Get the LEAD Get the LEAD out…out…

Be a leader not a deadweight!Be a leader not a deadweight!Motivating Yourself & OthersMotivating Yourself & Others

by Dr. Michael W. Posey

Your status…Your status…

1 – How’s our Professional Life?1 – How’s our Professional Life? 2 – How’s your personal life?2 – How’s your personal life? 3 – What makes you happy?3 – What makes you happy? 4 – What don’t you know that you’d like 4 – What don’t you know that you’d like

to?to? 5 – One thing you want to do 5 – One thing you want to do

professionally before you die?professionally before you die? 6 – One thing you want to do personally 6 – One thing you want to do personally

before you die?before you die?

Are you admired?Are you admired?

Admired -vs- DeadweightAdmired -vs- Deadweight– Name 3 people you admire?Name 3 people you admire?

________________________________________ ________________________________________ ________________________________________

Why do you admire them?

Or are you a deadweight?Or are you a deadweight?

Admired -vs- DeadweightAdmired -vs- Deadweight– Name 3 deadweights you’ve Name 3 deadweights you’ve

encountered in life?encountered in life? ________________________________________ ________________________________________ ________________________________________

What makes them a deadweight?

Admire -vs- DeadweightAdmire -vs- Deadweight

Admired PeopleAdmired People– MotivatorMotivator– ColleagueColleague– PassionatePassionate– ListenerListener– AuthorityAuthority– ControlledControlled– TeacherTeacher

DeadweightsDeadweights– UninspiringUninspiring– Cling-onCling-on– Care Less Care Less

attitudeattitude– TalkerTalker– No AuthorityNo Authority– UncontrolledUncontrolled– WandererWanderer

The Life PuzzleThe Life Puzzle Your life is Your life is

influenced by those influenced by those whom you admire whom you admire and the and the deadweights whom deadweights whom you encounter you encounter throughout your throughout your life...life...

… …they help to they help to influence the pieces influence the pieces of the your puzzleof the your puzzle

The Life PuzzleThe Life Puzzle

Remember that Remember that YOU have the YOU have the ultimate control ultimate control over how YOU over how YOU shape YOUR style shape YOUR style and how you and how you build YOUR build YOUR puzzle!puzzle!

One cannot not One cannot not Motivate!Motivate!

Everything we do is because of Everything we do is because of motivationmotivation– Humans do not do anything unless Humans do not do anything unless

they are motivated to do it.they are motivated to do it.

DWIDWI

Dealing with it means recognition Dealing with it means recognition of your preferencesof your preferences– Recognize that you like certain Recognize that you like certain

things better than others!things better than others!– Know that it is OK to do so!Know that it is OK to do so!

Accept this to be the case and strive to Accept this to be the case and strive to operate within your comfort zone.operate within your comfort zone.

DWIDWI

Dealing with it sometimes means Dealing with it sometimes means doing things that you don’t like to doing things that you don’t like to do.do.

– Understand that it is only temporaryUnderstand that it is only temporary– Look forward to doing the things you Look forward to doing the things you

DO likeDO like

RelationshipsRelationships

Everything that we do Everything that we do stems from a relationship stems from a relationship with someone/thingwith someone/thing– Managing relationships is Managing relationships is

KeyKey

RelationshipsRelationships

Knowing yourself Knowing yourself helps to balance helps to balance your life which helps your life which helps to balance to balance relationships which relationships which helps to balance helps to balance your work which. . . your work which. . .

RelationshipsRelationships The key is to find The key is to find

out what makes out what makes people tick!people tick!– How do they fit?How do they fit?– What gets their What gets their

juices flowing?juices flowing?– Why do/don’t Why do/don’t

they do what they do what they do?they do?

RelationshipRelationship

Another key to good working Another key to good working relationships people is relationships people is effective communicationeffective communication

CommunicationCommunication Effective communication does not Effective communication does not

mean having a Monologuemean having a Monologue– You You disconfirm someone when you someone when you

don’t listen and have a one sided don’t listen and have a one sided conversationconversation This makes others lose face and feel This makes others lose face and feel

unimportant and less willing to go that unimportant and less willing to go that extra mileextra mile

CommunicationCommunication

Effective communication means Effective communication means having a having a dialoguedialogue– You can You can confirm someone when someone when

you you talk withtalk with themthem This will help to validate them and will This will help to validate them and will

make them more willing to go that make them more willing to go that extra mileextra mile

You Create it!You Create it! The communication we have with The communication we have with

others creates our environment.others creates our environment.

We choose our communication We choose our communication with others.with others.

We ultimately control how We ultimately control how communication affects us.communication affects us.

Inspiring Others takes work!Inspiring Others takes work!

The hard stuff is easy – the soft The hard stuff is easy – the soft stuff is hard. The soft stuff stuff is hard. The soft stuff makes all the difference!makes all the difference!

InspireInspire What do you want to What do you want to

inspire within others?inspire within others?

– A good feeling!A good feeling!– A sense that they can A sense that they can

contributed to the contributed to the betterment of others!betterment of others!

– A feeling that they can A feeling that they can make a difference!make a difference!

Quick Tips Quick Tips

Be assertive NOT aggressiveBe assertive NOT aggressive

Know when NOT to be assertiveKnow when NOT to be assertive

Scope it out and look before crossingScope it out and look before crossing

Remember P.A.C.E.Remember P.A.C.E.

Quick TipsQuick Tips

Lay your cards downLay your cards down

Don’t be a rug – Don’t make rugsDon’t be a rug – Don’t make rugs

Buy into to being uncomfortableBuy into to being uncomfortable

Quick TipsQuick Tips

Avoid CrapAvoid Crap– When someone throws a bucket of When someone throws a bucket of

crap at you, step aside and let the crap at you, step aside and let the crap hit the wall…if you don’t then crap hit the wall…if you don’t then the crap will hit you and you’ll feel the crap will hit you and you’ll feel crappy.crappy.

Three ChoicesThree Choices

You can VegetateYou can Vegetate

You can ImitateYou can Imitate

You can InnovateYou can Innovate

It is YOUR choice!

Contact informationContact information

Michael W. Posey, Ph.D.Michael W. Posey, Ph.D.

drmikeposey@gmail.com

@drmikeposey on Twitter@drmikeposey on Twitter

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