Honor their self-defined ‘gayness’ • Avoid stereotypes, presumptions, or
judgement • Expect that they need the same learning
as a straight male batterer• Respect their relationship (love, money,
kids)
ConclusionConclusion• No one deserves to be abused• Abusive behavior is physical, verbal,
spiritual, material• Passive aggressive behaviors can be
considered abusive• Persons who are battered (women)
attempt to leave 7 times before leaving for good
• Victims come to terms with their situations on their own terms and in their own time
PublicationsPublications• 2003. “Why Doesn’t He Just Leave?” Gay
Male Domestic Violence and Reasons Victims Stay.” Journal of Men’s Studies. 11:309-323.
• 2001. “Family Violence and Substance Use: The Perceived Effects of Substance Use within Gay Male Relationships.” Violence and Victims 16:161-72 with Robert L. Peralta.
• 2000. “Gay Male Domestic Violence and the Pursuit of Masculinity.” Pp. 66-82 in Gay Masculinities, edited by Peter M. Nardi. CA: Sage Publications.
• 1998. “Exploring Violence and Abuse in Gay Male Relationships” Violence and Victims 13: 159-73 with Juanita M. Firestone.
Other SourcesOther Sources• Legal and Psychological Perspectives on
Same Sex Domestic Violence: A Multisystemic Approach (2003) http://wcadv.org/sites/default/files/resources/Legal%20and%20Psychological%20LGBTQ%20Same-sex%20DV.pdf
• LGBT Communities and Domestic Violence Information and Resources (National Resource Center on DV) http://nwnetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/National-Resource-Center_LGBTDV-Full.pdf
Other SourcesOther Sources• Power and Control Wheel for Lesbian, Gay,
Bisexual, and Trans Relationships http://tcfv.org/pdf/Updated_wheels/LGBT.pdf
WebsitesWebsites• http://
www.rainbowdomesticviolence.itgo.com• http://www.uic.edu/depts/owa/
power_control-wheel.html• http://www.uic.edu/depts/owa/
myths_facts.html
ContactContact• J. Michael Cruz, PhD, MA, LPC• 469.547.5950• [email protected]• www.linkedin.com/in/jmichaelcruz